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This is what self-worth is about. You don’t need to think you’re perfect,
because no one is. Self-worth is knowing that you deserve love and belonging
regardless of your imperfections.
You do. I promise.

3 TED (2011, January 3) The Power of Vulnerability/Brené Brown/TED Talks [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.
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 T H E T R A N S S E L F- C A R E WO R K B O O K

My Core Values

What are your core values—the values that make you you? What matters to
you most in life?

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I am smart and capable.

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I trust myself.

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I deserve respect.

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 S E L F-WO RT H

Journal prompt: What would your life be like if you believed everything you
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My gender identity is one of the many lovable things about me.