Interpersonal Relationship

Interpersonal Relationship

• Make up a huge and vital part of your life.

• Range from close and intimate to distant and
challenging
• Different types of relationships help make up the
social support network that is pivotal for both
physical and mental well-being.
What is Relationship?
• Any connection between two people, which can be either
positive or negative.
• The phrase “being in a relationship” while often linked with
romantic relationships, can refer to a variety of
associations one person has with another.
• To “be in a relationship” does not always mean there is
• Physical intimacy,
• Emotional attachment,
• Commitment involved
Basic Types of Relationships

Relationship typically fall into one of different categories:

• Family Relationships
• Friendships
• Acquaintances
• Romantic relationships
• Sexual Relationships
• Work Relationships
• Situational Relationships (Situationships)
• What do you mean by difficult people?
• What are their characteristics?
• How do you handle difficult people?
Basic Types of Relationships

Platonic Relationships
-type of friendship that involves a close, intimate bond without sex or romance.
These relationships tend to be categorized by:
Closeness
Fondness
Understanding
Respect
Care
Support
Honest
Acceptance
Basic Types of Relationships

Platonic Relationships
-can occur in a wide range of settings and can involve same-
sex or opposite-sex friendships.
-Can happen to a classmate, co-worker, club, athletic activity, or
volunteer organization
-can play an essential role in providing social support, which is
essential for health and well-being.
Research suggests that platonic friendships can help reduce
your risk for disease, lower your risk for depression or anxiety,
and boost immunity.
Basic Types of Relationships

Romantic Relationships
-are characterized by feelings of love and attraction for another
person.
Involves feelings of infatuation, intimacy, and commitment.
Robert Sternberg, a psychologist, on three components of love:
1. Passion
2. Intimacy
3. Decision/Commitment
Romantic love is a combination of passion and intimacy
(Sternberg)
Basic Types of Relationships

Romantic Relationships
-often burn hot at the beginning
-at first people experience stronger feeling of passion
During initial infatuation period, the brain releases specific
neurotransmitter (dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin) that
cause people to feel euphoric and “in love.”
-over time, this feeling starts to lessen, as relationship matures
people develop deeper levels of feelings of trust, emotional
intimacy and understanding, and commitment grow stronger.
Activity

Write in ½ crosswise
1. Who are the people that you have a relationship with?
What kind of relationship you have?
2. Why do you say so?
3. Do these people help you to become a BETTER
YOU? Explain
• CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP
- A codependent relationship is an imbalanced, disfunctional type of
relationship in which a partner has emotional, physical, or mental
reliance on the other person.

Characteristics of a Codependent Relationship

1. acting as a giver while the other person acts as a taker.
2. Going to great lengths to avoid conflict with the other person
3. feeling like you have to ask permission to do things
4. having to save or rescue the oether person from their own actions
5. doing things to make someone happy, even if they make you
uncomfortable
6. feeling like you don’t know who you are in the relationship
 Casual Relationship

 is often involve in dating relationships that may include sex without

expectation of monogamy or commitment. However, experts
suggest that the term is vague and can be mean different things to
different people.
Casual Relationship can encompass situation such as:
1. One-night stand
2. Booty Calls
3. Sex buddies
4. Friends with Benefits
 Casual relationship tends to be more common among younger adults, but
people of any age can engage in this type of relationship. Consent and
Communication are the KEY
TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
 A toxic relationship is any type of relationship where
your emotional,physical, or psychological well-being in
undermined or threatened in some way. Such
relationhip often leave you you feeling ashamed,
humiliated, misunderstood, or unsupported.
 Any type of relationship can be toxic including
friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships,
or work relationship.
Toxic relationship are chareacterized by:

 A lack of Support Jealosy

 Blaming Passive-aggressive
Behaviours
 Competitiveness
Poor Communication
 Controlling Behaviour
Stress
 Disrespect
 Dishonesty
 Gaslighting
 Hostility
• Sometimes all people in a relationship play a role in
creating this toxicity.For example, you may be contributing
to toxicity if you are all consistently unkind, critical,
insecure, and negative. In other cases, one person in a
relationship may behave in ways that create toxic
feelings. This may be intentional, but in other cases,
people may not fully understand how they are affecting
other people. Because of their past experiences with
relationship, often in their home growing up, they may not
know any other way of acting and communicating.
Picture Analysis: Describe the picture below and write your own reflection and
realization.Please relate your Reflection in your own self and experience.

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What is relationship conflict
 Relationship conflict is a disagreement between people.
The root of the conflict might be something like difference
of opinion, experience, taste, perspective, personality, or
beliefs.
 Conflicts is generally intense enough to disrupt some
aspect of the relationship such as communication, which
is what differentiates it from simply having a different point
of view.
 You can experience conflict in any type of relationship you
have, be it with your partner, parent, sibling, child, friend,
or even a co-worker.

 When conflicts is not productive or healthy, it can be

harmful to everyone involved. Sustained unresolved
conflict can create tension at home or at work, cen erode
the strength and satisfaction of relationship, and can even
make people feel physically sick or in pain.
Key difference between intrapersonal and
interpersonal communication.
 The communication that we have with our selves, i.e. the
communication that occurs in our mind. is known as
interpersonal communication. The communication between
two or more person, through verbal or non-verbal messages,
is callled interpersonal communication.
 the intrapersonal communication is the communication with
onself, and so only one person is involved in it. On the
contrary, inrterpersonal communication is always between two
or more persons.
The importance of Healthy Communication
• healthy communication is crucial for sustaining long-term
relationships. One study found that effective
communication increased satisfaction for couples.
Healthy communication can increase intimacy in
relationships as well.
• the way you and your partner communicate with each
other often determines how you resolve conflicts. If you
use healthy methods of communicating, you are likely to
find common ground even during a dis aggreement. this
can help strengthen your relationship over time.
 Effective Communication Tips for Conflicts
 Stay Focused
- sometimes it’s tempting to bring up past seemingly related conflicts
when dealing with current ones. It may felel efficient or necessary to
address everything that’s bothering you at once and get it talked about
while your’e already dealing with one conflict.
- Unfortunately, this approach often clouds the issue and makes mutual
understanding ans a solution to the current issues likely. It might make the
whole discussion more taxing and even confusing. Try not to bring up past
hurts or other topics. Stay focused on the present, your feelings,
understanding one another, finding solution.
 Listen Carefully
- People often think they are listening, but are really thinking
about what they’re going to say next when the other person
stops talking. Try to notice if you do that the next time you’re
in a discussion. Truly effective communication goes both
ways. Whileit might be difficult, try really listening to waht
your partner is saying. Don’t interrupt. Don’t get defensive.
Just Hear them and reflect back what they’re saying so they
know you’ve heard.Through this exercise, you’ll understand
them better and they’ll be more willing to listen to you.
 Try to see their point of view
- in a conflict, most of us primarily want to feel heard and
understood. we talk a lot about our point of view to get the
other person see things our way. This is understandable,
but too much of a focus our own desire to be understood
above all else can backfire. Ironically, if we all do this all the
time, there’s little focus on the other person’s view, and
nobody feels understood.
- try to really see the other side, and then you can better
explain yours. (If you don’t “get it”, ask more questions until
you do). others will more likely be willing to listen if they feel
heard.
 Respond to Cristicism and Empathy
- When someone comes at you with criticism, its easy to
feel that theyre wrong and get defensive. While criticism is
hard to hear and often exagerrated or colored by the other
person’s emotions. it’s important to listen tp the other
person’s pain and respond with empathy for their feelings.
Also, look for what’s true in what thy’re saying; that can be
valuable information for you.
 3 WAYS TO BUILD EMPATHY FOR
OTHERS IN YOUR LIFE

1. Own What’s Yours

2. Look for Compromise
3. Take a Time-out
1. Own What’s Yours

 Personal responsiblity is a strength, not a weakness.

Effective communication involves admitting when your’e
wrong. If you both share some responsiblity in a conflict
(which is usually the case), look for and admit to what’s
yours. It diffusses the situation, sets a good example, and
shows maturity. it also often inspires the other person to
respond in kind, leading you both closer to mutual
understanding and a solution.
Use “I” Messages

- Rather than saying things like “You really messed up here,

“ begin statement with “I”. Make your statement about
yourself and your feelings, like, “i feel frustrated when this
happens.” This approach is less accusatory, sparks less
defensiveness, and helps the other person understand your
point of view rather than feeling attacked.
Look for Compromise
- Instead of trying to “win” the argument, look for solution
that meet everybody’s needs - either through compromise
or a new creative solution that gives you both what you
want most. This focus is much more effective than one
person getting what they want at the other’s expense.
Healthy communication involves finding a resolution that
both sides can be happy with.
Take a time Out

Sometimes tempers get heated and it’s just too difficult to

continue a discussion without it becoming an argument or a
fight. if you feel yourself or your partner strating too get
angry to be constructive, or showing some destructive
communication patterns, it’s ok to take a break from the
discussion untill you both cool off.
Keep at It
• While taking a break from the discussion is sometimes a
good idea, always come back to it. If you both approach
the situation with a constructive attitude, mutual respect,
and a willingness to see the other’s point of view or at
least find a solution, you can make progress toward the
goal of a resolution to the conflict. Unless it’s time to give
up on the relationship, don’t give up on communication.
“anyone can give you attention and compliments... but
someone who loves you will give you that plus respect,
honesty, trust, and loyalty.”

Charles Orlando