Psychology

Assignment
3.4 Love, Relationships, Dating, Live In and
Break up

Submitted by :
Gayatri Panse
Sakshi Ingawale
Pooja Gangurde
Yash Raj Patil
Vickram Behera
Aman Daniel.

Introduction

In this fast growing and evolving world of population there is an

evidence of decline in strong relationships and duration of its for the
whole mankind. Humans who are also called as Social Animals, are
very much inclined towards community or to create communication
as in through relationships, friendships and other formats of
involvement with other humans. While the importance of it is
immense as we are well aware of this to be while on mental
physical and emotional health. Imagine a person lives alone
throughout the life without human contact without human
conversation, it's sounds very rationally incorrect right. But the truth
is that yes there are cases like that there are seemingly certain
scenarios which make us understand the disorders of it or the
disassociation of its consequences. Since it's a major issue the
concern can be largely cured with Psychology and it's field. Now
let's classify the types of formations a human does to be engaged
with society.

1) Love

Love, generally it's an emotion which every human feels right?, it's
not hard to say this emotion comes with humanity as we all are
human beings we feel love more or less to ensure the existence of
mankind.

● What is Love? How can we define love?

Love can be said as a deep affection that the people feel for others
or maybe a sense of belongingness to take care of or even
something else. Love is something that is felt by humans, it may
have emotions of sympathy, empathy, forgiveness, kindness,
politeness and other behaviours that a human shows.

● Now how do people take love as, love is not something new it
is something that came to us with our existence, a human
starts loving and admiring things since the birth from
appreciating toys to fascinating being with friends to grouping
and coupling with other individual, many of us have dreamt of
it and are still dreaming of it. We generally start loving people
hating people and have emotions for them which is what the
relationship of them and us depends on

● Now there are several ways of assigning love with its stages
may it be Attraction, Bonding or Blood relation

● American psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg theorises that

love is based on three domains: intimacy (emotional)
commitment (cognitive) passion (physical)
 2) Relationship

An interpersonal relationship refers to the association, connection,

interaction and bond between two or more people. There are many
different types of relationships. This section focuses on four types of
relationships: Family relationships, Friendships, Acquaintanceships
and Romantic relationships.

Family relationships:

A key role of parents and older relatives is to offer guidance,

support and, where needed, boundaries and discipline. As families
are so close and spend so much time together, arguments and
disagreements can arise, but in most families, these are short-lived
and even in moments of anger or hurt, families still love and care
about each other.

Friendships:

A voluntary relationship between two or more people that is

relatively long-lasting and in which those involved tend to be
concerned with meeting the others' needs and interests as well as
satisfying their own desires.

Acquaintanceships:

Acquaintances represent a diverse group of ties and are situated in

the outer layers of one's social network. They can offer benefits
both similar to and different from those offered by close others.
They influence close relationships and sometimes develop into
close relationships.

Relations :
In our desire to understand, manage, or untangle our relationships,
we are constantly trying to view them through different lenses,
struggling to connect the dots.

Five of the most common types of relation:

1. Competitive/Controlling
Two strong personalities battling for control; self-esteem based on
winning, being in charge.

2. Active/Passive
One partner is essentially in charge and does most of the heavy
lifting in the relationship while the other goes along.

3. Aggressive/Accommodating
Here the power difference is not based on caretaking, but on raw
power. One partner is clearly in charge, and the other
accommodates less out of passivity and more out of fear.

4. Parallel
There is little arguing, but also little connection. They go on
autopilot, with both having their own routines. The relationship
seems stale, they have little in common; they are more roommates
than lovers.

5. Accepting/Balanced

The couple is able to work together as a team, complementing each

other. They each recognize and actively accept the other’s
strengths. They've got each other’s back, both are interested in
helping the other be who he or she wants to be. They are able to
revitalize the relationship when it begins to grow stale; they are able
to solve problems rather than sweeping them under the rug.
 3) Factors of relationship

● Family

While you may not consider it an eminent threat to your

relationship, it actually can play a huge role in your potential to go
the distance as a couple. "It is important for your family and
significant other to mesh well because you will be a family, and
family is important.
Ideally you’d like your children to know their extended families and
you don’t want your spouse to have to choose between you and [his
or her] family of origin. Plus, it makes holidays, vacations, and
challenging situations much easier when there is goodwill, support,
and mutual respect.

● Time and Distance

Time:-
Time to talk includes conversations about what is working well and
challenges within your relationship. If you’re parents, use this time
to discuss your dynamics as a couple. Focus on your role within
the larger family will be discussed at a different time. Making time
to communicate about your relationship will help you avoid conflicts
in the future and help you feel like a teammate with your partner.
Working together against the chaos of the world. Taking time to
have a date night is important too.

Distance:-
People in long-distance relationships can develop jealousy towards
their partner's local friends, often complaining that they spend "too
much time" with them.
There is also the risk of your partner developing an intimate
relationship or falling in love with someone else while you are away.
Establishing clear boundaries, being honest, and understanding
that people need social interactions face-to-face will go a long in
defusing these potential problems.

● Career

Social psychologist Neal J. Roese points out that meaningful

relationships tend to suffer when people are pursuing intense
careers. Over time, Roese says, people tend to regret letting their
meaningful relationships suffer in pursuit of career goals.
Choosing a busy career over meaningful relationships can make a
person struggle with acute stress responses and illness. If you see
your partner losing out on friendships due to their career, it might be
a sign that they don’t have time for you either (which they will
probably regret only when it’s too late).
The most important aspect of maintaining a relationship with a
career-minded person is patience. Take time to communicate your
needs and listen to your partner’s needs.

● Trust and bond

Trust:-
“To trust means to rely on another person because you feel safe
with them and have confidence that they will not hurt or violate you.
Trust is the foundation of relationships because it allows you to be
vulnerable and open up to the person without having to defensively
protect yourself,” says Romanoff.
Trust is a vital component in happy and successful relationships.
Trust is important in relationships because it allows you to be more
open and giving. If you trust your partner, you are more likely to be
forgiving of their shortcomings or behaviours that irritate you
because overall you believe in them and know they have your back.
Trust also allows you to navigate conflict. When you trust your
partner, you are more willing to overlook problems or commit to
finding solutions to issues because you feel allied in areas that
mean the most to you. Even if your partner does something
disappointing, you are more likely to give them the benefit of the
doubt and see the good in them if you trust them.

Bonding:-
Bonding is the process of development of a close, interpersonal
relationship between two or more people. It most commonly takes
place between family members or friends,[1] but can also develop
among groups, such as sporting teams and whenever people spend
time together. Bonding is a mutual, interactive process, and is
different from simple liking. It is the process of nurturing social
connection.
Bonding typically refers to the process of attachment that develops
between romantic or platonic partners, close friends, or parents and
children. This bond is characterised by emotions such as affection
and trust. Any two people who spend time together may form a
bond. Male bonding refers to the establishment of relationships
between men through shared activities. The term female bonding
refers to the formation of close personal relationships between
women. Cross-sex friendships refers to personal relationships
between men and women.

4. Relationships then and now

Today we see a drought in long lasting relationships. Now we ask

ourselves are relationships today truly relationships and do they
last? In the past divorce was unacceptable but in today’s world it
has become so normal and accepted. Why has it become
acceptable and why wasn’t it before?

Past generations have had stronger and long lasting relationships

to explain further, in the past relationships were made from the
roots of the ancient courtships, the mediaeval chivalry, and the
victorian formality. When it comes to marriage and relationships, for
example family’s arranged marriages between their children for the
benefit of the family, also when a woman was married off it was
more like a business transaction because they were considered
property rather than a human being.

Today relationships are more based on physical attraction rather

than personality. These days relationships are you + me = lust not
love. Society today tends to not take relationships seriously which
leads to a broken household and an unbalanced marriage. The 21st
century of adults have an entitled attitude which creates a selfish
outlook toward relationships and makes it so that people care only
about their needs in the relationship and not also about the other
person’s needs in the relationship. This is a contributor to how
people chose to stay distant in relationships because they don’t
want to get hurt but if one never takes a risk one will never know
what one missed out on. Women have low self esteem because
society tells them they must look a certain way and act a certain
way in order to be loved by men and because of this women let
men treat them however they want with the outlook that it’s ok to
treat them this way cause their not good enough for society.

Men rely on their fathers to teach them how to treat women but
because more and more fathers have become absent in their sons
lives they have not been taught how they should treat women with
love and respect but instead they think it’s ok to disrespect women
and treat them however they want.This plays a huge role in why
today’s relationships do not work out.

5) Live in relationship

Live in relationship it is something as simple as two adults who love

each other, deciding to live together without getting into the
commitment and complexities of marriage. basically it is an
arrangement where two people who are not married and leave
together. they often involve a romantic and sexually intimate
relationship on long term or permanent basis.
Live in is a concept that has grabbed a lot of attention specially
from youth.
There is a prose and cons of live in relationship
1. to date a person and live with that person are totally different
things. living together allows us to know our partner better for
good or worse
2. it helps you to see your relationship and compatibility in clear
perspective
3. there is no need for a lifelong commitment as in a marriage
4. it doesn't involve rituals compulsions and customs associated
with marriage.
5. people find it easier to say we broke off then we are divorced

Cons
1. there is but the exploration is more physical than emotional in
nature
2. increased cleanliness in security pregnancy abortion
complications sexual health conscience because of multiple
partners
3. low commitment and tolerance level and there is more
chances to betraal or falling apart

If I think about about live in relationship concept I have seen many

so many couples living happily in live in relationship.
If we think about society we should take care of it but it is legal in
India live in relationship comes within ambit right of right to life
under article 21 of Indian constitution it is nothing in wrong in live in
relationship if your parents and family don't mind and support you

6.Break up and After effects of relationship

● Break up
Break-up is the termination of a relationship. The act is commonly
termed "dumping [someone]" in slang when it is initiated by one
partner. The term is less likely to be applied to a married couple,
where a breakup is typically called a separation or divorce. When a
couple engaged to be married breaks up, it is typically called a
"broken engagement". People commonly think of breakups in a
romantic aspect, however, there are also non-romantic and platonic
breakups, and this type of relationship dissolution is usually caused
by failure to maintain a friendship.
Breakups are painful, no matter what brings them about and
whether or not you want to break up. Initiating a breakup when the
other person does not want to break up can cause sadness, guilt,
and worry. Being broken up with can lead to feelings of hurt and
rejection. Even if the breakup is mutual, it’s still natural to struggle
with difficult feelings, like anger or depression, at least for a while.
As painful as the decision can be, there are healthy ways to deal
with a breakup and get over a breakup. With time, support from
family and friends, reflection, and self-compassion, healing can
happen.

● After Effects Of Relationships

After effects of relationships can have a dramatic impact on our

bodies. For example, broken heart syndrome is a real condition,
with serious and painful symptoms. Other studies have also shown
how break-up stress can cause acne, loss of appetite, and sore
muscles.
But as well as the body, our brains also go through a lot after a
break up.
Emotional abuse can have several long- and short-term effects.
These might be physical, such as racing heart and tremors,
psychological, such as anxiety and guilt, or both.
Breakups are never easy. The end of a relationship can flip your
world upside down and trigger a range of emotions. Some people
quickly accept the demise of a relationship and move on, but others
may deal with depression.
This can be a heartbreaking time, and it can feel as if your world is
falling apart. But while sadness and a heightened emotional state
are normal reactions after a breakup, it’s important to recognize the
symptoms of depression.

Although what I genuinely feel is being in a relationship is a

really important part of our lives may it be a gay couple or a
straight couple. Being loved, cared and acknowledged is what
we all as humans seek for may the end’s always not be as we
planned but it always teaches us so much so that we can grow
on it. Every relationship isn’t a mistake it’s a memory to
cherish throughout our lives and something that won’t let you
down and always teache you more about how to be loved and
how to someone love.-AD