This document discusses domestic violence. It defines domestic violence as one person trying to control their intimate partner through physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. Domestic violence can be caused by feelings of low self-esteem or a need to control the other person. Anyone can experience domestic violence regardless of gender or background. Signs of domestic violence include jealousy, constant put-downs, isolation from friends and family, and explosive anger. Victims can seek help through organizations and hotlines. Friends and family should listen supportively and encourage seeking help from trusted adults.
2. What is Domestic Violence
What causes Domestic Violence
Who can it happen to
What are the signs that tells someone you
know or you are a victim of Domestic Violence
How can you get help
Can Domestic Violence be prevented
3. Domestic violence is where one person tries to
control and assert power over their partner in
an intimate relationship. It can be physical
abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse or
financial abuse.
4. Domestic violence may start when one partner feels the
need to control and dominate the other. Abusers may
feel this need to control their partner because of low
self-esteem, extreme jealousy, difficulties in regulating
anger and other strong emotions, or when they feel
inferior to the other partner in education and
socioeconomic background. Some men with very
traditional beliefs may think they have the right to
control women, and that women are not equal to men.
5. Sad to say Domestic Violence can happen to
anyone.
Your mother, sister, aunt, niece, grandmother,
daughter, even YOU!
Domestic Violence DO NOT exempt us because
of our ethnicity , religion, size, or strength.
6. Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal
abuse to violence.
While physical injury may be the most obvious danger,
the emotional and psychological consequences of
domestic violence are also severe.
Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your
self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make
you feel helpless and alone.
No one should have to endure this kind of pain and the
first step to breaking free is recognizing that your
situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality
of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you
need.
7. extreme jealousy or insecurity
constant put-downs
possessiveness or treating you like property
telling you what to do
constantly checking in on you
explosive temper
making false accusations
isolating you from your friends and family
preventing you from doing things you want to
do
8. There are many organizations that can provide counseling,
legal services, and supportive services, including advice on
how to break up with an abusive partner, assistance with
housing relocation, and school safety transfers. Many
hotlines are available 24/7.
Think about how you feel about reporting the abuse to the
police or getting an Order of Protection. You may want to
report this person to prevent future altercations also to
prevent them from hurting someone else.
Think about whether there is a friend, parent, teacher or
counselor you can confide in. Abusers often manipulate
their partners by isolating them from friends and family
members. Don't stay silent, speak to someone that you trust.
Be as honest and open as you can be about what is
happening.
9. Helping someone you know who is in an abusive
relationship can be one of the most difficult things you
ever do, and it is not always easy. But supporting
someone who is being abused can help save a life, and
there are ways you can provide support without
contributing to the danger.
Listen and acknowledge that the abuse are in a very
difficult and scary situation.
Encourage the person to talk about the situation with a
trusted adult or professional.
Help develop a safety plan.
10. Blame the victim for the abuse. Domestic violence is NEVER
the victim's fault.
Force or pressure someone to leave a relationship if she is
not ready to, or does not want to leave.
Share what is happening with someone else if your friend
has asked you not to. Use your best judgment if you think
someone's life is in danger. But be sure to tell your friend
what you are doing.
Assume the person is fine after the relationship is over. She
will probably feel sad, lonely, and confused, and you should
continue to provide support.
Make your friend feel bad for any decisions.
Forget to check yourself. If you find yourself becoming very
frustrated or upset the situation, know when to take a time
out or step back. Be honest about this with your friend.
11. The only real way to prevent domestic violence is not to get
involved with a person who has an abusive personality.
Abusive behavior is not an act of rage. It is also not caused
by substance abuse. It is a personality disorder and the
chances of stopping a person from resorting to violence is so
slight. The only thing you can do to safeguard yourself is to
end the relationship before it is too late.
No one goes into a relationship thinking it would turn out
abusive, learn and be aware of your warning signs and get
help for yourself or someone you suspect is in an abusive
relationship.