Livingthe goodlife
- 1. “Living The Good Life”Techniques to help you realistically live the life you’ve always wanted
- 2. “Success is neither magical or mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.” -Jim Rohn
- 3. Goals and Goal SettingWhat is a goal?Can goals be changed?Rules of Goal settingWhat if I don’t reach my goal ?
- 4. What is a goal?A goal is the object of a person’s ambition; an aim or a desired result (dictionary).It is a learned skill that can be learned by anyone.Small Goals vs. Big GoalsAll goals should be written down
- 5. Composing a GoalGoals should begin with “To…”All goals must be datedGoals should be written to be changed, when necessaryOnce goals are accomplished, they should be checked off
- 6. Goals are steps to something else, a larger goal– “The Bigger Picture”No goal by itself is the end.We should question and understand where each goal will lead.
- 7. Rules of Goal-SettingGoals must be written downGoals must be datedGoal dates should be flexibleGoal plans should always include obstacles and action stepsAll goals should be tracked
- 8. Goals and VisionsVisions are the “The Big Picture” your goals will lead you toGoals should be seen as “small steps” that will lead you to your vision/”Big Picture”
- 9. Ask yourself: “Where are my goals going to take me?All goals are small steps towards your vision.
- 10. Obstacles and Action Steps
- 11. Obstacles do occurAction steps help you decide ahead of time what you will do during a “What If?” situationPreparedness helps you spend less time panickingSimilar to being prepared for a natural disaster before the meterologist tells you one a storm is approaching.
- 13. Tracking is monitoring your goals. Re-dating goals Checking off accomplished goals Daily progress check (workbook) Modifications Re-evaluationsNo tracking=Failure to reach goal!
- 14. “Passive” vs. “Active” GoalsPassive goals: hopes dreams wishful thinking undefined desires No plan to reach goal!
- 15. Active goals: Action plan Dates Precision Specific way of achieving goal Personal responsibility!
- 16. “Someday, I’d like to…”
- 18. It’s O.K. to dream but you must develop a goal plan. Dream goals have no action plan and no follow-up plan of action!Dream but plan!!!
- 19. 10 PRIMARY AREAS OF GOAL-SETTING
- 21. Where we liveWhat we have“Life Comfort Level”Not to be confused with “Job, Work and Career Goals”“What do I want my life to look like and what do I want in it?
- 22. 2. Job, Work and Career Goals
- 23. “What do I want to do in my occupational environment?”
- 25. Examples: 1. How much do you want to save? 2. How much do you want to spend? 3. How will you record your saving/spending?Remember: NEVER spend more than you earn!
- 26. 4.Time & Personal Organization Goals
- 27. 1. What to you want to spend the most time doing?2. What is your schedule like currently?3. What small changes can you make in order to move towards better time management?Allow leisure time and time for yourself! BE FLEXIBLE!!!
- 28. 5.Health and Fitness Goals
- 29. How healthy do you want to be?Gym, yoga, walking etc.?Lose/Gain certain amount of weight?What do you see yourself looking like?
- 33. Also….What do you hope to accomplish in your current relationship?Do you and your partner share the same goals?
- 34. Not just personal relationship goals but also business, friendship, etc.Examples: - What do you hope to gain from taking on a particular customer/client? -How can you better serve your new client/customer? How can this new client/customer be beneficial to your business?
- 35. 7. Self-Esteem GoalsWhat do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror?
- 36. 7. Self-Esteem GoalsWhat things do you think can be included in self-esteem goals?Think: Goal is to feel better about yourself/your company.
- 37. 8. Personal Growth GoalsHow can you move from where you are currently? -How does it relate to your work performance? -How does it relate to your home life? -How can you better yourself/your business?
- 38. 9.Quality of Life GoalsDefine what “quality of life” means to you.-What makes a “good quality of life”?-What do you want and how are you going to get it?-Creative visualization
- 39. 10. All Other GoalsWhat else do you want or in what direction to you see yourself going?
- 40. 8 STEPS TO SETTING GOALS SUCCESSFULLY1. INDENTIFY What is it you really want?What is the specific goal and what is it that it’ll do for me?Who am I/What is my business really at its core?Is this the right choice?
- 41. 2. WRITE IT DOWN-Writing it down solidifies it. -It becomes real -Get it right
- 42. 3. SET THE DATE FOR COMPLETION -Dates can be changed but it is important to have a specific date to start - Example: “March 11, 2011” not “March” -”To become a better listener” don’t have specific dates but have progressive dates “I’ll see a noticeable progress in my listening skills by…”
- 43. 4. List the Obstacles to Reaching the Goal
- 44. 5. Write and Date the Action Steps-Remember “solutions to obstacles”
- 45. 6. Prioritize your goals -Which goals do you need to work on first? -Pick three focus goals
- 46. 8. Review and Track Your Progress on Schedule -Workbook -Goalsonline.com
- 47. FOCUS GOALS
- 48. Most important goalsGoals that need to be done firstGoals that need your immediate attentionGoals that make the most difference
- 52. 1. Getting Started/Not Doing ItThe hard part is getting startedIt is easy to become discouraged and not start setting goalsHaving a life coach will help you to stay focused
- 53. 2. PROCRASTINATIONPUTTING THINGS OFF NEVER GETS ANYTHING DONE/DONE CORRECTLY!!Motivation“GET UP!”
- 54. 3. Getting Started AgainOnce you stop, having to restart, in itself, is discouraging.Some people just stop.DistractionsOverwhelmedLose sight of dreamMental vacationReset Goals
- 55. 4. Not Writing Down GoalsWriting down goals gives goals solidityGoals become realBecome etched in our subconscious
- 56. 5. Lack of ClarityClear focusSpecificToo vagueNo committment
- 57. 6. Setting Goals that aren’t realisitcGoals that are too bigGoals that are too far away to ever be able to reachOverwhelming goals
- 58. 7. Setting goals that are not big enoughNo challengeToo easy
- 59. 8. Listening to the “Nay-sayers”Negative opinion of othersShould be seen as motivation/challengeJealousy“Self-talk”Distance self from negative talk/thoughts
- 60. 9. Negative ProgrammingIf you believe negativity, then it becomes realityLack of self-belief/low self-esteemNegative stuff from past“Flush the toilet on the past!”
- 61. 10. Lack of TrackingCan’t see progress if no record is keptNo progress seen=discouragement
- 62. 12. No external support and motivationLife/Motivational CoachFamily and FriendsColleaguesFaith-based groupsSupport GroupsOnline groups of interest
- 63. What is a Life Coach?Teacher -Step by step teaching/trainer -Guidance and support -AccountabilityA gift to clientsHelps clients with choices EncouragementActive motivation
- 64. What is a Motivational Coach?InspiresHelps you to reprogram negative thinkingPositiveSupportTeaches/trainsAccountabilitySeminars
- 65. Self-TalkHistory: -30 years ago recognized as a tool -Athletes before games -”Programming”
- 66. Based on actual scientific, medical, neurological psychological research
- 67. Goal-Seeking Mechanism of Human BrainRecorded messagesPermanent storageBirth148,000 “No’s”Negative messagesOur own past programs
- 68. 77% of our programs are the wrong type of programs.
- 69. We are a result of our programs.
- 70. Our brains act on the strongest programsStrong programs determine a lot about usBrain designed to collect and store information about ourselves and the world and then it causes us to act on the information.
- 71. How Self-Talk Can HelpSelf-awarenessDiscover past programsChoosing programs you want to have NOW (“W.I.N.”)How programs/self-talk affect everything around youYour attitudeYour beliefsYour interests
- 72. Your energy and enthusiasmYour actions and behaviorYour follow-throughYour reactions to “setbacks” (“Turbulence”)Your determination and perseveranceYour belief in yourselfThe goal you setYour future
- 73. Changing Your “Old” Self-TalkAwareness and practiceSurrounding yourself with an environment of the RIGHT programsListening to self-talk CDs -daily affirmations designed to help reprogram us
- 74. DON’T LIVE OUR THE NEGATIVE LIVES OTHER PEOPLE GAVE YOU THROUGH NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.
- 75. Solutions to Changing Your ProgramsSelf-Talk CDsBooksReading “affirmations”Changing your programs by speaking themSubliminal CDsSelf-made CDs and programs
- 76. Self-Talk vs. Motivational/Self-help ListeningSelf-talk-repeat each phrase EXACT way. RepetitionMotivational CDs: Help to move .
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Editor's Notes
- How is it that certain people are living happy lives with seemingly no effort while you are struggling just to be happy? Are you scratching your head as to how you can live a better life in which stress is less? How do you set and reach goals? How do you stay motivated while reaching goals? What on earth is a goal and how do you come up with one? This presentation will give you a better understanding of goals, goal setting and getting the support you need in order to achieve those goals and stay on track.
- Goals are something one has in mind to achieve. The path to achieving this goal is often difficult and littered with hurdles that may cause us to pause or steer us off course.Anyone can learn how to write a goal (and I will show you how later in this presentation). It is just achieving the goal that is oftentimes difficult.
- Part of the process of writing a goal should include ‘what if” circumstances just in case something gets in the between you and your goal. Things do happen and it is better to be prepared for these times.