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Susan Junis
   RVAP
 The Line between Love and Control
 What are things you think of
  right away if we say someone
  is in an abusive relationship?

 What are other examples of
  dating abuse?
• Physical Abuse          •   Emotional/Psychological Abuse
     Hitting                 • Name calling
     Slapping                • Ignoring feelings
     Pinching                • Criticizing
     Choking                 • Telling lies
     Sexual abuse            • Jealousy
     Damaging personal       • Isolation
      property                • Spending ALL of their time together
                              • Spreading rumors
                              • Using cell phones to “keep track” of
                                a partner
                              • Putting down family/friends
                              • Threatening to harm self/others if
                                they break up
 To gain power and control over someone
   To control what someone thinks, says, does, wears, eats,
    who they hang out with, who they talk to….
   Why else?
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 1 in 3 teens experience some kind of abuse in
  their romantic relationships, including verbal &
  emotional abuse. (BreaktheCycle.org)
 59% of students who are currently dating have
  been abused physically and 96% have been
  abused emotionally. (Safe Dates)
 Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically
  abused in their intimate relationships continue
  to date their abuser. (BreaktheCycle.org)
 1 in 3 teens report they are text-messaged 10,
  20, or 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring
  where they are, what they’re doing, or who
  they’re with. (LoveIsNotAbuse.org)
 Emotional abuse and physical abuse are
  equally as serious
 Both girls and boys can be victims of abuse
 Both girls and boys can be perpetrators of abuse
 Dating abuse can happen to anyone in any dating
  relationship
 Some conflict is normal in relationships – but it
  matters how you deal with that conflict
 Abuse almost always happens over and
  over, it doesn’t just go away
 Most abuse gets more severe over time
 Everyone needs to know how to deal
  with dating abuse in case they end up in
  an abusive relationship, or in case a
  friend turns to them for help.
 It is NEVER the victims fault for being
  abused.
 State a fact or feeling
 Describe what you expect
 Get their attention
 Call them on their aggression or manipulation
 Repeat what you expect
 Leave if you need to
   Get help
 Getting angry with your girlfriend when you see her
    talking to another boy.
   Turning down your boyfriend or girlfriend if they ask you
    on a date.
   Telling your girlfriend to put on more clothes because
    what she is wearing is too revealing.
   Punching a wall when you get upset at your boyfriend or
    girlfriend.
   Texting your boyfriend 10 times per hour asking where he
    is, what he is doing and who he is with.
 Talking on the phone with your friend for an hour instead
    of hanging out with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
   Making your boyfriend clean your room because your
    mother won’t do it for you.
   Refusing to date someone because you are not ready to
    date.
   Calling your boyfriend or girlfriend and threatening
    suicide if he or she breaks up with you.
   Pressuring your partner to make out with you, telling
    them that if they really loved you they would do it.
Services
     • 24-hour Rape Crisis Line
            • 800.284.7821
• Medical, Legal and School Advocacy
             • Counseling
               • Support
            • Information

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NCJH day 3

  • 1. Susan Junis RVAP
  • 2.  The Line between Love and Control
  • 3.  What are things you think of right away if we say someone is in an abusive relationship?  What are other examples of dating abuse?
  • 4. • Physical Abuse • Emotional/Psychological Abuse  Hitting • Name calling  Slapping • Ignoring feelings  Pinching • Criticizing  Choking • Telling lies  Sexual abuse • Jealousy  Damaging personal • Isolation property • Spending ALL of their time together • Spreading rumors • Using cell phones to “keep track” of a partner • Putting down family/friends • Threatening to harm self/others if they break up
  • 5.  To gain power and control over someone  To control what someone thinks, says, does, wears, eats, who they hang out with, who they talk to….  Why else?
  • 9.  1 in 3 teens experience some kind of abuse in their romantic relationships, including verbal & emotional abuse. (BreaktheCycle.org)  59% of students who are currently dating have been abused physically and 96% have been abused emotionally. (Safe Dates)  Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser. (BreaktheCycle.org)  1 in 3 teens report they are text-messaged 10, 20, or 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with. (LoveIsNotAbuse.org)
  • 10.  Emotional abuse and physical abuse are equally as serious  Both girls and boys can be victims of abuse  Both girls and boys can be perpetrators of abuse  Dating abuse can happen to anyone in any dating relationship  Some conflict is normal in relationships – but it matters how you deal with that conflict
  • 11.  Abuse almost always happens over and over, it doesn’t just go away  Most abuse gets more severe over time  Everyone needs to know how to deal with dating abuse in case they end up in an abusive relationship, or in case a friend turns to them for help.  It is NEVER the victims fault for being abused.
  • 12.  State a fact or feeling  Describe what you expect  Get their attention  Call them on their aggression or manipulation  Repeat what you expect  Leave if you need to  Get help
  • 13.  Getting angry with your girlfriend when you see her talking to another boy.  Turning down your boyfriend or girlfriend if they ask you on a date.  Telling your girlfriend to put on more clothes because what she is wearing is too revealing.  Punching a wall when you get upset at your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Texting your boyfriend 10 times per hour asking where he is, what he is doing and who he is with.
  • 14.  Talking on the phone with your friend for an hour instead of hanging out with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Making your boyfriend clean your room because your mother won’t do it for you.  Refusing to date someone because you are not ready to date.  Calling your boyfriend or girlfriend and threatening suicide if he or she breaks up with you.  Pressuring your partner to make out with you, telling them that if they really loved you they would do it.
  • 15. Services • 24-hour Rape Crisis Line • 800.284.7821 • Medical, Legal and School Advocacy • Counseling • Support • Information