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Secrets of Positive Parenting
Gathered By:- Divyashu Sharma
(School Counsellor)
Positive Parenting
child in the 21st century is
more challenging than ever.
All parents want to do the best they
can to raise their child healthy.
There are many forces that influence
choices child will make.
Child rely on their parents for
guidance about tough decisions.
Raising
Positive Parenting
1. Become an expert of your child

development.
2. 3 things mostly required is :Love, Boundaries, and Power.
3. New Communication techniques.
4. Allow to fail.
5. Delay, Delay, and Delay.
6. Look in the mirror.
7. Think “basics”.
8. Develop and nurture a support network
for yourself.
 Requirement

of time and outgoing efforts on your

part.
 Why its important to understand and what does it
mean?
 It‟s a process by which child acquire
social, cognitive, and emotional skills to navigate.
 The process is based on
age, temperament, environment and more. The
behaviour you see is its product.
 Child develop:
socially, cognitivelly, physically, sexually, emotional
 On

Social Development:-

• Provide

encouragement,

an

understanding

ear

and

guidance when needed. Facilitate child‟s connection and
provide appropriate supervision.
 On

Cognitive Development:-

• Give opportunities to make good choices and decisions but

don‟t count on them to always do so.


On Physical Development:• Self Conscious about their physical development. Don‟t

compare.
On

Sexual Development:-

• Teaching about sex and values you want to

pass along, discuss the emotional aspects of
sexual relationship.
On

Emotional Development:-

• Emotions are more intense as compared to

adults.
Love:-

• Unconditional love, expressed properly.
Boundaries:-

• Clear rules and expectations, non

negotiable, teach appropriate behaviour.
Power:-

• Let them express their voice, their views and

opinions. They want to make their own
decisions. Guide them.
 Some

tips

• 1. learn to read body language.
• 2. know child‟s friend and friend‟s parents.
• 3. know all the adults who play an important role like

teachers, coaches, leaders, develop relationship with
them.
• 4. Focus on the relationship with your child.
• 5.Create comfortable moments where communication
can unfold naturally.
• 6. Get familiar with the technologies.
Failure to change.
2. Problem solving without being asked.
3. Being over involved to save your child
from mistakes and pain.
What they can do?
 Engage them in conversation, rather then
directing them.
 Identify your non negotiable rules or
expectations and be willing to open
discussion on all.
 Listen with respect to what they say not
the words but underlying emotions.
1.


Don‟t hesitate to counsel your child if
he/she fails.

 Avoid

giving any punishment as it will

lower down there self confidence.
 Ask

yourself that Don‟t you have failed in

any life situation.


Delay the start.



Providing the things before time can be
harmful for them.



Don‟t

make

your

dependent as you
time to listen to them.

child

technology

may not have much
 Ask

yourself about

• Are you enhancing your relationship with your child ?
• Are you contributing to problems ?
• Are you responsible for creating the environment and

family culture in your home ? as its your primary
responsibility.
• Are you maximizing your influence ?
CRISIS PLAN

Step 1: Breath deeply to slow down things, don‟t
sleep on it, if possible.
Step 2: Identify objectivity what has happened.
Step 3: Ask „What is the best outcome we can
have.‟
Step 4: Ask „How can I help make this happen‟
 Treat

your child with respect.

 Listen
 Allow
 Be

with your head and heart.

your child to express their emotions.

comfortable exercising your authority and your

flexibility when appropriate.
 Get

help when you need it- getting help from a

professional which is a sign of strength.
 Allow

others to play a role.
 Develop

and nurture a support network

make a meeting with parents of your
child‟s friends.


Organize social gathering.
 Parents

can have the strongest influence by

starting direct conversations with their child.
 Have

confidence to speak directly.

 Consequences

are needed and should be

communicated clearly.
 Be

logical to support future safety.

 Don‟t

impose consequences harshly in a way that

devalues your child.
 Be

available for them always.
 Simply

listening without fixing problems goes a

long way.
 Be

interested in the new ideas and thoughts that

only they can have. They feel valued and proud.
 Point
 Give

out all the things they do well.
them responsibilities they can accomplish.

 Guide

them when they need and monitor them to

set their boundaries.
Reference : www.parentingteensinfo.com and www.squidoo.com

Helpline No. : +91 860 73 483 78, + 91 90 500 67 674
Email @: pgscounsellor@gmail.com

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  • 1. Secrets of Positive Parenting Gathered By:- Divyashu Sharma (School Counsellor)
  • 3. child in the 21st century is more challenging than ever. All parents want to do the best they can to raise their child healthy. There are many forces that influence choices child will make. Child rely on their parents for guidance about tough decisions. Raising
  • 5. 1. Become an expert of your child development. 2. 3 things mostly required is :Love, Boundaries, and Power. 3. New Communication techniques. 4. Allow to fail. 5. Delay, Delay, and Delay. 6. Look in the mirror. 7. Think “basics”. 8. Develop and nurture a support network for yourself.
  • 6.  Requirement of time and outgoing efforts on your part.  Why its important to understand and what does it mean?  It‟s a process by which child acquire social, cognitive, and emotional skills to navigate.  The process is based on age, temperament, environment and more. The behaviour you see is its product.  Child develop: socially, cognitivelly, physically, sexually, emotional
  • 7.  On Social Development:- • Provide encouragement, an understanding ear and guidance when needed. Facilitate child‟s connection and provide appropriate supervision.  On Cognitive Development:- • Give opportunities to make good choices and decisions but don‟t count on them to always do so.  On Physical Development:• Self Conscious about their physical development. Don‟t compare.
  • 8. On Sexual Development:- • Teaching about sex and values you want to pass along, discuss the emotional aspects of sexual relationship. On Emotional Development:- • Emotions are more intense as compared to adults.
  • 9. Love:- • Unconditional love, expressed properly. Boundaries:- • Clear rules and expectations, non negotiable, teach appropriate behaviour. Power:- • Let them express their voice, their views and opinions. They want to make their own decisions. Guide them.
  • 10.  Some tips • 1. learn to read body language. • 2. know child‟s friend and friend‟s parents. • 3. know all the adults who play an important role like teachers, coaches, leaders, develop relationship with them. • 4. Focus on the relationship with your child. • 5.Create comfortable moments where communication can unfold naturally. • 6. Get familiar with the technologies.
  • 11. Failure to change. 2. Problem solving without being asked. 3. Being over involved to save your child from mistakes and pain. What they can do?  Engage them in conversation, rather then directing them.  Identify your non negotiable rules or expectations and be willing to open discussion on all.  Listen with respect to what they say not the words but underlying emotions. 1.
  • 12.  Don‟t hesitate to counsel your child if he/she fails.  Avoid giving any punishment as it will lower down there self confidence.  Ask yourself that Don‟t you have failed in any life situation.
  • 13.  Delay the start.  Providing the things before time can be harmful for them.  Don‟t make your dependent as you time to listen to them. child technology may not have much
  • 14.  Ask yourself about • Are you enhancing your relationship with your child ? • Are you contributing to problems ? • Are you responsible for creating the environment and family culture in your home ? as its your primary responsibility. • Are you maximizing your influence ?
  • 15. CRISIS PLAN Step 1: Breath deeply to slow down things, don‟t sleep on it, if possible. Step 2: Identify objectivity what has happened. Step 3: Ask „What is the best outcome we can have.‟ Step 4: Ask „How can I help make this happen‟
  • 16.  Treat your child with respect.  Listen  Allow  Be with your head and heart. your child to express their emotions. comfortable exercising your authority and your flexibility when appropriate.  Get help when you need it- getting help from a professional which is a sign of strength.  Allow others to play a role.
  • 17.  Develop and nurture a support network make a meeting with parents of your child‟s friends.  Organize social gathering.
  • 18.  Parents can have the strongest influence by starting direct conversations with their child.  Have confidence to speak directly.  Consequences are needed and should be communicated clearly.  Be logical to support future safety.  Don‟t impose consequences harshly in a way that devalues your child.  Be available for them always.
  • 19.  Simply listening without fixing problems goes a long way.  Be interested in the new ideas and thoughts that only they can have. They feel valued and proud.  Point  Give out all the things they do well. them responsibilities they can accomplish.  Guide them when they need and monitor them to set their boundaries.
  • 20. Reference : www.parentingteensinfo.com and www.squidoo.com Helpline No. : +91 860 73 483 78, + 91 90 500 67 674 Email @: pgscounsellor@gmail.com