TIMD-IEF Part 8

Promoting a
Marriage Culture
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Marriage & Family
Besieged

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Rise In
Divorce
 Up over 200%
in U.S. 19601998
Annual number of
divorces
per 1000 unwed
females
over age 15

 Up 130% in China
Sources: Statistical Abstract of the United States, 1998;
1985 – 1992
Statistics Bureau, Chinese Ministry of Civil
Affairs

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Children of Divorced
or Single Parents at
Risk
 Emotional problems
 Delinquency
 Dropping out of school
 Abuse of sex and drugs
 Poverty

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Marriage Rates
Declining
 Down by 40% in
U.S. since 1960
Annual number of
marriages
per 1000 unwed females
over
age 15

 56% of adults
are
married
Source: National Center for Health

statistics;
US Bureau of the Census, 1998

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Births Outside
Marriage
 Sweden —
50%
 France —
35%
 U.S.
30%

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Rise in
Cohabitation in America
900% increase
5

4.2 Million Couples

4
3
2
1

0.5 Million Couples

1960
1998
Source: U.S. Bureau of the Census, Current Population
Reports,

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Reasons for
Cohabitation
 Fear of divorce
 Less commitment
 “Test-drive”
relationship
 Government
incentives
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Cohabitation Is No
Panacea
 Increased conflict and
poorer communication
Source: David G. Meyers,
The Pursuit of Happiness

 Greater likelihood of
divorce
 7 times greater risk of
violence to women
Source: National Crime Victimization
Survey, US Department of
Justice, 1992

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Natural Family
Order
Facilitates Love
 Guides family
harmony

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Positions in the Family
Grandparen
ts &
Parents

Tru
e
Husban
Lov
d
Elder e

Younge
r
Sibling
Wife

Siblin
g
Children &
Grandchildre

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The Four Spheres of
Love
 Child’s
Sphere
 Sibling’s
Sphere
 Spouse’s
Sphere
 Parent’s

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Parents —
Primary Moral
Teachers
Schools can
support
parents in this
role

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Passes On a
Legacy

Conserves and transforms
 Grandparents — Represent
the Past
 Parents — Represent the
Present

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Family as Royalty of
Love
 Father and Grandfather
— Kings
 Mother and
Grandmother
— Queens
 Child
— Prince and Princess
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Strong Families Have
Focus Higher than
Self
 Altruistic
purpose
 Service to
community

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Uniqueness of Marriage
Joins two lives





Families
Possessions
Destiny
Bodies

Sex — Exclusive
to the spouse
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Profound Significance
of Marriage
Highest
expressio
n of yang.
One half
of
humanity.

Highest
expressi
on of
yin.
One half
of
humanit
y.

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Conjugal
Relationship
Emotional
and
psychologica
l bonding
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Conjugal
Relationship
Produces
physical and
spiritual force
to create a
new being
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Conjugal
Relationship

Continu
es
lineage

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With Freedom
Comes
Responsibility
Conscien
ce

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“Sex is most joyful and fulfilling –
most emotionally safe as well as
physically safe – within a loving,
total and binding commitment… [as
in] marriage.”
Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator,
Educating for Character
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Sexual Desire & Self–
Control
Sexual Desires

Sexual Activity

Normal & healthy

Controlling it is
normal & healthy

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Mutual Ownership
of
Physical Sexuality
One‘s sexual expression
for spouse alone
 Fulfills its function
completely
 Based on true love

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