Seventy-7 Moves of Sexy Woman

…as she enters the room, every eye turns in her direction, swarming her, the grace of her style. She is not the cutest, most beautiful woman present. There are others there whose faces can grace the covers of Vogue or Elle, others built to suit a model's fashion size. She is not the tallest, shortest, heaviest, or thinnest woman here. Initially, it is not anything I can immediately put my finger on, but whatever it is, she just simply has it, and she carries it like few women ever could. She has fire in her eyes, and her waist swings with the ride of her breasts. I wonder where her secret lies, what I see in her; I try so much but cannot touch her inner mystery. She is Sexy!  Book Title: Seventy-7 Moves of a Sexy Woman First Edition, 2012 ISBN: 978-9966-123-14-5 Copyright © 2012, Ojijo. All rights reserved. This work is copyrighted by the author. 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She Commands Respect 26 20. She Believes In Abundance 30 31. She Shows, She Does not Tell 32 42. She Says No 33 46. She Goes Slow 34 50. She Sends Mixed Signals 36 51. She has Sexy Appearance 38 48. She Accepts & Receives Chivalry 43 59. She Talks Dirty! 44 54. Sexiness Is a State Of Mind! 47 75. She has a Positive Attitude! 53 53. She has High Self-Esteem! 58 57. She Loves Herself 65 47. She Is Social, She Relates! 69 39. She is Independent! 74 5. She Is Nice! 77 13. She Has Integrity! 82 71. She is Rare 86 1. She is Grateful! 89 7. She Is An Optimist! 90 35. She is Self Confident! 92 60. She Is Secure, Not Jealous! 102 32. She is an Aplpha Female; She Dominates Her Group, Naturally! 105 52. She Kisses Well! 108 67. She is a Woman! 113 64. She is Classy & Unique! 118 61. She Winks, Blinks and Bats her Eyelids! 121 22. She Laughs, Hard! 127 17. She Smizes! 130 41. She Has Sexy Hair! 133 38. She Sucks her Food! 134 16. She Wears Sexy! 135 74. She Wears Decent! 137 11. She Is Sexy Under! 139 24. She Wears Form-Fitting Clothes! 140 68. She Leaves A Lot Of Room For Imagination! 142 27. She Wears Flirty! 144 36. She Plays With His Clothes! 146 66. Her Talk Is Humorous! 147 63. Her Talk Is Not Argumentative! 150 2. Her Talk Is Honest! 156 21. Her Voice Is Lowered And Sensual! 159 19. She Flirts! Flirts! And Flirts! 161 30. Her Talk Is Smart! 164 40. She Compliments Him! 170 58. She Listens! 172 70. She Talks Fantasy, She is Fantastic! 175 44. She Has Sexy Posture! 178 4. She Flaunts It! 180 55. She Struts in Her Walk! 181 71. She Touches Him ‘Accidentally’! 183 45. She Dances, with Him! 186 25. She Smells Good, Sexy! 187 15. She is Sexual and Enjoys Sex! 191 23. She is Healthy! 196 28. She Exercises! 198 65. She Keeps Good Hygiene! 200 26. She Looks and Smells Rich! 202 56. She Eats Rich! 204 37. She Sends Signs Of Interest! 206 18. She is Adventurous and Mysterious! 208 9. She Enjoys Simple Things! 211 29. She Stimulates Her Senses! 213 49. She Does Ridiculous Things! 215 33. She is Mysterious! 217 62. She Is Playful and Spontaneous 220 72. She Is Daring and Wild! 221 14. She is Unpredictable; She Loves Giving Surprises! 222 47. She is Challenging & Aggressive! 224 41. She Is A Networker! 227 12. She Offers No Second Chances 230 69. She is Exciting, Talented and Passionate! 233 73. She Loves Sex! 236 77. Sexiness is Beyond the Physical Yes, guys like pretty faces and hot bodies. But the less obvious traits can be even more alluring. It helps to have a sculpted body and a face that makes Helen of Troy look like “Ugly Betty”. But less mythological qualities can stop men cold. What makes a woman sexy is not always her most obvious characteristics. Sure, physical appearance has something to do with it. But it is much deeper than that. The sparkle in her eyes, the manner in which she carries herself, her smile, the way she dresses, the confident ease in how she glides in her walk, and the way she wears her hair; will all demand and attract attention. Sexiness comes from deep inside. ‘The sight of a fine human figure is above all things pleasing to us.’ -Albrect Dürer My pretty eyes, luscious lips, sensuous clothes and seductive moves might be the reasons good enough to turn-on any man. But, apart from these much-talked about physical turn-ons, there is a lot more in a woman that keeps a man's adrenaline pumping. She is sexy. It is in her personality. Her personality is sexy. ‘It is beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.’- Anon  76. No Size Is Sexy! No size is sexy. Statuesque women are irresistible but then there are petite cuties. For every alluring model-thin babe, there is a voluptuous vixen to capture the lusty hearts of men. The hourglass figure, the size zero model, large breasts, a tight bottom, the Hollywood smile; all of these are things that we are told are beautiful but are rarely seen among the common run of women. Is that to say that women who do not look, or cannot afford to look, like celebrities and film stars are not sexy? OF COURSE NOT!  11. Sexiness Is Everything In A Woman! A woman's sexiness is not a precise formula, but is rather a sophisticated smooth blend of charm, charisma, confidence, conversation, composure, cleverness, and of course, attractiveness. Without a doubt, if men were drinkers, and women were drinks, the sexy woman would be a cocktail, ‘the sexy woman is a cocktail.’ Sexiness is a woman's ability to continually inspire the sexual curiosity of a man, through her appearance and attitude. ‘Sexiness is a feeling.’ The defining feature of a sexy woman is that she manages to gravitate a man's sexual thoughts continuously and spontaneously in her direction, even when she is absent. She is timeless in the face of other female novelties, and never becomes a fleeting memory. A man who has experienced her does not satisfy his curiosity. He instead thrives on her energy and desires her even much more. What could be sexier than the epitome of a woman? The word woman in itself is the description of sexy. We women; are the beginning of all and know all of humanity. I may have complexities and flaws that is for sure but, I as a woman, I have and always will be what is happening. Sexy is the radiance from within a woman. Indeed, it is true that God could not be everywhere and therefore he made women-the radiance of life. Any woman can be funny and trendy, and sophisticated, but only the woman that has all of these attributes, and more, is sexy. A sexy woman is pinups and a pullout to every man, and yes, even to some women. Being sexy is more about my personality. How as a woman I carry myself in public! What the usual themes of my clothing are. What the usual dresses that I always prefer are. And how I behave and communicate with people. All of these are the yardstick to determine whether as a woman I am sexy or not or somewhere in between.  34. Beauty Is Less Than Sexiness "The man who marries a beautiful woman, and the farmer who grows corn by the roadside have the same problem" A sexy woman is not necessarily exceptionally beautiful or hot…there is a difference between a sexy woman and a beautiful one. Some women are beautiful ‘eye candy’ but lack a sexually engaging element that continually fuels a man's interest. Some women look less than a perfect ten, yet their composure and cleverness enhances their sex appeal tenfold. And some, the true mistresses of seduction, are both beautiful and sexy. God bless their souls! Beauty weeds out the weak, sexiness weeds out…well, ALL! Sexiness beats beauty dead cold! Beauty is only temporary, because it depends on physical traits which change as the weather. As soon as a man thinks he has found the finest thing around, someone finer will come along and make him rethink the whole situation. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, Sexiness lies in all eyes! Beauty can be easily compromised. When the poop hits the fan, a person wants to know if their partner will ride storms out with them or if they will bail. A person wants to know that if they become less glamorous; their partner will love them and not leave them for the next piece of eye candy. People who place SOOO MUCH value on having a trophy wife/husband, usually are very clueless and have not been through enough to know what is important because they think that when bills need to be paid and children need to be fed, that good looks are going to help. They will not, not unless she sells herself somehow. Looks are skin deep…sexiness is a lifestyle! Indeed, whereas beauty will land a man into problems, sexiness will win a man respect. The man of a beautiful woman has constant headache; whereas the man of a sexy woman has constant applause. 'The man who marries a beautiful woman, and the farmer who grows corn by the roadside have the same problem' – Ethiopian Proverb. The sexy woman does not need to be idolized or otherwise put on a pedestal. In fact, the ones that believe they ought to be are the beautiful ones, and they need to be knocked down the most. Underneath their bravado, the beautiful women are the most insecure, knowing that they are appreciated mostly for their looks. So, if I am walking with my man, and he is checking some woman out, I will not fume. I will let it pass. Men are attracted visually to curves, leg lengths, and shapes. Any woman with the right shape and proportions will catch his attention. As the saying goes, Men prefer looks to brains because most men can see better than they can think. However, the sexy woman is not insecure. She knows she has worth, something much more than the outer beauty. So, shallow comments on her appearance, even if negative, ill not rattle her. After all, "it is an old lady that feels uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in a proverb" Beautiful women often have the most fragile of egos, and they are most susceptible to doubts and challenge. The sexy woman is free of ego-issues. The sexy women believes in her power over men and respond most to men that she cannot easily conquer, the same way men respond to unavailable, sexy women. Gorgeous women are fawned over and salivated on all day long. They are used to it. They cease to amaze men; they stop to intrigue them. To get through to the attraction mechanisms of the sexiness, the sexy women show the men challenge, and give them an opportunity to prove themselves. Beautiful women respond most to the withdrawal of attention, since it puts their fragile image most into turmoil.  3. She Knows Her Body The sexy woman knows her body. The sexy woman guides her man on how to please her. She knows the most sensitive part of her body; the comfortable part of her body; and the pleasure spots. She has experience, and use sit to her advantage; after all, “Wood already touched by fire is not hard to set alight.” If heaven and hell collide together, if light and darkness meet each other, if love and lust become communion with each other, if I counterfeit my own self, the result of it would be, well, highly unimaginable. Such will be the results of sexual intercourse when I know my hot spots. Men make few, well, several mistakes during all romantic moments, and women WHO DO NOT KNOW THEIR BODIES help them. Mistakes in this miracle of having a romantic relationship, from holding each other, to sex, and after sex. Indeed, sometimes they regret, sometimes they moan and groan. But whereas some men are pathetic, some women are as radarless about how to help their men in foreplay as the men are. Talk about blind mates leading each other to sexual mystery misery. Foreplay is the art playing with my partner in both mind and body.  For a good foreplay, the woman must know the most sensitive parts of her body. As a woman, to be aroused to the heaven, and then to paradise, I MUST learn the art of foreplay and if my man is naive, as most men are, teach him. It is necessary that I should understand my body very well before performing the magic. Contemplation and comprehension will be the best part of it, so I will talk as much as possible before the intercourse. The sexy woman knows her hotspots. So what are most sensitive parts of my body, SEXUALLY?  Hands & Wrist Hands are not only made for stimulating other parts, but it also can stimulate other hands. A girl's hands are also one of the sensitive parts of women. Fingers have the ability to stimulate sexually and the lady love will surely be pleased.  I will start holding out my hand for him, and enjoy the ride. It certainly seems less sexual to most men to touch a woman’s hands in foreplay, but they are actually her body’s most sensitive parts. Just stroking her palm or the inside of her wrist will send shivers along her spine. Just rubbing the hands of her inner wrist all the way up her forearm is electric. Not only will she melt, but the man will put her senses on high alert, making her ready for more. Ears Every woman gets sexually stimulated when she is kissed on her ears from behind. Just a soft kiss will do and she will be surely stimulated. This will even get me more romantic than ever before. But the ears are not just for kissing. They are for listening also. The sexy woman knows that the ears are not only perfect for listening to the man talk about his day at work; they are actually a very sensual part of her body. Plus, they will directly connect the man with the most sexual organ in her body: her brain. The sexy woman will tell the man to lean close to her and whisper in her ear. The gentle rush of warm air in her ear sends tingles down her spine. And if he is saying some naughty words about what he want to do to other parts of her body, the good neighbors will be disturbed. Gently nibbling on her earlobes combined with a bit of breathing in her ear is a great approach. Sucking on the ear is good, as well as licking the outside of the ear, and maybe even inside. Face The face not only has countless nerve endings for sensitivity, but is also very personal, as most of the time, the woman and the man will be facing each other when the face is touched. Brushing the back of his hand against her cheek is a bit corny, but any gentle contact with her face is very charged. This should be used sparingly, and with a strong gaze into her eyes, and she’ll melt with lust. Neck I should STOP thinking WRONGLY that only the genitals and the secondary sexual characteristics can switch on a woman. There are other parts where women will get aroused. I will explore them by asking him to kiss me and touch me EVERYWHERE. I will explore them and find the treasure trove.  The base of the neck, where it connects to the shoulders and upper back is full of nerve endings. There is a switch on the neck that makes ALL women quickly aroused. They will send shots of joy rushing throughout her entire body with the attention provided by his fingers. The sexy woman also asks her man to gently stroke her lower neck with his fingers and, if he is not whispering in her ear, he can compensate for it with soft kisses and maybe even a little lick. Hair The sexy woman loves comment about her hair, well everywoman does, but the sexy woman pursues the comment. A woman’s scalp is super-sensitive and each strand of her hair is connected to it. Imagine what that means when he starts stimulating these thousands of strands and all at once! Women are not only playing with their hair to look cute and flirtatious, they do it because it feels amazing for them. He should simply start running his hands through her hair, and she will begin to melt. Some women even go crazy if their partner brush their hair for her. Breast (Boobs/Tits/Teats) This is my most and finest sensitive part. One single touch of it can make wonders happen and this part plays the main role in foreplay. Men easily get aroused by just one look of it. Not only men but women too get aroused with one touch and squeeze. But the main thing to remember is that HANDLE IT WITH CARE and not hurt in petting.  My breasts need gentle touch, and even gentler kisses, especially on the nipples Thigh The next most sensitive part of women's body is the thigh. The man should touch it in circular motion, this tells my brain that he is inviting for the intercourse.  This is the Yes and No part of the foreplay. The key to heaven's door Ridge/Back (Spine) Once the man is done, I will ask him not to get tired. Why not add fuel to fire; and finish me off completely. He should take hold of the ridge and give that extra mood to me, his sexual partner.  The expression this puts on a woman’s face will take even the man to heaven. A woman’s back is filled with nerve endings and just waiting for the right stimulation. Of course, every woman is different in terms of where the hot spots are. Some prefer the area just below the shoulder blades; others get weak with a few strokes on the lower back. Part of the fun is to discover all the best places for the fingers, hands, tongue and lips to enjoy her body. Indeed, the sexy woman even hands him a feather and light stroke her back with it. The moaning that he hears now will only be a prelude to what he will be getting when we are in bed together, SOON.  Lips There are millions upon trillions of tiny nerves to be found in my soft, sweet lips. A sexy woman knows this, and seeks soft sensual kisses. She knows that her lips need special attention. The kisses should start with very soft kisses, then gradually more intense and passionate. If I want goose bumps all over my body, I can ask him to run the tip of his finger over my lips. I will drip, literally, down there. Feet There is also a false belief that women are not aroused by their feet; IT IS FALSE. It is evident that woman get aroused by their feet.  I will ask him to smooch my feet and touch it very gently. By now, I am ready, and he should not waste any more time. However, on top of knowing the sensitive spots, the sexy woman ASKS the man to TOUCH HER THERE, KISS HER HERE, etc. She derives pleasure from her body, and when the man is not around, and she is feeling the hots; the sexy woman masturbates.  8. Sexy Woman Dates The sexy woman knows that dating is about sales; and that ‘Sexiness is All Sales’ All Sales … The sexy woman knows that to participate in life, she must be a sales-woman. Not the slimy kind she sees skulking around a used-car lot, but the icons of the trade that know that the only way people will buy what’s good for them is to be sold on it. The best salesmen know that they have to believe in their product and know it inside and out. Everything she does in life is sales. The product? Her. When we pitch an idea at work, we’re selling ourselves. When we go to a job interview, we’re selling ourselves. When we try to make friends with a dog or a cat, we’re selling ourselves. And when we go into the singles world and find men to date, the sexy women know they are selling themselves in the most extreme manner. (I will take a look at anybody who is married; one of them did sell the other one.) The sexy woman knows that human persuasion is nothing more than a very complicated sales pitch. Dating requires her to believe in her product absolutely, or her sincerity will not be enough to carry the day. The sexy woman determines her current dating goal before she goes any further. What is it that I want from my interaction with men? Friendship? Someone to talk to or do things with? Romance? The thrill of the chase? Sex? A short-term or long-term relationship? Casual dating with many girlfriends? Marriage? I need to know what I want up front so that I do not mislead either myself or the men I date. If I only want casual dating, I have to be cognizant of my goal and do only the things that a woman would do for a woman he was interested in dating – not marrying – such as resisting the urge to send poetry every week. My goal will also affect my planning and strategies as I get phone numbers and set my dates each week. Men have demands too. It is for self-confident, self-disciplined men with a sense of humor. If I can understand that they also have a supply for them, and that this is what I will need to cultivate to become desirable on the market, I will never want for male affection. However, if there is a part of me that has a very difficult time getting over the acceptance that men ultimately can and do say ‘No’ to women, I may wish to seek some counseling. Dating is just like life – It is not fair. Hence, before the sexy women start the journey, they drop all their emotional baggage, their complaining, and their negativity at the door. If there’s one thing men hate It is a whiner. I have nothing to be ashamed of. The sexy woman knows that the relationship continuum is broken up into three stages: Meet: Finding the women I am interested in. Then introducing myself to him. Mate: Getting to know them enough to make a decision as to where this will go – or will not go. I need to explore and decide. Move on: If I want to stay with this one, great. If not, I have to move on and begin the process anew. After all, ‘there are too many fish in the sea.’ When out dating, the sexy woman applies the Three Second Rule to know if the man just about to approach her is THE MAN. The Three Second Rule states that the man has three seconds from the moment they both look at each other; that is; the moment he is presented with an opportunity; to the moment he takes action. After the three seconds are up, his mind will turn against him and sabotage all his chances of an effective, confident introduction. On the other side, after the three seconds, the sexy woman will realise that the man lacks confidence, speed, decision making, and is either insecure, or a whimp. Indeed, if he comes after the third second, he must now do harder work. Such men who do not approach must recall the words, ‘You miss every shot you do not take.’-Wayne Gretzky  10. She Commands Respect Respect is something she desires from the man. The sexy woman never wants to feel subverted or tricked, and she will not want to be treated as prostitutes, or made to feel as if she is bad in any way. She knows she deserves respect. It is the man’s duty to treat her with respect. Without respect, any relationship will be built on a cheap and shaky foundation, and she will be miserable. The sexy woman has a strict code that men must adhere to. If he violates the rules, he loses. She is out. He walks. I do not need a man (or any person, for that matter) in my life that does not give me a proper amount of respect. The sexy woman also knows the golden rule about respect, ‘you must behave like the man who deserves it.’ No one is entitled to respect. As the saying goes, “if you don’t stand for anything, you will fall for everything!” The sexy woman does not care how much the man is attracted to her; the only thing that matters to her is how attracted she is to the man. Wanting her badly may be initially flattering to her, but it does nothing to make her attraction mechanism kick in for the man. The sexy woman goes for the man whose job it is to behave in ways that women find attractive, not to make her believe that he loves her so much that he must date her. The sexy woman will run away from these men below: - Clingy/Needy behavior: The root cause of this is insecurity. Any actions that tell a woman that the man will smother her or be an insecure wimp are sure to turn her off. Things like calling her several times a day, or calling several days in a row, or acting jealous of her friends. If the man threatens her freedom, she’ll run like a mad woman from him. - Trying too hard: If the man is over-eager or too zealous, the sexy woman gets suspicious; and flees like crazy. - Bragging/loud mouthing: This gives away all the mystery. The sexy woman will NOT be attracted to a man who is a braggart. If she stays, she might be bored to death. - Angry or violent temper: A man must have self-discipline over his emotions. The sexy woman can’t trust a man with a short fuse; she can only live in fear and intimidation from him. And she knows that if she does not run, she might die, literally. - Insensitivity: This is the man’s inability to tell when the woman is teasing and playful with her as opposed to mean and insulting. Such emotional dumbs are agony. - Boring: This really translates into being unable to show women his personality, most often because of shyness. - Pushy: The sexy woman does not tolerate men who want to get their way by coercion. Some men whine and push their way into getting a woman to have sex with them, and then they wonder why it is not fulfilling or lasting. - Passive and indecisive: The sexy woman wants a man who is able to demonstrate some leadership qualities. Decisive, dominant behavior shows he is an Alpha Man, and can provide when the time comes. - Inability to listen: If a man cannot listen, then there will be no relationship. He will not focus. To keep a sexy woman’s interest, the man must demonstrate the ability to pay attention and not stare at my nipples. - Acting like a pig: There are men out there that think if they behave as coarse as possible, a woman will just jump at the chance to rehabilitate him. The sexy woman advises them to guess again. - Being obvious about sex: Yes, we all want sex. Even women. But if the man comes across with this agenda written on his forehead, he’ will strike out before ever getting to bat. He must learn how to be subtle and let her wonder. - Impatience: If the man is too eager, he will come across as having no self-discipline, and ultimately, he will ejaculate prematurely. The sexy woman wants a man who is relaxed. After all, it is not a race, it is a game! - Negativity: A bad attitude is a turn-off for all women; indeed, a bad attitude is worse than a bad breadth, and is a turn off for everyone, even pets do not like bad attitude, sorry, bad breaths. - Not Providing: This covers stinginess, being cheap, etc. The man does not have to be giving up money to her on every date, but if his has planned a meeting at a restaurant, he better be prepared to pay. This is why he plans meetings that are out of the traditional stereotype of ‘dating.’  20. She Believes In Abundance Do I see limitless options in the world? Coz that is what the sexy woman sees… Do I see enough success in the world for everyone? Or do I find myself jealous when a friend or co-worker achieves something worthwhile? The sexy woman is positive. Do I believe that success is like a pie, and I have to get my slice or someone else might get it instead? Do I think that when someone gets a man, that leaves one less for me? Well, sexy women are not in that league. Am I afraid of losing a chance for sex with a man? Because that is NEWS for sexy women. These questions highlight whether I have a scarcity or an abundance mentality. When I am motivated by scarcity, I am motivated by the fear of loss. I act only when I feel I must, because something in my life may be taken away if I do not. I do not seize opportunity; I fight to keep what I have got. This is the sexy woman’s mantra: I will NEVER forget I was born without him. And that there are hundreds more like him and thousands more that are even better than him. I will not waste my time! The sexy woman has an abundance mentality; she sees that there are more options in the world than she has time to explore. There are more men in the world than she has time to meet, much less waste her time on the ones who aren’t interested in her. The universe is filled with infinite possibilities, and she has no time to wallow in despair over failures (perceived or real).  31. She Shows, She Does not Tell In fiction writing, there’s a rule that says ‘show, do not tell.’ Never tell the reader that a character is unhappy; show it through their actions. The same premise is true in relationships. Sexy women do not talk a lot, they do not want the man to hear their words; they want the men to see their actions. Most guys tend toward overwhelming her with compliments and praise, sending love notes and pledging their affections. In the dating dynamic, the sexy woman will demonstrate her intentions, not broadcast them. The sexy woman will not say she wants sex. She will act she wants sex. She will not tell him he looks nice, she will hug him tight, and then when he is wondering what that one was for, she will say, ‘you are so temptingly hot.’ Shakespeare was right, “the world is but a stage, and we are all actors.”  42. She Says No Every so often, the sexy woman needs to tell a man ‘No.’ This could be just a refusal to eat where he wants. She demonstrates that she will not be walked on or controlled. The vast majority of women are often too compliant with men, fearing that if they say ‘No’ to him, he’ll stop giving them sex or he’ll disapprove in some way. They’re afraid of risking his anger. Anger is necessary! It shows there is some passion between us. There is an old saying, ‘If you can’t get a man angry with you, you do not have him emotionally attracted to you, either.’ She is able and sure to exert her demands and interest in her dates or relationship – judiciously. The men respect her for this, even if they may seem initially unhappy with her ‘inflexible’ behavior. It is Sherry Argov who said, “The way to weed out contenders from the pretenders is to assess their attitude on waiting for sex. If he likes you, he will just be happy being in your Company.”  46. She Goes Slow “Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.” -Keanu Reeves The sexy woman knows that one cannot go to into dating with an expectancy of getting, or especially getting quickly. It is a lot like an investment plan: I put a little faith money into a few stocks that I think look good (after researching those stocks adequately, of course.) Some are losers, and we promptly drop those from our portfolio. Some will appreciate and give us a little return, and those are the ones we invest more in when we see the action. The sexy woman pouts her money where she can, and remembers to never invest more than she can afford to lose. In short, ‘she loves herself more than the man.’ Doing this builds a pipeline of dating potential that she has available to explore. And sexy women avoid commitments. This is why most salespeople are not good, because they rush for a commitment from their customer before they’re ready. If I try to get a commitment from a man too soon, I will raise subconscious defense mechanisms in him. He will start to feel closed-in and smothered; wanting to escape and breath fresh ‘woman.’ ‘Do not threaten his freedom.’ As long as I am initiating the next step (from getting the phone number to getting the date to getting a kiss, etc.) I can’t go too slow for her. If I can go even slower than he does without losing his attraction and trust, I have won 90% of the game. He will be pursuing me. After all, in dating, just like in driving, ‘It is better to go too slow than too fast.’ The sexy woman has the 3-steps laid out as follows: First meeting – decide on attraction/interest Second meeting –kiss, seductive behavoiur, light touching Third meeting -extended kissing, erotic touching, sex (in or outside the bedroom).  50. She Sends Mixed Signals “Make him chase you until you catch him!” -Anonymous Men do not feel attraction to women who are too consistent. If I am consistent all the time, I am demonstrating my intention to prove my as a good mate and wife, a possible mother to his children. To stir up his passion and lust, I must learn how to be inconsistent at the right times and send him mixed signals so that he is not entirely sure of my intentions. A predictable woman is boring, and boring does not make him attracted to me. Some deliberate mixed signals include: Acting aloof from time to time on a date. I will go silent and ignore him occasionally. Show up unexpectedly after telling him I am busy and cannot see him Kiss him or hug him, then push him away to do something else. Tell him I like what he’s wearing, then change my mind on it later. Memorize his phone number, and make sure he knows I have. Then complain to have forgotten it and ask for it again later. Occasionally do things that are out of character, such as go to an offbeat restaurant and defy his expectations. Contradictions like this show that I have an unpredictable side and that while he may have thought he had me figured out, he does not. However, I will be careful not to do this too frequently or too radically, or else I will start to look a little crazy. Just every so often is enough to give things a healthy uncertainty. Creating attraction is a blend of opposites, acting firm and flexible, attracted and aloof, interested and disengaged. The best analogy of the way to treat my dating relationship with a woman is the way I would carry a full mug of hot coffee. I can either walk very slowly and very carefully, trying not to jostle the contents too much (which takes forever), or I can walk at a normal pace, only I must walk with irregular footsteps so that I do not set up a sloshing motion that spills the hot coffee down my arm. My irregularity will work the same way, keeping the cup of attraction full, and him engaged, TOTALLY!  51. She has Sexy Appearance The areas of personal attention are: Hair Nails Mouth Skin Sounds and Smells (hygiene) Fashion: Clothes, shoes, etc. Overall Fitness Posture (physical and mental) – projection of inner game, and Mannerisms – grace/suave, poetry in motion The sexy woman knows that her appearance speaks volumes about her, so much so that she need to be very concerned with this single area the most when it comes to her external game. The sexy woman puts herself far ahead of the competition if she attends to the basics of her appearance. My objective isn’t about trying to turn them on with my looks as much as it is about not turning them off. I will want to avoid giving him the wrong impression before I get a foot in the door. Not only this, but I will also raise my own level of self-confidence when I am looking and feeling my best. What I am looking to accomplish is to give myself the edge over any of the gals who think that their best outfit is tight tops, tight jeans, and tight laced undies… The reality, though, is that people do often make judgments based on initial appearances, and to get a chance at the starting line, my appearance should give me that initial opportunity. Sprite advert says it well, ‘image is everything’ Indeed, the old adage is still true, ‘first impressions last longest.’ The grooming and personal hygiene supposes that I am not of the radical appearance variety, and that I want to make myself as presentable as possible. My nails play a significant part in the overall appearance of my hands, and they do reflect my personality to some degree. For maximum flexibility, nails should be kept trimmed neatly. Any longer than this and I tend to raise more questions than I answer. Sexy women are not nail-biters; I may want to look into breaking this habit, as it tends to make my fingers look ragged and not very soothing to touch. I will keep all nails free of dirt. My toenails should be kept trimmed and neat at all times. My mouth should be as appealing as I can make it; after all, I want his lips spending a great deal of time here. My lips should never be dry or chapped. There are plenty of lip balms out there to help keep them moist. As for the inside, I want to be sure to keep my teeth and gums clean (yes, I will brush after each meal, just like the toothpaste tubes say) and while at it, I will not forget to brush my tongue, as this is where a great deal of bacteria develops. Flossing is also a necessity, not an option. I will use mouthwash regularly, and if I have a problem with bad-breath, I may want to discuss it with a dentist. There is nothing more unattractive to a man than having to tolerate foul breath. I will make sure I visit a dentist every six months for a cleaning. If I am a coffee or tea drinker, I should be sure to make sure my teeth are not discolored or stained. There are plenty of off-the-shelf bleaching products available that work very well, as well as treatments available from my dentist. My skin is the largest organ in my body, and is the part I am most concerned about getting him in contact with. I will be sure to do a once-over on my body to ensure that I am not too rugged for him. I do not have to make my skin like velvet, but hard, cracked, callused skin is not attractive to a man. I want him to want to get close to me, and that means taking care of areas I may not have considered before. I will use lotion on my hands and any other areas to get my skin soft enough to handle. If I have any blemishes or acne, there are many products on the market that will help me keep the breakouts to a minimum, and help me make them a little less noticeable. I will remember that men are keenly sensitive to touch, and look forward to touching women they are interested in. There are many behavioral cues I can use to demonstrate self-confidence, style, and sophistication. They demonstrate how a self-confident and self-disciplined woman looks and moves. - Speak slowly and insert deliberate pauses: I will not hurry my sentences along, inserting uhms and uhs everywhere. I will take my time. I will not seem stupid; I will seem thoughtful and mysterious. I will pause between things I want to carry more emphasis. It is not always what I say that is important; it is how I say it. - Walk with swagger and style: The way I move is a direct reflection of my personality. If I walk hunched over, avoiding people’s eyes, I appear unsure and insecure. I want to stand up straight, chest out, and with a quick but sure pace. I will look like I have got someplace to be. - Use my hands and body as poetry: The way I gesture and move my body in general should be very loose and circular. I will not move in jerky motions, like a nervous squirrel. When I reach for things, I move carefully and deliberately. Imagine that I have to act out a poem with my motions. I will not overdo this and become a ballet dancer for him; I will just make my movements fluid and relaxed. - Stand Proud: Many women do not have a very secure looking pose when they are just standing. They tend to cross their arms most of the time, which everyone knows is closed body language. I should find a way to stand that suits me, yet feels attractive. As corny as they seem, the poses many women make on the covers of catalogs or GQ magazine are actually very confident and statuesque. My ability to look calm and confident when standing still is important. - Smile: I will practice my smile in front of a mirror if I have to, but I will develop my ability to show a good smile. This one behavior says that I have a core of happiness more than anything else, and it will rub off on him. Smiling also says I am secure with myself, and I have a sense of humor.  48. She Accepts & Receives Chivalry Even in this enlightened age of female equality, the sexy woman still looks out for a chivalrous gentleman. The more confidently I do this, the better my chances to be happy in the relationship. And the sexy woman responds to his chivalry. Here are some examples of chivalry and the sexy woman’s responses: - When doors are opened for me: This includes car doors, front doors, etc. Women like this and expect it, period. When the door is opened for her, the sexy woman walks out, then stops, says thank you, and moves on. - Let the woman go first: Getting on buses, going in doors, sitting down, etc. She goes first. Women go first. She looks into his eyes as she walks by, admiringly. - When the chair is pulled out her for her: When I go to restaurants, the waiter will sometimes do this for the man, but when the man does this, she sits, then loudly appreciates his act with a phrase like, ‘how would I sit without you.’ - Order for him: The sexy woman knows, or asks for the man’s taste in drinks before a date. She waits for him to sit down, and then offers to make the order for drinks. - If the man takes her coat/helps her put on her coat. She immediately grabs him gently and kisses him lightly with a “thank you” kiss. 59. She Talks Dirty! Many couples enjoy sex talk as part of their flirting and love making, phone sex lines prove this is a common desire among men, and many people ‘dirty talk’ comes easy. According to men, ‘It is not what I say, but how I say it.’ Men love carnal communication, but the vocals that turn them on the most vary. When I think about what makes sex good, the physical factors most likely come to mind: how I touch each other, the positions I try, and the body parts I focus on. But there's another key contributor that is often overlooked: the words I utter. ‘Speaking or hearing erotically charged words stimulates dopamine transmission, which plays a huge role in sexual excitement,’ Dirty talk enhances the emotional and physical intensity of the experience. Most women aren't sure what sounds sexy, so they do not say anything, but, ‘Do me hard, bad boy!’ is a good place to start from. Another phrase with superpower effect is ‘I’m Cuming’. Being a great lover is a prime source of pride for men, and making the woman cum is the ‘IT’. It is proof that he's successfully satisfying me. Plus, since most men are ready to climax before women are, this gives him permission to come. That is definitely music to his, um, ears. Other tornado words are, ‘Lick my nipples’, ‘I want you inside me’, ‘deeper, harder’, ‘do not stop for anything’, faster, faster’, etc. Words that could make a pillow blush can transform my sex life -- and ultimately, my LIFE. Talking sexy' is simply a special way to talk to my partner. Sexy talk can be a 'normal' thought said in a seductive way, a compliment, even sounds like moans or sighs. It does not even have to be in bed. Talking sexy during everyday life creates a romantic, sensual, emotionally charged atmosphere in bed, 'talking dirty' is one of the favorite things that sexy women do. Sexy women like likes to whisper things to their partners when out in public. Men are visual creatures by nature, and this causes them to only want what they see. Talking dirty will help me plant little seeds all the time that will drive him crazy to be with me. I must learn to ‘Use My Mouth’ if I want to be a sexy woman. Few people actually know that many men are desperate to hear some beautifully dirty phrases flying out of their woman’s mouth. A cuss here, a dirty phrase there, makes them happier than a kid in a candy store. Fuck! I will talk dirty today; just wait till he calls me back. Here’s a list of 15 dirty talk phrases I can use now, right here! I just need to go up to my man the moment I can and gently whisper a handful of my favorite ones into his ear and watch what happens. ‘I love the way you kiss me there!’ ‘I want you inside me, NOW!’ ‘I want to get naked with you right now.’ ‘Do you like the way that feels?’ ‘Use your mouth on me.’ ‘I love the things you do with your tongue.’ ‘You are so damn gorgeous.’ ‘Want to see what I really want? Come closer…’ ‘Tell me what you want.’ ‘This is going to be the dirtiest night of your life.’ ‘It drives me crazy when you look at me that way…’ ‘You taste so good.’ ‘Come over here, I want to ride you hard.’ ‘Your wish is my command.’ ‘I want to feel those sweet lips all over me.’ ‘I’m going to suck your dick like a lollipop.’ His eyes will stand still, his jaw will drop slightly, and he’ll start to breathe heavy. Dirty talk instantly throws convention out the front door and allows my imagination to run rampant. Dirty talking is like sharing a secret, and inviting him to explore. I can also talk dirty if I add some spark into my talk. ‘Slide yourself inside me now,’ or ‘I want to feel that in my mouth.’ Most of the trouble is thinking of what to say. The answer is, Practice, practice, practice.  54. Sexiness Is a State Of Mind! Sexiness is not just a look; it is a state of mind, too. In other words, if I do not think that I am sexy, it is not likely that anyone else will. I do not believe it, how do I expect someone else to? So to get myself feeling my sexiest, I will feel and think sexy, then, naturally, I will be. Just like Pavlov’s Classical Conditioning, if I condition my mind to think I am sexy and beautiful, it will just radiate in my whole being and people will think and believe that I am! Do I consider myself sexy? It all depends on the way I’m feeling. When I’m happy inside that is when I feel most sexy. -Anna Kournikova A sexy woman does not have to flaunt herself and scream ‘look at me’…she rather unravels herself, catching the man’s peripheral gaze, until he cannot help but always look at her’…Being sexy or a man-magnet is not only about flaunting my physical appeal. Traits like a positive self esteem, body language and self confidence in a woman have a far more lasting effect on a man. That is what makes a woman sexy. Not that low cut blouse, short skirt, or painted face. It is something I cannot touch, or see. But is nonetheless tangible and real, and comes from within, an inner quality that presents itself by exuding sexuality on the outside. It is not forced, it flows. And it is this unawareness of that quality that makes me as a woman very sexy, and highly attractive to the opposite sex, and even to my fellow women. Sexiness is a state of mind- humility with a touch of grace, a slight confidence, rebellion and intelligence with a good understanding of oneself.-VV Brown  Sexiness is not always something that can be pin-pointed with the naked eye. There are many things that make up a sexy woman, yet they are hardly things that we can be descriptive about. It is a feeling, and an emanation that is just there. Any woman can be cute, or pretty, or even beautiful and smart. However, in order for a woman to be truly sexy, she must grow into the mold, and create an aura that has been crafted through years of life and love and wisdom. What makes a woman sexy is a combination of her outer appearance and inner diva. I might think feeling sexy has to do with my body, with looking a certain way, wearing a certain thing, or doing something in particular. When I base my sexiness and my desirability on some external, however, I am only a stone's throw away from suffering. If I accept what mainstream culture has to say about sexiness, I am bound to hurt. If I am sexy when I am thin and svelte, what happens as I age? If I am sexy because my body looks a certain way, what happens when it changes? If I am sexy because of the clothes I wear, or the make-up I apply, or the way I style my hair, what happens when I take the clothes off, when I wash my face clean, and I wake up in the morning with my hair sticking out every which way?    When I base my sex-appeal on externals, it means that sometimes I am sexy, and sometimes I am not. Nothing is more painful than feeling like sometimes I am just not quite good enough. There is a way to break free from this and discover the sexiness that is always inside of me. I can discover the beauty, the lovability, and the desirability that is always present, always now, and always available. This comes from discovering that I am that which makes everything sexy and desirable. I am the very thing that I long for - I am sexiness itself. I am inherently beautiful, I am inherently loveable. I AM A WOMAN. No matter what the outside looks like, whether I am dressed up for an evening event or wearing my pajamas, I can feel sexy. I can feel sexy because I am that which creates, expresses, and experiences sexiness, beauty, and love. Ultimately, the outside reflects the inside. The more immersed I am in this unchangeable part of myself, the more I will be able to create a life that is a reflection of my inherent beauty. So feeling sexy, feeling beautiful, feeling desirable is not so much about doing anything. Rather, it is a great undoing. Discovering my sexiness is more a process of removing everything that I am not, removing the beliefs, the thoughts, and the limitations. It is about seeing the thoughts that make I believe I am not sexy and learning to ignore them. This line says it all; ‘Discovering my sexiness is more a process of removing everything that I am not, removing the beliefs, the thoughts, and the limitations.’ Thoughts such as: I am too old to feel sex; My butt is too big My skin is not clear enough If only I had, looked, or was anything other than what I am, and then I would be sexy. These thoughts are just thoughts, and I do not need to listen to them. I will turn my attention to the thinker of the thoughts, that eternal part of myself that is beyond the thoughts I think. I will learn to listen to this part of myself and I will discover that I am now, and have always been, and will always be, the sexiness that I desire. I am the infinite beauty of the cosmos, manifesting as a physical human being. I must always remember that I am inherently loveable and desirable. As I discover this, the outside world will shift to reflect this internal reality. And I will experience myself as the majestically beautiful, intrinsically sexy person that I am and always will be. To be human is fantastic and keeping it real is important. There is a very real pecking order in life and those who choose to enact their best selves are always the ultimate winners. Always be a first-rate version of myself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.-Judy Garland. Sexuality, feeling sexy and being sexual is an inherent human quality. Every woman is sexy. Every woman is beautiful. Human sexuality is deeply connected to the body we have. It is connected to the ability of the female body to experience intense prolonged orgasmic pleasure. It does matter how old I am. Thinking sexy will attract attention to me, which threatens other women in the room. A woman is only as sexy as she believes she can be. It is a mental thing, more than anything else. If I walk into a room, feeling down and blue, I cannot exude sexuality and will never command anything but doom and gloom. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.-W. Clement Stone I can be sexy, but I must first think sexy. If I have a strong desire to become a sexy woman, my thoughts will guide my actions for my desire to come true. ‘As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.’ - Book of Proverbs When I am self-assured, I tend to stand tall and when I walk by, I seem so confident, because I am. I look satisfied with life, so others want to have what they see when I walk by. This satisfaction with my own life gives me an inner peace and the aura of having arrived at my goal every day. If I really want to get good at seducing men, I need practice walking around while thinking, ‘I am a sexual prowler.’ It will make me giggle at first, but it makes me feel and be sexy. When I get into the mind of a sexual prowler and then push that energy outward at the target of my beautiful seduction, I am game. I think, therefore I am.- René Descartes  75. She has a Positive Attitude! Sexiness is a state of mind. It is not anything physical. Sexiness is indeed an attitude, and thinking sexy can do nothing but run up the sexiness scores. Attraction includes how a woman feels. If I feel sexy, I will be sexy and have men drawn to me. If I have everything but the inner feeling, I become an average, and the worst compliment of all I will attract is, ‘she looks, okay’. Woman's personality and positive attitude is more important than anything else. Positive attitudes will always make people around me feel better. The sexy woman accentuates the positive. The main thing that makes a woman sexy is attitude. Whether my body style is big or thin I can still be sexy if my attitude is right. Attitude makes a woman sexy, attractive, and alluring. Sure, the way I look, the way I smell, the way I move is attractive and enticing, but without attitude, a good attitude, I am not sexy. A positive attitude attracts positive actions. Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude.’ said Ralph Marston. ‘Ability is what I am capable of doing. Motivation determines what I do. Attitude determines how well I do it.’ wrote Raymond Chandler. ‘Bad attitude,’ is a turn-off; even if a woman is pretty, so I will not be sexy if I carry around a bad attitude. Attraction is about being appealing. Sexy is about being attractive to want, not just to look at, but to have, hold, own and caress. Who wants to hold someone with a really bad attitude? Bad attitude is a turn off no matter how hot I look physically. Bad attitude is the one single biggest thing that turns people off about the opposite sex in just an instant no, no questions asked. Bad attitude is worse than bad breath.  Attitude on a woman can make her attraction better or worse. A woman that has a hot body with a nasty attitude is not sexy at all. There is nothing worse than a woman that knows she is sexy and has a negative attitude towards a common guy. I can roll my eyes at him and I just lost my sexy attraction from him. Most men will ignore a hot woman in a heartbeat who has a bad attitude. Nothing can kill sexiness quicker than a bad attitude. Attitude is important. Indeed, attitude is everything! The sexy woman knows that positive attitude is very important to being charming and attractive. The sexy woman knows that attitudes are nothing but habits acquired through repeated actions. An action repeated becomes an attitude realized. I am responsible for my attitude. I am responsible to have a great attitude and maintain it. I have the responsibility to choose my attitude. I may not be able to change the world around me, but I am able to change the way I see the world around me. After all, as the old saying reminds me, ‘misery is an option.’ Thinking and acting with a positive attitude can do more than anything else towards getting me whatever I want out of life, because those who are in positions to make things happen for me will want to be around me, and want to work with me to help make my dreams a reality. ‘If I do not like something, change it. If I cannot change it, change my attitude.’-Maya Angelou. Having a positive attitude in whatever I do will make things easier, and even more enjoyable. ‘The only disability in life is a bad attitude.’ said Scott Hamilton. The right attitude will set the right atmosphere for the right response. My attitude determines what I see. My attitude determines how I handle what happens to me. The sexy woman has a positive attitude. To be a sexy woman, to have a positive attitude, I will take passionate action towards living my life. I will not just make it through the day, I will live it. I will sink my teeth into it and live it like it was my last day on earth. ‘Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character,‘ said Albert Einstein. I will live to be a sexy woman with passion. Passion and a positive attitude are contagious. People will catch my attitude just as they will my cold-by getting close to me. I will find others attracted to me who are just as passionate about life and living. Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.-wrote Winston Churchill. To have a positive attitude, I will act instead of reacting. The sexy woman acts instead of reacting. I will not wait until something bad happens then try to deal with it. I will be proactive and make something good happen. I will seize every opportunity that I can instead of regretting it later. I am responsible for what I make of the life I have. To be a sexy woman, I will create the best life I possibly can, one action at a time. The Chinese were right, "The man who moved a mountain was the one who began carrying away small stones." The sexy woman has a flexible and passionate attitude: Her philosophy of life has to be upbeat, not dark. She is conscious of her health. She expects the best from life. She has an open and adventurous spirit. She has an intellect the man finds engaging, not condescending and dismissive. She is giving. She respects the man. She is also patient, not jumping to conclusions or having to be soothed all the time. Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. - John N. Mitchell.  53. She has High Self-Esteem! “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.” - Oprah Winfrey– My self-esteem is my ability to accept myself, for what I am, and love me for being me. Healthy self-esteem is based on my ability to assess myself accurately (know myself) and still be able to accept and to value myself. This means being able to realistically acknowledge my strengths and limitations (which is part of being human). My self-esteem will develop and evolve throughout the day as I build an image of myself through my experiences with different people and activities. A high self-esteem makes me sexy. The sexy woman has high self-esteem. She accepts herself for who she is. The first step to more healthy self-esteem is to begin to treat myself as a worthwhile person. To build her self esteem, the sexy woman practices basic self-care. She gets enough sleep, she eats in a healthy diet, and she gets regular exercises and practices good hygiene. The sexy woman also plans fun and relaxing things for herself. She goes to movies and theatres, she takes afternoon naps, she gets massage, she plants her garden, looks after a pet, and learns to meditate-whatever brings a smile on her face, whatever she enjoys, that is what she will do. She is alive, and hence has a high self esteem. The sexy woman improves her self-esteem by rewarding herself for her accomplishments. She takes the night off to celebrate good grades or results in her work; she spends time with a friend, or compliments herself for making that hard phone call. To develop my self-esteem, I will remind myself of my strengths and achievements. I will make a list of things I like about myself. I will also keep a 'success' file of awards, certificates and positive letters or citations. I will keep mementos of accomplishments I am proud of where I can see them. In time of difficulties, we must not lose sight of our achievements.’-Mao Tse-tung. To build my self esteem, I will have positive people around me. People who treat me well, encourage me and compliment me. How I am treated by the members of my immediate family, by my teachers, coaches, religious authorities, and by peers, all contribute to the creation of my basic self-esteem, and make me treat myself as an important person. The sexy woman knows that even the most learned, most rich, and most exposes women can have low self esteem. She is guided in her relationship by this mantra: “Our ceremony is mutual affection. We make it our business to oblige the heart we are afraid to lose But we will last no longer than we bestow mutual pleasures.” To have high self esteem is to be myself. The sexy woman is herself. I must be myself to be sexy. I cannot be myself if I emulate another woman. Men instinctively crave variety. To be different, in my own way, is variety. By developing a strong sense of self, with my own distinct personality and flair, I am appealing to his desire for variety because I am so different. A sexy woman is honest with herself; she decides what she wants and goes for it. Do what I feel in my heart is good. For I will be criticized either way. I am damned if I do, and damned if I do not. - Eleanor Roosevelt I will be myself, to be sexy. I will not let criticism worry me or compare myself to other people - at work or in my personal life; I do not know what the other person is going through. When I compare myself to other people, I might see myself on the ‘short end’, and this will negatively affect my thoughts, and consequently deny me happiness. So this is never a good or helpful thing for me to do. There is no amount of money in the world that will make me comfortable if I am not comfortable with myself. - Stuart Wilde declared. I will practice self-acceptance no matter what. I will seek to know myself. Knowledge of oneself is the only real and true knowledge. - Aristotle The sexy woman understands herself, and that is how she truly understands others. Knowing one’s self is a lifelong journey and a journey which should be embarked upon with total trust in personal observations and personal experiences to date. She is neither a product of her past nor of the expectations of others. There are talents and capacities that are entirely unique to me. Though I may not yet fully detect them, most likely I have a sense of what they are. ‘Each man has his own vocation; his talent is his call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him.’ wrote Ralph Waldo Emerson. The unexamined life is not worth living.-Socrates The sexy woman knows that self-awareness is her unique endowment and capacity that she possesses as human beings. Through it, we can detect our abilities and ‘stand apart from ourselves’ to examine our thinking, our motives, our history, our scripts, our actions, and our habits and tendencies. Socrates' guiding rule was, ‘Know Thyself.’ These words are of eternal significance. No better advice has ever been given to man or woman. When I begin to explore this dictate it leads to profound understandings about all of creation. It makes unhappiness, fear, sadness, doubt, and all the negative emotions meaningless. Know Thyself.-Temple of Apollo's Oracle at Delphi To be a sexy woman, I will act like a sexy woman and exercise my self-awareness by asking myself such questions as: What do I really enjoy doing? What am I good at? What kind of activities have I been drawn to - even as a child? What is it that when I hear, see or do, my heart skips a beat? In everyone’s life, there are areas in which we have innate talents but have never developed them into a real skill. I will trust myself. I will have the courage to detect, develop and use those talents that will enable me to make real contributions and that will bring me deep satisfaction. When I'm trusting and being me... everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously. -Shakti Gawain To be myself is to be human. This is the mantra of the sexy woman. Each individual has a way of doing certain things which is unique. All of us are born with unique ways of approaching everything we touch. I have my own unique ways of doing some things. There are certain things we will do by nature and we will do them in certain ways. There are other things we will not do by nature. We resist doing them because we hate, we do not like and we fear doing them. If I want peace, stop fighting. If I want peace of mind, stop fighting with my thoughts. -- Peter McWilliams I will discover the nature of my particular genius when I stop trying to conform to my own or to other peoples' models, learn to be myself, and allow my natural channel to open. The sexy woman is herself, and she seeks to understand her values, her core beliefs and her virtues. I will decide what it is I stand for, what I would sacrifice for, suffer for, and even die for. The most excellent Jihad is that for the conquest of self.’(Bukhari)- Holy Quran A sexy woman is herself. To be myself to be a sexy woman, I will not do something I am not comfortable with, because it will deny me happiness. I will respect myself for sticking to my guns, and that self-respect will make me happy. ‘Always be a first-rate version of myself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.’ Judyy Garland. A sexy woman is honest to herself. I will be honest with myself. I will be true to myself to be a sexy woman. I will not think of changing into someone else that I am not or even changing the people about me. I will not get happiness that way, and I will end up losing respect that way. To thine own self be true. - William Shakespeare To be myself to be a sexy woman, I will not compete with anyone. I will seek to be superior only to my former self, my yesterday self, for this is where true nobility lies. There is nothing noble in being superior to another person. - Ancient Indians But more importantly, the sexy woman does not compete with the man. She knows that gals and boys want different things: Girls want relationships and cooperation, boys want power and status. True competition is against who I was in my yesterday, against my former self, to live according to my version of what a great person is, what a great human being should be. I will stay on my game, and I will not take my mind off my own mountain tops. I will run my own race, and not get caught up on other people’s doings.  57. She Loves Herself The sexy woman loves herself, and this builds her self-esteem, making her even more sexy; sexier. To build her self-esteem, the sexy woman loves her self. I must love myself to feel sexy. The most important person in my life is me. The person who I love the most in the world should be me! Why not? Who better than me? ‘I’m the one person I have to spend every waking moment of my life with. ‘I’m the only person who will be there for me when no one else is. ‘ I’m all I have no matter what. Maya Angelou, that sexy old vixen, intellectual, artistic, talented, and revolutionary, reminds us thus: “a real woman loves, but keeps some love for herself!” A sexy woman likes herself; she loooves herself, and she is happy with who she is and so, she attracts men. Men want a woman who is comfortable with herself. As a woman, if I obsess over my imperfections, it will interfere with the man’s enjoyment of me and the time he spends with me. What is truly sexy is when my whole self-esteem makes me act as though I am flawless, and in turn makes him feel as though I am a secretly sexy supernova when he is with me. The key is action. I must act. Tony Robbins said, "Action is the foundational key to all success." When a woman is happy with herself, knows herself well, and sees the value that she has to offer, the outer beauty is illuminated from within. She is comfortable with her intelligence and sees no need to trumpet or quell it. She is at peace with her femininity so she does not need to wear clothes that devalue her as a person. She is confident enough to say that. A sexy woman is one who makes her own decisions about life, clothes, and other people. Ms. Alpha Female is comfortable with herself. She loves her body and her brain and she works them out regularly. She is a powerful woman, this alpha female; an assertive woman. Her confidence may be due to her good looks and/or superior intelligence. Men desire her, and girls with low self-esteem hate her. She knows her own value and sees that she is beautiful from the inside out. She will not settle for less than the absolute BEST in everything from men to career contracts. The biggest temptation is to settle for too little. But be aware: there is also a thin red line, so, she does not overdo it, or else, she will most likely look arrogant instead of confident. I do not want that. Nobody likes arrogance. I am an alpha female because I speak my mind and make no apologies. She treats herself! Nothing gets a woman feeling relaxed and pampered like a day full of deep-tissue massages, mud baths, and facials. A spa visit is a luxury every woman can enjoy, and the sexy woman knows this, especially during a particularly stressful time, like the holidays or during an anniversary. The greatest thing about the Alpha Female, the sexy woman, is that she truly loves herself. She is in touch with who she is so that makes it easy for her to share love with others. She has the courage of her convictions, the passion of all the women who went before her, the sex appeal of a mermaid, and the self-awareness of a Buddha. She is perfection personified. The sexy woman lets the man see her savor the wine, enjoy the dinner, indulge in the chocolate, and get lost in the music. She has learnt the trick of having fun all the time and enjoys her life! Her life compass is guided by the need for fun…she believes that if it is not funny, it should not be done. When I First Love ME, I will give myself what I need. I will become highly attractive to others because I am coming to them out of wholeness, not out of a repulsive neediness. I will be able to have fulfilling relationships, and I will have no problem ending relationships which do not serve my growth. The concept is simple, though it is not easy to learn how to love myself. It is going to take some hard work. Those at the top of the mountain did not fall there. Am I ready for it? By becoming self-mindful, taking it step-by-step, and developing self-confidence, I can increase my overall happiness in love and life! All I have to do is FIRST LOVE ME and everything else will fall into place. The sexy woman is happy with herself. I must be happy with myself if I want to be sexy. I need to be happy with what I do and how I do it. If I am not happy or comfortable with it, maybe I need something different? I can experience being sexy and enjoy it, but it will not give me everything I want in life. she recalls the words of the legendary Muhammad Ali, "I don't have to be what nobody else wants me to be and I am not afraid to be what I want to be."  47. She Is Social, She Relates! “the first rule of any game is to know you are in one.” -Anonymous The sexy woman takes care of her relationships… both with others and herself. She relates ONLY with those people who enhance her life in some way. If they do not, she cuts them off. And her relationship with herself is the most important. She treats herself lovingly. She gives herself time to relax, refresh and renew. She allows herself to daydream. This will build self-love and that alone is soooo sexy. The sexy woman knows that relationship is a form of wealth-relational wealth! She has a great need to be in community. She appreciates the wisdom that, ‘Nothing exists for itself alone, but only in relation to other forms of life’. The sexy woman is alive when she is part of a bigger group. She is a relational being, and she feels more complete when she relates. Relationships are the hallmark of a mature person.-Bryan Tracy. The sexy woman knows that a relationship is about people, about the other person. She knows that everything in life is built on relationships, and is about people. Business is about people, the customers, the clients, the employees, the directors. Family is about people, the siblings, parents, relatives or the children. She knows that the way she treats people will determine how the people treat her in return. The sexy woman has strong relationships with other people, and hence she is very successful in her projects. She devotes herself to breaking bread with her business partners, her friends and her family members. ‘The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.’- Theodore ‘Teddy’ Roosevelt. Relationships encourage trust, and people like dealing with people they trust. People love relating with people they like, the people they trust. Focusing on people develops them and adds value to them. It leaves them better than we found them. To be a sexy woman I will develop a strong relationship with my family, my friends and my clients. As the quote at the beginning of this chapter states, the first rule of a relationship is to know you are in one. The sexy woman knows she is in a relationship, and she does not remain herself in a relationship. She accommodates the other person, man or woman, and makes them feel special, and in so doing, she is made to feel special. She smiles, and asks to be smiled at, at first silently, then in words, and finally, by her absence. She relates! Because the sexy woman relates, she knows how to deal with people; she has experience. This is very important with men. The sexy woman is the one who has always had a boyfriend, boyfriends, some for fun, some for dating, some for sex, and some, well, some for bible study. Either way, she knows how to handle men, because she has been with some. She has been there, and done that. This is the number one reason why “virgin” girls have marital, and relationship problems. They do not know how to react, respond, and relate, in a relationship. She sees her man, and smiles. She hears his voice, and chuckles like a baby. She catches him looking at her, and she blushes. She relates. She is in a game. She plays by the rules, naturally. And if she does not like the “opponent”, she moves on. If the opponent is not challenging enough, not unique, not a gentle player, not fair, she walks. To build her relationships, the sexy woman talks to at least one family member every day, one client and one friend. It is important to talk. And the sexy woman knows this. I will tell everyone what you want to do; someone will want to help me do it. The 'key word' in a conversation is the word 'you'. The sexy woman talks to people about themselves. ‘Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours’. - Benjamin Disraeli. People like listening to their own voices. The sexy woman keeps ninety-nine percent of the talk about the other person, and only talks about herself when asked. And when she talks, it is just to answer the question asked, and nothing more. And as she talks, the sexy woman does not manipulate. No one likes to feel manipulated or used. Manipulation, no matter how slight, tears down the walls of trust in a relationship. I gain more by being transparent than by being cunning and crafty. Her goal in talking to people is to figure out their goals and dreams, and how to help them achieve them, and following the Universal Law of reciprocity; that what we do to others, they will do to us, they will then help sexy woman to reach her goals and dreams. People want to help me, but in order to help me; I must show I am willing to help them. I must help them, in however small a fashion!-Ojijo When the sexy woman meets a stranger, she talks to them about their family, parents, kids, siblings and relatives. She also asks after their occupation, job, trade or career. She further asks them what it is they do to earn a living, how they love their job and what plans they have for their career development. Also, she talks about their health and recreation activities. She is interested in what they do when they are not working; what places they frequent when they are out of work; what activities they engage in when they want to relax. Finally, she asks them about their world view on money. About their thoughts on acquiring it, using it, spending it, investing it, and living a financially secure life. The sexy woman does not condone long distance relationships. She avoids them like a plague. After all, A long distance relationship is a long distance heartache. What happens in almost all cases is that his physical distance becomes a challenge to me, and as a result, I distort my feelings of attraction for him. The lack of exposure to each other also promotes self-delusion about how much I genuinely feel for each other. Resorting to email and phone calls for contact only serves to make things more complicated, as I may forge a false relationship with him, built on the pretense of sharing information instead of engaging in constructive attraction building behavior. I may even slip into the trap of believing I should relocate for him, and this is almost always a mistake. Seduction and romance must take place in person. The sexy woman avoids dating at a distance, unless it is a casual affair where neither of us is interested in taking it further. (Even then, it can get complicated)  39. She is Independent! Being independent makes a woman sexy to a man. Men like to know that the woman they are interested in can take care of herself. That she has a good head on her shoulders and knows what she wants. The Alpha Female is fiercely independent and can take care of herself. She will not beg a man for a diamond in order to impress her friends and family. She does not want to be tied down to anyone… unless it is her HERO who has the courage to man up in the relationship and take the lead. She has no time for someone that she needs to mother. There was a time when a subdued, sophisticated and sweet girl left men swooning. That period of time when a girl, who would ask for a man's assistance and in a way pamper his male ego, was adored. But, stereotypes are changing to be a sexy woman. Men are falling for an independent gal who will not call him at the drop of a hat. An independent woman is a sexy woman, she does not seek help all the time. She will change a flat car tire on her own; she will receive the guests from the airport on her own. She is the multi-tasking queen who rocks equally at her workplace as well as the home. It is this combination of independence and tenderness that makes her irresistible. The sexy woman is capable and competent. The sexy woman is able to take care of herself and live her own life. She should have her own job and stable source of income. If I am looking to go long term with someone, they should also be capable and competent communicators. Shortcut: People are usually a wreck on the outside when they’re a wreck on the inside. A woman engaging in challenging pursuits is a turn-on for men. Being with a highly self-reliant woman, who does not expect a man's support at every step, is attractive for a modern man. It is also a sign that modern, urban couples are true companions, rather than in a domination-subordination relationship. She gives space, but is never too far away. And she attracts attention, with having to demand it. She is laid back and un-needy. A sexy woman is an honest one who makes her own rules, communicates them, and lives by them. As versatile and accommodating as she is, she is not a doormat to be stomped upon. She has clear standards and sticks to them, and will not allow her integrity to be violated by any man. She stands up for herself when necessary, and does not allow herself to be guided by a man's principles without careful, personal scrutinization first. The sexy woman is assertive. This woman will not be pushed around. She stands up for herself – quickly and succinctly putting people in their place if they try to disrespect her. The good news is that unlike other women, she is easy-going and does not throw tantrums, whine, bitch or nag. Her sense of reason does not allow her to act like a child. An independent woman is a complete woman because she is a well rounded woman. She has values, and morals, and beliefs as well as an air of nurturing; she is terrific. She can be a mother, a sister, a wife, or a single woman, or a married one. She can be a dreamer, and someone that believes in magic and still wishes upon a star. Whatever she is, she does it well. Young girls try to emulate her, and grown women long to be her. The sexy woman is complete, she is ‘length, width, height and depth’. She is geometry and proportion. She is a ‘great mystery’. She knows who she is and is not only unashamed to show it off, but is proud to do so. She has it and she flaunts it. She is full of wisdom and principles, she knows right from wrong, yet is not preachy about it. She is damn sexy.  5. She Is Nice! A sexy woman behaves nicely, no matter how good looking she is.  Being nice means being humble, kind and gentle. The sexy woman is nice. She is kind to other women and has a positive vibe. The behavior, personality and etiquette of the sexy woman is humility. So I must learn all the etiquettes and tricks that a sexy woman has. It is worth the investment. I must stop being mean or nasty or obnoxious or arrogant or bitchy.  People will love me if I am sweet and polite and a pleasant woman to be with. I will praise loudly and blame softly. The sexy woman will speak ill of no one, and speak all the good she knows of everybody. There might not be a bigger turnoff than an arrogant prick. Even if I am rich or good looking, or have a great personality, it is important to be humble about it. I should not be the idiot who needs to brag about it because that is a major sign of insecurity and men will pick up on it big time. Humility is a way of life for the sexy woman. She never makes a big deal when she is right; it is just something she takes in stride. She is never loud or boastful she just gets the job done and looks for more ways to help. She accepts compliments with gentleness even if she is just realizing what she always knew about herself. She does not complain when it gets tough she just takes these setbacks as a lesson learned. Amen, she is sexy! A woman who is humble and modest in manner is empirically appealing to most other people. This kind of woman draws people to her because she is interested in others and not so caught up in herself. Her physical appeal, then, is multiplied by the emotional appeal she delivers to those around her. One of the most attractive features of a woman is her heart! A sexy woman has a warm, loving and sincere heart whose beauty cannot be duplicated by any amount of makeup or silicon. The sexy woman is warm towards men and keeps them around her. A lot of women are focused more on the physical aspect and less on being the interesting, sensual, engaging person that real men are looking for! The sexy woman is kind. ‘By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.’ -Sir Winston Churchill To be a sexy woman, when I find myself in an abrasive situation, I will act sexy; I will constantly say to myself, ‘know how to act’. Being nice helps in every possible way! Men long for a woman who is caring; it accentuates the sexual and seducing part of the woman. This may sound funny, but men are looking for a hot, irresistible woman, with a motherly personality. Men want a woman who will nourish them and take care of them emotionally, just as they expect their mothers to do for them. The sexy woman always listens to him when he expresses himself and shows her care. A woman who is compassionate is sexy simply because she cares about more than herself or her looks. The spirit of the sexy woman is a lighthouse to the hearts of men, a guide to humanity. She does not mind giving or sharing a little of herself if it will benefit another individual. She is always willing to impart knowledge and share what she knows with misguided individuals. She feeds her soul and mind much in the same fashion as she nourishes her body. Her soul is the shoulders in which she helps bare the pain of others by being a living example of survival. She is willing to uplift and help others in the journey of life. A sexy woman is more than willing to help others or volunteer for the cause. She melts the hearts of men. She is the one that everyone respects and admires. She sets a good example for those around her. She will be on time when she is supposed to. She will not make people wait on her. She is respectful and respected. She is passionate and encouraging. She is a good influence. She is a blessing! The traits and acts of kindness and compassion make a woman very sexy. A woman who is able to show kindness to others and feel compassion for people she may not know or have anything in common with shows a generosity of spirit that many men find extremely sexy. Women who are kind and compassionate are likely to make good partners as they can empathise with their partners and are not afraid to show their affection and share in both the joys and sorrows of a shared relationship. Women who can articulate their feelings and thoughts; women who see and understand deeply into the heart of matters are both alluring and inspiring. ’A good word is like a good tree whose root is firmly fixed and whose top is in the sky.’ The Quran! Kindness and gentleness are beautiful things about a woman. Kindness and gentleness beats out all other qualities of beauty and makes a woman exceptionally sexy. Even if she is lacking all of the former but still retains these two attributes she is still within the top five percent of women in the world. The power of kindness and understanding cannot be underestimated, and, how essentially sexy it is. If I want a guy to be aroused and open up, these are essential qualities. I will be caring, gentle and kind. To build her positive attitude, the sexy woman is nice. The sexy woman is very nice. She makes it her goal to be the kindest person in her life. She says ‘Please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘you are welcome’. Everyone wants to feel special; indeed, everyone has a lapel which says, ‘make me feel special’. ‘Please’ means ‘I respect you. ‘Thank you’ means ‘I appreciate you’. ‘you are welcome’ means ‘you can count on me to be there for you, again’. These are the three pillars of being nice and courteous. I will address people by Sir or Ma'am to be a sexy woman. To be nice to be a sexy woman, I will be polite, respectful, tolerant and refined. I will not be a snob to be a sexy woman. ‘Being nice to people makes it enjoyable to be around me. ‘An acquaintance that begins with a compliment is sure to develop into a real friendship.’- Oscar Wilde To be nice to her man, or men generally, she complements him. Everyone likes sincere compliments. Giving people compliments such as ‘I am looking nice to be a sexy woman’ or ‘I like my haircut,’ is very powerful in a relationship; a great ice-breaker; and shows that I am attentive; and everybody likes attention, even the shy ones. A compliment ought always to precede a complaint, where one is possible, because it softens resentment and insures for the complaint a courteous and gentle reception’.-Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] I can live for two months on a good compliment.’- Samuel Langhorne Clemens The sexy woman addresses people by Sir or Ma'am to be a sexy woman. She is polite, respectful, tolerant and refined. She is not a snob. She is a class act. A role model! And when people misjudge her intentions, the sexy woman is not moved. She is reminded of the great advise by Dr. Seuss thus: ‘be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind do not matter, and those who matter do not mind.’  13. She Has Integrity! The sexy woman is a woman of good moral fiber. She is value driven, and has integrity. She set sand follows her own principles. Every man worth his name needs to be able to trust his woman. This woman could end up raising his children, after all. Gentlemen, the men who make homes, cannot accept a woman who hey have to worry about ALL THE TIME. REAL MEN know that if she engages in a lot of backstabbing, chances are she is a resentful type who will stow away her slights and hit him with them like a grocery list when the time is right. To be a sexy woman, I must build my integrity to be trustable, for the man to trust me with his life. A woman that can stand up for her values, and not allow any man to use her for his advantage is sexy. She has this kind of strength. While she happily takes a more submissive role when dealing with a true MAN, she can hold her own in the boardroom or on the street. She commands the respect of other people and is selective about who she invites into her life. She has a pleasing personality. She is warm and friendly, but also strong when necessary. People of integrity expect to be believed. They also know that time will prove them right and are willing to wait.’- Ann Leanders. The sexy woman knows that integrity is who she is when no one is watching. Integrity is what truly attracts opportunities to individuals. ‘The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home. - Confucius. Integrity is the state of being unified, complete. The sexy woman has integrity. Her words and her actions match up. She is who she is, no matter where she is, or who she is with. When I have integrity, I do not have divided loyalties, nor am I pretending. I become a whole person, and can be identified with single-mindedness. When I have integrity, I have nothing to fear or hide. I neither scheme nor backstab. I do not conspire, or talk behind people’s backs. With Integrity, my life is an open book. Integrity is not what I do, it is who I am. If wealth is lost, nothing is lost. If health is lost, something is lost. But, if character is lost, everything is lost.-Unknown The basis for building character through integrity is to treat others as I would like to be treated-the Golden Rule. If I expect people to be honest and forthcoming with me, I need to do the same with them. ‘If I tell the truth, I do not have to remember what I said.’- Mark Twain The sexy woman builds her integrity by maintaining a commitment to honesty, fairness, and the highest level of ethics in every interaction. Her actions demonstrate her integrity. The sexy woman agrees with Socrates, ‘The first key to greatness is to be in reality what I appear to be.’ The sexy woman knows that success in both her business and personal life stems from building character through integrity. Integrity is the essence of everything successful. Honesty and integrity are always rewarded. Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether I did it or not. - Oprah Winfrey To be a sexy woman, my heart will be mirrored in my conduct. Whereas image is what people think I am, integrity is what I am. Integrity is key. I will be honest. There is no single attribute that will assist me in building integrity more than honesty. I will be committed to making my word as good as a contract; bankable. One of the truest tests of integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised. - Chinua Achebe. Honesty says I am a person of the highest moral quality and a trustworthy as well as puritanical. Those who follow dishonest means will always lose respect and the faith of those around them. ‘I can fool some people, some time, but I cannot fool all the people all the time.’- Bob Nesta Marley. To build my integrity, I will control my temper. Controlling my temper is a sign of integrity. My temper is the main quality by which others will both judge me and decide if I am of critical value. No matter how strong my other qualities are, one bad aggressive outburst will deny me the respect of many people in my life. No one is perfect, this is true and everyone is going to have confrontations - it is almost unavoidable, but going beetroot red and screaming at the top of my lungs simply will not clarify my point or win me any arguments. If I want to be the kind of person who gains respect through their success then I must manage my temper and handle confrontations with a calm and tactful demeanor. ‘A single lie destroys a whole reputation of integrity.’ wrote Baltasar Gracian.  71. She is Rare The sexy woman knows the law of supply and demand, and uses it to her advantage, literally. She plays scarcity and appreciation. She makes herself scarce, and she appreciates. The sexy woman knows that human beings appreciate what is rare. Diamonds are worth money because they are relatively rare, and it takes skill to turn one into a presentable ornament. Paintings by dead artists are valuable because there will never be any more made by that person; there is a fixed quantity of their work available. In essence: ‘We want what we cannot have.’ The sexy women also know that an important part of scarcity is the perception. People see what people look for. If people have to work hard to get something, it is appreciated more. Simply because if they can’t get it easily, it must be rare, and therefore must have value. This is the entire psychology behind the female ploy of playing hard-to-get. It works, and it works every time, as long as I do not become so scarce that I disappear. He has to feel lucky to get me Perception of scarcity (and value) can be controlled, and it is up to me to control my perceived value in the stock market of dating. Here’s how: I will reduce my availability and Increase my perceived desirability I will not answer the phone unless I need to. I am too busy out dating, after all! - I only have two times to offer each man per week to be with me. If they want to be with me, they will make it work. (And if they do not work, they aren’t interested enough. Why would I want to be with a man who does not want to be with me?) - I will be sure to talk about other men I know and see. Some women think that a man will hear this and get scared off. He will think, ‘Whoah! I better back out of this race; she is already taken.’ Totally and completely incorrect. He will find me more desirable because other men find me desirable. - I will restate that first rule of showbiz: ‘Always leave them wanting more.’ I must be the one to end the date early and say goodnight. When I hang around long enough that he has to tell me to go, I have already lost some of his interest. He goes from desire to withdrawal. I must be the one to end the kisses first. When he has to pull away, I have started a process of his feeling the need to get away from me. If I end it first, he’ll want more, and think about getting more the whole time I am apart. - Later, I will reduce my availability so that a man can feel the ache of my absence. If he can’t miss me, he can’t want me very much, either. I cannot appreciate that which I get for free. My time, my energy, my entire fantastic world must have a price for him to pay, or he will never adequately appreciate or sense a threat of loss. What would it be like if the Olympics gave medals to everyone who participates? “Give a little And then pull back. Give a little Then pull back. This is the magic formula.” -Anonymous Too much availability makes the price go down!Also, I will resist the urge to reassure him when he seems uncertain. Women tend to misinterpret a man in the ecstasy of uncertainty as needing assurance that the woman will be there or is interested in her. The woman then proceeds to tell him everything, hoping that if she reassures him enough, he’ll fall in love. WRONG! HE WILL NOT! It works exactly in the opposite way. I will remember that the more I make things definite and certain for a man, the less mystery and wonder I leave him with, and I will reduce his attraction. Only an extremely insecure man needs to be reassured constantly. In which case, it is more profitable to run, AWAY, FAST.  1. She is Grateful! Gratitude attracts positive energy. ‘The sexy woman is grateful to people who make her happy. She appreciates them because she knows that they are the charming gardeners who make her soul to blossom. She knows that showing gratitude honors people for their good acts and builds their confidence. Being nice will get people to like me and will strengthen relationships with me. Being grateful is a great way of building relationships. Having gratitude is the pillar of being nice, and being nice will give me contacts that might help me out later in times of need or which can make me a lot of money by leading me to better jobs or positions. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. To be a sexy woman, I will learn to always be grateful for what I have. It is a well-known fact among successful people that having gratitude will get me more than never being satisfied. There is nothing wrong with having dreams and goals and desiring more out of life, but I must not forget to be grateful for what I have already. Those who are never satisfied or grateful with what they have get into a ‘needy’ or ‘poverty’ mindset, where they think they never have anything, and are doomed to never having anything. 7. She Is An Optimist! "Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It's up to you to choose which you will be." -Anonymous The sexy woman is an optimist. While being skeptical can be a healthy way to avoid getting taken advantage of, being pessimistic - that is, always assuming the worst - can have major negative consequences on anyone’s life. Seeing only the negative aspects of any situation can cause me to miss opportunities, neglect problems that need to be solved, and fail to take action that would otherwise improve my relationships and quality of my life. The sexy woman looks for the light at the end the tunnel. It is possible to start seeing the glass as half full, not half empty. The sexy woman has had her heart broken, but does not think that is the last of life. As Shakespeare wrote, “it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.” To be a sexy woman, I will let go of the assumption that the world is against me, or that I was born with a gray cloud over my head. It is an assumption that has no basis in reason or science. At its core, pessimism is impractical because it causes me to spend time dwelling on things that have not happened yet and are not guaranteed to happen, and it prevents me from getting things done. Pessimism breeds indecision. It is a waste of time, and yet time is a limited resource that I cannot afford to lose. The sexy woman prepares for the worst, but hopes for the best - the former makes her sensible, and the latter makes her an optimist. ‘Learn from yesterday, live for to be a sexy woman, hope for tomorrow.’- Anonymous This is the mantra of the sexy woman! What a man considers to be extra ordinarily sexy is a woman who can be on her own, who does her thing, who does not care what opinion he may have for her. In other words she has one rule, “Approval neither required nor desired”. After all, there will always be someone there to tell you the particular dress is not good enough for you. True confidence is born when you do not believe what anyone tells you about yourself.  35. She is Self Confident! Everyone talks about it, few understand it. Most people want it, few achieve it. It is confidence. Being self confident is sexy. The sexy women have incredible levels of self-confidence. They have accomplished great levels of success and happiness in their lives and seem to be unstoppable in everything that they do. When I develop unshakable self-confidence my whole world will change for the better. Confidence will give me courage and extend my reach. It will let me take greater risks and achieve far more than I ever thought possible. Other things being equal, self-confidence is often the single ingredient that distinguishes a successful person from someone less successful. If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me-Ralph Waldo Emerson The sexy woman is self confident, and she inspires confidence in others; her audience, her peers, her bosses, her customers, and her friends. It has been said that ‘fortune favors the bold’. Indeed, a ‘faint heart never worn a handsome man’. It is excessive fear and self doubt that are the great detractors to personal genius. It is never the smart that get ahead, but the bold and courageous. It is not so much the lack of looks as the lack of courage and self confidence that holds me back. The sexy woman sticks around people who are forward looking. To be a sexy woman, I should be with people who move boldly forward, not with those fearful weaklings who ask seventy-seven questions before they get out of bed. The sexy woman builds her self confidence daily. To build my confidence to be a sexy woman, I will be willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things. And when I make mistakes as I seek success, I will admit my mistakes, vowing to learn from them; and when I succeed in meeting my goals, I will wait for others to congratulate me on my accomplishments, and I will accept compliments graciously. I will say; ‘Thanks, I really worked hard on that project. I am pleased I recognize my efforts.’ To build her confidence daily, the sexy woman manages her mind. She has learnt to pick up and defeat the negative self-talks which can destroy her self-confidence. She uses imagery to create strong mental images of what she wants to feel and experience as she achieves her major goals – there is something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable! ‘There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve my performance the next time.’- Malcolm X The sexy woman never says I cannot. She uses the words ‘I can do it’ before every challenge. Psychologists have proved that the words, ‘I can do it,’ are the antidote to the fear of failure that often holds us back from trying. I will repeat these words over and over to myself whenever I feel fearful or doubtful about anything that I want to attempt. I will say very enthusiastically to myself, ‘I can do it! I can do it! I can do it!’When I start saying, ‘I can do it, I can do it,’ I will drive that message deep into my subconscious mind. The sexy woman knows that kites rise highest against the wind – not with it. This message lowers my fears and builds my self-confidence. The winners in life constantly think interns of I can, I will, I am. ‘No one can make I feel inferior without my consent.’- Eleanor Roosevelt The sexy woman is super-confident. She has the confidence of a super-model. I must be a woman who knows what I want and how to get it. The sexy woman knows that anything in life worth having is worth working for. Do I know how to do this? Do I know what it is I want? I can start with renewing myself; get a complete fresh-up: a new haircut, clothes; and start losing weight. I should never never underestimate what a new haircut can do to me. Also I will watch my posture: I will keep a straight back and my shoulders backwards, and I will expose a little cleavage. I will do everything that makes my confidence boost. Men are very impressed by confidence. ‘When a man says I cannot, he has made a suggestion to himself. He has weakened his power of accomplishing that which otherwise would have been accomplished.’-Muhammad Ali. Sexiness comes, and is born from a confidence in my sense of self, an unashamed and comfortable awareness of my womanhood. When I am completely at ease with my inner self, I am serene, I glow with womanly pride, and in this sublime state I exude sexuality. It is a confidence, I will walk with my head held high, and I will have a soft, assured look in my eye. When a man sees you are happy with him but you can just be happy having nothing to do with him, which is when he won’t want to leave your side. In fact a confident woman has more fun in life. Nothing is more intoxicating than confidence. If I want to get his attention, to deserve his attention, I need confidence. Shy girl rarely gets the guy she wants. Beyond that; weak guys are terrified of strong women so they go for the shy ones. If I really want an incredible guy, I have to own it! The sexy woman knows this, and she never waits for the weak man, she goes ahead, and the strong man catches up with her. She sets the pace. Being confident is a state of mind. It is knowing what I want and what I do not want. Being able to take his attitude and dishing it right back without getting upset or angry. When I am sexy, I am also self expressive. I am both physical and verbal. The Alpha Female is articulate and speaks with her mouth as well as with her eyes. She knows what she wants/feels/needs and she easily expresses those things. I let the man know how much adore him, or how much I despise him and sometimes, if I choose, no one can read me at all. With confidence, I will command attention. As I enter the room, every eye will be turned in my direction. The sexy woman is not the most beautiful woman present. There are others there whose faces can grace the covers of Vogue or Elle. The sexy woman is not the tallest, shortest, heaviest, or thinnest woman there. Others could place claims on those superlatives, too. Confidence is not anything men can immediately put their finger on, but whatever it is, the sexy woman just simply has it, and she carries it like few women ever could. The sexy woman exudes confidence. She will make the men believe that there is nothing better than being a woman. In everything that she does it will say ‘I am woman and in me there is strength’. She is a force to be reckoned with. When times are hard she does not even break a sweat because she is woman and there is nothing she cannot handle. Confidence is a most beautiful and sexy trait a woman can showcase. Without this, looks are simply looks and nothing more. When a woman is confident and comfortable with herself, she demands attention unconsciously, which is attractive to others. Her self-confidence will light up the room. It is important to feel good about myself. A sexy woman will be proud of who she is. She will know that she does not have to be thin to be beautiful. She will be happy for the qualities she does have rather than focusing on what she would like to change. Confidence makes the sexy woman be who she is. I am who I am. I can never change that or allow anyone to tell me otherwise. What makes me unique is my personality, traits and quirks. I will not ever become someone I am not, even at the expense of impressing someone else. If the man I am interested in is not happy with the real me, I will leave him be. He's not right for me anyway.  I will always have confidence in myself and what I can do. If I feel I am lacking in some way, I will find ways to improve myself without sacrificing my personality. That is how to seduce a guy. Men are attracted to strong-willed women. But if he has a right rear, I will try a little harder, after all, as the romantic Luo of Kenya say, ‘jamach piere tindo.’ “the man of fire has small ass.’ Confidence can take a person to places they normally would not have achieved with their looks or lack thereof, alone. A confident woman knows that her merit and value do not rest in something she could not control (her looks), but it lies in her personality; the way she carries herself. How she can sustain herself being in the room with people much better looking than her, but at the same time not feeling like she is lost in a sea of pretty faces. Most people can sense when a woman does not feel like she belongs; when she feels out of place. That all eyes are on her and she would much rather run to a fox hole and hide.  The confidence in a sexy woman makes her rise up to a challenge. This is not a ‘yes’ woman, and that she has her own mind, her own opinions and her own style. Self-confidence can take many forms, from confidence in one's abilities, to the confidence that comes from being comfortable in one's skin. Whatever form it takes, the sexy woman wears confidence like a cloak (however little else she may be wearing) and a man can positively see a glow of self-confidence around them. It allows a woman's personality to truly shine through in all its glory. Many men find this sexy in a woman because it signals someone who is not afraid to be an individual in their own right and who has control over their life and situation. Such women are more likely to enter into a relationship on an equal basis and can show and receive affection without being either submissive or overbearing. There is nothing like a strong, confident and independent woman. The sexy woman sees every guy she meets as being a ‘reason’... to spend some time with and learn something from him. This leads to a pressure-free, relaxed way of relating (which men find incredibly alluring). Confidence in a woman is always sexy. When I meet a woman and immediately think that she exudes sexiness, I will always notice her self confidence. She will be strong willed, yet sweet and loving. She can be any shape or size, and her attitude will just blow the roof off of the room that she inhabits. A sexy woman not only oozes sensuality, but she radiates personal independence. ‘Confident’ does not mean ‘I have to be the center of attention all the time’. That ‘center of it all’ girl never sticks out as anything more than a one-nighter. She is obviously way too selfish to be any good in other situations. A confident woman is someone who holds her own but is not afraid to step out of the spotlight for a while. She speaks up at the right time, but does not monopolize the conversation. That kind of woman is the kind of woman we feel will be more confident later. We are talking ‘lights on’ and ‘on top’, and that is amazingly sexy. Men like women who are confident about themselves. So straighten those shoulders, put my nose up in the air and walk with that confident swagger. Be careful not to overdo it else it may look arrogant instead of confident. A confident woman who is independent and enjoys taking care of herself is a huge turn on for most men. Gone were those days women needed a man for every little thing. A confident, self supporting woman who marches to her own beat is what men are looking for, not a weak little insecure porcelain doll that needs to be led around by the hand. A woman with an inner confidence will be warm, and gracious, and will have that certain something I cannot quite put my finger on. But it will exude from her every pore, and she will be irresistible to men, it is the stuff that great love stories are made of. A woman pursued, who is all but oblivious to the furor she is leaving in her wake, I am reminded of Maya Angelou’s poem 'Phenomenal Woman', coz I am. It sums it well… PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou pretty women wonder where my secret lies i am not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size but when i start to tell them they think i am telling lies. i say it is in the reach of my arms the span of my hips the stride of my steps the curl of my lips. i am a woman phenomenally phenomenal woman that is me. i walk into a room just as cool as i please and to a man the fellows stand or fall down on their knees then they swarm around me a hive of honey bees. i say it is the fire in my eyes and the flash of my teeth the swing of my waist and the joy in my feet. i am a woman phenomenally phenomenal woman that is me. men themselves have wondered what they see in me they try so much but they cannot touch my inner mystery. when i try to show them they say they still cannot see. i say it is in the arch of my back the sun of my smile the ride of my breasts the grace of my style. i am a woman phenomenally phenomenal woman that is me. now i understand just why my head's not bowed i do not shout or jump about or have to talk real loud when i see me passing it ought to make i proud. i say it is in the click of my heels the bend of my hair the palm of my hand the need for my care. 'cause i am a woman phenomenally phenomenal woman that is me. 60. She Is Secure, Not Jealous! Confidence is fatal to insecurity. The sexy woman is confident, and hence secure. She is not insecure. She is secure and comfortable with herself. Men do not want women who go on and on about their imperfections. If I do feel insecure about something, I will try not to advertise it in front of people, and especially, in front of my man, or my man to be. When he is around me, I will keep my head up high, shoulders back, good posture, no fidgeting and with a pretty smile, and then work on my insecurity when I get home. A smile is a curve that sets everything straight, including insecurities. The sexy woman knows how to release all her anxiety and fears in all aspects of her life. She removes any negative thought that pops into her head so she can be 100% present in any situation. And that; girls, makes us 100% sexy! The sexy woman knows that if someone wants her in their life, they will make room for her. She does not have to fight for a spot. Today, to be a sexy woman, I will never, ever insist myself to someone who continuously overlooks my worth. There is one feeling that could make all the sexiness go away, and that is insecurity. When we look in the mirror we sometimes obsess over our slightest flaws, a pimple mark, a scar, a nose that is too big, or a nose that is too bony, lips that is too thin, cheeks that are too big… name it! Thus, we end up going outside our home feeling ugly when in fact we really are not. So what to do? I will stop for a while and meditate. If I cannot find myself beautiful and sexy then how much more the others that surrounds me? The sexy woman is not jealous. The green-headed monster is probably more responsible for dating problems than any other issue. It is actually the easiest to understand, and can be overcome – if I pay attention to the truth and do not read into the meanings of too many of his actions, as my man. The sexy woman knows this, and is liberated. The sexy woman also can recognise when love doesn't exist. That's why we are much more proactive in finishing relationships than the pretty gals who remain there, crying! Jealousy is a lack of self-confidence, which then leads to a lack of self-discipline. That is all there is to it. Jealousy is usually 99% imagined, and the truly sad part is that it is usually a self-fulfilling prophecy. The women who do not behave jealously end up intriguing men more, because they see a woman who is in control and does not have a need to control him. The women who do act crazy and jealous are flattering for about the first five seconds, and then the man figures out that this woman is going to be watching his every move, smothering him and controlling everything he does. And behind it all, he wonders what she is so scared of? Then her behavior actually pushes him away and into the arms of another woman, just what she was afraid of the whole time. ‘Jealousy helps me lose my man, only faster.’ Jealousy is best controlled through understanding and giving myself options. Jealousy is the fear that I am about to lose something, and a feeling of inadequacy or insecurity at having had it in the first place. I give myself options by continuing to date other people along the way. I will not fear the loss of one prospect if I have many other buyers beating down my door to get my product. The sexy woman knows that she has options. I have options. The sexy woman lives by the contention principle. Without a doubt, if there is one concept I must understand in the dynamic of relationships, it is the Principle of Contention. Simply stated, the Truth is, I must learn to walk away from relationships where I am not getting what I want. The sexy woman does not live in an emotional dessert. She will leave a man not because she is unhappy with what he can provide, but because she is emotionally unfulfilled. If a man is not naturally (i.e., without nagging or coercion) giving me the essential basics of what I want in a relationship, I must move on to find someone who will. And, ‘there is someone who will.’ 32. She is an Aplpha Female; She Dominates Her Group, Naturally! The sexy woman is an alpha female. Alpha Female is the head of the gyno-herd, guiding them for an evening out drinking and partying. Executive decisions such as where to go, what drinks to order, what guys to talk to, who to fuck, all fall under the jurisdiction of the Alpha Female. Any forward attempts to woo a herd of women should always be focused on convincing the Alpha Female that it is a good idea. If the Alpha Female goes, the rest of the skirts will go too. The sexy woman is the Alpha female, the old Afrikan proverb is right, “You do not teach the paths of the forest to an old gorilla.” An Alpha Female is a dominant female in a group. She dates as many males as she wants, is strong and confident, and a hard worker as well as often busy. She is usually sarcastic because she is powerful and playful. Alpha Females are intelligent, intellectual problem solvers; and though being an alpha female is more of a state of mind than physicality, an alpha understands that dressing up or sexy increases her power in society, so she does it. Alpha Females are often terribly misunderstood by Beta and lesser males, as evident by the other posts about Alpha Females, and when this happens, she is called a bitch, a cunt, or a whore ... Alpha Females prefer passion over romance, although if It is romance coming from an Alpha Male, a hootttttt one, that is another story... Oj liked Brenda. Brenda liked Oj. At the party, Oj asked Brenda to sit on his lap; she smiled and sat next to him instead because she wanted to be equal and not objectified. Oj realized Brenda was an alpha female. The sexy woman has no fear of someone stealing her catch. The fear of someone coming along and stealing my catch is another trap that is easy to fall into. It comes from insecurity, plain and simple. We do not want to risk someone trading us in for a better model. This is why it is all the more imperative that I use the strategies in this book to keep a man’s trust and attraction high enough for me. The sexy woman knows that no one can be interested in two people to the exact same degree. There is always one that we desire slightly more. If another woman did come along that raised her attraction for him; she does not have the information and tactics that I have. If she jumps in my game, I will carry on as if it does not fluster me a bit (even if it does), and I will succeed in demonstrating even more self-confidence, more self-discipline, and he will be even more attracted to me. While she is chasing him with poems, he will be wondering why I am so distant and relaxed. The mystery will have grabbed him. Sometimes, competition sweeps in and takes him off his feet, and he’ll even go so far as to ignore me completely. The more he is attracted to me, the less he will be attracted to other women. He only has a certain amount of ‘chase’ in his system, and he can only be pursuing one woman at a time, consciously or unconsciously. He can’t dump me if he’s chasing me. I will keep acting on principle, not on his feedback. I will relax, breathe, and keep dating other men.  52. She Kisses Well! The sexy woman knows that a kiss can kill romance or create passion. The sexy woman knows that a great kiss will be the icing on the cake, and that a poor kiss will be the last straw to break the camel’s back. The sexy woman knows that bad kiss before lovemaking will signify lousy love making, and that a good kiss when beginning will mean a mind blowing climax. But more importantly, the sexy woman knows that kissing, like any other activity, can be made better with practice; through reading, watching, or doing. I AM READY TO KISS YOU TODAY Extracted from Fireplace Stories - Ojijos Performance Poems & Quotes Pp. 49-54. by Ojijo i know a date is not a kiss guaranteed, but i am ready to kiss you today, i am ready to kiss you today, my knee buckles under this great expectation, but i do not know whether you will see it as polite, invitational, passionate or aloof, i do not know whether you will return it with a a slap, a scream, or a scratch, i do not know whether you will be unresponsive, indifferent, or unconcerned, i am ready to kiss you today, but will you kiss me back for lust or love, for sympathy or empathy, for sadness or joy, for trust or suspicion, for romance or for relief, i am ready to kiss you today, i have considered my bleeding gums and bad breath, i have removed all the unsightly sights, i have healed clapped and cracked lips, i have made my lips soft and sensual, my beards i have washed, no soup will you sample, smooth like a babies bottom, i have shaved them, i am ready to kiss you today, my mouth i have washed, my teeth i have brushed, using mouth wash and breath spay, which i have stored in the pocket, jacket or car, using breath mints and chewing gums, which i will take one and give you the other, i am ready to kiss you today, i will make the meeting private, there will be no prying parents, no peeping siblings, no nosy bystanders, the venue will not be excessively dark, nor too brightly lit, lights can be intimidating, and darkness can be scary, I will make sure that the where, the when and the how is right, as i kiss you today, i will not lounge toward you like a wrestler, i will not open wide my mouth like a fish, i will not fork my tongue like a reptile, i will not push my tongue onto your mouth like a swede, i will not shove my tongue to the back of your throat, this is not tonsil exam, i will not run my tongue along your teeth, i do not want to know what you took for lunch, and i will not move too fast, this is not a race, as i kiss you today, do be interested, or better still, moisten and bite your lips as you look at my lips, you should hold your ground, or better still, move closer to me, you should part your lips, and throw your arms around dmy neck, and the other around my waist, as i kiss you today, i will make the first move, i will move a little closer and touch your shoulder, touch your hand, or touch your thighs, i will then kiss the back of your hand, and kiss the back of your other hand, i will then cup your face in my hands, or brush my hand on your face, or on your chin, or on your hair, do not back off, do not cross your arm, do not pull your hand away, do not frown, do not fret do not fuss, let me see the signs that tonight, will be the night, as i kiss you today, i will part my teeth and tongue ever so slightly, i will touch my lips to your lips, then i will draw back, and look at you in the eyes, i will then tilt my head and close my eyes, my lips will meet oyur lips while my hand holds you waist, keep my lips in contact with yours, gently i will roll my tongue along the inside of your lips, and let my tongue do the dance, i will start with my lips slightly parted, then gently closed, as i kiss you today, i will kiss you like it is the only thing i want to do, i will kiss you as if my life depends on it, i will kiss you as if it is the only thing i have wanted to do my whole life, i will kiss you romantically and with feeling, i will use soft relaxed lips, not limp, not rigid, i will vary the small kisses and the big kisses, i will suck on your upper klips, and such on your lower lips, and suck on both your lips, i will kiss here, then kiss there, as i kiss you today, i will not overstretch my luck, i know a kiss does not mean that you are willing to go further, i know that pulling apart is not rejection, a soft kiss will punctuate our date today. . Because of her security, she is not envious. The sexy woman is not envious. I should not let envy into my heart, I am unique, and I should not compare myself with anyone. The more I compare myself in others, they more I will try to be like them, if not, be better than them and end up losing my own identity. If I feel like submerging into that pit of envious oblivion then step back, take a deep breath, clear my mind, open my heart and pray. I will admire the positive things I see from other women and learn from them. I will talk to them, share stories, laugh and appreciate their beauty. With a personality like that; I will become more than just nice… I will be charming and sexy! The sexy woman knows that someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, and someone will always be younger, but that someone will never be her. They will never be me. I am unique.  67. She is a Woman! “A woman is like a tea bag; you cannot tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water”- Eleanor Roosevelt Most men love soft, feminine women. Of course there are some men who love dominant and powerful women, but in my experience most men prefer a softer woman. The sexy woman is comfortable with her femininity, but does not always have to defend feminism. To her, it is not so much a matter of male or female, but rather what is right or wrong. Without a doubt, she is her own person, but respects the potentially fragile ego of her male counterpart. She knows how to balance being who she is, without taking away from the person that he aspires to be. She knows that women mature sooner that men, but does not have to rub it in his face. She is comfortable with her femininity, but does not always have to defend feminism. To her, it is not so much a matter of male or female, but rather what is right or wrong. The sexy woman looks like a woman, and acts like a woman. She is a woman, not a tomboy! She has long hair and is feminine. She does not hide the fact that she is a woman. She chooses clothes that flatter her figure and not things that hide how pretty she is. She has it, and she flaunts it. She is the weakness of many a men. Heavens bless her soul for that. A woman is sexy by nature. Whether it is the sway of her hips, or the warm glow of her smile. When a woman has spark in her eye, with just a glimmer of overconfidence, it is hard to not consider her to be sexy. All women are sexy by nature. The sexy woman knows that showing her best attributes is not shameful, nor is it promiscuous if she has the class and ability that entails her to do it with elegance. She knows how to balance being who she is, without taking away from the person that she aspires to be. She knows that women mature sooner that men, but does not have to rub it in her man’s face. The most prominent type of sexiness is the physical persuasion. These are features I was born with. Some are seen, some are unseen. Natural beauty can hypnotize a man. A breathtaking figure can throw a man for a loop. I could lose sleep thinking 'bout a beautiful face. Another physical attribute that makes a woman sexy is curves. The archetypal female is not a formless, straight piece of wood, or a two-by-four. She has curves. She is comfortable with curves. She is curved at the lips, the tits and the hips. It is true; of course, that some men like petite women with thin frames, but if I put a petite, thin-framed woman who is flat and too-skinny, next to a petite, thin-framed woman who still has curves, 9 times out of 10, the man will prefer the curves. There is a femininity to curves and softness that is lost by many of the women in the limelight to be a sexy woman. The sexy woman is ALL woman; except for a few masculine traits. To seduce a man, she dresses like a woman. She acts like a woman. She walks like a woman (yeah, got to strut my stuff!). The sexy woman is in touch with her softer side, her inner diva. She is a woman that is not afraid to be a woman; she is sexy. A sexy woman is a shape-shifter. A sexy woman is not afraid to be a woman and exhibit traditional roles with her man. She is also not shy about being strong and dominant when necessary. She responds to her man by assuming different roles, under different circumstances. During sex, she is neither adverse to subordinating herself and submissively yielding to her partner's desires, nor is she afraid to demand or extort pleasure from him when it suits her. To be a woman, I will let him help me. I do not have to play the damsel in distress, but I do not have to go out of my way to prove I can do everything myself, either. Most guys these days already know that I am a perfectly capable human being. So, I will ask him for his advice on something. I will ask him to teach me about one of his interests. I will ask him to do something for me that is easier for him to do that for me to do. I will show him that I value his knowledge, talents, and willingness to help. Being a woman enhances my sex appeal. Female characteristics make a woman sexy, because, being a woman is a sexy thing. She wears the things that make her look like a pretty woman. She moves her body in ways that make men think of sex. She flirts with men (in her own signature way). She is men’s girly childhood buddy will go on adventures and who often morphs into the vixen who gives the man adventures in the bedroom. Her femininity makes the man feel like a man. When he is around her, he feels craziness rise in his body. The sexy woman is very sensual, which is an attribute of a natural woman. Very few women actually interact with men using their sensuality. Sensuality is slow, graceful movement of a woman. Speaking softly in a sexy purr. Women that are not afraid of embracing their sensuality are truly sexy. ‘A sexy woman is a talented, sensual siren… she hones her gifts and presents them to the man through the five senses: sight, sound, taste, touch and smell…’  The sexy woman does not dress sexually to show sensuality. Sensuality is NOT sexuality. Sexuality is for those girls who are not yet confident in their skills. They dress too slutty with too much makeup and flaunt their womanhood blatantly. Make no mistake; this will get the attention of men. If I am looking for a one night stand, then I must tart myself up by all means. In fact, sensuality does not include talking about sex. If I am looking for something a little bit more substantial, then I need to be seducing men with my sensuality. Sensuality is screaming a confidence in my womanhood and my sexuality without obscene gestures or any words at all. It is like thinking about a beefy biker dude. Immediately I assume he’s a cold-blooded killer. He does not have to say a word. He avoids trouble by looking troublesome. My goal is effortlessly seducing men by being sensual. When I bring this feline energy into a room, he cannot help but feel attraction. I do not have to be ‘10’on looks, I have a provocative, sensual, feminine (tinted with masculine) aura. I am pretty. I am hot. I am sensual. I am a WOMAN.  64. She is Classy & Unique! The sexy woman is a class act. There is one factor that could make an otherwise ordinary woman to be sexy and sexier. The factor is social status. A higher social status means the higher sex appeal she will have and more sexier she will be seen. The examples for these criteria are quite obvious. Being an actress, that means a really famous actress, will make her sexy. Almost all men automatically will dream to date her and fantasize wildly about her. That is why the title of sexiest woman alive is usually bagged by famous artists. She handles herself properly and does not sleep around. She does not use foul language or drugs and alcohol. She respects her body. And yes, she does not gossip, for she knows, “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people." Famous singers, glamorous royal family members, women with titles or even an innocent religious teacher could be seen as sexy with the social status they have. It does have something to do with money, but really, social status is something much more complex to be defined and not necessarily something that can be bought with money. Class is a must for sex appeal. If a woman dresses in a low cut top or short skirt, she will be nothing without carrying the weightlessness of class on her shoulders. The ability to hold her head high, no matter the circumstance is very attractive. A real woman does not own clothes that make her; it will be her who makes the clothing. Even clad in a turtleneck, the sexy woman will emanate feminism that cannot be ignored by men or equaled with the other women who show their tits. A sexy woman can start a trend without even knowing it, because she is one whom we deem note-worthy and refined. A woman who can appreciate other women for their beauty and charm is sexy. This kind of sexiness that is more of finesse; it has nothing to do with physical beauty, or the enticement of clothing or the lack thereof. She can be drop dead gorgeous or a 'plain Jane'; her dress can be sophisticated or plain, it does not make a difference. In fact even through modesty and decency, her sexiness is visible, but beyond physical. It is something I just cannot pinpoint, just cannot put my finger on it. Her flair is natural. She can never over do it. Overdo will not happen with her. There is nothing to overdo. There is no description for this kind of sexiness. It is her body language. There is more mystery than unanswered questions. And this intrigues men, keeps them asking for her attention. Even when she is not looking her best or she is just lounging, her sexiness still reverberates loud and clear. Wafting like sweet aroma from the kitchen to the hungry guests in the sitting room (read men). This kind of sexiness is natural, special and rare, it is priceless. And romantic comings and goings do not change its trajectory. This sexiness does not wear off when a relationship ends or goes bad, the next time he see me, I am still hot; I cannot be outta-sight. Real, but unreal. Bitter and sweet, all at the same time, a phenomenon; a phenomenal woman! As a formula for class act, the sexy woman is very unique. The Alpha Female has her own style… she is uniquely herself and is guided by her own rhythm. She follows the voice of her feelings – though she does not neglect her sense of reason. She may even outright reject one or more social conventions – marriage, religion, government… nothing means more to her than HER ideas… she is the top of the food chain in her world.  61. She Winks, Blinks and Bats her Eyelids! The sexy woman uses all her facial features for sexiness. Sexiness is in her eyes, the lashes; she winks the eyes and battles the eyelids. She lifts her brow and beats the lids. The sexy woman smiles seductively, her voice is slow and low, and her tongue keeps licking her lips, with her teeth biting them. Her hair is always on her hands, she plays with me, and it is clean and smells nice. The sexy woman has talking eyes, killing Eyes – The French Technique. She will start with almost accidentally sidelong glances, and then follow up with a direct look, then something starts that can be described as playful innocence (the French girls invented this); the moment he looks back, the woman instantly lower her eyes and puts on an embarrassed smile. Moments later, she emphasizes that by looking again, this time longer and then again lowering her eyes. This is flirting without talking (we can learn a lot from the French, when it comes to lovemaking). ‘When a woman winks, she winks with her whole body.’ - Walt Stanchfield Eyes can communicate emotions. The sexy woman knows that her eyes are the windows to her soul. The sexy woman uses her eyes to lock her man in a captivating glance and makes sure she ‘speaks’ to his eyes. She maintains a steady gaze. She does not gawk or stare. She just locks the eye contact. If I want to be sexy, I need to look at him and lock his eyes. If I am still a bit skeptical about whether he's going to come over or not, I will try to do the shy fleeting glances for a while, a good three seconds will absolutely send him the right message. I will make sure to try to hold his gaze; it is a timeless seductive move inviting him to come over to me and talk to me about anything. I will look into his eyes when talking to him. I will not be afraid of eye contact, but of course I will draw the line at staring as that will make him feel uncomfortable! Instead, I will linger my gaze for a second longer than usual at times when I talk to him, and then look away at another part of his face. This flirtatious move is meant to show him that I am attracted to him and creates a moment of intimacy between the both of us at that instant. I am sexy when I have beautiful eyes that are filled with fire and the zest for life. My eyes pierce deep into the subject victim of my presence. I have looks that can stop a man dead in his tracks to ponder my greatness, or wonder if he would be man enough to handle me alone, or if he is even worthy of me. Most people will notice a woman's eyes and smile before anything else. As the sages sang, the eyes are a window to the soul. A woman's inner beauty shines through her eyes. Eye contact is one of the better tips for seducing men because maintaining eye contact lets him know I am interested. Beautiful eyes can bring a man to his knees. Eyes are vastly more difficult to understand, but also the most beautiful thing about people. Eye color means nothing here; it is all about the depth. How deep the eye goes. How clear the eye talks. How the sexy woman interacts with her man is memorable. She never loses eye contact when she is engaged with the man of her interest, be it for fun, or serious flirting and seduction. The man becomes all her world when he talks to her. Eyes can be extremely sexy. A look can speak reams! Eyes can stir deep emotions, and passion. They narrow when I am sexually aroused, so eyes can smoulder, and do and they can become very sexy. Black kohl pencil will accentuate my eyes, and when smudged in, around the eye area, will create a dark, mysterious look. This mysterious look is a sexy look. Men loooove it. The sexy woman cannot forget this. NEVER! Eyes are part of allure. Almost all eyes are beautiful in their own unique ways. Dark colors draw men in and make them want more. Blue eyes add natural sparkle. Green eyes broadcast challenges to ‘come conquer and own.’ Gray eyes are mysterious, not saying but hiding something that may be worth the effort. There is such a phenomenon as lavender eyes, and they are incredible to behold; they are usually hiding and saying something, both, at the same time. The mystery of the enigma is in every glance, the sex appeal is memorable! The sexy woman locks eyes with the subject of her interest and affection. A woman who locks eyes with the man and keeps that half-smile going just before her gaze drops to the bar is a ‘thank you’ woman. She is sexy. Some people get angry because God put thorns on roses, while others praise him for putting roses among thorns. She is the woman who is not afraid to look at the man and let the man know she is doing so. She loves the challenge; she knows ‘smooth seas do make great sailors’. This is the woman who watches the man while he is talking, and does not let her eyes wander all over the room. She is the woman who makes him think he is the only other person in the room, and she is the woman any guy would fight to keep. God bless her ilk, she is sexy! The sexy woman has bedroom eyes. It is that same look we imagine we would be seeing after a long, exhausting night. It is that same look we imagine we would see after that long night and just before I slide up next to us and whisper, ‘Ready for more?’ Just thinking about it send chills. That sexy look; the dreamy sleepy eyes; the bedroom eyes; the sexy look! The sexy woman locks the man in a captivating glance and makes sure she ‘speaks’ to him, with her eyes. She maintains the steady gaze, and no, she does not stare, because she cannot stare at someone’s eyes; and she looks into his eyes. She stares deep into peoples’ eyes. She does not hold back… especially after she says something that she really means. Winking creates a very short intimate connection between two people. I can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If they say something funny, or someone else does something silly, I can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of us, as if the two of us are in on some conspiracy no one else is aware of. The sexy woman gives shy fleeting glances. Now that I am having a conversation with him, I will try to shift my gaze from him and away … but make sure to throw shy fleeting glances as well. I want to give him mixed signals and keep him guessing if I am into him. It is one way to look flirty and innocent as well. That is surely going to ride him nuts! I will look at him and be obvious about it. Of course, there are many places I can look at; “… not where you might be thinking! The best way I can check him out is to sweep my gaze across his body. The trick is to get him to notice that I am looking while talking, but return my attention to his face quickly and continue my conversation like it never happened. I am sure he is dying to ask what I might be looking at, and this is because he is really flattered at me checking him out! The sexy woman knows that seductive moves work almost on any man, even those who are not intelligent enough to know seduction is going on. She tries them out on the man she is attracted to. If he has no idea why he is getting the moves, then maybe it is time for him to get a miss and the sexy woman moves on to someone else! She knows that in order to discover new lands, one must be willing to lose sight of the shore for a very long time. Plus, the sexy woman knows the creed on the street, “every gal is entitled to one crazy ex-boyfriend.” To accentuate her eyes, the sexy woman puts on the librarian glasses. The sexy woman also slips on specs, accentuating her wit and tapping into her ‘naughty librarian’ fantasy. The librarian seems to be a smart, contained woman, yet beneath it, there is a smouldering sexuality.’ And when the librarian girl lowers her glasses and peeks from on-top of them, she is an assassin, a killer with her looks. Eye contact is so very important because of the following reasons: First, strong (not freaky-psycho-scary) eye contact is an indication of dominant, confident behavior. Second, so few people can maintain any kind of eye contact back. Third, inconsistent eye contact is an indicator of insecure and possibly untrustworthy character. Fourth, eyes can communicate an incredible amount of information, and is a short cut to female responsiveness. When I lock eyes with a man, I am saying, ‘I’m interested.’ 22. She Laughs, Hard! Laughter, of course, is a sexy and extremely attractive feature. Men just love it when a woman can laugh at their jokes, make their own tasteful jokes and be able to laugh at themselves. I will get in touch with myself and discover what makes me laugh and what funny memories I have regarding myself, so that I may bring it up the next time I am on a date, or meet someone interesting. While I am out there, I will make jokes and laugh at his jokes. If I am not allowed to laugh in heaven, I do not want to go there.-Martin Luther. Laughter releases endorphins and promotes longevity. Laughter is a manifestation of inner joy, and inner joy is beautiful! A sexy woman takes time to laugh at herself and the situations she find herself in. Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful I can take things, the happier my life will be. Laughter is critically important to successful social interactions. ‘Laugh often and much; this is the true meaning of success.’- Ralph Waldo Emerson Mutual laughter helps people feel at ease around each other, and laughing when others are laughing makes those others more likely to accept me into their group. The easiest way to laugh is to think of something that I personally find very amusing. Laughter really may be the best medicine; laughter provides a vigorous workout to tighten my tummy and strengthen my heart, and regular laughing may boost my immune system. Laughter is the best medicine. ‘A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book.’ The Irish Fortunately, just about everybody can laugh. Laughter grabs people's attention. It makes people wake up. When I am humorous, I automatically connect to whoever I am speaking. The encounter is a memorable one. When I am given information when I laugh, I am more likely to remember. He will remember me because I made him laugh! I saved him from boredom. I will be their hero. ‘He deserves paradise that makes his companions laugh.’- The Quran The sexy woman has a strong laugh. A smooth, strong laugh with a nice smile. A woman who is open to laughter and not afraid to let herself go with a good laugh is a vocal woman. Do I understand where this leads in our minds? If she is vocal in this respect, she will be vocal later in another situation. Follow me? A pleasant genuine smile in coordination with eye contact will get her a long way. So why the laugh? Why not deep conversation or intimate details of my day-to-day life? Because too much talk can be a big turn-off. The sexy woman lets it known that she will be uninhibited in expressing herself, but is not so talkative that she will not shut up long enough to do anything else. That little air of ‘maybe’ keeps electricity in the air. After all, men are not intellectually aroused by speech; they are creatures of sight…and smell! Anything sexy does it, but not too much talk! By laughing, the sexy woman shows she is comfortable and confident. Laughing just turns men on. The man will conclude thus; ‘If she is free to laugh around me, I say she is very comfortable around me.’ Yes, laughing can be very sexy. The stars are just right, the universe is in totally serenity and harmony, and the sexy woman's laugh is the icing on the cake. Also, when she touches him on the wrist or arm when she laughs; oh, no, she does not want to do that. Undoubtedly it is the best medicine for the heart. With so many crazies and unhappy events in this world, a nice laugh is if nothing else, soothing. It centers me. It makes me feel good in places that I did not even know existed. So, I should laugh on sister. Laughter is the best ice breaker. It makes a date a relaxing encounter. In other words, it breaks tension. A good laughter changes the chemical components of our blood from distress to eustress.  It literally is the best medicine!  17. She Smizes! Science suggests that when we smile, whether we feel happy or not, our moods will be elevated. The sexy woman smiles all the time, except when it is inappropriate. Smiling is contagious and takes less effort than frowning. She does not stress about things out of her control. She looks into the eyes of everyone she talks to and smiles. ‘Before I frown, make absolutely sure there is no smile.’- Jim Beggs The sexy woman starts her day with a smile, and gets it over with. She goes ahead and gives him a smile. Smiling is the best way to look friendly and sociable - not to mention that it helps destroy barriers making a guy totally scared to approach me. I will make it sweet and subtle and he will be right by my side sooner that I expect it. Before the sexy woman asks a question, or gives an answer, she flashes a smile. She sets the mood of her encounters. I will make all my encounters to be a sexy woman happy by being the first to smile. I will smile as much as I can. Smiling during conversation is a sign of encouragement and lets people know I care about what they are saying. Smiling will make me look happy. And studies have shown that putting a positive expression on my face can actually make me feel happier and more optimistic about the future. ‘Of all the things I wear, expressions are the most important.’- The Swahili Sexy is in the smile, and that is number one. A smile means happy and that is the most attractive thing any person has. When she finds the man, she will always make him smile. The sun of her smile is tantalizing. Smile is a hard thing to change if I have to but it can be the most engaging thing about a woman. It can range from a half smile, slight smile, to a grin or full blown ear to ear. No one likes a fake or condescending smile. Sexy women have sparkling smiles! Smiling is one of the biggest people magnets I can ever use! Everyone is attracted to cheerfulness and sureness, so be sure of myself and let the world know it I will be surprised of just how many people respond to my smiling. Sexy women have a beautiful smile which is genuine. A genuine smile is probably one of the sexiest things about a woman, second only to her eyes. Sexy women smile a lot. A sexy woman smiles with her mouth, her voice and her eyes. The sexy woman loves to SMIZE! That is, smile with her eyes. Speaking of eyes, I will look him in the eyes when I smile at him. The self-assured demeanor that carries her effortlessly through each meaningless conversation, smiling, and never losing is boosted by her smile, constant sweet smile. Smiling in reaction to a given word or gesture, a general bubbly personality, and overall genuineness are positive features. A smile is sexy. Even if her teeth are not Hollywood straight, it shows that a woman is comfortable in her skin if she can smile. Most women have trouble smiling, but it does not change the fact that a man loves a woman who can flash those pearly whites. A bright smile is inviting, it lets a man know that he is a pleasure to have around (even if I am forcing that smile), and it is just a nice gesture. A beautiful smile can set the tone that makes her approachable. On average women who smile usually have adequate self-esteem. Men have always loved the type of woman with the dimples and the pearly white smile in tandem. It is hot. It is hype. It is sexy. The sexy woman has a simple rule. Smile! Smile! Smile! And she knows how to smile without showing her gums. She Smiles with her eyes, mouth and her entire being. She radiates the Goddess within.  41. She Has Sexy Hair! Sexy women have Shiny hair. This takes a lot of work but anyone can get great hair by taking care of it. To most men, the sexiest women are those who have medium/long soft hair. Medium and long hair really represents womanhood, for women are the ones known to have the long, soft and sweet smelling hair! Find a shampoo and conditioner that have the best smelling scent and ones that provide me with the best moisturizing results. The sexy woman adds more health to the hair by getting a product that adds body, shine and extra moisture to apply on after my shower, before or after I style. If she has short hair, she keeps the volume in it and keeps it soft and shiny. Nothing feels like soft hair. The sexy woman loves playing with her hair. When I am both sitting opposite him, I will toss my hair and play with met gently. I will touch myself subtly on the face, neck, chest, arms, etc. This is meant to make him notice I more and is a very obvious way of telling him that I am hoping he will make the next move! Short means powerful, long is sexy, curls are cute. The style along with the type says a lot. The sexy woman is not afraid to go old school and try any number of things from ages past. Sudden changes to my hair will shock men, if they notice, for better or worse.  38. She Sucks her Food! Sexy women love sucking on objects. This is one of the most effective tips for seducing men. When sexually aroused, we all subconsciously start playing with straws, fingers, lips, and cigarettes. Drawing attention to my mouth will get him thinking. She whitens her teeth, since no one is born with a perfect set of teeth. Nice Lips is another thing men consider sexy in a woman. A woman with nice lips makes a man wonder and fantasize about how it tastes and how good of a kisser I am! Find a lipstick that flatters my skin tone and lip line my lips, especially if I do not have full ones naturally. For a sexier touch, roll a little gloss over my lipstick, for a wet and juicy effect. And lick my lips once in a while, too. This will attract even more attention and it highlights my face. A sexy woman lets her body say the words for her. Her lips and tongue speak about her kissing skills when she subtly licks them. The way she moves and gently touches parts of her body shows that she ‘knows things.’ Sexy woman knows she can hardly seduce a man with her words! Seduction is only about her and her body. It is a mischievous look. It is playing peek-a-boo with my menu. It is slowly touching my neck with my fingertips. It is the way I move and the unspoken confidence I carry.  16. She Wears Sexy! Any piece of clothing can be sexy with a quietly passionate woman inside it. Sexy is how I dress and how I feel, not what I dress. If I dress good, I feel good, I am happier. Good grooming can attract men even more than revealing parts of my body can. When I was nicely made up with lipstick, eye shadow, and hair nicely done, wearing nice clothes, Dad (and lots of other men) would turn their heads for a second look! ‘A woman is her clothes’.-Anonymous A sexy woman knows that showy outfit is NOT sexy outfit. It makes her look desperate for attention, well, maybe she is looking for a husband, and she has to show off parts of her body to compete with other women for her boyfriend or husband's love and attention? This is NOT sexy. To a sexy woman, is does not create a power rush to know her body caught a man's eye and became the focus of his attention. Maybe turning heads and hearing hoots and whistles is an ego booster for some women, but not the sexy woman? She knows that dressing in ‘showy’ clothes will not cause men to honor and respect women. In fact, it actually guarantees women that men will dishonor and disrespect her. The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. Sexiness is not found in high end clothes and expensive fashions. The sexy woman knows that the cheaper the clothes and brighter the fabrics, the sexier she looks. She is natural and affordable to men, the man thinks, ‘I can handle that’! Slip on a sensuous dress, let my locks fall on my slender shoulders, wear those dangerously high stilettos and apply some make up. Accentuate my attractive features like eyes, lips or neck. If I find myself gorgeous in the mirror, consider half of my job done! She uses the eyes to become more approachable. The first thing to learn is to establish eye contact. People will not approach me if they do not see my eyes. Averting one's eyes or looking down is a defensive posture and tells people not to come close. The sexy woman knows torn clothes are for the rags, track suits are for running, and t-shirts are for Saturday cleaning. She wears sexy, and maintains sexy. There are women who come to bed in old clothes, smelling sweat and mold, and they wonder why sex is bad, and why the man comes late, and leaves early. Stupid! The sexy woman has nice shoes, and her shoes are always on fashion. Women love shoes, and men love women’s shoes, when they are sexy. Her heels click as she passes. The sexy woman knows that beauty must be exposed, and then hidden. She wears a clothe and lets her body to be seen, and then, delicately, she pulls the clothe into position to cover herself, as if in a trance, as if she is not aware she is doing it.  74. She Wears Decent! A woman who carries herself properly is sexy. This is the woman who dresses with decency. She may feel the need to show a little cleavage but, it is tastefully done leaving more to the imagination. It is also in the way she speaks. She remembers that she is a lady first and will come across to others as bright and charming. Yes, despite her label, the sexy woman respects herself and her body. The sexy woman recalls the advise of Muhammad Ali to his daughter Hana, thus: ‘everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them. The body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.’ When a woman tries to act a perfect girl, walks into the room with matching outfits, excessive makeup on the face, huge hand bag matches with the shoes, sits at the counter and orders her excessive favourite drink. Without realizing it, this woman has already labeled herself: I’m Temporary! In a Man’s mind he thinks this: “just for fun, I search elsewhere!” he may sleep with you, but on the back of his mind, there is nothing more than that. He will just live according to the national men’s anthem, “let’s hit it and quit it.” Men like to chase what they cannot get , they love puzzles , so if you display all your body out, then he wonders , “what is left for me to see in the bedroom?” however when you do not reveal everything, it makes him burn with passion to find more for his eyes. This is the biggest reason why men “rarely” marry models!  11. She Is Sexy Under! The sexy woman wears sexy underwear. When I and that certain someone enter the intimate stage, I must always remember that it is important to carry sexy underwear beneath my clothing! This may sound like something I already know, but women tend to get lazy with mates over time. If I want to keep him hooked, I must entertain him with something sexy every time I take my clothes off! Classy slips, lingerie and baby dolls can be sexy just as much as garter belts and corsets. She wears exciting lingerie. 80 % of men prefer silk underwear as opposed to 20 % who go for the plain white cotton stuff. Change the lingerie. Push-up bras, matching sets, corsets, negligees, T-backs, kimonos, body suits, boxers, garters, fishnet stockings; whatever I like.  A man loves it when I make him see all the colors, sizes and shapes. A woman can be sexy wearing sweats or a gown, with hair pinned up or flowing freely down, while working a room or at ease in her home, chilling with the girls or out on her own. She is sexy while crunching for an upcoming test or while losing at b-ball but trying her best. She is sexy while shopping as she struts through the mall, or while selling, as she explains the product mechanisms to the customer. But mostly, she is sexy doing nothing at all.  24. She Wears Form-Fitting Clothes! Men want women that have style and are well dressed. The clothes do not have to be expensive. I just need to have a good look that fits my personality. If I do not know how to dress, or want the clothes that would look the best on me, I should have a girl take me shopping. One, they know what they are doing, and two, they love doing it! To them, it is like dressing a grown up doll. She is Well Groomed and well Dressed! Though the desire to hide in comfy sweats is an understandable one, especially when we are feeling ‘larger than life’, it is an urge that must be fought. The truth is that I am not hiding anything, except how hot I can be. One high-ranking factor is how a sexy woman wears her clothing. This is more important than what is worn when it comes to whether or not she is sexy. Men tend to prefer women to show something leading their mind to the elusive everything, rather than the 'here it is’ availability of practically nothing. The tight t-shirt and undies look is reportedly more popular than the pop-out-the-top cleavage and split mini-skirt look. The sexy woman knows that a woman can still be considered sexy whatever her weight. It is mainly how she wears herself that matters. A skinny shrimp wearing a daggy skirt and stained blouse is not as sexually stimulating as an overweight woman sporting a confident manner and classy attire is. Baggy clothing is not as attractive sexually as well-fitting attire. Women do not need to be model-sized and wearing a bikini to be considered sexy. It is what they do with what they have got which stands out. It is OK to have few clothes but they should be in good shape and fit I well.  The sexy woman shows what is good about her body and hides what is not so good. To be a sexy woman, I will remember that what I choose to wear when I go out is my advertising. I may be attracting what I do not want! I will be a classy-sexy and I will attract classy-sexy! I will dress a little sexier than usual. If I am wearing a low-cut top, lean forward once in a while and give him a peek of that lacy black bra and some cleavage. I will accidentally let my bathrobe slip off my shoulder; raise my knee when sitting in a mini-skirt, open my legs towards him with see-through undies on. He will sow interest every time! The occasional glimpse, when looking nice, works even better than full nudity! It excites men more, for some reason, and keeps them hopeful for more.  68. She Leaves A Lot Of Room For Imagination! The sexy woman walks on the wild side! She is unpredictable and keeps her man guessing. She leaves a little to the imagination when she gets dressed. She will not wear clothes that are too revealing or will cut her circulation off. The sexy woman knows that, "There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably desirable." The second characteristic of sexiness is identified with clothing. Clothing can be edgy; they can push a lady over the top of the sexiness chart. This type of sexiness is associated with the woman herself. She has a hand in the fine tuning if I will. She knows how to rag (dress). She decides what she wears, how she carries herself or what image she wants to portray. Cleaning up is her specialty. Clothing has a body language of its own. Clothing and style identified as sensual, attention getting can make a woman very sexy. Clothing that reveals, draws attention to or outlines the upper body, hips and/or thighs dazzles men because they are seductive and have an element of flirtation that cannot be missed. Clothing that shows a lot more than a covering is supposed to show is what men love. It raises an eyebrow or two and draws rave reviews. Leaving little to the imagination works well for many of the women and for so many of us men. It is not that hard when I am talking about men and their excitable senses. The sexy woman puts on tight and hip-hugging pants and dresses, britches hanging off the hips, the minis, split dresses, tank tops and clothing that are a size or two too small. Even looser fitting clothing can be sexy depending upon how they are worn and fit her body. A sexy woman knows what compliments her body. With clothing, she knows less is more. The sexy woman dresses to help her attractiveness. Too revealing is not necessarily sexy. Not revealing enough means that I am not even interested, and thus, it is not sexy. The sexy woman wears high heels. They are bad for their feet, but very good for the eyes of men. I feel guilty for enjoying the appearance of a beautiful woman in high heels; but, it is so sexy! It defines and emphasizes their calves, and allows the rippling effect of the muscles under the skin to show, be shared and appreciated by us. Men thank women for doing that for them. They appreciate me if we do that for them. High heels scream ‘attitude’  27. She Wears Flirty! The sexy woman shows a little, but hides a little more. There is a certain way how to dress that drives men crazy. And I certainly do not mean going slutty. This is a turn-off for most men. I need to find a compromise between showing and hiding my womanly qualities. It is the right combination that makes the secret. I like women, who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything. Steer clear of the obvious. It is very important that I actually feel sexy. And do not forget some killer-lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces. Flirting is not all about physical looks and hence, while a guy's receptiveness to my flirting may depend greatly on how I look, the most important thing is to dress in a way that makes I feel good about myself. I could look fantastic in a mini skirt and heels, but if I feel uncomfortable and not like myself, and I slouch and cross my arms and display unapproachable body language, I will be a terrible flirt. I will experiment with my appearance until I can look at my reflection in the mirror and feel like I have given my beauty the representation it deserves. The sexy woman flirts in many ways, not just with what they say, but with a look, or a slight hint of cleavage, a strategically placed slit in a skirt, or something sparkly at her neck to give us men an excuse to look where we are told not to focus our gaze. /'m not talking about going overboard here and dressing up like I am easy, but show off my best assets! The number one thing men are attracted to is physical attributes. That is what initially gets their attention, AND THEN personality comes into play. Now I do not have to be a sizzling hot babe, but if I know what my best assets are then I can dress to make them stand out and as a result act as bait for me in seducing him. I will wear outfits that reveal a bit more skin when I am out with him especially. Men are visual creatures and they feel flattered if. I bother to dress up for them. Sexy does not mean distasteful though. Stop short of wearing clothes which makes I look like someone from a red-light district! I can show more skin with a low back top, a shorter skirt or heels with peeping toes. Be creative and not cheap!  36. She Plays With His Clothes! The sexy woman knows that a man is his ego, and his ego is in his looks and his dressing. She will stroke his tie. Subconsciously, men see their neck ties as an extension of their penis. By stroking and admiring his tie I am sending him strong sexual signals. When she is in his room, she wears his shirt, half buttoned, with nothing beneath, and only her panties! She wears his shirt when in the house, especially after sex, and even tries his cap.  66. Her Talk Is Humorous! One of the biggest turn-ons for men and women is a sense of humour. The sexy woman quotes episodes, commits elaborate jokes to memory and makes him laugh. And when I make a man happy, he will strive to make the woman happy. A good sense of humour is sexy as it shows a woman's ability to enjoy the funnier side of life and to make others around her smile and laugh and enjoy it with her. ‘People are sexy when they have a sense of humor, when they are smart, when they have some sense of style, when they are kind, when they express their own opinions, when they are creative, when they have character.’ -Suzanne Vega The sexy woman keeps her sense of humor. People like to be around those who find humor in even the most awkward moments. A healthy attitude is contagious. The sexy woman can laugh, especially at herself. I will not take myself, or my life, too seriously. I will also learn to laugh. Life is much too short to waste it moping around in self pity. Humor is very attractive. A positive attitude can be born from a strong sense of humor. The sexy woman knows that happiness is an attitude.  The man will think he is dealing with an Alpha Female because I am witty. When I have a sense of humor, intelligence, and a fast tongue which keeps him on his toes, then I am assured he is mine. A sense of humor is a must. A man loves a woman who has a little wit and does not turn three shades of red when he hears a dirty joke. If I can tell a dirty joke, all the better! Who does not like being around somebody that can make them laugh? Everybody likes to laugh. Again, who does not wants to be around someone that is fun, where we can laugh with each other anytime we are together? This is one of the more important qualities to possess if I want to attract the men. A sense of humor seems to be one of the all-time most important attributes that others want in their mate. This is for good reason. Life is a serious business and this world with all of its foibles and injustices and tragedies can be depressing. That depression and frustration have a place in our lives is a fact, but humor and the ability to laugh at oneself and the world in its sometimes absurdity will help ameliorate the negative aspects to life. A woman who can laugh at herself and her mistakes is appealing because the man will know that he can be comfortable with her and not have treat her like a fragile memento. The sexy woman uses her sense of humor to keep things at a level where men do not and cannot offend or intimidate her overtly (even if they act like a Jerk-which they do often times) The sexy woman is unpredictable. Consistency and predictability is boring. She takes people off guard and surprises them. The element of surprise is often the key factor in most jokes. That is why the second I hear them, it is not funny. Loosen up and have fun. It is one of the golden rules in hanging out-have fun and be myself. Enjoy every minute of my life. I am going out to forget my problems. Guys would love to be with a girl who can handle things on her own and knows how to enjoy. The sexy woman laughs at least 5 times a day. She laughs at things that ‘should’ be serious. When I laugh, I draw people to me. It is almost like the endorphins are contagious. Having a sense of humor is sexy as hell.  63. Her Talk Is Not Argumentative! When the sexy woman talks, she does not argue, she is harmonious in her talk. Her talk is peaceful. She knows the rule of lasting partnerships: “to be partners for life, you do not have to like the same things, but you have too hate the same things.’ When I talk as a sexy woman, I will not argue! I do not have to agree with everything someone says, but I do not have to tell them all about how I disagree. If I feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, I will express it simply, gently and without putting the other person on the defensive. Instead of arguing, it is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument. It is the differences in people, and their conversation, that make them interesting. Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything. A person is interesting when they are different from me; a person is obnoxious when they cannot agree with anything I say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior. Before I start arguing, I will remember Abraham Lincoln, for he long ago advised, ‘It is better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and resolve all doubt’. The Bible counsels that ‘he that keeps his mouth keeps his life.’ And the Chinese have a proverb that rightly teaches ‘Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger.’ This wisdom was cognizable to Philosopher Horace, the leading Roman lyric poet, when he admitted that ‘once a word has been allowed to escape, it cannot be recalled’. ‘Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact.’ wrote George Eliot [Mary Ann Evans], the English novelist. When a woman argues, she threatens the man, and the man will not see peace, but competition in her, and men do not like competition, they loath it. They resent it. Arguments are necessary for the healthy functioning of relationships. They provide dynamic tension and help me know where the limits are. Healthy conflict is required; It is the motor oil of dating and relationships. A good argument stirs up the blood and gets things exciting again. A couple that says, ‘Oh, It is so wonderful; we never fight!’ is kidding themselves. No fighting = no passion. A sexy woman starts an argument for one of three reasons: She has a legitimate gripe or complaint, and she is angry She is feeling an emotional need for attention and drama She is in a bad mood or PMS-ing. (Or any combination of these three) That being said, most men would love to find the magic key to winning all arguments with women. It works almost every single time, if used correctly. If done right, the man earns my respect and avoids unnecessary drama. If he does it wrong, he loses, both the argument, and maybe, me… and the magic is… Delay every argument. And, if he cannot delay the argument, he lets her ‘win.’ The first key is to avoid argument entirely. I can simply tell him:  ‘Oj, I appreciate that you want to talk about this right now, but I’m not prepared to discuss this with you Let’s talk about it a little later. I will think about it some more and we can come back to it.’ He will very likely not accept this at first. The emotional nature of an argument is that he will feel very attached to hashing it out right now, and if I do not go along, It is only more reason to stomp him feet and pout. I have to find the backbone and resolve to not give in and get into it. The number one reason I want to try delaying an argument is that almost nine times out of ten the argument was just an emotional outburst, and it will just dissolve on its own without having to get into a power struggle. There’s no sense wasting energy on a situation that will clear itself up if I just let it pass on by. The second reason for delaying is that men are incapable of putting up a good defense to a woman when they’re caught off guard. When her arguments come up, he will not be fighting me on a level playing field. I will throw everything at him from an emotional standpoint, and engage his emotions as well. The disadvantage he has is that he can only argue effectively with logic, and he’ll just get into another senseless power struggle – likely ending with no sex. Men tend to react rather than listen. If I absolutely cannot avoid an argument, I should then understand that the best way to survive – intact – is to not try to win the argument, especially not the way I would with another woman. I’m not saying that I let him walk all over me, either. What I need to do is to avoid getting into a debate over who was right and who was wrong. He will always lose, but I will also lose him, even when I ‘win.’ The saying is still wise, ‘The reed that bends does not break.’ When I am faced with an argument, I must know how to bend – how to let the argument pass by me, instead of ramming my head straight into it. I can avoid reacting and take a second to pause and see that the issue is A) usually less important than it seems (way less), and B) not a personal attack on me, as it often appears. My number one defense against arguments is not being drawn into a defensive posture. Further, I can and should use humor as a calming tactic. Very frequently couples will get into arguments or disagreements in front of friends or family when a sensitive topic comes up. They feel embarrassed that their buttons are being pushed in front of company, and it can make for a very uncomfortable moment as one or the other tries to save face. One good style of managing this situation is to de-escalate it with humor. If she brings up something that is inappropriate or starts to get emotional or angry, I can deflect it by saying something like: ‘Now, honey, not in front of the kids.’ Or, ‘It was never like this on ‘Leave it to Beaver.’’ If things do get a little out of control and tense, acknowledge it with humor. ‘Well! That was sure uncomfortable, huh? Wow, I’d hate to be me later.’ The key is to use that sense of humor to keep things loose and non-abrasive. When I get in private, I can then employ other strategies to handle her anger. I will always keep an eye out for what is rational and irrational in arguments.  2. Her Talk Is Honest! ‘Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.’ Thomas Jefferson held. The sexy woman tells the truth unapologetically. ‘Truth will always be truth, regardless of lack of understanding, disbelief or ignorance.’ agreed W. Clement Stone. To be a sexy woman I will tell the unarguable truth. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. But lies create disconnection in a relationship, even if my partner, sibling, friend, parent or client never finds out about it. Other people also lie to ‘protect’ their friends, family or clients. But such lies must soon be covered by other lies, then others be heaped on top. An Unknown wrote, ‘Truth fears no questions.’ This is why the Bible teaches, ‘Truth shall set us free.’ Withholding the truth also constitutes telling a lie. Adlai Stevenson, a U.S. Vice President and intellectual said, ‘The cruelest lies are often told in silence.’ And ‘A half truth is a whole lie.’ A Yiddish Proverb reminds us. To be a sexy woman, I will emulate Earl Wilson, the American journalist, gossip columnist and author, best known for his nationally syndicated column, It Happened Last Night, when he advised, ‘If I would not write it and sign it, do not say it.’ Michael Jackson, the American singer-songwriter, dancer, actor, choreographer, published poet, businessman, philanthropist and record producer, commonly referred to as the King of Pop, said, ‘Lies run sprints, but the truth runs marathons.’ To be honest, I need to learn to stop being a people pleaser and be myself. ‘Once honest, always free’, I will remind myself to be a sexy woman. To be honest, I will think honestly. If I do not THINK honestly, I will not BE honest. I am what I think. This was well captured by René Descartes, the French philosopher, mathematician, physicist, and writer who has been dubbed the ‘Father of Modern Philosophy’, when he wrote, ‘I think, therefore I am.’ Prejudices and preconceived ideas can make it difficult to distinguish what the truth really is. I will keep in mind the Jewish proverb that: ‘What I do not see with my eyes, do not witness with my mouth.’ To be honest, I will practice to be honest on the simple things. By applying honesty to the little things, I will get in the habit of being honest in general. Robert Browning, the English poet and playwright wrote, ‘Truth never hurts the teller’. To be a sexy woman, to avoid a lie, I will not do something I will have to lie about later. If I have to lie about it, I should not be doing it. ‘Son, always tell the truth. Then I will never have to remember what I said the last time.’ said ‘Mr. Sam ‘Rayburn, an American legislator.  21. Her Voice Is Lowered And Sensual! It can make all the difference.  Not much can be done about my actual voice since that is Nature's gift but I can still do a lot about how I talk.  I will speak seductively and immediately people pay attention to me. The sexy woman modulates her tone when she speaks. Nothing is more seductive than a gentle yet sensuous tone. When I whisper something in his ear like ‘you look chic in blue’ in that seductive tone. The guy will not only be flattered, I get to score brownie points and make my move! The sexy woman has a soothing, soft, throaty tone to her voice. Not really high-pitched (girly) voice, but a suggestive, feminine one. Lower my voice; Men prefer a woman’s voice to be a little lower, and a little quieter. Also, if I speak quieter and less nasally and less high-pitched, he will have to lean forward a little to hear me. I will whisper to him at times. This works especially well in places where it is noisy. When I want to tell him something, I will ask him to get close to me and whisper into his ear. As I speak, the warm air I breathe creates such an intimate moment between the both of us. It is a very powerful and easy way to get his adrenalin pumping! When I strike a conversation whisper to him and lean into his space. Whispering is a very powerful tool. By speaking in a low voice I make him pay more attention to what I am saying. By whispering I create a little world just for the two of us. The other person will have no choice but move closer to hear me better. I can use these moves anywhere, even if I am just talking about the weather. Practice makes perfect. I will not miss a chance to polish my skills at every occasion and soon I will be flirting like a pro. She is Charismatic! The sexy woman speaks deliberately, listens closely, and laughs with a throaty voice. The way a sexy woman talks can make some men catatonic, it less what she says than how she says it. A woman is sexy by way of her speech. Men usually prefer woman with a tone that indicates sexiness, such as a voice tone indicating that she wants to be pampered and cared for. A lovely voice is a sexy voice. She does not shout or jump about; she does not talk real loud. A sexy woman speaks the right way in any situation…she keeps it low, slow, and maintains eye contact (without staring). A sexy woman also likes to listen more than talk. And she loves to ask questions – men looove attentive women and show interest in their ego talks…  19. She Flirts! Flirts! And Flirts! Flirt by all means. Flirt with everyone. The sexy woman flirts with everyone. She flirts with guys, girls, waiters, mechanics, and old ladies crossing the street. She is flirtatious. She has made it a part of her personality. She will tell him he looks like a Greek God and sound genuine. She will blink her eyes to look vulnerable yet hard to get. To flirt, I can slightly touch him on the shoulder or the wrist while laughing. Again, I will not overdo it. Men do not like being pushed. Another way to flirt is to engage in a good conversation and give my viewpoints instead of nodding my head constantly to his. To flirt, she is playful. Wittiness and innuendo can create a lot of sexual tension. The art of flirt and seduction, as any other skill, does not always come naturally and can be developed. I will open up to the world around, keeps my internal fire burning and my life will sparkle with new colors. With some effort in no time I will turn into a man-magnet. The sexy woman knows how to flirt with a man, to seduce the man. She shows him that she is interested, in a subtle way. A smile, a sidelong glance, laughing at his jokes (if they're funny), all work to let him know I am enjoying him. She flirts by all means. She bats a few eyelashes at the cutest guy in the place, winks just when she is turning the corner, or getting into the vehicle. The sexy woman is woman who flirts, and flirts well, with style and class. A slight giggle when a guy says something cute and clever, or a look that says, ‘Hmm, I seem interesting,’ are great turn-ons' for guys. To flirt well, I should accept myself, revel in my best features and my individuality, and I will have a great foundation for flirting: confidence. Men want to be desired just as much as women do. If I show a man that I want him sexually, I can really drive him wild. Let him know that he turns me on and that I find him ‘sexy’. The sexy woman tells the man how sexy she thinks he is. She talks sexy to him and says how she melts down when he walks through the door. She says how she finds it hard to resist touching him when he is around, then she makes her move. The sexy woman talks flirty. Flirting is an art. Those with good, confident, intelligent attitudes do it best. Without the proper attitude, it becomes aggressiveness, or sluttish, depending on the person. The sexy woman flutters eyelashes. The rule of the sexy woman is, Always Be Flirting! One of the great guy movies of the last decade is ‘Glengarry Glen Ross. ’It is essentially a male power struggle in the realm of real estate sales. One of the lines in the movie (and in sales) is ABC – Always Be Closing. I’m updating that for me and my dating search to ABF – Always Be Flirting. I have to take on a certain mindset if I want to improve and become more successful with women. All too frequently, men look at dating and the prospecting process as an isolated event. They are either being ‘themselves’ or they are flirting and dating, as if the two are separate parts of their personalities. It is like adding an octane boost to my fuel, and I will make exponential strides in my development.  30. Her Talk Is Smart! Tests show that women rate three percent higher in general intelligence than men. the a sexy woman is way smarter. A sexy woman is intellectually a step ahead of her man in the imagination and creativity of the rapport, or at the very least, at his level. She cleverly fathoms ideas, constantly surprises, and entertains. She takes risks in romance, reads between the lines, and tweaks circumstances in her favor. She is an excellent conversationalist, knows how to steer attention towards herself, through her words, actions and suggestions, without suffocating her man. She Is Instinctually Smart! The sexy woman knows, ‘in this world, the smart girl always gets what she wants.’ Part of being smart, is being creative, and the sexy woman is a creative woman in her talk, and her manners. The sexy woman learns her creativity from, the classic Islamic Golden Age writing, Kitāb alf laylah wa-laylah, (Arabian Nights) where a Persian King, threatened by the prospect of her wife cheating on him, and dishonoring him, after what the brother’s wife did to him, decides to marry a succession of virgins only to execute each one the next morning, before she has a chance to dishonour him. Eventually the vizier, whose duty it is to provide them, cannot find any more virgins. Scheherazade, the vizier's daughter, offers herself as the next bride and her father reluctantly agrees. On the night of their marriage, the Queen, Scheherazade begins to tell the king a tale, but does not end it. The king is thus forced to postpone her execution in order to hear the conclusion. The next night, as soon as she finishes the tale, she begins (and only begins) a new one, and the king, eager to hear the conclusion, postpones her execution once again. So it goes on for 1,001 nights. And when she sees her man making a wrong move, she does not jump in with 13 suggestions. No. The sexy woman does not offer a man advice unless he asks for it. She simply looks into his eyes and tells him, Baby, I have confidence in your ability to work things out. And with such support, even men who are very very dumb will do the right thing. She challenges him all the time, and let him prove his ability to make her happy along the way. And if her man is not talking, she knows just how to get him to talk. Girls everywhere lament the fact boys won't talk to them. Well, males are programmed to 'do things' and so this is the key to getting boys to talk, and the sexy woman knows this. When the sexy woman wants her man to talk, she gets involved in an activity with him - painting, gym, computer games, SEX - and then talk during the activity. The sexy woman is sexually and intellectually attractive: she is able o interact and talk on a fairly equitable level. She excites her man physically and mentally. Indeed, even the sex surprisingly lasts longer when the woman is not as dumb as a box of rocks.) Intelligence is one of the sexiest aspects of a woman. The woman who can stimulate and engage intellectually is extremely sexy and appealing to men. A keen mind and brain power is wonderful. A smart woman is a sexy woman. Intelligence is nothing to be ashamed of, it in fact is a trait that should always be boasted about. Being brilliant and alluring is not something that every woman can stake their claim to fame with, so being a woman that can brag about being both of these is very sexy, and intriguing. The sexy woman takes care of her mind. I will stop engaging in mindless activities. My brain is like a muscle. It needs to be used. I will read something. I will experience something. I will learn something! Charlie ‘Tremendous’ Jones was precise; ‘I am a combination of the books I read and the people I meet’. Robert Kiyosaki confirms it by teaching us in his classical book, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, ‘I am what I eat, but I become what I study.’ 'Read in order to live.' wrote Henry Fielding. Indeed, as a writer, the more I read, the better I write. Dr. Seuss writes, ‘The more that I read, the more things I will know and the more places I will go.’ I will do myself a lifelong favor if I keep reading! The sexy woman keeps herself informed on the basics.  If I am clueless on what is going on, people will think of me as an airhead.  I do not have to be an expert in everything, indeed, I do not have to be an expert in anything at all, but if I have enough knowledge about some simple facts related to fashion, politics, business, gossip, current events, movies, etc., I will be alright in most situations.  If I do not know anything about a topic, I will admit it, and ask questions.  And then listen with rapt attention.  Men love an attentive woman and find her very sexy. The sexy woman reads voraciously and follows her passions so that she is an interesting person. She engages in a good conversation and gives her viewpoints instead of nodding her head like a natty dread, always constantly to his. In conversation, she does not agree to everything uttered. The sexy woman has her own mind, with views and positions on a wide range of topics. She is not condescending when she is better versed on a topic, but she can also admit when she is wrong. She is open to new knowledge, even if she will never use it. The sexy woman knows that, Success is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well. In conversation, she does not agree to everything uttered. She has her own mind, with views and positions on a wide range of topics. She is not condescending when she is better versed on a topic, but she can also admit when she is wrong, and shows genuine interest when not totally comfortable with the subject matter. She is open to new knowledge, even if she will never use it. An intelligent woman is always sexy to a man. Without wit and intelligence, a woman is only sexy from a distance, but ugly up close. She is undeniably sexy. She is what a sexy woman is. She has her own mind and provides mental stimulation. A man may initially be attracted to a woman because of her beauty, but he wants to have someone he can talk to... someone who ‘gets’ him. Keep my conversation interesting. I will make some jokes myself, and also remember to have something intellectual to discuss, because Intelligence is considered very attractive. I will bring something up I heard on the news, or bring up any subject that I think can get a conversation going, such as school and the experiences I had there. Mademoiselle Alpha Femme gives good conversation. She has many layers to her essence and more to talk about than Desperate Housewives or what ‘some girl said to me.’ She has opinions, interests and passions which make her whole face light up when she speaks of them. I could talk to her all night without a dull moment. To make her talk intelligent, she learns about different people and lifestyles! To be a sexy woman, I will learn about different people and lifestyles. A great gateway into this is Wikipedia, where I can read articles on a wide variety of practices, such as Swinging, Wicca, the Green Party, Anarchism, Sunnis, Tutsis, the Luo Nation, and the Yakuza. I will consider how many members they have worldwide and their history and future. To build her intelligence, the sexy woman reads new ideologies and philosophies. ‘All religions, arts and sciences are branches of the same tree. All these aspirations are directed toward ennobling man's life, lifting it from the sphere of mere physical existence and leading the individual towards freedom.’-Albert Einstein. The sexy woman has an open mind. I will open my mind to other political and religious points of view. I may find it hard to stomach at first, but in time I might find a grain of truth in what my nemesis has to say. Even if I do not, I will be able to argue with ‘one of them’ much more intelligently. I will attend churches, synagogues, mosques, temples, trade union meetings, and places of worship and meditation that I never have. I will try to see another person's perspective. What is important to that person? What is she self-conscious about? Is that person as open minded as I am? ‘The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their right names,’ the Chinese believe in their proverb.  40. She Compliments Him! Tell him he looks great, laugh at his jokes, thank him for dinner, but be sincere. Giving people compliments such as ‘Looking nice’ or ‘I like your haircut,’ as long as I can do so sincerely, is very powerful in a relationship. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker. Everybody likes attention (even the shy ones) She makes the man feel appreciated. She knows that a woman does not love a man because he is handsome, but he is handsome because she loves him. In studies about why men cheat on their wives, it was found that the reason is not sex or attraction; it is usually that they feel emotionally disconnected from their wives because they feel unappreciated, and they are drawn to other women who make them feel appreciated. The sexy woman knows the power she has over the man, over any man, and she uses it well. She knows that with compliments, she can transform the man, positively. As Allan and Babra Pease wrote, "A man is like a fine wine, he starts out as raw grapes, and it’s a woman’s job to stomp on him and keep him in the dark until he matures into something she’d like to have dinner with." When he is talking, give him my full attention. I can probably lean slightly towards him as well. Smile and nod at times to show that I am listening. Even if he is talking to a few people, he will notice how attentive and interested I am in what he is saying.  58. She Listens! Listening is an essential part of communication; indeed, it is the most important part of any conversation. A conversation is not all about talking. The sexy woman pays attention to what is being said to her. She listens attentively to the other person, injecting a thought or two, but generally just listening. And even as the other person does most of the talking, the sexy woman gets the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, she is! ‘The more and better I listen to others, the greater is my influence over them’. - Dale Carnegie Yes! Well-timed silence hath more eloquence than speech. The Luo of Kenya has a saying that ‘Even a fish would not get into trouble if it kept its mouth shut.’ Even the Greeks in their dialogues appreciated this wisdom when Pythagoras advised his civilization to ‘stay silent. Or say something better than silence.’ And his friend Democrats agreed with him when he wrote. ‘I have often regretted my speech, never my silence.’ She pays attention. The sexy woman knows that if she pays a little attention to people, they will repay her warmly. It does not take much. I will do it to be a sexy woman, to be sexy. The sexy woman is sure to compliment in a casual and friendly way on things that are true. She sounds sincere natural. Sometimes complimenting their family or other things they are proud of works. Part of listening is letting the other person know that I am listening. I will make eye contact. I will nod and say ‘Yes,’ ‘I see,’ ‘That is interesting,’ or something similar to give him clues that I am paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what I am going to say next. ‘Do not speak unless you can improve on the silence.’- Spanish Proverb, Being a good and patient listener helps me to see the world through the eyes of others and hence gain more wisdom, and solve problems. When I do not interrupt with what I feel or think about the topic in discussion, they feel understood. ‘People bring about their own undoing through their tongues.’ On the walls of the Egyptian Temple and Tomb at Luxor, And the Bible warns me, ‘in the tongue lies the power of life and death.’ ‘When my mouth stumbles, it is worse than feet.’ The Oji people of Nigeria Rephrasing what the other person is saying and restating it to them can help keep me focused and let me discover whether I am really getting what the other person is trying to say or not. It will prompt them to clarify what they are saying or to expand on it. The more I listen, the more trusted I become. ‘The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.’- Henry David Thoreau Apart from building relationships, listening also has a spiritual effect on my life. King Solomon warns me, ‘in a multitude of words lacks not sin. He that refrains his lips is wise.’ Our creator foresaw that listening is more important than talking and gave us one mouth and two ears. I will listen twice as much as I speak to be a sexy woman. A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he knows something.’- Wilson Mizner, the American playwright, raconteur, and entrepreneur  70. She Talks Fantasy, She is Fantastic! The sexy woman is ever naughty, in all simple ways. She thinks naughty. She Shares her intimate fantasies with her man and encourages him to share his. If I have never done this before, start with my most tame fantasies, and let him know that sharing his with me is safe and he will not be judged. Listen to what he likes—this will send him the message that I care about his sexual needs and want to know more about his naughty side. ‘Talk dirty to me baby! ‘ Is a wish every man wants fulfilled. Men do it all the time, and I should take a lesson, I will lean in close and whisper those ‘naughty’ words in his ear and watch his expression. This works best in a public place it not only turns a man on it creates a sense of excitement and danger of getting caught. A woman who can express her sexual desires through spoken words alone has the ability to turn on any man. The more descriptive I can be with what I want from him the better. The sexy woman will disclose a private sexual fantasy to his partner while in a public place. She will slowly offer a small detail/narrative/scenario of a sexual fantasy that I would like to act out. This will be a visually strong snap shot of the fantasy using just a few sentences. She narrows her comments to the most arousing aspects of the fantasy and invites him to help me make the fantasy a reality. The sexy woman constantly evokes in him the most far-fetched fantasies, even under the most innocent and platonic of circumstances. The sexy woman asks fantasy fun questions that drive the man’s imagination over board. After all, the best way to find out what my man wants is to ask him. Usually, guys are not as shy or as easily embarrassed as girls. The sexy woman will ask him what he would want her to do of him. What would you like me to do for you? (This is a great way to find out what he really wants at that moment.) What is your ultimate fantasy? And she is prepared for any kind of answer. Can I tie you up? This will send a shiver down his spine. What would you like to do to me? This will make the man think of all the ways to make me have a good time, and hence, is good for me. What is your favorite position? Most guys love variety but he will still have a favored position. What's the craziest place you would wants us to have sex at? What's the craziest thing that you would love to try in bed? Handcuffs? Using food during the hook-up? A threesome? A sex tape? If you were going to die tomorrow, what would you want to try in bed tonight? Do you have a ‘trigger fantasy’, i.e. something you think about that puts you over the edge? If you could hook up with one celebrity, who would it be? If you could have sex in only one position from the Kama Sutra for the next 77 days, what would it be? And when the sexy woman is kissing the guy, she subtlety lets him know that she is wet. This makes him know he is doing a good job. She also makes suggestive comments. If he is not getting the hint, she tells him what she would like to do to him. Guys are wired to respond to even the slyest of feminine wiles. If I activate his imagination with these sexy suggestions, he will be aching for me all day.  44. She Has Sexy Posture! The sexy woman walks, sits, stands and sleeps in a sexy way. The way she moves her hands, her fingers, her legs and her body is all sexy. The body is a powerful aspect of sexiness, and plays far more an important role than women tend to think. A sexy body comes in all shapes, sizes, and lengths. And wherever I am I will be likely to find a man who appreciates wherever I fit on the spectrum. Every woman has a place when it comes to the body. Sexiness is in the balance, so I will find the balance in my body. Whether I know it or not, the truth is, men are first attracted to a woman who is in shape. They like to able to see a woman’s true figure, as well as toned and healthy. A woman who takes good care of herself gives the impression that she is confident, responsible and stable which are qualities all men admire. The sexy woman carries herself around in a sexy posture. It does not matter if I am short or fat or old, I must always carry myself around as a sexy woman.  I will stand straight with my head high and walk like a model.  If I do not know how to do this, it is good to watch television.  I will take dancing lessons, and exercise regularly, to have a sense of balance and vibration in my walk. Her head is not bowed and she has an arch in her back. The sexy woman sits properly. A sexy woman has good self esteem and positive body image and sits as if she owns the room. She lowers herself gently on a chair and then sits at an angle. This is a sexy posture. She uses a positive body language. When with her man, she angles herself toward him, sits or stands with an upright (but not stiff) posture, and uncrosses her arms. She is very conscious of her body language and posture. By slumping shoulders and crossing arms and legs I shut myself off from the world. Another ‘leave me alone’ signal is turning my back or shoulders away. I will turn around and face the center of the room. I will sit comfortably with my back straight and my arms unfolded. This posture signals my ‘openness’ to others. If I am sitting on a couch, I do not sit close to the edge (declaring my detachment). Neither do I sit directly in the middle either (marking my ownership of the seat). But I sit slightly to the side with room on either side of me for someone else. This is a universal sign that I do not mind being approached. One good method to use is to imagine someone I admire coming in. I will then think of my favorite movie star entering a party alone. They exude confidence, class and comfort. This should be a model to follow. If I am not sure how to act, stand or sit –I will imagine what they would do in a similar situation. Also, the sexy woman makes moves with her Legs! The sexy woman displays her legs. The more leg I show him, the more sexually motivated I will appear. 4. She Flaunts It! A sexy woman uses what she has. If I have not figured out by now what my most beautiful, seductive parts are, it is time I did, and started showing them off, too. Whether it is a bountiful chest, creamy skin, or a great rear, I should make sure my style highlights it, whatever the ‘it’ may be. If I have something I am proud of, I should make it obvious. The old gals’ anthem is applicable here, ‘if you have got it, flaunt it!’ I will remember the timeless saying. If I had legs like yours I'd wear really short dresses. –Anonymous  55. She Struts in Her Walk! The sexy woman walks seductively in heels, and still remain on her feet is an incredible feat. There is joy in her walk. She walks with measured strides. She walks with pompous bearing; swagger. She behaves or performs in an ostentatious manner; show off. She walks right. I do not have to be 6-feet tall woman to make a grand entrance. I must learn to walk with confidence and attitude. The sexy woman moves like she is listening to music. Another thing people tend to associated with beauty and sexiness is a good walk. How a woman holds herself when she walks, or how good her twist is, can be extremely attractive, and sexy. An innocent looking and youththful person also could project a sexy image by way of body language. She could do it with her active mannerism such as joining a cheerleader team, or being the leader of a small click, or heavily styled character such as extensively wearing make up every day. The sexy woman knows that how one moves is seen as more important than what is moved. Sexiness is more attributable to women serenely striding in stylish stilettos than clomping along with bouncing breasts and wobbling butt. Hair that gently bounces is scored higher than flat or flyaway styles. Eye movements such as winking are sexier if done slowly than rapidly. Dropping a hand onto a leg and slowly stroking is considered sexier than grabbing butt or squishy hugs. The walk. That strut. That stride. That, whatever I want to call it, men love it. It is seductive, yet coy. It is deceptive, yet charming. And it is another component of sexiness to me. There is definitely some magnetic force that is involved when I see a woman walk across the room, street or across my space, the lord did good when he went to the lab and made the female....equipped with that walk. Every straight man walking the face of the planet responds to the, ‘walk,’ they will literally stop whatever it is that they are doing to witness history in the making. Both history and a historical moment, for sure. I love Vanessa L. Williams' power walk. She is twice my age, but I am still her biggest fan when she walks around in high-heels, or when she is not supposed to be the focus of attention, she has that walk down to an art, and science. The certain way someone walks has a splendor in every sway of the hips.  71. She Touches Him ‘Accidentally’! When the sexy woman is reaching for something, she tries to accidentally touch his hand. She does not make it too obvious. She also touches him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something. The secret is being playful with casually touches now and then. This creates tension and also a physical connection. And more importantly: it subconsciously communicates that I am not interested in ‘only being friends’. The sexy woman touches the man whenever she can. The sexy woman loves to feel sexy at all times and a little help from her man's actions can definitely make her feel even more desired. If I am close and dating, or perhaps in an established relationship, I will touch his hand, his waist, or his neck. A man will feel aroused when his woman cannot keep her hands off of him. And when he walks, she holds his hand as if she will be blown with the wind if she lets go. The sexy woman touches. She will touch him subtly. She looks for opportunities to brush her body past him, or to brush her arm past his. When she thanks him for something he's done, she gently rests her hand on his arm while talking. Touch is important. The sexy woman knows to touch a guy’s arm while she laughs or talks or just in passing motion. This proves confidence and independence, and courage, that she is not afraid to get physical. She knows that one woman with courage is a majority. The casual playful touch, the gentle stroke of my hand across his cheek, touch his arm when I laugh at his jokes, lean in close so he can feel my breath on his neck and face and eye contact can be very powerful often times the eyes speak a lot more words. The sexy woman will brush pretend lint off of his shoulder. She will touch his hand or wrist. Subtle is better. The sexy woman breaks the touch barrier. I will touch him lightly on the arm or shoulder when I am talking. But it has to be a quick, innocent touch and not make a big deal. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. The simple act of touching can strengthen the intimacy between me and him. Sometimes a guy will break the touch barrier, and if I am comfortable with him doing so, I should touch him back. But the sexy woman does not wait for a guy to make the first move, because girls can generally get away with breaking the touch barrier earlier in a relationship more than guys can. Also another good way of breaking the touch barrier is to ‘compare hand sizes’ then smile and lace my fingers for a moment. This is a cute way to ‘break the barrier.’ Another perfect, subtle way to touch him without just reaching up and grabbing his arm or something is to brush imaginary fuzz off of his shoulder or something, or fix his sweatshirt string, or pick an imaginary hair off of his shirt. This is totally subtle and initiates comfortable boundary-crossing in an innocent manner. Also, as a sexy woman, I will grab his arm when I am crossing the road with him and let go when I reach the other side. It will excite him and end so fast that he has no time to react! Further, when laughing, I will casually tap him, rest my head on his shoulder if I am tired and holding his hand when I am nervous; stroking his arm. If he returns the gesture I am in luck. The sexy woman knows how to touch him intentionally sometimes, but make it look unintentional. She can touch his hand or arm for a second when she is speaking or gesturing a point. She makes it quick, gentle and casual so that he does not feel it is obtrusive. Men will always notice women who touch them, especially if it is the first few times, as they will be surprised at how comfortable the woman is with them. She loves moving closer to him! Not too close, but would say about at least two feet apart, but provided she has been giving him eye contact and a grin, and then if he comes close to her, then that will be her signal to approach him. A lot of guys will not get it, they will not know that a girl is attracted to them and wants him to approach them. Even if I smile at him, he still does not get it! One reason is they are either too shy or lack confidence. So by going closer to them, I am now assuring them in a subtle way that I like them and that will be the encouragement they move to in. after all, men can be like children sometimes! No wonder they say, ‘boys will always be boys!’  45. She Dances, with Him! The sexy woman dances. Her life is guided by mantra of dancing. She dances when no one is watching; she dances when everyone is watching. She dances in the rain, dances in the sun. She enjoys her body and the way it moves. Let him see me move a little. It does not matter whether it is a slow-dance or not. I will dance seductively for my romantic partner. I will enter the room, wearing a sexy, form-fitting outfit or costume. I will walk seductively toward my partner, slowly removing individual articles of clothing. I will try to slowly turn and dance as I make my way toward him. The sexy woman revels in the power of erotic dancing. She lives and drinks and breathes it, because she understands its power; its fire. This one is short and simple: I will learn how to dance in an erotic way and look for an opportunity for him to see. I must not underestimate the power of this philosophy! Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor. Why not learning it and doing it the right way? There are courses on this, or just go to a club, watch and learn. This is very powerful…and sexy!  25. She Smells Good, Sexy! The sexy woman understands and appreciates the Power of Scent. Scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments. In a certain survey, 89% of the men revealed that the scent can enhance the attractiveness of a woman. 55% of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a woman just because of her appealing scent. Do I believe that? I better do! Everybody who has watched the movie, ‘Perfume: The Story of a Murderer’ would know what this talk is all about. The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments about the other sex. The way I scent is a vital factor of my success in seduction. I can compare it to pheromones in the animal world. A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang, jasmine and patchouli. These are known for their aphrodisiac properties. Shakespeare wrote, Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately. Indeed so hopelessly that he gave his life for her. This cannot be stressed enough, but my sexual scent is the most important part of learning how to be sexy. The sexy woman uses perfumes, but is careful not to overdo it. Most males are stimulated by smell – I am not wrong to spend fortunes on fragrance – but the boys also get excited by looking.  I should do this about 45 minutes before I see him. If I overpower him with my scent, instead of wanting to edge a bit closer he will be running for the nearest exit. She makes her perfume a recognizable part of her. She makes her scent to be imprinted in his mind. She uses it sparingly and applies it to the so called pulse points in the body: wrists, behind her ears, in the bend of her elbow, behind her knees and on the inside of her ankles. She also perfumes the air in front of her and walks into the mist. This makes sure it is not concentrated on some places and I smell good overall. To be sexy, I will make sure I smell good. I will apply a nice perfume that is not too strong. In order to make it last long, I will do layering. This means, I layer myself with the same smell in different ways. For instance if my perfume smells of rose, I will put some drops of rose essential oils in my bathwater, or I apply some powder that smells of rose and finally I apply the perfume. Men prefer lighter, less heavy scents. I will find a perfume or lotion that compliments me, and wear it. The scent of a woman is a very powerful tool. The sexy woman chooses her perfume wisely so as not to smell like a cheap hooker or like laundry detergent. She puts on light but memorable scents. She has a signature scent. It is very important that I be aware of more than just the visual and tactile parts of my appearance. Here are just a few of the more unattractive sounds some very few women make that decrease a man’s attraction to them: Snorting and other assorted throat noises. Keep these to a minimum, since they are easily controlled. Phlegm noises of any kind are repulsive to men. Burping. I will not burp, not even at the most laid back party. If I have a need to release the pressure, excuse myself and do it somewhere out of earshot. Farting. Gosh, I must not do this. If I have a problem with gas, I will review my diet and consider a medicinal supplement to help me with my digestion. Foot Odor: I will work on my feet, and avoid closed shoes, or use the shoe deodorizers available. Breath: As above, I will check my breath on occasion. If I lick my skin and smell my saliva, I have got a good idea as to whether my breath is good or bad. Carry breath mints (not gum) to use when needed. The other nasty turn-off for men is the big B.O. Body Odor is unattractive to all. Some women just do not shower enough, and some men can’t shower enough. Deodorant is a requirement for my armpits. I should use antiperspirants if sweating is an issue for me. I will not try to cover up my lack of cleanliness with a ‘gypsy bath,’ meaning that I do not use cologne or after-shave to cover up my stinky body or clothes. If I am going to use perfume, I will be sure to use a high-quality scent. I will try to find something that suits me and is different enough to stand out.  15. She is Sexual and Enjoys Sex! Sexy woman is sexual woman. If I do not love sex, my own partner will not find me sexy. Experience in physical sexual matters is just as important in sexuality as it is in other areas of human learning. Therefore the older I am the better I should be at what sex is all about, the female orgasm. Older women have stronger, deeper and longer orgasms, if they have a lover who appreciates them. My clothes, perfume, jewelry, and cultural status do not determine my sexual power. My sexuality comes from my soul, and deep and regular orgasms will bring me to know my own soul like no other experience, save that of a meditative master. The bottom line is that I as a woman am amazingly and intensely sexual all I have to do is BE MYSELF. Everywoman a Goddess: Everyman a Hero in Her Service. - Dr. Stuart The sexy woman is in touch with her sexuality. Yep, she masturbates and enjoys her body. She loves sex. She has no problem with being sexual. A woman who enjoys herself sexually is like a MAGNET. She exudes the sex aroma, the pheromones. She gets noticed. After all, ‘no sex equals unhappiness.’ The Good Gal is ashamed of her nasty sexual urges and her desire for male accompaniment. She thinks she is doing something bad or wrong by seeking men to date and go to bed with. She feels like she is committing something dirty and shameful, and underneath she probably feels like she deserves punishment. It all stems back to pleasing her daddy. However, the sexy woman knows– It is absolutely normal to want to have sex with men. An average man desires sexual release, because of testosterone, every 72 hours. (of course, the above average men do it twice everyday). The sexy woman knows this, and offers herself to her man. The alpha males know that the best way to get sex form the woman is through their heart, indeed, more caring means more sex; and so, with every sexual urge, is a coded message to be ‘nice’ to the woman. The alpha female knows that the way to have a caring man is to offer good sex, and so, the better the sex, the more caring the man. The saying is right, “The way to a woman’s vagina is through her heart; the way to a man’s heart is through his penis.” I do not have to marry a man if I sleep with him. I do not have to worry that I am becoming a pervert. Women want sex just as much as men; we just have more requirements before we do it, and that is just part of the game. Regardless of my shape or size, it is my job as a woman to be concerned with what my man finds sexy—and to try my best to arouse and satisfy those desires. I can roll my eyes all I want, but that is part—a big part—of being in and maintaining my relationship. Think more J Lo and I will get the idea. All of the right curves will immediately get I noticed as being sexy. ‘Lack of sex is one of the top three reasons why married couples divorce.’ And to show that they love sex, sexy women sometimes start the play. When I make love to my man, I should not let him make the first move all the time. If this is the case, I am heading for troubled waters. Men want their woman to show interest in them and make the first move too sometimes. The sexy woman has a comparable sex drive with the man. The man does not have to struggle over satisfying her physical needs. She enjoys sex. She has a good attitude, and she is able to talk about, discuss and reach agreements where needed, but she starts with a healthy sex drive. It makes the road much easier to travel. I should also ‘Keep It Fresh’. Sex is great, but missionary all day, everyday, makes it tiresome and dull and will make him think twice about getting it again next time. But even as I keep it fresh, I should remember lessons learnt. I should ‘Stay In School’. This is a variation of ‘Keep It Fresh’. What it means is that I learn more tricks of the trade. Learn what makes a man excited and how a man’s mind and body works. To enjoy sex, I should also ‘Stay Clean In And Out’. I might not know this, but here’s how to keep it tasting good ‘down there’: eat pineapples. Not kidding here, pineapples contain a certain type of chemical that makes me taste good. In addition, it is a good idea to shower before any romping session. A ‘dirty’ partner is the last thing a man want when turned on, goes the same for me too… The sexy woman knows that men are more interested in quick sex, as a general rule. The sexy woman knows that it is alright for a woman to get a ‘one night stand’. She knows it is okay to want sex without the commitment of a relationship. ‘a sexy woman sometimes just wants the romp in the hay, and she promptly moves on’ And she knows this does not make her a player and she still looks for the basics before sex, being attraction, trust, and respect. She appreciates Karma, and knows that being a ‘player’ in the bad sense of the word will only come back to haunt her later. Having a one night stand does not make me ‘easy’ by any means; I am just ready for sex at that instant. PAP! The sexy woman knows that love is a drug. It Is potent, it Is euphoric, and it is psychologically addictive. And sex plays a major role in this feeling. Up until the last twenty years or so, it was a commonly held misconception that women were somehow frigid by nature and had no interest in sex. This fallacy was created by men who thought that since a woman postpones sex, she only ‘gives it up’ to get what she wants – a faithful husband to provide for her. THIS IS A LIE, STRAIGHT FROM HELL! Women want sex as much as men, they just have a different timetable and requirements before they do. Indeed, when a woman wants sex, she is on fire, and no man can deny her the satisfaction: a woman on fire is like no other. The sexy woman does not need any logical rationalization to sleep with the man. Talking to her – listing all the reasons why she should go to bed with a man, including being pushy – will not work, and will often backfire. She has to feel like sleeping with the man, with her emotions, not her rational mind. After all, ‘people make emotional decisions and then back them up later with logic.’  23. She is Healthy! Sexiness equals good health. I do not necessarily need to have a flat abs and a super well-toned arms but having a balanced Basal Metabolic Index (BMI) that is, the right weight for the right height and sex, would surely add to the much needed esteem. Some easy and healthy tips, tried and tested, that I may integrate to my daily regimen include: Switching my white bread to whole wheat. The fiber will fill me up more and this has lower glycemic index than refined ones. In lay man’s term, it will supply my energy gradually instead of instantly. Drinking H2O. If I cannot take the tasteless taste of water then I will add a few slices of lemon. It adds some taste making me drink more. Walking. Whether it is going to my school, around the mall or up the stairs. It is the easiest and most effective exercise out there. Drinking juices. Juices do help in burning fats especially when paired with a light to moderate exercise. Avoiding Soft Drinks. Sodas and Colas will make me bloated. I will keep those soft drinks to the minimum and drink water, milk or juice and other healthy stuff as much as possible. I will substitute my vegetable oil with olive oil when cooking. It is much healthier and more beneficial to the body. I will choose mineral water to help alkalize my stomach. I may not be aware of it but our digestion works better if we are not too acidic. I can do this by drinking mineral or alkaline water. If I have good health, then I am wealthy in many ways. I must take care of my temple which is my body. Health is ‘a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity’, so says the World Health Organization. I need to get into a world class physical shape and condition to give me the energy to be on the move. ‘The greatest wealth is health’. - Publius Vergilius Maro, (Virgil) A body in good shape will generate and prompt the production of the ‘feel good’ hormones (endorphins) that will in turn make me feel happy. There are a horde of obvious fitness and disease fighting benefits of having a good health, too numerous to mention here. I need to make part of my life eating right and exercising because it helps keep the body running at the top of its game. ‘He who has health has hope; and he who has hope has everything.’ - The Arabs To be a sexy woman I will give my body, soul and mind what it most needs in order to function in an ‘optimal’ way. ‘Optimal’ in this case means being the healthiest I can be, and the most psychologically balanced I can be. Indeed, happiness lies, first of all, in health. 28. She Exercises! Not only does exercise provide me with the benefits of burning fat and adding muscle, but more importantly, it is a genuine mood and libido elevator. Just get moving, and I will feel better about myself and my body. This nice feeling about myself builds my self esteem, my self confidence, and makes me sexier. Exercise improves blood flow, hardens bones and improves oxygen intake for better metabolism. Exercise prevents risks of heart attack by burning excess fat and sugars, also preventing other diseases like diabetes. Exercising the body tones the muscles and will make me look more attractive, and so build my self confidence and physical appearance. Exercise is a mood elevator, and brains function better when in a better mood. To exercise to be a sexy woman, I will jump, do sit ups, squats, run, skip ropes, roll a skate, and go to the gym and stretch. I will do press ups when I wake up, and I will do press ups in the evening. Exercise regulates blood sugar level, improves circulation of blood within the whole body, improves the oxygenation of the blood, and helps lower blood pressure. Exercise has been shown to relieve depression, enhance the production of nerve growth factor, and boost the levels of the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine, which affect mood and help us retain memories. The elevation of mood is important because as Great Cicero noted, ‘the Diseases of the soul are more dangerous and more numerous than those of the body.’ Exercise will make my soul happy, I must exercise. Exercise makes her sturdy, and hence sexier. The sexy woman is sturdy. A woman, who is fit, no matter what her age or size, is always attractive and sexy. Simply being healthy adds much to a woman's sex appeal. Nice skin is more than a plus.  65. She Keeps Good Hygiene! Sexy women have very impeccable hygiene. They keep good hygiene. She keeps her teeth, nails, hair, and skin as perfect as possible. She makes sure she brushes her teeth after all meals and take a shower at least twice a day. To be a sexy woman, I will maintain impeccable grooming. As a man, I will keep my hair short and neat. I will wash my hair and keep it tidy. I will have precise haircuts, and well shaven facial hair. I will get myself a haircut that is modern and fresh that I can and will take care of daily. I will keep my face neat and my body well groomed. I will have a clear skin, free of acne and well moisturized. As a woman, I will use good skin cream and keep my skin clear of any blemishes. I will pamper my face and apply moisturizer to be a sexy woman. I will make sure my hair is clean, shiny and looking natural. I will have a ‘tasteful’ cut, color and shine in my hair. My hair color will look natural and highlights and lowlights will be natural. I will use natural shades on my blush, foundation, and eye shadow to look like I have naturally beautiful skin. I will clean my nails and get manicures at inexpensive nail salons. Short tips are really pretty but I will avoid long nails with bright colors. To be a sexy woman, my environment will be hygienic. Napoleon I said, ‘Water, air, and cleanliness are the chief articles in my pharmacopoeia.’ ‘Fresh air impoverishes the doctor.’- Danish proverb To be hygienic, I will get rid of excess. Getting rid of excess things in and around my house will clean things up and make them appear neater. It will be easier to maintain and I will seem to be wealthier if I am neater and tidier. I will simply box things up and give them to charity. It is great to give.  26. She Looks and Smells Rich! To be a sexy woman I will smell like money. I will wear a small amount of an expensive scent. As a man, I will wear my cologne on inner wrist and underneath the jaw line, and as a woman; I will wear my perfume on the inner wrist and inner elbows and underneath jaw line or behind the ears. I will not put too much on! To look rich, I will have my clothing clean and well mended. I will take the time to press my clothing and wear the proper undergarments. If I learn how to dress like a rich person, I may find some doors open more easily for me as people assume I am well off. To look rich, I will dress in matching clothes. I do not have to be rich to have matching clothing, just strategic in buying my attire. To be a sexy woman, to look rich, I will pick items made from quality materials, including silk, wool, cotton, linen, cashmere and angora. I will buy clothing that is made of organic material. I will dress classically. I will invest in nice clothes. I should obtain a minimum of several pieces of quality clothing in perfect condition. The key is to find clothes that can be mixed and matched to create many different outfits. I will choose classic styles that will never go out of fashion. They do not need to be expensive, but they must have clean lines, be clean, crisp and fresh looking. Wearing a nice polo shirt, plaids, slacks, khaki shorts or skirts are perfect. I will avoid polyester blends and man-made materials that are cheaper in look and feel. To look rich as a woman, I will accessorize my outfits with earrings, necklaces, bracelets, rings, handbags and sunglasses. Attention to these details is important and can change my whole look. I will look for stylish, impressive-looking pieces, although here I will have to be less picky about materials due to cost. Still, one good handbag, well maintained, is better than several cheap ones. I will go for quality instead of quantity. It is better to have two well-made and perfectly fitted outfits in my closet instead of fourteen poorly designed garments. To look rich, I will put on quality footwear. Well-made shoes, preferably from leather or other quality materials are crucial for completing my look as I dress like a rich person.  56. She Eats Rich! The sexy woman is a healthy woman. She knows that Health is Wealth. She knows that to eat rich is to eat healthy. Eating healthy is having the recommended daily intake of calories and other nutrients as per my sex, age, height, occupation and present health status and physical condition. It is not eating too much or eating out in high-end and very expensive hotels and restaurants. The sexy woman visits a doctor, a nutritionist, or websites and get to know which foods she should eat and in what quantity for her health. For me, a good starting point online would be http://www.eatingwell.com/. To be a sexy woman, I will be healthy, I will eat a balanced diet and ensure that I get all the vital vitamins and minerals that my body requires for its optimal biochemical functioning. I will supplement my diet with the appropriate vitamins and minerals, so that what I cannot get in normal dietary intake is still available to my body through supplements. To eat rich to be a sexy woman, the sexy woman does not overeat, or starve herself. I should be reminded of Cicero, the Roman philosopher, statesman, lawyer, political theorist, constitutionalist, orator and prose stylist, when he said that ‘One should eat to live, not live to eat.’ The sexy woman just eats what she needs, and avoids over eating or starving. I will calculate my Basal Metabolic Index (BMI), and know how much weight I need to add (or loose), so as to have the correct weight for my height, and for my bones. To eat healthy to be a sexy woman, the sexy woman diets; and I must diet. The Chinese have a beautiful proverb which says that ‘He who takes medicine and neglects to diet wastes the skill of his doctors.’ And the old adage is right, ‘I am what I eat.’  37. She Sends Signs Of Interest! The sexy woman acts sexy when she sees someone who attracts her interest. She does not run away from her feelings. When she sees him, she knows it is time to spread a little hope that the man has actually a chance with her. She sends him little signs of interest from time to time that make him come forward, giving him courage. To show that she is interested, the sexy woman will show unclenched hands. She will unclench them, clasp them and release them as if she is anxious, just to get him to be a little concerned. This is seduction 101. The sexy woman will also show interest by playing with her hair or caressing other objects within reach, be it a glass of milk, the sides of a plate or even her thighs. She will push her fingers through her hair, unconsciously telling him that she wants him to do, sometime. The sexy woman will also pick some fluff of his jacket (even if there is none!) anything to make contact, and of course, show interest. Also, while talking, she will face him directly and slightly lean forward every now and then. This shows that she is ready to be a little closer, and he is also welcome to come closer. And if he is still very dumb ( as some men can be really clueless), then she goes ahead and wets and bite her lips from time to time, while dimming her eyes and tilting her head, and dragging her words. Even a priest will notice it is time to quench the thirst of the sexy mama. Here again: do not overdo it! Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, and well; they feel that something’s going on.  18. She is Adventurous and Mysterious! Life is about having adventures. Adventurer André Malraux seriously asks, ‘If a man is not ready to risk his life, where is his dignity?’Similarly, Helen Keller, the blind, dumb and deaf who was the first deaf-blind to obtain a bachelors degree, famously stated, ‘Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.’ An adventure is an activity that is taken for the purposes of recreation or excitement, but is ‘perceived’ to involve risky, dangerous or exciting moves. Let us learn from Christopher Columbus, the Italian navigator, colonizer, and explorer whose voyages across the Atlantic Ocean led to general European awareness of the American continents, when he wrote, ‘I can never cross the ocean unless I have the courage to lose sight of the shore.’ Nelson Mandela agrees when he writes in his auto biography, Long Walk to Freedom, that; ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.’ The sexy woman adventurous and ready to try new things; she is fun and exciting. To adventure is to learn something new, something that is interesting, and to keep learning. Adventure gives us a new outlook on life. The best way to adventure is to have an open mind, or as Lao Tzu said, ‘the best way to learn is to have an empty cup’! Having an empty cup means having an open mind and willing to learn and try new experiences. Enjoyment in life comes from trying and doing things ourselves, not watching other people do them. Watching people swim is not the same as swimming. Watching other people hike or climb mountains is not the same as hiking or climbing mountains. A sexy woman knows that, “A closed mind is a good thing to lose.” The sexy woman is a rock-climbing, mountain-biking, back-to-nature kind of girl. To be her, I need to be the ‘up for anything’ woman, and that is a trait I carry over to every area of my life. She is the athletic girl, and she is the one we picture walking in the door after the long jog/workout and slamming us into the wall as she proceeds to tear our t-shirt to pieces. Bless you, dear woman. Granted, only a certain type of guy stands a chance of keeping up with me. The guy who can manage to keep up with this type of woman is envied by every guy he knows. Women that are not afraid to be adventurous, or shy away from anything that they want, are irresistibly sexy. Knowing how to carry myself with authority and sex appeal is something that few women have mastered. To be considered sexy, I must carry an air about me suggesting that I can be a vixen, and a siren, yet always a lady. It is important to have fun, there are a lot of people who have a lot of money, but who do not have fun. It brings happiness to rejuvenate our sense of wonder and have a sense of play, to try something new. Children have this sense of wonder, and it is the reason they are such keen observers and capable learners. If we would be amazed like children, then we would not only be humbled; but would also be readier to learn. To be a sexy woman, I will post on my bed this sign, ‘If it is not fun, do not do it.’ ‘Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyways.’- unknown philosopher  9. She Enjoys Simple Things! The sexy woman enjoys the simple things; the basic things in her life. The most basic pleasures in life are usually accessible to us all the time, but they slip out of our consciousness because we get so used to them. Every taste, every sensation, every possible pleasure, is already present to us in our timeless awareness. ‘Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.’ wrote Helen Keller, the motivational speaker who was also the first blind, deaf and dumb to obtain a degree. The sexy woman knows how to notice the little things, and deliberately appreciate them. She looks around and notices the details; the beautiful shapes, colors, and sizes. I will notice things I normally take for granted, like sunlight reflecting off someone's hair. I will think of all the little things I would miss if I were blind. After all, ‘the devil is in the details.’ It is often the minutest joys that are missed the most. Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, sip the drink, taste the fruit, and resign myself to the influences of each.’- Henry David Thoreau The sexy woman also appreciates the sense of touch. She savors how leaves, blankets and lotions feel against her skin? She takes notice of how many times during the day people touch her affectionately. As the old adage goes, ‘why waste time chasing dreams that have already come true?’ the sexy woman smells the roses. And the food. And the air. She will recognize the smells that make her feel good: a freshly cut lawn, the air right after it rains, a fresh pot of coffee. To adventure, she savours her food. She eats slowly. She will not just wolf down and drink greedily. She identifies flavors. She appreciates how they intermingle. She learns how to enjoy the subtlest of flavors.  29. She Stimulates Her Senses! The sexy woman stimulates her taste buds. She visits rare places, and samples various tastes. She will visit a Japanese Restaurant to enjoy Sushi. She will try foods she has never eaten. She will eat Vietnamese, Mediterranean, Indian, or the Filipino delicacy, balut. She will try making something new in the kitchen, some home roasted coffee, beer, and bread can be made inexpensively, plus she gets to consume the results! And when she eats, she eats slowly. This is just a more specific application of taking things more slowly; and it is something we do every day, so it deserves special attention. To be a sexy woman, I will stimulate my ears differently. I will try different music I have not tried before: Classical, New Age, Zouk, Rap, Mariachi, Country, and Afro-Blues. I will listen to a radio station I typically do not listen to. I do not have to like it at first, but if I keep an open mind, I will find it interesting. I will listen to more than music. I will listen when I think it is quiet, and I will discover it is not really all that quiet. I might hear the wind, leaves rustling, kids laughing. I will also stimulate my eyes in new ways. I will look at different art sites such as DeviantART. I will go to a cheap or free art gallery. And if I think it is bad art, it can still be stimulating and thought provoking. I will watch movies in genres that I normally do not partake in, such as scary, anime, documentaries, standup comedy. I will watch shows that I do not watch or that I often discriminate against, even though I have never watched them. Even if I still dislike it or find it comical, I will try it once or twice. I will try a soap opera; I will watch the Spanish channels; the religious channels; the Discovery Channel; the History channel and the Travel channel. I will remember to be open-minded about things I do not know about.  49. She Does Ridiculous Things! The sexy woman is also a crazy woman, a fun and wild woman who does ridiculous things. She will wear clothes which no one would ever wear otherwise. She will walk backwards through her whole house. She will play with magnets. It may seem like a child’s activity, but I will give it a try. If I never play video games, I will play them every once in a while. Sure it looks mindless and other adults may yell at their kids for doing so, but video games can stimulate a wide variety of brain activity. I will do everyday things, like cleaning up my room or using my cell phone, with a blindfold. I will rotate my own tires, and make a friend do it with me. They seem impossible at first, but they are easier than they first seem and could even be enjoyable and interesting. ‘It always seems impossible until it is done.’ Nelson Mandela said. Our attitude towards ourselves should be ‘to be satiable in learning’ and towards others ‘to be tireless in teaching.’-Mao Zedong. The sexy woman also takes unusual classes. I will attend First Aid training, I will learn a different language, Japanese, French, Arabic, Italian, etc.) Nelson Mandela said that ‘If I talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. I will browse Wikipedia or wikiHow and do things that I find there. I will join clubs based on things I have no knowledge of, such as a Scrabble Club, an Investment Club, Chess clubs, etc. To be a sexy woman, I will learn a programming language. I will learn How to Read 12 Digit UPC Barcodes. Nothing is as hard as anyone makes it out to be.  33. She is Mysterious! Yes, I will draw men to me because I am the mysterious, strong-but-silent types. When my best features are not obvious, but like a flower, they slowly open up, men will die for the opportunity to see me in full bloom. The men can see the beauty on the outside, but as the flower blooms, I give them a glimpse into an even deeper beauty. I am a sexy woman, I am the woman who turns around in the parking lot and gives him this smile he has not seen all night long, but knows in an instant he has to see again and again.  It is a coy ‘I know a secret’ kind of smile that lets him know there is more to me than meets the eye. And as a man, he wonders, ‘why do that when she is going? Without a number, where will I meet her again? MYSTERY! The sexy woman does not feel the need to share every single moment of her life story in the first five minutes of meeting. She is intrigue and fascination. She has an air of mystery in her-mystery is appealing and it keeps the ladies intrigued and fascinated by me. I have to bear in mind that predictability is boring so I need to have a few surprises in store to make her go back for more. After all, people want what they cannot have, and men are people. Confidence kills excitement. Be extremely mysterious, even to the point of formlessness and soundlessness. To be sexy, I will always keep him wondering. I will be a mystery. I will tease his imagination. I will not reveal everything about myself all at once. I will make sure I get him curious and intrigued about me as much as I can. That is going to keep him glued to me for as long as I like. Being sexy is more than just the physical and personality aspect of my life. Sexiness is my aura when I enter a room or interact with other people. Having a mysterious aura about me is truly sexy. It keeps other people guessing and curious. I do not really have to tweet every single thing that is happening in my life. In fact, nothing is more sexier than having to keep a secret or two that people will just get surprised on just how unpredictable I seem to be. (And vampire heroes these days are so in because their mysterious life is just so intriguing that almost all girls these days are having romantic fantasies about vampires.) Sexiness comes from within. It is something that is in I or it is not and it really does not have much to do with breasts or thighs or the pout of my lips. -Sophia Loren. The mystery of the sexy woman arouses imagination! Imagination is the source of creativity. The sexy woman makes the man imagine the next move, and this makes her look sexy. She knows how to keep secrets and leaves something to the imagination. This is a great help to keep the man wondering. Men enjoy a challenge. The sexy woman will take a rather provocative picture of herself with a digital camera, in sexy lingerie, or in a sexy position, or naked. She will then cut the picture into puzzle pieces and have the pieces sent a few at a time, via courier to my office while I am at work. By the end of the day, I will have received all the puzzle pieces and be dying to get home to her. Tip: I will give him the most revealing piece last. There is something to be said about what is left to the imagination, and being classy can be even sexier than what is exposed by wearing a halter top.  62. She Is Playful and Spontaneous The sexy woman knows how to have FUN… especially with men. She is a walking entertainment. She has a sense of humor and smiles and laughs at anything (including herself when appropriate). She sees the positive side of life and enjoys playing in it. She is the perfect complement to the sexy Alpha Male. And although she has no desire to be ‘caught’, her fun attitude that puts me at ease definitely makes her a ‘catch’. The sexy woman is very spontaneous. An adventurous and spontaneous woman who is not afraid to try new things or tread where few women dare to go is a woman worth pursuing. Adventure and spontaneity keep a relationship alive and going strong, and makes the chase challenging and reinvigorating to the man. She will do the housework naked. A sexy woman is playfully spontaneous, yet satisfying. She is open-minded. She makes and responds to new suggestions, always initiating a carefree, gentle tease. She is nevertheless completely attainable, and always delivers what she promises. A sexy woman enjoys finishing a game as much as she enjoyed started it, but she is endowed with such creative and physical energy that she can play the game forever, if the man wishes. She is not a creature of habit, but of habitual transition. She knows that when she monotonously and constantly caves into granting every last of a man's whimsical desires, she ceases to be challenging or sexy. 72. She Is Daring and Wild! The sexy woman has few boundaries, all unknown, even to her. She wears her sexiest panties and removes them during the meal, balls them up in her palm, and secretly passes them under the table. She mails him a pair of her sexiest panties. She brings him lingerie shopping with her, and lets him pick out his favorites for her to try on and opens the changing room door enough for him to look in and preview each outfit. She engages in phone sex and can have sex in all the most daring places. Sharing an interest with the male population scores a girl higher, for example, if a woman enjoys watching and discussing a baseball match or sipping from a can of beer she is likely to be rated higher sexually than if she enjoys watching ice-skating and drinking cocktails with fancy umbrellas. Fame and fortune do not usually come into the score; well-known actresses and singers being equally likely to be considered sexy as the girl next door or the chick down the road.  14. She is Unpredictable; She Loves Giving Surprises! “I am a girl. I run from guys that want to make me happy and fight for the ones that make me cry.” -Anonymous. The sexy woman loves giving surprises, and she knows that surprise is planned, even one year in advance. She plans surprises, a weekend getaway in a romantic bed-and-breakfast; a traditional delicacy of foreign cultures; a visit to the children’s home on the way from work. She surprises him by waking him up with breakfast in bed and a packed suitcase, asking him to go through it to make sure she did not forget anything important, because they are going away. She is more than a faint hearted man can take. She is complete. A vixen. And then she lets him get into the car and will not tell him where she is going-a complete surprise. Men often see a woman who is exciting as sexy as she has the ability to surprise and enthral with her vivacity and sheer enjoyment of life. I will invite my romantic partner to watch me bathe or shower. I will use slow, deliberate, sensual strokes to seduce my partner and draw in his attention to key areas of my body. The sexy woman plays hard to get, yet available. She is not too obvious in showing her interest in a guy. She will ignore him every now and then. But she is not so cold that the guy loses interest in her. She gives him space as a good option for both of them while she gets time to observe him; he gets time to ‘miss’ her. The sexy woman is a queen of surprise. She will join the man in the shower in the morning. And when the man wakes up, he will find her fully dressed, ready to be...UNDRESSSED for the morning glory! And when the man comes home, she will be waiting for him at the door. She will not let him get his clothes off, but will push him back against the door and initiate a quickie right then and there. She will welcome him home with candles, soft music, a bubble bath for two and massage oil. She is a princess, and when her man thinks about her, he hurries home, constantly thinking how to please her, so that she can be continuously sweet and sexy to him; his queen! However, the surprise, when done at fixed days or a fixed hour quickly becomes monotonous. This is a real problem when a man's life is so strongly controlled by work. Men have all kinds of fantasies: with a nurse, cowgirl, flight attendant, etc.  This is not the sexy woman’s style. Hers is original. It works out perfectly when the sexy woman behaves shamelessly once in a while – especially if she usually is not.  Seduction is the key to an exciting life. Sexy is seductive. The sexy woman is a seductress! Heavens bless her soul!  47. She is Challenging & Aggressive! The sexy woman has an aggression that gives her the ability to decide what and who she wants in this life. This challenging and aggressive spirit helps her make a move when she sees that she must. This aggression, which could also be ambition, helps her be decisive when necessary and be aware of what she wants and needs from life. This aggression makes a woman sexy because she will go for what she wants, stand for what she believes in, and fight for what she knows is right. The man will suspect he is dealing with an Alpha Female when he finds out I am ambitious. I work a ‘good job’, and actively volunteers at non-profits in my spare time, and I am going to school or I have a small business also on the side. The Ambitious Alpha Chick is actively pursuing a dream or goal and is unconcerned with the man making enough money to ‘provide for her’… she is building her own empire. The sexy woman is always prepared and ready, and this makes her be in control, challenging and aggressive, which men find very sexy! The sexy woman knows that if she wants to be able to seduce a man, she has to be prepared! She cleans her place, her legs are smooth, and she has condoms. The man sees and knows she is in control, which makes a woman very very very sexy! What man would not be flattered to be seduced by a sexy woman? The sexy woman, just like other women, requires a certain amount of healthy affection and attention to survive. However, she needs to man to keep up a lot of the courting behavior that got him going in the first place. Things like holding hands, occasional back-rubs, and this includes a certain (small) number of ‘I Love I’s. But she does not appreciate the Nice Guy approach, who thinks that when more they her ‘I love I’, the better off they will be. These are just words, and prove nothing to her. The sexy woman operates by the rule, ‘I will not just tell me; show me’. The sexy woman appreciates the ‘Control Principle’. That, ‘The one who loves the least controls the relationship’ Control is what humans seek to have to feel a sense of security. To the degree that we feel in control, we feel secure and self-confident. To the degree that we feel out of control, we feel insecure and no confidence. In a relationship, the one who feels most out of control is usually more infatuated with the other. Control (perceived or real) is a very strong influence over the amount of attraction we feel toward someone else, and how they feel about us. She does not look at the relationship like a power struggle; however, she knows, ‘the only thing I can control in a relationship is my own thinking and behavior.’ The sexy woman does this to draw more men into her life, and to gain the control she needs over her relationships.  41. She Is A Networker! The sexy woman knows that she is a product of the people she meets, and the books she reads. She lives by the creed and advise of Oprah Winfrey, the richest black woman on earth, Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. Today, I will keep away from people who try to belittle my ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make me feel that I, too, can become great. The sexy woman is a networker. She networks. She knows, ‘networking is building relationships before I need them.’ What better way to stay up-to-date with the latest trends and developments in my profession than to join the professional association which is specific to the role she is in? She knows that these associations will maximize her professional development and will not only inform her, but also provide networking opportunities and job listings. After all, ‘birds of a feather flock together.’ And ‘Iron sharpens iron’, The sexy woman knows that networking is, at its core, relationship-building. She remembers the great saying, ‘Great networkers are not born, they are created.’ She knows that networks are very vital, indeed, she appreciates, ‘my network is my net-worth.’ The sexy woman understands and lives by the law of relationships. Networkers do not seek to talk to strangers. They focus on their current relationships, their CCs (Clients & Colleagues) & FFs (Family & Friends). Great networkers strengthen and use their existing relationships to connect to strangers. This is the reinstated law of 2 degrees; that anyone I need to know is already known to someone I know. Hence, to meet a third party stranger, I need to talk to my second party, a relationship. The sexy woman knows that when she is around her fellow professionals, she will learn to be like them, and to build myself. After all, ‘a man is as good as his company’, The sexy woman is a smart networker, who works at creating relationships with spheres of influence; they know that a positive word about them from one of these key players carries a lot of weight and influence. Bill Gates has spoken of a trilogy of trust – ‘the trust that one person has in another, that is then passed on to the third party.’ The sexy woman knows the blue-chip professionals with the largest private practices; the top notch professionals working with the government; the celebrated specialists in my area. I will get to know the most honored personalities in my field; the most respected; the most influential; the most cosmopolitan and international practitioners, and their areas of specialization. I will plan to meet the most celebrated professionals in my field. Today, I will learn about the leading authors in my field. If I market myself well, I will achieve success. Master networkers watch what to my successful networkers do, and then do the same. That is how they become masters at what they do. ‘The greatest education in the world is watching the masters at work.’ said Michael Jackson.  12. She Offers No Second Chances The sexy woman knows the perfect cure for cheating: no second chances, period. Men who cheat on women do so only for one of two reasons: it was already over, and she did not know it (which means she gave in and became a Nice Guy – aka: an insecure, supplicating wimp – along the way)’or she has a severe character flaw (promiscuity, low self-esteem, etc.) that he needs to get away from. Whatever the reason, she is ever cheated on, her rule is, ‘never return to the relationship.’ The damage is done, and she will only be caught in a horrible, soul-twisting spiral of fear and jealousy. She gets back out in circulation and finds another man that she can start clean with. There are about 2.5 billion women out there, by the way. No Second Chances. Period. After all, the sexy woman knows that every relationship ends up one of two ways: breakup, or marriage. She knows that either she will be in a relationship that ends, or she will end during the relationship. The sexy woman knows to stop trying to hold onto the past. She knows she cannot start the next chapter of her life if she keeps re-reading her last one. I cannot start the next chapter of my life if a keep re-reading the also one. I need to learn to move on. Sexy women move on. Whatever the situation, the sexy woman has the strength and resolve to demonstrate her independence. A sexy woman knows that a relationship will bring out the best and worst in her, and very often we end them not because of the other person but because she is too uncomfortable with herself and the things she must face about herself to make it work. To her, emotional and physical abuses are black-and-white, and she does not tolerate either, absolutely none. The sexy woman knows that even ‘If two people love each other, but they just can’t seem to get it together, they will never get to the point of enough is enough?’ And the answer is ‘cut my losses and move on.’ The sexy woman also knows that It is always better to be the one breaking up than the one being dumped. She does not find it very difficult to break up with someone; she has no fear of loss. The sexy woman does not falsely imagine that this is the only person available, and the pain of going back into the singles world prove too much. This is totally irrational. However, the sexy woman does not break up simply because she wonders about the greener grass. She knows that there is no green grass; all grass has been mowed, too. But when she has broken up, that is it; she does not try to do the rehab sex routine with him. She does not let a lust situation revert into a relationship again. The emotional entanglements are too deep, so she does not try going back to the well. The sexy woman will recharge and rejuvenate instead of slipping into the biggest trap of the recently dumped – rebounding.  69. She is Exciting, Talented and Passionate! When I am sexy, I am so thrilled with life that I radiate excitement and energy! Men want to be taken away from their problems; they want women who take them away from their problems. I should not BE the problem. I can do this by loving myself first. Loving myself will not only seduce a man, it will be attractive to everyone I meet! Self-love gives off a sexy vibe; so to be a sexy woman I will fall in love with myself and my life first, and then I will be a fun woman who men want to be around. There is a little secret about attraction: Learning how to love myself is the foundation of any love relationship. If I do not love me, I cannot love anyone else. Period! To say 'I love you' one must first be able to say the 'I'.’-Anonymous. The way to go about turning the attention of a man from a boy friend into a lover is for the woman to excite him. And the way I go about doing this is by becoming exciting myself. To be exciting, I need to do things I am passionate about, things that I love, things that I am passionate about, things that make me feel alive. I need to communicate to him that I have an exciting life. I do not need to wait for time to pass, I just start letting her know. Even if I am not yet living the exciting life I want, I need to let her think in her mind that I am living this exciting life. Passion is very important. When a woman is passionate about her job or career, this is sexy and makes her attractive to men. The biggest turn on for men is when a woman is into something more than him. This attracts them because they wonder what it is that can be taking the attention away from them. In essence this will make them chase a woman more. Passion defines a woman's beauty. Passion for the things she believes in, passion for the things she loves, and passion for scoop of ice cream or two at the end of the day. Whatever I have passion for; I need to let it be known. The sexy woman is passionate. Passion is attractive and passion is beautiful. Passion can make or break it for some guys; for most guys. I will remember that my passion does not have to be overbearing or exaggerative. I just need to have passion. Even if it is for the tiniest little thing, it is still passion, and its presence will make a big difference, since it will make me sexy. The sexy woman is a talented, sensual siren. ‘Each man has his own vocation; his talent is his call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him.’ wrote Ralph Waldo Emerson. She hones her gifts and presents them to the man through the five senses: sight, sound, taste, touch and smell. She ignites the hormonal and chemical combustion of both his animalistic drives and rational thinking patterns, until he naturally associates random sensory stimulation with cravings for her. Her talent is God’s gift top her, and when she uses it, that is her gift back to God. And because she exploits her gift, she is a natural!  73. She Loves Sex! The sexy woman, just like madam Constance in D.H. Lawrence’s Lady Chatterley’s Lover, knows, ‘she cannot live with the mind alone; she must also be alive physically.’ The sexy woman loves sex, because she knows that sex is more than a source of enjoyment, but that sex is a wholesome experience, and healthy at that. The sexy woman knows that the health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. She knows that good sex offers innumerable health benefits and more. The sexy woman knows that when sex is great, the whole relationship is great. Indeed, a man can withstand a nagging woman who is giving in sex; a busy woman who is giving in sex; an obnoxious woman who is giving in sex. The sexy woman knows that for a relationship to fail, or succeed, there are three ingredients: money, communication, and sex; and of all the above, sex is the greatest equalizer. The old gospel is appropriate: How To Satisfy A Woman Every Time: Caress, praise, pamper, relish, savour, massage, fix things, empathise, serenade, compliment, support, feed, soothe, tantalise, humour, placate, stimulate, stroke, console, hug, ignore fat bits, cuddle, excite, pacify, protect, phone, anticipate, smooch, nuzzle, forgive, accessorise, entertain, charm, carry for, oblige, fascinate, attend to, trust, defend, clothe, brag about, sanctify, acknowledge, spoil, embrace, die for, dream of, tease, gratify, squeeze, indulge, idolise, worship. How to Satisfy A Man Every Time: Arrive naked. The sexy woman understands stimulation of desire, types of embraces, caressing and kisses, marking with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation (positions), slapping by hand and corresponding moaning, virile behavior in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes and conclusions to the game of love. And after sex, when she is high and riding on hormones and is ready to take on the world; and she wants to touch, cuddle and talk; and the man, if he hasn't already fallen asleep, sometimes withdraws by getting up and 'doing something' such as changing a light bulb or making coffee, she will tell him, ‘hey baby, I want those strong arms of yours around me.’ A man needs to feel in control of himself at all times and, during orgasm, he temporarily loses control. Getting up and doing something allows him to regain that command. The sexy woman understands, and tells him something good for his ego; and ends up enjoying the cuddling. She understands and practices the ‘sutra’ of ‘kama’. ‘The sexy woman is a kamasutra.’ The sexy woman knows that sex relieves stress. She knows that ejaculation calms her man and sends happy chemicals to his brain. She also knows that absorbing semen works as a natural antidepressant and helps get rid of stress. She knows that depressed and highly stressed individuals tend to have less sex. It is a trap! Sexy women do not fall into it. I should not into it. But sex is wonderful. It is to be enjoyed. The ability to express my love physically for another human being is an incredible gift. Whatever my sexuality, homosexual or straight, lesbian or gay, Love is love is love. I will express it. In the East, Asia and China, they have retained the understanding of the power of sexual energy over thousands of years and this knowledge has been practised. In the Eastern religions, the conscious creation and stimulation of sexual energy is known as Tantra. Sexual intercourse is seen, quite rightly, as the union and balance of the male and female, the yang (male) and yin (female). The idea of Tantric sex is to stimulate the sexual energy held in the base of the spine. In Tantra the participants control and delay orgasm to transform the basic sexual desire from its original state (ching) into the higher energy (ch’i) and finally its highest expression (shen). However, the sexual energy is just that, energy, and can be used to create or destroy. The Satanists use sex as a fundamental part of their ritual so they can tap this sexual, kundalini force, for their horrendous purposes. But it can equally be used to set us free and hence the (religious) obsession with making sex into a dirty, immoral, guiltridden experience which suppresses or imbalances the energy and delinks the person from their cosmic levels of self must be dispensed with by all sexy women. As Bob Marley said, ‘emancipate yourself from mental slavery, non but ourselves can free our minds.’ The sexy woman also knows that sex can also help protect the pearly whites and give her better teeth. The minerals in semen, such as zinc and calcium, have been proven to slow tooth decay. Selenium, an ingredient found in semen, also serves in protection against cancer. The sexy woman knows that sex improves sense of smell. Sex causes a surge of hormone prolactin which fires new neurons in the brain’s olfactory bulb, making me to have a heightened sense of smell. In fact, after sex all my sensitivities are heightened, including activating my taste buds. Sexy women know this, and now I do too. The sexy woman knows that sex boosts immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, boosting the immune system and fighting off disease. Sex leads to increased immunity. Sex is practically a cure for the common cold. Having sex stimulates those wonderful pleasure endorphins as well as antibodies to protect me from getting the flu or a cold. Sex can relieve a stuffy nose; it is a natural antihistamine. It also helps to combat hay fever and asthma. The sexy woman knows that sex relieves pain. The orgasm is one of the best painkillers ever created. It releases natural chemicals like endorphins in the body, both before, during and immediately after climax. These endorphins have a similar chemical structure to morphine. After orgasm, a female gets a jolt of natural oxytocin which in turn releases endorphins. This natural painkiller can help alleviate arthritis pain or lessen cramps. If I have a headache, then I can have sex for temporary headache relief. To be a sexy woman, having a headache should be an excuse to have sex right away to cure me. The sexy woman knows that sex improves reproductive health. The sexy woman knows that having sex helps her reproductive health. The more sex she has, the more hormones she will produce that are responsible for increased sexual desire, and her health. More lovemaking increases her levels of estrogen, which protects against osteoporosis and Alzheimer’s. Sex can also help prevent endometriosis in women. Sexy women have sex at least once a week, and have more regular menstrual cycles than those who frolic under the sheets less frequently. All this sex helps promote fertility in women by regulating menstrual patterns. The Swahili people of East Afrika are right, “One who hides private parts wont get a child. “ Further, sex triggers the onset of labor when she is at term. Semen in her system may help with a speedy delivery. Yes, sex also helps women to tolerate a natural, drug-free birth. The sexy woman knows that sex causes weight loss, boosts cardiovascular health. The sexy woman knows that wild sex can burn off as much as 700 calories while less vigorous love making burns at least 200 calories. Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, I could drop a pound in 21 hour-long sessions. It is surely the best way to control or lose weight. Passion can protect the heart. Lovemaking improves strength, flexibility, and muscle tone. It might even protect against strokes. Sex is a great mode of exercise, and it takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well. The sexy woman knows that sex gives better bladder control. Sex strengthens the pelvic floor muscles that control the flow of urine. Kegel exercises occur naturally during sex, giving women better bladder control. Sex strengthens pelvic floor muscles. The Baganda women of Uganda have for long done the Kegel exercise, both for pleasure and for health reasons. It strengthens the area and helps to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life. To do a basic Kegel exercise, I will tighten the muscles of my pelvic floor, as if I am trying to stop the flow of urine. I will count to three, then release; and then do it again, over and over, whenever I feel like it. The sexy woman knows that cuts risk of breast cancer. Sex can help reduce the risk of breast cancer for women who have never given birth. If a female increases the frequency of sex, she decreases the risks of breast cancer. The sexy woman knows that sex enhances bonding. Whereas for most animals sex is for procreation, for the intelligent animals, who include bonobos, dolphins, chimpanzees, and of course, humans, cooperative behavior enhances social ties and bonding. Sex reinforces intimate social bonds and hence strengthens and founds social structures. The resulting cooperation encourages collective tasks that promote the survival of each member of the group. Sexual intimacy, as well as orgasms, increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, also known as ‘the love hormone’, which helps people bond and build trust. Frequent and powerful orgasms increase the level of the orgasm hormone, oxytocin. The oxytocin level is linked to the personality, passion, social skills and Emotional Quotient (EQ), all of which affects career, marriage, emotions and social life. Orgasms are very beneficial for sexual health because they empower our pituitary (brain function) and can alleviate depression altogether. The sexy woman knows that sex enhances sleep. The oxytocin released during orgasm promotes sleep. And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. To be a sexy woman, I will have sex, if only to sleep better. The sexy woman knows that sex reduces aging. Sex helps me look between four and seven years younger. So, on top of an apple a day, or a banana for three days, I will also just have sex. To feel healthier, look younger, and live longer, an orgasm or two a week is an effective - and certainly enjoyable - remedy. Indeed, sexual activity is a very important thing to do. Human beings were really meant to do this. Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if I am feeling suddenly more generous toward my partner than usual, I may credit the love hormone. Further, the sexy woman knows that men, like most male mammals, is naturally promiscuous, and without satisfaction and social rules, would have sex anywhere, and everywhere at the earliest opportunity. The old saying is on point: “Some men think monogamy is what furniture is made out of.” Indeed, the sexy woman knows that in the religion on “men”, god is found between the thighs of a woman. This is because males, and man’s sex drive, during his evolution, had to have sex under almost any conditions, such as in the presence of potential threatening enemies, or in any place where a sexual opportunity presented itself. A man needed to be able to ejaculate as often as possible in the shortest space of time to avoid being caught by predators or enemies. He also needed to spread his seed as far afield and as often as possible. Overall, most men have a higher sex drive than most women. She will often accuse him of 'using' her. It's not until her late 30s that a woman's sex drive matches a man's, and often surpasses it. Her drive is nature's way of pushing her into last minute childbearing urges before the onset of menopause. Without a doubt, When it comes to sex, women need a reason; men need a place. The sexy woman needs to fulfil this need, while also enjoying herself. The sexy woman remembers what Ms. cunt told the Mr. dick, ‘listen brother, everything is about sex. And Mr. dick responded, No! not just sex, grrrrrreat sex. The sexy woman loves, and gives great sex. To give great sex, the sexy woman prepares before sex. She wears sexy lingerie and panties, and not torn old clothes to bed. She wears sweet smelling perfumes and does not come to bed smelling of herself, her sweat, or hand and body lotion. However, as with most forms of sexual interaction, individuals are at risk for contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Thus, it is in my interest to have sex, SAFELY!  … so, am i sexy? Ojijo Seventy-7 Moves of a Sexy Woman! 275 276