The Everything Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome: The sound advice and reliable answers you need to help your child succeed
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- Get a diagnosis and understand the results
- Identify triggers that can lead to sensory overload
- Recognize symptoms of meltdowns and work to prevent them
- Educate family and friends about Asperger's
- Discover support groups for themselves and their child
Now revised and updated, this new edition includes information on educational concerns and social interactions. This is the only resource you need to help your child overcome the obstacles of Asperger's and find success--and happiness.
William Stillman
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The Everything Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome - William Stillman
THE
EVERYTHING®
PARENT'S GUIDE TO
CHILDREN WITH
ASPERGER'S
SYNDROME
2ND EDITION
The sound advice and reliable answers
you need to help your child succeed
William Stillman
Foreword by Nick Dubin, PsyD
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THE EVERYTHING® PARENT'S GUIDE TO CHILDREN WITH ASPERGER'S SYNDROME 2ND EDITION
Dear Reader,
When I was little, I loved The Wizard of Oz more than anything. I would endlessly recite related facts or draw my favorite characters over and over. However, as I grew, my passion remained constant while the interests of my peers changed. As you can imagine, this led to a number of social conflicts and challenges.
When I was growing up, there was no such term as Asperger's Syndrome,
at least not that anyone actively applied to my way of being. Fortunately, that has changed and today's parents desire information about Asperger's Syndrome more than ever before.
The Everything® Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome, 2nd Edition is a fresh, basic introduction for parents of children newly diagnosed with Asperger's.
I am grateful to many parents, kids, educators, and caregivers who have validated the contents of this book — including more than a few really cool little boys as equally passionate about The Wizard of Oz as I was!
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Acknowledgments
I am grateful for the generosity and enthusiasm of the following people who helped make The Everything® Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome, 2nd Edition possible: Debra Andreas; Michael John Carley; June Clark, literary agent extraordinaire; Dr. Nick Dubin; Dr. Michael Glew; Bill Kaiser, police training specialist, Pennsylvania State Police Academy; Trieste Kennedy; Chris Khumprakob; Linda McCormick; Patrick Moore; Angela Uliana-Murphy, Esquire; Jim Murphy; Bernie Pippin; Gina Rattle; Susan Rockwood; Noel Schaefer; Bonnie Schaefer; Richard Shull; Mark Sachnik; Dr. Barney Vincelette; Stephen Shore; and Barbara Scott-Mazza.
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Asperger's Syndrome: the natural way by which some perceive the world from an alternate perspective and logic, creating misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and social challenges when one attempts to assimilate with the world at large.
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
1. Defining Asperger's Syndrome
Background and History
On the Autism Spectrum
Asperger's Defined
Asperger's and Autistic-Like Commonalities
Prevalence and Misdiagnosis
Goodbye to Asperger's?
2. Positive Perspectives
We're All More Alike
Similar Habits
Confronting Negative Feelings
Offering Encouragement and Support
Positive Philosophies
Comfort Zones
3. Seeking Diagnosis
Is a Diagnosis Necessary?
Making the Decision
Local Resources for Diagnosis
Intervention
Disclosure and Self-Understanding
4. Discipline
Your Approach to Discipline
Setting Rules
Communicating Expectations
Seeing Your Child's Point of View
Knowing When to Discipline
Meltdowns
5. Communication
How Would You Feel?
Communicating Visually
Extra Processing Time
Eye Contact
Creating Trust
Helping Your Child Crack the Social Code
Texting — A Good Thing?
Additional Social Strategies
6. Physical Health
Recognizing Pain
Allergies
Gastrointestinal Issues
Why Does Pain Go Unreported?
Stories for Reporting Pain
7. Mental Health
Prevention, Not Intervention
Depression
Bipolar Disorder
Anxiety and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Ways to Approach Mental Health
Fostering Mental Health Self-Advocacy
8. Passions
Identifying and Valuing Personal Passions
How Others Perceive Passions
Passions and Relationship Building
Passions as Bridges to Learning
Passions as Bridges to Employment
When Is a Passion an OCD?
9. Family Dynamics
Parents with Asperger's
Recognizing Asperger's in You or Your Spouse
Sibling Relationships
Extended Family
Your Community
10. Fostering Relationships
Your Child's Interactions
The Dance of Reciprocal Flow
Conversational Bag of Tricks
Opportunities for Bonding
Finding Allies
Is It Okay to Be Alone?
11. Educational Programming
Your Child's School Experience
Individuals with Disabilities Education Act
Special Education
Creating the Individualized Education Program
Resolving Disagreements
Alternative Education Programs
12. School-Related Issues
The School Day
How Your Child Learns
Environmental Issues
Homework
Bullying
Unstructured School Environments
13. Extracurricular Activities
Athletic Options
Playing on a Team
Being a Good Sport
School-Sponsored Activities
Summer Camp
14. Significant Transitions and Change
Attending a New School
Transition to New Home
Transition to College
Handling Divorce
Loss of Loved Ones
Follow-up Support
15. Traveling and Vacations
Fun Vacations
A Role in Planning
Vacation Anxieties
Flying
Amusement Parks
16. Sexuality
The Birds and the Bees
Masturbation
Infatuation
Dating
Same-Sex Attraction
17. Strategies of Lifelong Value
Personal Schedules
The Touchstone
The Social Out
Acting and Music
Written Narratives
Spirituality
18. Employment
Identifying Job Interests
Part-Time and After-School Work
Applying for the Job
The Job Interview
If Your Child Doesn't Get the Job
On-the-Job Issues
Emerging Employment Models
19. Transitioning to Adulthood
Planning for the Future
The Person-Centered Planning Process
Independent Living
Learning New Responsibilities
Don't Get Taken Advantage Of
20. Law Enforcement
Understanding Justice
Misunderstandings
Calling the Police
21. The Rewards of Being an Asperger's Parent
What Have You Learned?
The Desire to Give Back
Asperger's and the World
The Neurodiversity Movement
The Future
Appendix A
Further Reading
Appendix B
Website Resources
Foreword
The book you hold in your hands is perhaps the most comprehensive book on Asperger's Syndrome ever written. But it's much more than just an incredibly informative book. It's a gift. By the time you are finished reading this book, you will have more insights into the heart and soul of your unique and sensitive child with Asperger's Syndrome than you would be able to find anywhere else in print. William Stillman effortlessly bridges the divide between the autistic perspective and those who are not on the autism spectrum. One of the ways he does this is by showing us that we who make up the body of humanity are more alike than we are different. Everyone has a little bit of Asperger's in them; it's just a matter of degree. By getting in touch with the Aspergergian
side of yourself as a parent, you will more readily be able to identify with your child's Asperger's Syndrome (this isn't to imply all parents reading this book have Asperger's Syndrome).
Your child with Asperger's Syndrome is an exquisitely sensitive human being. He or she has most likely been given the gifts of keen intelligence, innate sensitivity, and a nonconformist nature. Your child has struggled making friends because of his or her differences in emotional regulation, information processing, heightened sensory sensitivities, and difficulty with processing nonverbal cues. Most likely, you have noticed these differences in your child for many years but haven't been able to put a name to it, until very recently. The process of getting a diagnosis related to the word autism
can admittedly be very intimidating and scary but at the same time, it can be relieving to know that there is actually a name
that fits the conglomerate of traits your child has. Up until now, you may have felt as if you were walking blindly through the forest without a map or compass to help guide you every step of the way. That map
is contained within the pages of this book. In The Everything® Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome, 2nd Edition, William Stillman walks you through practically every imaginable scenario and issue you'll face as a parent of an Asperger's child. His useful, practical, and assessable strategies are based upon over twenty years as an in-demand autism consultant as well as being an individual with Asperger's Syndrome himself. It is almost as if by reading the information put forth in this book, you have hired Mr. Stillman for many consultative sessions!
The reason William Stillman is unique is because of his strength-based approach toward parenting a child with Asperger's Syndrome. While other books might focus on what a child can't do, Stillman focuses on what your child is already capable of and then he gives you strategies to help your child build upon those existing strengths. He also recognizes each individual with Asperger's as unique and espouses the opposite of a cookie-cutter philosophy to parenting.
In short, a book of wisdom, supportive guidance, insights, and practical strategies awaits you.
— Nick Dubin, PsyD
Introduction
Long ago and far away, kids who drew detailed diagrams of spacecraft, created intricate models of the human digestive system, spent all their free time reading about medieval cathedrals, or enjoyed reciting complex dinosaur names — and preferred those isolated activities over playtime with peers — were labeled. The labels were a reflection of a so-called socially inappropriate desire to be absorbed with things, instead of people. Words often used to describe such kids may have included gifted, moody, antisocial, irritable, obsessed, geek, brainiac, or even stoic. They may have been thought of as outsiders, with no or few friends. As adults, they may have been considered odd and eccentric, loners or hermits.
Fortunately, today we are shifting our perception of what we now know to be Asperger's Syndrome. We are learning more about Asperger's as a milder cousin
on the autism spectrum. (Some equate Asperger's and the phrase high-functioning autism.
) We are accepting Asperger's as a legitimate framework to describe a unique experience. Slowly but surely, we are moving beyond stereotypes in our collective understanding of children with Asperger's. We are recognizing their different ways of thinking, different ways of perceiving the world, and different ways of being. As we grow in our sensitivity and understanding, we are better able to support and celebrate the child with Asperger's Syndrome. Instead of labeling a child as obsessed,
we may now praise her giftedness and balance her needs to find a social niche.
We are learning more and more about autism all the time, but we're only just beginning to scratch the surface of Asperger's Syndrome. Asperger's is still a very new consideration for parents and a new diagnosis for many prescribing doctors. There is much to explore on this broad learning curve: social differences, mental health, sensory sensitivities, and coping strategies that will be of lifelong value. Parents may become overwhelmed with clinical information that reinforces their child's perceived deficits — the things they are not expected to be able to do in life. Other areas that may prompt confusion include options regarding learning and educational placement, training and programming, and therapies and techniques. Well-intentioned neighbors and family members may offer their perspectives based on what they've heard or read, whether it has any factual basis or not. Considerations for a child's future living arrangements, adult relationships, and viable vocations may create family and marital stress.
Throughout this journey, it will be important for parents to remain grounded in one thought: We are all more alike than different. Understanding the child with Asperger's Syndrome is a learning opportunity for parents, siblings, and extended family.
When we foster an appreciation of the unique ways we all participate in the world, we are poised to better value those with Asperger's. When we actively project new and positive ways of supporting the child with Asperger's, she will respond in equally positive ways. The result is that a mutual relationship is strengthened tenfold, and a ripple effect occurs.
The Everything® Parent's Guide to Children with Asperger's Syndrome, 2nd Edition aids parents in making balanced, informed choices about their child and her future. Ideally, this journey is a partnership between parent and child in decision-making and education about Asperger's Syndrome. More than ever, a path of opportunity lies before parents of children with Asperger's Syndrome.
CHAPTER 1
Defining Asperger's Syndrome
Although first defined nearly seventy years ago, Asperger's Syndrome has become an accepted diagnosis on the autism spectrum only in modern times. Asperger's is defined by a series of clinical symptoms that may describe a child's behavior or way of being. Since the early 1990s, the syndrome has slowly but increasingly been identified by pediatric psychiatrists, psychologists, and other physicians. It is useful to understand the background and clinical definition of the term Asperger's Syndrome.
Background and History
Asperger's Syndrome was first formally defined in 1944 by Hans Asperger, an Austrian pediatrician. Asperger studied social interactions, communication, and behavior in children with different ways of being. In 1943, he studied a group of children, mostly boys, who had difficulty interacting in socially acceptable ways. The children appeared intrinsic or self-centered — not necessarily selfish, but rather they preferred to keep to themselves. Another common characteristic was that they were not physically adept and were rather uncoordinated. Most experienced no cognitive delays and were, in fact, quite articulate, with a strong command of vocabulary. The children engaged in repetitive physical actions, or were fascinated with nuances of timetables or the mechanics of certain objects such as clocks.
Asperger published his findings in a paper titled Autistic Psychopathy.
By today's standards, the title is alarming and disrespectful but, in using the word psychopathy,
Asperger did not intend to describe mentally ill, violent behavior; he was using the clinically acceptable jargon of the day. Asperger's findings were the first documented collection of traits now used to diagnose Asperger's Syndrome.
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Hans Asperger's findings were published nearly simultaneously with the research of Leo Kanner, another doctor who, in 1943, first distinguished the traits of autism. The two physicians were unknown to one another. Because Asperger's paper was published in German and Kanner's in English, Kanner's research received broader distribution and was subsequently popularized. Hans Asperger passed away in 1980 before his research was universally applied.
Unknown to Asperger, a psychiatrist named Leo Kanner was conducting similar research at Johns Hopkins University at about the same time. In 1943, Kanner chose the word autism
(from the Greek word autos, or self
) to describe a group of children who shared like but stereotyped personality traits, engaged in solitary actions, and who struggled with expressing communication that was effective, reliable, and understandable. In postwar Austria, Asperger's paper languished while Kanner's research received recognition.
On the Autism Spectrum
Despite the growing recognition of autism as an acceptable diagnosis during the 1950s and 1960s, Hans Asperger's research went largely unnoticed. Still, there were individuals who experienced autistic-like symptoms but did not have the cognitive differences usually found in those with autism. At the time, such individuals were diagnosed with mental illness or nervous anxiety. Some were institutionalized or imprisoned because of their odd behavior or because they were gullible and easily manipulated into making poor or dangerous choices.
Refrigerator Mother Theory
A popular theory to explain the alleged distance felt between parents, mothers in particular, and their children with autism was similarly applied to those with autistic-like symptoms. It was called refrigerator mother theory,
which referred to the supposed aloofness or indifference shown by mothers unable to connect with their children. This theory reinforced the ridiculous notion that mothers deliberately induced Asperger's in their children. In fact, Asperger's Syndrome is no one's fault.
Genetics
Some recent theories being researched to explain the prevalence of autism and Asperger's Syndrome include genetics, environmental factors (pregnant mothers' exposure to or ingestion of chemical elements), or children's immune system reactions to certain childhood vaccinations. There is currently no prenatal or other biological exam to test for Asperger's Syndrome.
It wasn't until 1981 that British psychiatrist Lorna Wing revived Hans Asperger's findings in a research paper of her own. This eventually led to the reclassification of autistic experiences in the clinical document titled Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (or, as it is more commonly referred to, DSM).
Asperger's Defined
The DSM is published in the United States by the American Psychiatric Association. As of this writing, its fourth edition, published in 1994, is still in effect but a new revision is scheduled for 2013 publication. The 1994 version was the first edition of the DSM to formally recognize Asperger's Syndrome, which was categorized under the general heading of pervasive developmental disorders (PDD). In addition to Asperger's, there are several other diagnoses that fall under the PDD heading. These are:
Autistic disorder (known as autism)
Rett disorder (or Rett Syndrome)
Childhood disintegrative disorder
Asperger's disorder (known as Asperger's Syndrome)
Pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified (or PDD-NOS)
These are all subcategories of the PDD diagnosis. At present, these experiences are collectively grouped under the PDD heading because of the similarities of symptoms related to challenges in communication, social interaction, and so-called stereotyped behaviors, interests, and activities. Autism is the most prevalent of these experiences, more common than Down syndrome or childhood cancer. Rett disorder is usually found in girls before the age of four. Childhood disintegrative disorder affects children before the age of ten. In both circumstances, and for unknown reasons, children experience a loss of previously acquired social skills, language, motor skills, play, and self-care. The category pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified (PDD-NOS) is used when a child demonstrates autistic-like symptoms but misses meeting the criteria for the other diagnoses.
Some clinicians consider the term high-functioning autism
(HFA) synonymous with Asperger's Syndrome, but the generally accepted distinction is the presence of a speech delay in the former experience, which is absent in classic Asperger's. The DSM does not presently define HFA, so it may or may not apply to a child with Asperger's. It may also be used to describe the child who demonstrates many skills yet still falls within the PDD-NOS range of diagnosis.
PDD-NOS may be used by a physician unaccustomed to diagnosing Asperger's, or it may be used if a doctor wishes to be cautious, to wait and see
as a child grows and develops. Sometimes, when the PDD-NOS diagnosis is revisited, a child has matured into an official Asperger's diagnosis. However, the DSM is a dynamic document, and as the psychiatric field grows and becomes more knowledgeable, reorganization of Asperger's and autistic experiences is inevitable in future, revised editions.
illustration Essential
Asperger's Syndrome is now being diagnosed in children as young as three. Little is known about Asperger's at present. There is no single known cause, although there are many theories. It is a neurological condition that primarily creates challenges in understanding social interactions. Asperger's is not a disease or chronic mental illness. It is a natural, lifelong experience.
Clinical Criteria
Asperger's Syndrome is currently grouped under the diagnostic umbrella
heading pervasive developmental disorders, along with other disorders with similar symptoms. As currently defined by the DSM, a child with Asperger's differs from the child with autism because of the following traits:
No clinically significant delays in language
No clinically significant delays in cognitive development
No clinically significant delays in development of age-appropriate self-help skills
No clinically significant delays in adaptive behavior (other than social interaction)
No clinically significant delays in curiosity about the environment in childhood
To qualify for an Asperger's Syndrome diagnosis, a child must demonstrate impairment in social interaction, shown by at least two of the following:
Impairment in the use of nonverbal behaviors (such as eye contact, facial expressions, and gestures) during social interaction
Lack of development of relationships with peers
Failure to seek to share enjoyment, interests, or achievements with other people (for instance, by not showing objects of interest to others)
Failure to reciprocate emotions or social gestures
The child should also demonstrate restrictive repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behaviors, interests, and activities,
shown by at least one of the following:
Unusually intense preoccupation with one or more stereo-typed interests
Obsessively following specific, nonfunctional routines or rituals
Repeated motions, such as hand or finger flapping or twisting
Unusual preoccupation with parts of objects
To qualify as characteristics of Asperger's, these traits must be significant enough to cause great challenges for the child in social, occupational, and other important areas of daily living. Although, increasingly, some children with Asperger's have been diagnosed as young as three, the diagnosis is most often made from age six and up.
These areas and others will be gently and respectfully demystified in the contents of this book. The word disorder
may not seem like a family-friendly way to describe your child's personal Asperger's Syndrome experience, but it is currently clinical short-hand
to summarize it. Please do not be hurt, confused, or upset by this technical jargon. Outside of a doctor's office, you may wish to use the word difference
or the phrase different way of being
when you feel the need to describe your child's experience, if at all. Your child's physician, educators, or school psychologist may be able to recommend literature in addition to the DSM.
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The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual catalogs a wide range of mental health and related experiences. It is the foremost reference guide used by psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, mental health professionals, therapists, counselors, and nurses, to name a few. It provides a framework to diagnose someone's experience according to symptoms. The first edition was originally published in 1952.
Asperger's and Autistic-Like Commonalities
Having just reviewed the clinical criteria for the diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, you may be filled with many questions and concerns. Some of what was described may match what you know to be true of your child. But you might be surprised to see that other areas weren't included. What about the child who screams and covers her ears when an ambulance goes by, blaring its siren? Or the child who cannot tolerate the taste of Jell-O or pudding in her mouth? These are called sensory sensitivities, a commonality shared with people with autism but not defined by the DSM as clinical criteria.
Your child may vibrate at a different frequency
than most others. That is, she may be described as exquisitely sensitive.
Because of this, her entire nervous system — her senses and emotions — may be routinely affected by stimulation others filter out naturally.
Many children with Asperger's share some common sensitivities with people with autism. The most common sensory sensitivities are:
Auditory (including intolerable noise or frequency levels)
Smell and taste
Visual
Touch
Auditory Sensitivity
The child with exquisitely sensitive hearing may cry and recoil from a variety of sounds. She reacts in this way because in a very real sense, she is physically hurting from the intensity of the noise. The most offensive sounds are those that are not only very loud and startling but also unpredictable, meaning there's no telling when or where they will occur with any certainty. The most commonly hurtful, unpredictable sounds for someone with especially sensitive hearing include (in no particular order): dogs barking; babies crying; crowd noises; vacuum cleaners; police, ambulance, and fire engine sirens, or cars backfiring; loud music or television programs not of the child's choosing; public announcement systems and intercoms; people tapping, clicking, or snapping fingers or objects (such as a pencil); and people laughing, talking, or sneezing loudly.
Taste and Smell
Certain smells (especially food scents and perfumes or toiletries) and tastes may also be overwhelming. On occasion, a child may gag and vomit in reaction to the sensation of the smell or texture of foods. Unable to explain herself in the moment, the child may bolt from the environment if the smells or tastes become too much for her to handle.
Visual Sensitivity
Because many people with Asperger's are very visual in how they absorb and process information, they may also become readily overwhelmed by too many visual details in a single environment (think Walmart on a Saturday afternoon). The number of moving, flapping, or spinning objects paired with the vivid mix of colors and combined with too many people crammed together in a single location can push the child with Asperger's into sensory overload.
Light that is too intense can also cause pain and discomfort. Overhead