Nature Heals: Reconciling Your Grief through Engaging with the Natural World
By Alan Wolfelt
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Nature Heals - Alan Wolfelt
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The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside…I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles.
— Anne Frank
If you’ve picked up this book, you are no doubt hurting.
The pain is difficult to bear, I know, but it’s also normal. When we experience a great loss of any kind—death, divorce, serious illness or injury, job loss, or any other unwanted, significant change—we naturally suffer. We feel deep, ongoing pain.
I’ve been a grief counselor and educator for more than forty years. During this span, I’ve been privileged to bear witness to the grief of thousands of people. I’ve been a humble companion to them on their journeys. They’ve taught me that their pain is a natural and even necessary part of love.
Your pain, too, is natural and necessary. But even when we acknowledge its necessity, it still hurts. It’s still grueling and agonizing.
Understandably, you seek relief from your pain. In an attempt to make the hurt more tolerable or even disappear for a while, people usually first turn to the coping mechanisms they’re most accustomed to. You might distract yourself with technology and entertainment. You may numb yourself with alcohol or drugs. You might travel, hoping you can leave your pain behind you. You might try to keep yourself busy.
With the exception of alcohol and drug overuse, all of these coping strategies are fine and effective to some degree. It’s OK to include them in your grief survival toolkit. But what we’re here to consider today is that there are more beneficial ways of integrating and softening the natural pain of your grief. In this book we’ll focus on one in particular—one you may haven’t relied on to any great extent before.
Of course, I’m talking about nature. Nature heals. Not only can engaging with the natural world ease your pain right now—today and tomorrow—it can supercharge your longer-term journey to healing. I’ve seen it firsthand, up close, over and over again.
About thirty-five years ago, when I was designing the campus of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, it was of the utmost importance to me that nature take centerstage. Perched on the foothills of the Rocky Mountains in northern Colorado, the Center enjoys views of the city of Fort Collins to the east and higher mountain foothills to the west. Evergreens and stunning rock formations surround the building. To take advantage of this spectacular but rugged setting, we added extensive decking, boardwalks from one area to another, gazebos with seating, and a number of benches.
Weather permitting, grief counseling sessions often take place in these sacred outdoor spaces. The grounds of the Center for Loss are a sanctuary for mourners—a place they can get away from the demands of their daily lives and give dedicated attention to their grief and mourning. Some people who have a hard time talking about their loss in the indoor spaces of the Center instantly relax and open up the moment we do a little walking outdoors and sit down together in the gazebo. I