Transform Your Destiny: Embrace the Life You Are Meant to Live in Partnership With the Divine

Transform Your Destiny

Advance Praise for Dale Halaway

This amazing book is loaded with many lessons and much wisdom! Let the wisdom found within these pages change your life for the better.

—Brian Tracy, New York Times Bestselling Author of Eat That Frog

This is a game changer for me! Dale has an incredible way of articulating truths in a way that breaks down the complexity of our human experience, like no other. He helps it make sense. He provides a safe environment for people to look at themselves in a productive way to make real and lasting changes in their lives. It is valuable beyond measure!

—Janell Simonson

If you know that something needs to change in your life but don’t know what it is and/or how to change it, let Dale help you. He has a natural gift that will assist you in finding the answers you are looking for. I guarantee that your life will change for the better if you are willing to be open and honest with yourself.

—Tina Piazza

These are amazing teachings where I have found true support for my life! Not just my ordinary life, but the deepest yearning I have to know myself and grow!—Dorbe Holden

Dale’s teachings on karma have had THE most positive impact on my life!—Nancy O’Connell

I’m taking so much value away from this! I learned so much about myself and my unconscious resistance and how it has simply been keeping me from making the steps forward that I need to in my business. It was life changing for me! Thank you so much, Dale!

—Misty Olsen

Dales classes and teachings are designed to help you move the needle forward in a practical, hands-on, simple way. They will change your life!

—David Forestieri

From seeing Dale teach in just one seminar, I could sense the authenticity. His teachings are pure gold! This is the best thing I’ve done in years!

—Anthony Kasner

I have never been able to get THIS deep into my limiting beliefs and I felt more energetically prepared to actually accomplish and manifest the goals that I've been sitting on and self-sabotaging for so long. I really cannot recommend this highly applicable training more. Life-changing information and learning!

—Cynthia Mirabelli

I'm so grateful for you, Dale! These teachings have really spoken to my heart and soul. With the practical exercises you give, I've been able to clearly see why I've lagged in certain places in my life and how I can get back on track with full and deep love from myself. Thank you, Dale!!

—Rachel Petkus

This has given me a renewal in the sense of who I am, what I am, and where I'm going in life! It's given me a deeper understanding of myself as a human being here on Earth as well as the strength to move forward in my life's journey with newfound knowledge. Thank you, Dale!

—Chris Montigny

Dale Halaway has amazing ways of articulating high-level teachings just about anyone can comprehend and practically apply in their life. And yet, his teachings are so powerful and life altering. I am beyond grateful and already feel so empowered!

—Aurelio De Robles

Inspiring, profound higher teachings with amazingly practical action steps!—Heidi Goodwin

The time is now, the teacher is Dale, and the place is within your body, mind, and soul. Everything else is a distraction from uncovering your true self. It’s the only way of breaking out of the sleepy matrix.

—Genevieve Burciaga

These seminars have definitely impacted my life with money, relationships, and my own transformation. Dale is a true master teacher and his teachings will change your life for the better.

—Jaime De Robles

Be prepared for an impactful and empowering experience in bettering your life—which includes your personal and business life. If you’re asking questions, and are ready for the answers, you’ll get it here.

—Candice Park

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DESTINY

"I would not interfere with any creed of yours

or want to appear that I have all the cures.

There is so much to know...

So many things are true...

The way my feet must go may not be best for you.

And so, I give this spark of what is light to me,

to guide you through the dark,

but not tell you what to see."

—Author Unknown

Contents

FOREWORD

INTRODUCTION

WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK

MY PERSONAL JOURNEY WITH DESTINY

WHO SHOULD READ THIS BOOK

CHAPTER 1: WHAT IS DESTINY?

TWO LEVELS OF DESTINY

LEVEL 1: YOUR GREATER DESTINY

THE DIVINE AGENDA

MULTI-DIMENSIONAL ASPECTS OF YOUR SOUL

LEVEL 2: LOWER DESTINY

RISING UP FROM YOUR LOWER DESTINY INTO YOUR GREATER DESTINY

FREE WILL, KARMA & WISDOM

COURSE CORRECTING YOUR PATH OF DESTINY

CHAPTER 2: WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO TRANSFORM YOUR DESTINY?

CONFRONTING ONE OF MY DARKEST FEARS – PART 1

PARTNERSHIP WITH THE DIVINE

WHAT IT TAKES TO TRANSFORM YOUR DESTINY

THE COLLAPSE BEFORE SHIFTING TO A HIGHER FREQUENCY

CHAPTER 3: DIVINE BIRTHRIGHTS

DIVINE BIRTHRIGHT: FREEDOM

DIVINE BIRTHRIGHT: HAPPINESS

DIVINE BIRTHRIGHT: GRACE

CHAPTER 4: FREEDOM OF CHOICE

FREE WILL AND YOUR GREATER DESTINY

THE POWER OF CHOICE

CHOICE IS FOLLOWED BY A NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCE OR A BLESSING

HOW WILL YOU CHOOSE?

TAKING ON OTHERS' CONSEQUENCES

THE BLESSING OF THE CONSEQUENCE

LEARNING HOW TO CHOOSE WISELY

TWO AREAS CHOICES CAN BE MADE FROM

CHOICE CORRECTION

TEMPTATION VS. OPPORTUNITY

THE LESSON OF DISCERNMENT

HEALING AND TRANSFORMING TEMPTATION

THE QUICK ROUTE

CHAPTER 5: SELF-CENTERED OR CENTERED SELF?

THE TWO VOICES WITHIN: EGO-SELF AND SOUL-SELF

THE EGO-SELF IS THE TRICKSTER

THE SOUL-SELF IS THE TRUTH ANGEL

THE EGO IS SELF-CENTERED

THE SOUL IS THE CENTERED SELF

SELF-CENTERED LIVING VS. LIVING IN THE CENTERED SELF

CONFRONTING YOUR TRICKSTER

THE NEEDY SELF: AN EXTENSION OF THE EGO

DR. PHIL AND THE FOURTEEN-YEAR-OLD GIRL

TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR OWN LIFE

THE BATTLE BETWEEN YOUR EGO AND YOUR SOUL

THREE STEPS TO DEALING WITH THE EGO

CHAPTER 6: BECOMING CONSCIOUS: GETTING TO KNOW THE LOWER PARTS OF OURSELVES

THE INNER CHILD

THE EGO

THE SHADOW SELF

THE PRICE YOU PAY FOR YOUR UNCONSCIOUS CHOICES

MY INVITATION TO YOU: CHOOSE TO BECOME CONSCIOUS

CHAPTER 7: A FEW KEYS TO PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION

FIVE ESSENTIAL KEYS TO PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION:

APPLYING THE 5 KEYS

CHAPTER 8: UNDERSTANDING KARMA

POSITIVE KARMA

NEGATIVE KARMA

THE KARMIC LAW OF RETURN

THE PURPOSE OF THE KARMIC LAW OF RETURN

KARMIC LINES

RISING FROM LOWER DESTINY INTO HIGHER DESTINY

REMEMBER THIS AS YOU EXPLORE KARMA

CHAPTER 9: CLEARING OUR KARMIC AND LOWER ENERGY PATTERNS

LOWER ENERGY PATTERNS

KARMIC PATTERNS

EASY OR HARD, IT’S UP TO YOU

4 STEPS TO CLEARING KARMIC OR LOWER ENERGY PATTERNS

EXAMPLES OF PATTERNS

EXAMPLES OF LESSONS TO LEARN FROM PATTERNS

TRANSFORMING YOUR PATTERNS

CLEARING PATTERNS AND LEARNING LESSONS

CONFRONTING ONE OF MY DARKEST FEARS – PART 2

THE ELEVATOR APPROACH

CHAPTER 10: THE WHEEL OF KARMA

REINCARNATION

PAST-LIFE DREAMS

PERSONAL KARMA

INTERFERING WITH OTHERS’ KARMA

THE SPIRIT OF MALICIOUS INTENT

IMPERSONAL KARMA

IMPERSONAL KARMA THROUGH THE NEEDY SELF

PEOPLE GETTING LOST IN IMPERSONAL KARMA

IMPERSONAL KARMA WITH PARENTS AND CHILDREN

ANCESTRAL KARMA

PARENTS THAT TAKE ON THEIR CHILDREN’S KARMA

TRAUMA AND SHAME

KARMIC LESSONS

THE KARMIC WALL OF RESISTANCE

KARMA RELATED TO ENVIRONMENTAL IMPACT

POSITIVE KARMA AND YOUR COSMIC BANK ACCOUNT

KARMIC POTENTIAL

CHAPTER 11: UNDERSTANDING THE SOUL

THE KARMIC STATUS OF YOUR SOUL

GENUINE SOUL NEEDS VS. NEEDY ENERGY

EMBODYING THE SOUL

RISING TO THE KARMIC STATUS OF YOUR SOUL

SHOULD THE SOUL CHOOSE TO END THIS LIFE EARLY

THE PURPOSE OF THE PERSONALITY IS TO SERVE THE SOUL

SERVICE TO SOMETHING OUTSIDE YOURSELF

PURPOSES OF THE SOUL

THE COLLECTIVE SOUL ON THE PLANET

BECOMING AWARE OF THE TRUE PURPOSE OF YOUR SOUL

CHAPTER 12: SOUL THEMES

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SOUL THEMES AND LIFE THEMES

EXAMPLES OF SOUL THEMES

SOULS WITH MULTIPLE THEMES

LEARNING YOUR LESSONS FROM YOUR SOUL THEMES & GRACE

CHAPTER 13: WHY FORGIVENESS IS NECESSARY FOR THE SOUL

FORGIVENESS AND THE VICTIM ARCHETYPE

WORSHIPPING THE VICTIM

THE LAW OF FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS IS A PROCESS

SEEING THROUGH THE SOUL’S PERSPECTIVE

BEING IN A STATE OF FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS QUESTIONS

CHAPTER 14: HIGHER DESTINY, LOWER DESTINY

LOWER REALITY VS. HIGHER REALITY

LOWER ENERGY WILL RISE IN THE PRESENCE OF HIGHER ENERGY

SERVING SOMETHING HIGHER

LOWER DESTINY VS. HIGHER DESTINY

OUR DARKEST PLACE VS. OUR SUPER STRENGTH

HIGHER AND LOWER DESIRES

CHAPTER 15: DETERMINING HOW TO CHOOSE

HIGHER AND LOWER VIBRATIONAL CHOICES

BE MINDFUL OF DISTRACTIONS

WHEN A SOUL COMPLETES ITS JOURNEY

LIVING IN GRACE

MAKING A DIFFERENCE

CLOSING THOUGHTS

A MESSAGE FROM DALE

Acknowledgements

FOREWORD

By Ronald L. Greenawalt D.C., F.A.C.O.

Dale Halaway is the type of person you would really like to know, master teacher, transformational teacher, teacher of life’s journeys, teacher of authenticity, teacher of realization, teacher of life’s potential, and to have as a dear friend. Anyone can benefit from his words, written or spoken. This book, Transform Your Destiny , is no different when it comes to the type of impact it will have on many.

I have known Dale for over twenty years now, and it is refreshing to interact with someone who doesn’t operate from a place of ego. He was a patient of mine for seven years before I even knew about his work or the seminars he conducted. I will never forget that Monday morning when I found out. A patient of mine was beaming as she described a seminar she had attended over the weekend. When I asked her what seminar she attended, she stated it was a Dale Halaway seminar. I was taken aback—he’d never spoken to me about his success in his career. She had such a great experience there. After my bringing this up to him and seeing how he simply had no ego involved in his work, another level of friendship began to emerge. We have even done seminars together to share our experiences with others.

His ability to communicate self-transformational information to the common man or the most sophisticated philosopher is such a gift. Anyone can gain insights in finding their personal destiny from his messages by looking into their inner being, their soul. Just that little nudge from Dale can allow our true authenticity to emerge, and by tearing away the masks that we all hide behind consciously and unconsciously, who we really are and the person we were born to be is exposed.

Over the years, I have witnessed Dale’s personal journeys that he has so expertly been able to communicate to others; the lessons he has learned now can become your lessons, and we can all grow from this transformation. Destiny is something we cannot avoid but can try and optimize through the special teachings that resonate with us to become the best functioning us: physically, biochemically, emotionally, and spiritually. Through all of the conflicts in life there are always lessons to learn to progress in our own enlightenment. Dale draws from his own experience, from other mentors, from having turned his life personally and professionally into his own laboratory where he has learned as much from other people's experiences as he has his own. His way of presenting self-transformational ideas is very clear and easy to apply in one’s life, as real transformation all starts inside of us. Blaming the environment we live in is not the way forward. The goal is to embrace the environment; to learn and adapt to it, not blame it for our issues. We are not to avoid the challenges in life but to embrace them and learn from them to propel us through our self-transformations. All adaptation mechanisms in working through life begin within us physically, biochemically, emotionally, and spiritually.

This second book in Dale’s trilogy follows his first book, Being Called to Change, which set the pace for this type of education. In this book, Dale evaluates several aspects of the self and creates a pathway for self-transformation to occur with knowledge and understanding. Being able to tap into your innate intelligence and allowing yourself to express who you truly are with authenticity is the gift Dale offers in his teachings and written words. I can only hope you will enjoy your own personal journey to expose the true inner power that we all have as much as I, along with countless others, have.

In Transform Your Destiny, Dale answers the most important question: What is destiny? He follows this up with a deep dive into the other pertinent questions: Can we affect our destiny? Where does choice or free will come into play? Does karma have anything to do with our destiny?

Scientific research has shown that destiny is pretty much determined, with some wiggle room for change. Dale’s teachings can assist in some of those changes. This book will allow you to explore aspects of your own destiny; something that Dale has been exploring in his own life for decades. In this book, he has put together what he has found out about himself as well as his findings from studying others to share with you. Let the journey begin and continue!

Ronald L. Greenawalt D.C., F.A.C.O.

Chiropractic Kinesiologist

Diplomat of the American Board of Chiropractic Orthopedists

INTRODUCTION

A lot of people think they know their Greater Destiny, but what I’ve noticed with a number of the people I’ve supported along the way is that many don’t really know what it is yet. It’s there. They just don’t know what it is. They might start off thinking they know what their Greater Destiny is, but after they’ve had a couple of hard knocks, all of a sudden, they’re no longer sure what it is, or if they even have one. Once stuff starts to hit the fan in their world, then they begin to question things. They find themselves feeling confused and bewildered, and often they set off on a path that detours them from their mission entirely—sometimes for years, or sometimes for their entire lifetime.

Destiny is a greatly misunderstood topic. Contrary to what you may (or may not) believe, it is the way you use your free will, or freedom of choice, not chance, that can alter it. Some people assume that their destiny is dictated by a higher power. But that is only an assumption. If that were the case, then we’d pretty much have everybody on the planet in alignment with a Greater Destiny, having a great time or having a more powerful life. But no one has to look all that far to realize that yeah, most people might think they have a Greater Destiny, but they obviously haven’t tapped into it yet. So, then what does that imply? It implies that free will is only part of the equation.

You see, there are two points of destiny. For the purpose of this teaching, I call them Lower Destiny and Higher Destiny or Lower Destiny and Greater Destiny. Where most people get caught up is that they think there’s only the Greater Destiny. But that is not the case since this Greater Destiny seems to elude them throughout most of their life.

This could be because they don’t understand the other point of destiny—Lower Destiny. This other point of destiny is where your free will comes into play.

When we don’t understand all the parts of our destiny, we can find ourselves getting really jammed up—and then we start making choices from this place. We start wondering why we feel so stuck in our lives, or why we can’t achieve the goals that we keep setting for ourselves. When we have a greater understanding of what destiny is, we are better able to understand the bigger picture of our lives. This saves us a lot of pain and confusion.

When our bodies go through growing pains, a lot of times they hurt and they’re uncomfortable—but, over time, we can see that our bodies have matured and are now more capable. Well, the experiences that we have in this lifetime are there to help us learn our lessons. We chose these lessons for ourselves at soul level so they could help us mature, expand, and evolve. They might hurt or be a little uncomfortable, but they were written into our destiny for our expansion, our growth and our evolution.

This book is devoted to exploring all the facets of our destiny in our current lifetime. As you will soon come to see, these facets overwhelmingly center on the quality of our choices. This is why it is so important for us to be able to stop from time to time and reflect upon whether our choices are leading us to the life we truly desire.

WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK

I wanted to write this book, in large part, because I’ve lost a lot of people who were very dear to me. A handful of times, those deaths took the form of suicide. Because I knew these people quite well, I had a front row seat, so to speak, when it came to watching them make choices in their lives. I watched as they eventually got to that choice to give up—to take their own life.

Even though that was painful for me, the pain that I experienced through the loss of someone dear to me would always take me deeper—not just into wanting to uncover more of what had happened to them but to find some way to make a significant difference in the lives of other people who get stuck. I wanted to find a way to help people before they began to make those lower, weaker choices that often lead to some form of destruction within their world. Eventually, I came to a place where I could.

I can now name a number of people who often say that I’ve literally helped save their life. I helped them by teaching them and guiding them to illuminate their pathway forward. As their understanding of destiny became deeper, it started to genuinely empower them, and then, over time, they started to get their lives back. They started learning again and started doing what they were meant to be doing all along, and that boiled down to improving their decision making.

As the quality of our decision making improves, our quality of our life improves. This is because every time our choices improve, we become closer and closer to that Greater Destiny that is within the DNA of our souls.

As you get a better understanding of what’s really going on in your own personal universe, it will help you to become unstuck and enable you to get back on the path that’s in alignment with your destiny. There will always be challenges along the way, but they will be challenges that you can now stand up to because the quality of your choices has been increased.

MY PERSONAL JOURNEY WITH DESTINY

Since I was young, I knew that I wanted to help people and that I needed to help them in a very specific way: through teaching. That showed up very early for me in this life. Heck, I taught my first five-day class just as I was coming into my twentieth year. Can you imagine that? There I was, giving a nearly week-long class on sales and personal development to a group of forty or fifty people when I was just twenty years of age—and they just loved it. It was so well-received. But the more important thing was that it helped them.

Even before that, I was always helping people to understand things that were going on in their worlds. I would always support my friends and the people around me, and from a young age, I’ve also supported my employees in the various businesses I’ve had over the years.

My first really clear memory of helping people was when I was about 13 years of age. It was at that time that I started helping some of my mother’s friends to better understand some of the things that were going on in their lives. They thought I was someone really special. They were in their mid to late thirties at the time and just didn’t know how it was possible for a thirteen year old to help them the way that I did.

I remember it as if it as if it happened just yesterday.

My mother’s dearest soul sister and girlfriend was also her first cousin. She had a troubling dream—it really scared her. They were sitting in the kitchen, having a normal conversation, and I was in the other room. My mother, at some point, asked me if I had any thoughts on what they were talking about because she had no idea how to help her friend with this troubling dream.

I asked her about it, and once she told me, I began responding to her dream and helped her to understand the content of the dream. More specifically, I helped her understand how the content in the dream was related to what was going on in her life.

When that happened that day, it really helped her understand a problem that she was experiencing in her day-to-day life, and it became a nostalgic moment for me because it was my very first experience in translating somebody’s dream in this life. From that point on, I did this on an ongoing basis.

Not long after I helped her, my mom’s friend had another dream. She asked if I would spend some time with her on it once again. Next thing you know, another one of my mother’s friends was asking me about her own dream. Obviously, they all talked, as people do when they find something that’s working for them.

They thought I was special. I didn’t think so at the time, but they seemed to think so—whether I did or not. The best thing to come out of those experiences is that to this very day, I’m still helping all kinds of people in interpreting their dreams.

From a young age, I knew that part of my Greater Destiny was to help people to better understand themselves, what they were challenged with, and what they were struggling through so that they could better navigate through life’s big challenges successfully.

In addition to becoming a person who could help people in their personal lives, I also became known rather quickly in the earlier part of this life as a highly effective problem solver. All kinds of people wanted me to come into their companies and help them solve issues they were facing. But whether it was on a personal level or a professional level, it all came down to helping people to understand their problems so they could better work with them and through them to improve their lives and/or businesses.

Remember that very first class on sales and personal development that I mentioned? That evolved into doing seminars for my own sales organization. And next thing you know, some of our salespeople asked if they could bring their husbands or wives to my trainings—these spouses included a sales manager of an insurance company, a sales manager of a car dealership, a business owner who managed his own string of dry-cleaning shops, etc. And, of course, I said yes.

Next thing you know, I’m being asked to come into their companies to help them solve their problems and increase their levels of productivity. At some point, I started to say yes, and that’s what I moved into doing on a more regular basis. I would go into other people's organizations helping them clearly identify what problems they were experiencing and then how to help solve them, which always resulted in a notable leveling up of their overall productivity and success.

So if you look at the evolution, there I was, a young adolescent, thirteen years of age, literally translating somebody’s dream in an era when there weren’t yet professional dream interpreters (or at least there weren't many of them). Then, in my early twenties, a few years later, suddenly, I’m being invited into other people’s companies to help those business owners solve some of their problems. You can see that my Greater Destiny was showing itself very early in this lifetime.

Back then, I never did any marketing. I never knocked on anybody’s door. I didn’t ask anybody if I could interpret their dream. I didn’t even know I could interpret somebody’s dream, no more than I knew if I could help somebody solve a problem in their life or in their business. But it came to me effortlessly. And that’s the whole point here; that your Greater Destiny will come to you. In other words, we don’t have to go looking for our Greater Destiny, as it will find us, in a way that is unique and in divine time for us.

At that time, of course, I didn’t see it as a Greater Destiny. But clearly now, after more than a half a century has passed, it’s really obvious that my Greater Destiny was already revealing itself when I was a child. The things I was doing were in complete alignment with my Greater Destiny in terms of helping people.

Maybe now you, the reader, are starting to make your own connections as well to those types of experiences in your own life that reveal alignments to your Greater Destiny?

Those things evolved almost effortlessly in the earlier part of my life as part of my Greater Destiny. And from there it just continued to morph and expand and evolve to the place I am now, where I can help a lot more people than ever before through my online courses, my coaching programs, my seminars—and my books, like this one!

Sometimes people will ask me if there was ever a time along my path when I began to question my destiny—if my destiny was always clear to me, or if there were points when things got rocky and I wasn’t so sure what my Greater Destiny was. And I always tell them, Of course! I was challenged by those questions the same as anybody else.

When I was younger, it was like I was on fire. I was just unstoppable. People who knew me really well back then would refer to me as the man with the Midas touch; everything I touched seemed to turn to gold. I was helping to lead people and businesses to a brighter place, and everything was going great.

But as I moved towards the latter part of my twenties, I started to experience blocks, or challenges, that I didn’t really understand yet—and boy, were they intense. By the time I reached my late twenties,I couldn’t even begin to count how many times I’d been hospitalized.I had many physical health issues. In my early thirties, it developed into something life-threatening.

And that’s just what was happening on a physical level. I had a couple of businesses, and outwardly, it looked like no matter what I did, I would succeed. But behind that appearance of success, I was setting myself up for ruin. Deep down, I was afraid and sabotaging myself on some level.

I was terrified because I could not put my finger on why I was succeeding. With the level of success I’d experienced since my late twenties, I’d have people want to interview me. One of the most common questions was: You’re so young. What’s your formula? What’s your secret? Back then, my number one answer was you work hard. And I was working hard, but I knew inside that was not the only answer. I just didn’t know what the other answer was. People constantly told me I was special, from a young age, but I didn’t feel special. Because of that, I became very afraid that I was going to lose all of this in the blink of an eye.

And so, I was one of those people who was climbing the ladder of success, and then something shifted, and it started to go downhill.

The other issue to note was that I also had a speech impediment back then. Imagine standing up in front of six hundred people and all of a sudden, you start stuttering. Even though people seemed to benefit a lot from what I was teaching back in those days, what many did not know is that inside I was terrified that this was all going to come crashing down.

So my big thing was fear. I was afraid of losing everything and that people would find out that I wasn’t who they thought I was. And back in those days, I didn’t even know who I was yet. I just couldn’t answer those deeper questions at that time.

As those blocks started to come, I never really questioned whether I was meant to continue teaching people and continue helping them to understand what was going on in their own lives. My bigger challenge was not understanding what was going on with my own life.

I learned later that these darker, denser feelings, challenging events, and my own self-sabotaging patterns were a part of Lower Destiny, which most people have very little understanding of. In fact, it would take me a good ten years to start to even understand it myself. It was, if you will, the underbelly of my consciousness that I had to deal with. That underbelly had been buried for a long time, but it was in my mid to late twenties that it started to surface. And there was a lot of stuff in there that needed to be resolved—old dynamics, lower energy patterns, limiting, restricting beliefs, and unresolved past negative karma that I didn't even know I had, let alone chose at soul level, to resolve, release, and ultimately heal in this life.

As I look back on that time in my life, I know that I never would have made it if I hadn’t learned to recognize—and then resolve—that underbelly. Like a lot of people, I could have easily gotten lost in it. If I hadn’t deepened my understanding of what was going on in terms of that part of my destiny, it would have swallowed me up—and then I would have lived the rest of my life on autopilot. It would have been like that movie Groundhog Day, just repeating the same thing over and over again for the rest of my time on this planet.

As all that started to surface into the experience of my day-to-day life, it definitely challenged me. It brought me down to my knees more than once. A few times, I wasn’t even sure if I’d come out on the other side. I had bouts with long-term depression, which led to thoughts of suicide. I was experiencing a period of rejection in sales, but I was determined to break through it. Little did I know that the amount of rejection I was experiencing was more than most people could handle. It was almost more than I could handle.

I would find myself getting really down and depressed and wondering, Why is this happening? This doesn’t happen to anyone else. It didn’t make any sense at the time.

I dropped into a deeper, darker depression, and it reached a peak where my mother literally did save my life because I came really close to suicide on one particular day.

Due to this series of events and lack of self-worth at that time, things got really dark for me—all because I didn’t understand what was going on. I didn’t have anybody around who could help me because back when I was young, nobody taught what I teach today.

So I was left on my own to figure things out. After a number of years, I started to break through—and as I did, that’s when my understanding of all this grew to a deeper level.

Once I began to understand what I had been dealing with was what I eventually came to know as my Lower Destiny, it helped me to better navigate it. This process continued for some time because as it turned out, I had a lot of stuff I needed to clear out from inside myself; I had a lot of that underbelly that needed to get resolved.

But even though it took me a while, it still played into my Greater Destiny as a leader and as a teacher. The deeper I went into that understanding of my own Lower Destiny, the more I was able to help others navigate through theirs.

Now, this shift didn’t just happen overnight; this was definitely a process that needed to take place over time. But I suppose that was another piece of the puzzle—the fact that, at least on my path, none of this came easy to me. And yet, that’s also what has allowed me to be as effective as I am today in helping to serve people along the course of their journeys.

For a large part of this process, it felt like I was trying to plow through molasses. But at a certain point, I learned how to transform that uglier part of my destiny—and that’s what caused the light inside of me to become brighter. Once I could start to feel myself transforming that part of my destiny on a cellular level, it was like I had struck gold. And ever since then, it has served me wonderfully well.

That’s where the title of this book comes from—it comes from that experience in my twenties when I was first beginning the process to transform my own destiny. And when you learn how to do this, that is going to alter everything for you in the biggest, the best, and the brightest of ways.

WHO SHOULD READ THIS BOOK

This book is for anyone and everyone who has the desire to reconnect to their greater truth as a soul. To transform your destiny is to ultimately meet this deeper part of yourself that you are perhaps not as connected to as you could be. Once we have established this reconnection, we’re going to figure out how we can strengthen and enrich it. This book is for those who want to become unstuck and find their happiness again. It’s for those who have become stagnant in their lives and want to start growing again.

This book is also for those people who want to level up their lives. It’s for anybody who wants to have a more meaningful life, or who finds themselves thinking that maybe there’s a better way. It’s for anybody who wants to better understand why their life is how it is right now and how to transform it.

After learning about some of my struggles, I do hope that you see that if I can do this, anyone can do this. By opening myself up to going into the stuff in my life that wasn’t working and being willing to face my fears and be vulnerable, I was able to transform my destiny.

During this transformation, I hit several milestones that upleveled my journey and brought some of my abilities back online that were dormant and waiting to be released and expressed.

Every one of us has these abilities within us, and they are different for each of us. It’s just a matter of doing the work to get to them. Later in this book, I share one of these transformational moments in which my mystical abilities came online. I use these abilities in my work and throughout this book to reach a deeper place and realm than most people know is possible. You have the same potential inside of you; it’s just a matter of choosing to consciously move towards your Greater Destiny.

My belief is that on a soul level you have already done so, just by finding this book…

CHAPTER 1

WHAT IS DESTINY?

So, you think you know about destiny?

Let’s take a look at the general consensus about destiny and some dictionary definitions.

From The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, 5th Edition:

des·ti·ny \dĕs΄tə-nē\

n. The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one’s lot.

n. A predetermined course of events considered as something beyond human power or control.

n. The power or agency thought to predetermine events.

From the MerriamWebster.com dictionary:

destiny

des·ti·ny | \΄de-stə-nē\

something to which a person or thing is destined

a predetermined course of events often held to be an irresistible power or agency

Now, if your concept of destiny is limited to one of the dictionary definitions listed above, I encourage you to be open to expanding it. Throughout this book, I am going to take you on a much deeper dive into the true nature of destiny and impart some deep wisdom that you can carry forward with you.

How am I going to do this? By breaking destiny down into all of its parts and pieces so that you will not only understand it but use it in a lasting way that will create deep and permanent change.

But, of course, that kind of change won’t just come from me—you’ll have a significant role of your own to play in it as well! I strongly recommend that you take the exercises that are in this book to heart and complete them all. Don’t let your ego trick you. It might say, Oh, you should just concentrate on reading it on the first go-around. We’ll do the exercises later. You may never return to do them again later—and even if you do, you won’t feel the same way on your second read as you do on this one.

Your best results will come by creating a snapshot of where you are now and immersing yourself into the present. So, before you go any further, make sure to get a notebook that you can dedicate to working on the exercises. You will be more deeply committed to the work, and completing the exercise portion of the book will help impart and solidify this knowledge neurologically, transforming it into the wisdom that you seek.

Take this work seriously and treat it as if your life depends upon it—because, in reality, it does! If we don't learn to understand destiny, then not only can life become boring by repeating itself over and over again, but it can become one big crapshoot.

TWO LEVELS OF DESTINY

As I mentioned in the Introduction, destiny is such a misunderstood topic on our planet. People who believe in destiny think that there is only one path—God’s destiny—when, in fact, there are two different levels of destiny: our Lower Destiny and our Greater Destiny.

LEVEL 1: YOUR GREATER DESTINY

When you are in complete alignment and/or resonance with your Greater Destiny, you will have morphed into a divine human. In other words, when you are truly at one with your Greater Destiny, there will no longer be a separation between you and the Divine ever again. The Divine has a much bigger plan for all of us, and the only way you can start to access that plan is in the sacred act of becoming one with the Divine.

What your soul wants most is growth for the purpose of evolving and expanding itself. Your ego, or your personality, also wants to be in charge, however, which means the soul takes a back seat when the ego starts steering your ship. Now, the cool thing is, just so you don’t get too hung up on this, if that’s how this life plays out for you, then you’ll get another chance—and the soul knows that.

Eventually, in this lifetime or another after it, the soul is going to get its way. The soul is going to evolve. Why? Because it’s destined to evolve. It might very well be in your destiny to become a divine human in this lifetime. Only you can know that by going inside, checking in with yourself, and examining your life.

What are the results in your life telling you? Is there a possibility that you are going to move into complete alignment with the Divine? What that means is you’ve got to bring your humanness into alignment with your divinity—you’ve got to unify these two.

What it also means is that you’re going to have to let go of your self-centered ways, whatever that takes and however long it takes. You’re going to have to get better at moving into the centered self, the realm of the soul, and then stay there for as long as you can. You might lose it again for possibly an hour or two, a day or two, or a period of time. Then you'll shift back into the centered self again—and eventually, it becomes a lifestyle. Others have gone before