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Dedication

This book is dedicated to my grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, mentors, communities, and the invaluable services that taught me to believe in the limitless potential of youth.

This book is dedicated to all parents, mentors, and individuals who believe in the limitless potential of our youth.

To the ones who tirelessly nurture, guide, and inspire the next generation, this is for you.

May your unwavering dedication and love continue to shape bright futures and unlock the boundless potential within us all.

With gratitude,

Dr. Eugene D. Hayes, MBA

About the Author

Dr. Eugene D. Hayes is a highly accomplished professional who retired from the Public Health Service after an illustrious career spanning over 24 years. Throughout his tenure, he made significant contributions to various areas of public health, general medicine, healthcare administration, mental health, and substance abuse prevention. Dr. Hayes’ expertise, leadership, and commitment to excellence have left an indelible mark on the field.

During his career, Dr. Hayes held diverse roles and demonstrated exceptional competence in managing complex healthcare systems and programs. He excelled in areas such as direct medical care, detention medicine, mental health, physician and personnel management, human resources, grants, contracts, and graduate-level instruction. His dedication to advancing public health led him to coordinate efforts with states and jurisdictions, develop nationwide technical assistance programs, and provide valuable expertise in drug testing policy.

Currently, Dr. Hayes serves as a senior project officer/consultant for the Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, Division of Workplace Programs. In this role, he continues to apply his expertise in developing and implementing strategies to address substance abuse challenges in the workplace.

Dr. Hayes’ educational background is equally impressive, with a Ph.D. in Health Sciences/Health Care Administration, a Master’s in Business Administration/Health Care Management, and a Bachelor's in Business Administration/Health Services Administration. These qualifications, coupled with his extensive experience, have equipped him with a comprehensive understanding of the healthcare landscape and the skills necessary to navigate its complexities.

Throughout his career, Dr. Hayes has published extensively and presented research at local, national, and international conferences. His contributions to various areas, including organizational culture and climate, cultural adaptability, drug testing matrices, and routes of drug administration, have enriched the field and influenced best practices in public health.

Dr. Hayes' dedication and service have not gone unnoticed, as he has been honored with several distinguished awards, including the Outstanding Service medal, Commendation medals, Achievement Medals, and Unit Citations. These accolades reflect his exceptional leadership, professionalism, and commitment to upholding the highest standards of public health.

In his retirement, Dr. Hayes continues to inspire and make a positive impact. While enjoying quality time with his wife and three children, he also remains engaged in the community as a soccer coach, mentoring and guiding young athletes, other high school students, and youth in the community. Dr. Hayes’ passion for teaching and sharing knowledge has led him to instruct various public health graduate and postgraduate courses, contributing to the development of future healthcare professionals.

As an accomplished professional in the field of healthcare administration, Dr. Eugene D. Hayes has also served as an adjunct professor at South College for Health Administration. With his wealth of knowledge, extensive experience, and dedication to education, he has made a significant impact on the development of future healthcare leaders. Dr. Hayes’ role as an adjunct professor has allowed him to impart practical insights, industry trends, and real-world examples to students, ensuring they are well-prepared to navigate the dynamic landscape of healthcare administration. Through engaging lectures, interactive discussions, and mentorship, Dr. Hayes has inspired and mentored aspiring healthcare professionals, equipping them with the necessary skills, knowledge, and mindset to excel in their careers. His commitment to teaching and shaping the next generation of healthcare leaders is a testament to his passion for continuous learning and his desire to make a positive impact on the healthcare industry.

In retirement, Dr. Eugene D. Hayes has embarked on two distinct entrepreneurial ventures, showcasing his diverse interests and entrepreneurial spirit. One of these ventures is Hayes Family Enterprises, LLC, a multifaceted business encompassing various endeavors, including consulting, mentoring, and investments. Through Hayes Family Enterprises, Dr. Hayes leverages his extensive knowledge and experience to provide valuable guidance and support to clients, helping them navigate challenges and achieve their goals.

Additionally, Dr. Hayes has also founded Future First, Inc., an innovative coaching and consulting firm dedicated to empowering families and guiding children towards success. Future First, Inc. operates independently from Hayes Family Enterprises, LLC, with a specific focus on college preparation, personal development, career planning, and business planning. With a team of dedicated professionals, Future First, Inc. offers comprehensive support, personalized coaching, and tailored strategies to families, ensuring they have the tools and guidance needed to navigate the educational journey successfully. Dr. Hayes’ commitment to providing valuable services to individuals and families through Future First, Inc. exemplifies his passion for empowering others and contributing to their personal and professional growth.

Both Hayes Family Enterprises, LLC and Future First, Inc. exemplify Dr. Hayes’ commitment to making a positive impact and providing valuable services to individuals and families. Through these separate ventures, he is able to utilize his expertise and passion to empower others and contribute to their personal and professional growth.

Dr. Eugene D. Hayes’ retirement from the Public Health Service marks the culmination of a remarkable career dedicated to improving the health and well-being of individuals and communities. His invaluable contributions, extensive expertise, and unwavering commitment to excellence serve as a testament to his remarkable legacy in public health. As a self-help author and mentor, Dr. Hayes continues to make a lasting difference, sharing his wisdom and experiences to inspire others to unlock their full potential and achieve greatness.

Preface

Dear Reader,

Welcome to Unlocking Your Child's Potential: Planning and Nurturing Well-Rounded Development in our Children Through High School. As you hold this book in your hands, you are about to embark on a transformative journey that will empower you with the knowledge, insights, and strategies to unlock your child's full potential and guide them towards a successful future.

In today's rapidly changing world, we recognize the importance of providing our children with the tools and support they need to thrive academically, emotionally, and socially. This book is a comprehensive guide that will take you through the crucial years of your child's high school experience, equipping you with the principles, planning techniques, and nurturing strategies necessary to ensure their well-rounded development.

Within these pages, you will discover the keys to unlocking your child's potential. From setting clear expectations and defining a vision for their future to cultivating their passions, fostering resilience, and preparing them for college and beyond, each chapter explores essential aspects of their growth and success. You will gain practical insights, explore real-life stories, and learn from my own experiences as a healthcare professional, leader, and mentor.

This book is designed to provide you with a roadmap for planning and nurturing your child's holistic development. It is not a one-size-fits-all approach but rather a collection of principles and strategies that can be adapted to your child's unique strengths, interests, and aspirations. Through thought-provoking anecdotes, reflections, and actionable steps, you will be able to tailor the concepts in this book to your specific circumstances and guide your child towards their full potential.

As a parent, you play a pivotal role in your child's educational journey. By embracing the principles outlined in this book, you will become a guiding force, helping your child navigate the challenges and opportunities they will encounter throughout high school. You will learn how to set realistic goals, provide support and encouragement, and foster an environment of love, trust, and open communication.

It is my sincerest hope that Unlocking Your Child's Potential: Planning and Nurturing Well-Rounded Development in our Children Through High School serves as a source of inspiration, guidance, and empowerment for you as you embark on this transformative journey. Together, let us unlock the extraordinary potential within our children, nurture their well-rounded development, and set them on the path to a successful and fulfilling future.

With gratitude and excitement,

Dr. Eugene D. Hayes, MBA

Chapter 1: Dr. Hayes' Journey of Empowering Individual’s Potential

Work smarter not harder.

Dr. Eugene Hayes

Welcome to the remarkable journey of Dr. Eugene D. Hayes, a husband, father, and mentor dedicated to unlocking the potential of individuals and empowering them to achieve extraordinary success. Throughout my own experiences, I have encountered countless challenges, celebrated triumphs, and learned invaluable lessons along the way. Now, I invite you to join me as we embark on this transformative exploration, where we will unravel the secrets of empowering individual potential and discover the profound impact it can have on our lives.

As a husband, I have cherished the joys and faced the obstacles that come with building a strong and loving partnership. Parenthood, too, has been an exhilarating adventure filled with cherished memories and valuable lessons. Over the years, my three remarkable children have blossomed, achieving remarkable feats academically, receiving scholarships, earning associate degrees before graduating high school, and immersing themselves in a diverse array of extracurricular activities. Witnessing their growth and accomplishments has fueled my passion for empowering others to unlock their own potential.

But my journey extends beyond the walls of my own home. As a mentor, I have had the privilege of guiding and supporting over 150 enlisted personnel, 100 officers, 50 civilians, and 300 students in their pursuit of personal and professional growth. The transformations I have witnessed have been awe-inspiring, as individuals have achieved increased ranks, advanced their careers, navigated successful college and career planning, improved financial management, and experienced enhanced family dynamics. These stories of triumph and growth are the fuel that propel me forward, driving me to share the insights and strategies that can unlock the potential within each and every one of us.

Together, let us embark on this journey of empowerment, where we will unlock the secrets to nurturing and maximizing the potential of individuals. Through personal anecdotes, proven strategies, and transformative lessons, we will uncover the profound impact that guidance, support, and belief can have on our lives. So, get ready to be inspired, motivated, and empowered as we explore the transformative power of unlocking individual potential and embrace a future filled with endless possibilities.

Dr. Hayes' Personal Journey

As I reflect on my journey of empowering individual potential, I am reminded of the delicate balance I have strived to maintain between a successful career in public health and my role as a devoted husband and partner. Life has presented me with numerous challenges and joys, and through it all, I have worked diligently to build a strong foundation in my personal life. Join me as I share my story, navigating the intricate dance of career aspirations and personal fulfillment, while simultaneously guiding my three incredible children through the same process of growth and self-discovery.

I still recall the immense responsibility I shouldered at a young age, becoming a father for the first time when I was just 18 years old. The arrival of my first child marked the beginning of a remarkable journey, a journey that would shape the course of my life and fuel my drive to empower others. With each subsequent child, born when I was 20 and 23 years old, my devotion to their growth and well-being only deepened. Little did I know that this personal journey of fatherhood would be intricately intertwined with my professional path, leading me to discover the power of unlocking individual potential.

At the age of 17, I made a decision that would alter the trajectory of my life. Joining the Navy provided me with a sense of purpose and an opportunity to serve my country. It was during my time in the Navy that I not only discovered the love of my life, Leslee Maria Hayes, but also embarked on a journey of personal and educational growth. Balancing the demands of military service and my academic pursuits, I steadily progressed from E-1 to E-5, and later from O-2 to O-5, while simultaneously working towards completing my bachelor's, master's, and doctoral degrees. This period of my life was marked by resilience, dedication, and a relentless pursuit of knowledge.

As I navigated the complexities of advancing my career and nurturing my personal relationships, I recognized the significance of finding harmony amidst the chaos. My journey was not without its challenges, as I strived to balance the demands of military service, educational pursuits, and the ever-evolving needs of my growing family. Yet, through it all, I remained steadfast in my commitment to empower my children and guide them towards a future filled with endless possibilities.

Reflecting on my journey as a parent, I am filled with immense joy and gratitude for the remarkable experiences and lessons I have shared with my three exceptional children. Parenthood, as many of you may know, is a beautiful yet challenging journey that tests our patience, resilience, and unconditional love. I would like to take you on a heartfelt journey through the joys, struggles, and invaluable lessons I learned while raising my children, showcasing the values, discipline, and unwavering support that have shaped their extraordinary accomplishments.

From their earliest days, I knew that my role as a father went beyond providing for their basic needs. It was about instilling a strong set of core values that would guide them throughout their lives. Drawing from my own experiences in the Navy, I shared the Navy Core Values - honor, courage, commitment - with my children. These values became the foundation upon which their character was built, shaping their decisions, actions, and interactions with others.

As my children grew, I witnessed firsthand the importance of discipline in their development. Setting clear expectations and establishing consistent routines provided them with a sense of structure and accountability. Whether it was adhering to study schedules, completing household chores, or participating in extracurricular activities, discipline taught them the value of responsibility and the rewards that come with hard work and perseverance.

One of the greatest joys of parenthood is witnessing your children flourish and achieve their goals. Each of my children had their unique passions and talents, and it was my role as a parent to provide unwavering support and guidance. From cheering them on at soccer games to attending school performances, I made it a point to be present and actively engaged in their pursuits. This unwavering support not only bolstered their confidence but also reinforced the idea that they had a strong support system they could always rely on.

Parenting, however, is not without its struggles. There were moments of doubt, challenges, and tough decisions that needed to be made. But it was through these trials that I learned the power of resilience, adaptability, and the importance of open communication. When faced with obstacles, I encouraged my children to embrace a growth mindset and to view challenges as opportunities for learning and growth. Together, we navigated through the ups and downs, constantly supporting and guiding each other along the way.

In sharing these personal anecdotes and lessons learned, I hope to inspire and empower you as parents to navigate your own unique parenting journeys. Parenthood is a transformative experience that tests us in unimaginable ways, but it is also a journey filled with immeasurable love, joy, and pride. So, as we explore the joys and struggles of parenthood together, let us celebrate the incredible privilege and responsibility of raising exceptional children, knowing that with love, support, and dedication, we can empower them to reach their fullest potential.

Being a coach and mentor has been an incredibly rewarding and transformative part of my life. Throughout my career, I have had the privilege of guiding and supporting individuals in their academic, professional, and personal journeys. I want to share with you the pivotal moments, transformative experiences, and personal growth I have encountered as a coach and mentor, and how these interactions have shaped the lives of those I have had the honor to work with.

One of the most fulfilling aspects of being a coach and mentor is witnessing the transformative power of guidance and support. I have had the privilege of working with over 150 enlisted personnel, 100 officers, 50 civilians, and 300 students, and each individual's journey has been unique and inspiring. Whether it was helping them navigate their career paths, providing guidance in college and career planning, or assisting them in developing essential life skills, I have witnessed firsthand the positive impact that mentoring can have on an individual's personal and professional growth. Moreover, I have had the privilege of working with mentees to acquire over $750,000 in scholarships and grants, further enhancing their educational and career opportunities.

There have been many memorable moments throughout my coaching and mentoring journey that have left a lasting impact on me. One particular experience that stands out is when I mentored a young officer who was struggling with confidence and decision-making. Through open and honest conversations, I was able to help him recognize his strengths, develop a sense of self-belief, and make informed choices that aligned with his goals. Witnessing his transformation from a hesitant and unsure individual to a confident and accomplished leader was truly inspiring, and it reinforced the importance of providing support and guidance to empower others.

As a coach and mentor, I have always believed in the power of personal growth and continuous learning. Each interaction and relationship I have formed has provided me with valuable insights and lessons. Through my experiences, I have discovered the importance of active listening, empathy, and tailoring my approach to meet the unique needs of each individual. Building trust and creating a safe space for open dialogue and self-reflection has been instrumental in helping individuals uncover their true potential and overcome obstacles along their journey.

I have also learned the importance of fostering a growth mindset and encouraging individuals to embrace challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth. In the face of adversity, I have seen individuals rise above their limitations, persevere through difficult circumstances, and achieve remarkable success. By instilling a belief in their own abilities and providing the necessary tools and support, I have witnessed individuals surpass their own expectations and unlock their full potential.

The journey of being a coach and mentor has not only impacted the lives of those I have worked with but has also profoundly shaped my own personal growth. Each interaction has deepened my understanding of human resilience, the power of guidance, and the joy of seeing others thrive. It has reinforced my passion for empowering individuals to reach their fullest potential and has become an integral part of who I am as a person.

In sharing these experiences, I hope to inspire others to embrace the role of mentorship and coaching in their own lives. The impact we can have on others is immeasurable, and by nurturing and guiding individuals towards success, we contribute to a world filled with confident, accomplished, and fulfilled individuals. Together, let us embrace the journey of coaching and mentoring, knowing that our support and guidance can make a significant difference in the lives of others.

Dr. Hayes' Family

Within the upcoming pages, we embark on a captivating journey through the life of the Hayes family. This narrative explores each member of his family, parenting strategies, reflects on nurturing children's potential, and highlights the enduring impact of mentorship. It celebrates the transformative power of education, mentorship, and personal development, showcasing the remarkable journey of the Hayes family.

His Wife

Within the chapters of this book, it is essential to highlight the significant role played by a remarkable woman who has been my partner in life, my rock, and the most important part of this equation - my wife, Leslee Maria Hayes. Her unwavering support and love have been instrumental in shaping our family's journey towards success.

Leslee hails from a small town in Colorado called Colbran, where she grew up amidst a close-knit community of only 300 people. From the moment we first met, Leslee's vibrant personality and open-hearted nature captivated my attention. Affectionately nicknamed Country when we first crossed paths, she exuded a warmth and authenticity that immediately drew me in.

As parents, Leslee and I brought different styles and perspectives to the table. While I often took the lead in providing guidance and setting expectations, Leslee brought a nurturing touch that perfectly complemented my approach. She was the one who would encourage our children to get up and play, to explore their passions, and to embrace life with enthusiasm. Her ability to strike a balance between gentle care and tough love made her an invaluable partner in raising our exceptional children.

Leslee's strength is unparalleled. Despite facing the challenges of multiple medical conditions, which has rendered her 100% disabled and caused the shutting down or slowing down of some of her organs, she has remained a pillar of unwavering strength and determination. Her resilience in the face of adversity has been an inspiration to us all. Even on the toughest days, she exudes a spirit that refuses to be defeated, pushing through with grace and tenacity. In addition to her battle with multiple illnesses, Leslee has also faced near-death experiences resulting from surgery complications. Despite these immense trials, her unwavering determination and resilience have remained unshakeable. Her remarkable journey serves as a testament to the power of the human spirit and the strength that lies within each of us to overcome even the most daunting challenges.

Throughout our journey, Leslee has dedicated herself wholeheartedly to our children's well-being and success. She has always been their fiercest advocate, tirelessly working to ensure they had every opportunity to thrive. Although she faced her own health challenges, Leslee's unwavering dedication to our children's happiness and success has been unwavering. Her love knows no bounds, and she has consistently shown up as a nurturing force in their lives.

Leslee's career path has been diverse, reflecting her versatility and commitment to serving others. She served as a Hospital Corpsman and Psychiatric Technician in the military, where her compassion and dedication shone through in caring for others. In her role as an Executive Assistant in the Federal Government, she brought her organizational skills and attention to detail to support the work of others. Leslee's commitment to excellence and her unwavering work ethic have been evident in every role she has undertaken.

While Leslee's formal education journey has taken different paths, she has always been a lifelong learner. Her pursuit of knowledge and personal growth has been driven by a desire to provide the best for our children and support their dreams. Leslee's thirst for knowledge and her commitment to continuous improvement have been a source of inspiration for our entire family.

Leslee has always been actively involved in our community, lending a helping hand, and contributing to various initiatives. Whether it was volunteering at local events, supporting community organizations, or offering her assistance to those in need, Leslee has consistently shown her commitment to making a positive impact in the lives of others.

Leslee possesses a creative spirit and has a passion for artistic endeavors. From painting and crafting to writing and photography, she finds joy in exploring different forms of self-expression. Her artistic pursuits not only serve as a source of personal fulfillment but also inspire our children to embrace their own creative abilities.

As someone living with multiple sclerosis and experiencing other disabilities, Leslee has become an advocate for disability rights and inclusivity. She actively works to raise awareness, promote accessibility, and support initiatives that empower individuals with disabilities to lead fulfilling lives. Her advocacy efforts have touched the lives of many and have inspired others to foster a more inclusive society.

Despite the challenges she has faced, Leslee's resilience and positivity remain unwavering. Her ability to find silver linings, maintain a positive outlook, and approach life with optimism has had a profound impact on our family. Her uplifting spirit has taught our children the importance of embracing challenges with grace and finding strength in the face of adversity.

As my wife and partner, Leslee has been my greatest support system. Her unwavering belief in me, her encouragement during times of doubt, and her constant presence have been instrumental in my personal and professional growth. Her belief in the potential of our children and her relentless support for their dreams have made her an invaluable source of strength in our family's journey.

I cannot overstate the importance of Leslee's role in our family's journey. She has been the loving force that anchors us, the guiding light that pushes us forward, and the embodiment of unconditional love and strength. Leslee's impact on our children's lives and our family as a whole is immeasurable, and I am forever grateful for her unwavering support, resilience, and love. Her presence has made our journey all the more extraordinary, and I am honored to have her by my side every step of the way.

Leslie Clayton Hayes

Introducing Leslie Clayton Hayes, our oldest son. Currently 24 Leslie, achieved remarkable accomplishments during his high school years, showcasing his dedication, academic excellence, and active involvement in a diverse range of extracurricular activities. Leslie's achievements exemplify his commitment to personal growth, community service, and pursuing his passions.

Academically, Leslie excelled in his studies and embraced the opportunity to challenge himself through dual enrollment at Liberty University, where he completed a full-time course load and earned an impressive 68 university/college credits. Additionally, he undertook a High School Senior Research Project, exploring the fascinating topic of shell-less chicken hatching. Leslie's passion for learning extended beyond the classroom, as he actively participated in the prestigious Future Farmers of America (FFA) organization, furthering his knowledge and practical experience in the agricultural field.

In the realm of sports, Leslie made significant contributions as a valued member of his high school soccer teams. From serving as the team manager for the Girls Soccer team to assuming the role of the team's goalie, Leslie showcased his dedication, leadership, and commitment to athletic excellence. His outstanding performance led to recognition as a team captain and earned him accolades such as the Seaford Star Athlete of the Week and Delaware Second Team All-Conference Selection.

Leslie's involvement extended beyond the sports field, as he actively participated in the High School Unified Track program, mentoring, and supporting fellow athletes. In addition to his sports-related engagements, Leslie dedicated his time to various volunteer activities within the school and community. From volunteering for elementary read-aloud sessions to participating in highway cleanup initiatives, Leslie demonstrated his commitment to giving back and making a positive impact.

His academic achievements and community involvement garnered him numerous awards and honors, including the Liberty University Associates of Arts Degree, Veterans of Foreign War Voice of Democracy Essay Award, Honor Roll Academic Achievement, and recognition as a Structures Scholar. Leslie's commitment to his community is evident through his impressive 378 hours of volunteer and community service, ranging from assisting with Future Farmers of America events to supporting local soccer associations and charitable organizations.

Leslie set his sights on pursuing higher education after high school, with acceptances to esteemed institutions such as Saint Leo University, Virginia Union University, York College, and Stetson