A Gift For Women - What She Must Know
A Gift For Women - What She Must Know
A Gift For Women - What She Must Know
NOTE: Only lunar months and years are taken into consideration in Islamic
matters, therefore, whenever the terms months or years are mentioned in
this booklet reference to them is made.
MAS'ALAH 3 : If the above signs are not evident, when the girl reaches the
age of fifteen, she will be regarded as having reached the age of puberty.
MAS'ALAH 2 : A girl below the age of nine years does not normally get
periods. If such a girl notices blood, it is not Haidh, but Istihadhah,
meaning bleeding due to illness.
MAS'ALAH 3 : Normally a woman does not menstruate after the age of
fifty five years (menopause). But if she gets red or black blood, it is
Haidh; however, if the blood is yellow, green or muddy coloured (i.e.
any colour besides red and black), it is not Haidh, provided she never
experienced this colour during any of her earlier periods. If she did see
any of these colours during her earlier periods, then it would also be
counted as Haidh. If the colour of the blood is different from that of the
blood during her earlier periods, then this is not Haidh but Istihadhah.
If the colour of blood was white then it will be Istihadhah, (white blood
is never counted as Haidh).
MAS'ALAH 7 : If a woman is sure that the flow of blood is not from the
vagina, but from some wound or from the anus, then the bleeding is
not Haidh, but Istihadhah.
MAS'ALAH 3 : If the sex organ of the husband touches the sex organ of'
the wife without any covering in between, then the wudhu of both will
break, but if the tip of the male sex organ enters into the female sex
organ so much, that the head of the male sex organ is not visible then
ghusl becomes compulsory.
MAS'ALAH 4 : Wudhu will not break if one sees one’s own private parts
or glances at the private parts of someone else. But it should be
remembered that it is sinful to look at the satr of another person.
a. The minimum period for Haidh is three days and three nights
(seventy two hours). If bleeding is for less than this period, it is not
Haidh, but Istihadhah.
b. Continuous flow of blood is not necessary for Haidh. If blood
flowed for a while in the beginning, then stopped, and flowed
again on the second or third day, then according to shari’ah it is
regarded as one continuous menstrual flow.
c. The maximum period of Haidh is ten days and ten nights (two
hundred and forty hours.) Bleeding beyond this is not Haidh, but
Istihadhah.
d. According to the Shariah, the minimum period of remaining clean
between two Haidh is fifteen days, there is no limit to the
maximum period. A woman is considered ceremonially pure for as
long as she does not experience Haidh even if it be for months.
e. In so far as Haidh and Nifaas (bleeding after childbirth) are
concerned, Islam takes into consideration a woman's prevailing
habit. A woman who gets Haidh or Nifaas (in the instance of not
experiencing Haidh) for the first time is called a MUBTADI’AH and
a woman who has experienced either Haidh or Nifaas before is
called MU’TADAH. Laws for both are different in many instances.
f. Purity and impurity (according to Islamic imposed guidelines) are
of two types; HAQIQI and HUKMI.
Now, keeping the above six points in mind, the following laws
should be studied.
MAS’ALAH 1 : If a young girl experiences bleeding for the first time,
then it should be observed whether it continues for three days and
three nights (72 hours). If it does, then it is Haidh.
MAS’ALAH 3 : If bleeding continued for more than ten days and ten
nights then the ten days and ten nights will be Haidh and the bleeding
beyond it is Istihadhah. Since any bleeding beyond ten full days is
Istihadhah. She should take a bath after ten days and start her salaah.
But if a woman is a mu’tada (one who has a prevailing, set Haidh
period) and bleeding continues beyond her habit, then it should be
seen, if it stops within ten days, all of it is Haidh and if it continues after
ten days, then only the days of her habit would be regarded as Haidh
and the days after that is Istihadhah. Therefore, she should perform
qadha salaah for the days beyond her habit. If she has a habit of seven
days and she bled for twelve days then only seven days would be
Haidh and the rest Istihadhah. But if she bled for nine or ten days only
then all of it is Haidh. (Refer to “Haidh and salaah” - MAS'ALAH 6)
MAS'ALAH 5 : If a woman notices blood for three full days and three
nights or more, or any number of days up to ten days and ten nights
and then remains clean for full fifteen days or more, and again sees
blood for three or more days then both bleedings are of Haidh and the
days in between are regarded as a period of purity.
MAS'ALAH 6 : If a woman notices blood for three days and three nights
or more and then remains clean for fifteen days or more and again sees
blood for less than three days then the first bleeding was Haidh while
the second bleeding is Istihadhah because the bleeding was for less
than three days although the period of purity was for fifteen days.
MAS’ALAH 7 : If a woman notices blood for less than three days and
three nights and after a full fifteen days or more, sees blood again for
less than three days then both bleedings are called Istihadhah and she
will be regarded as clean for all these days. As soon as the bleeding
stops within three days, she should make wudhu and start her salaah
during the last stages (end part) of mustahab (preferable) time (i.e. just
before makruh time). She must also offer Qadha salaah for those days
which she has missed while she was bleeding.
If a woman forgets her habit and if Istihadhah begins, the laws in such a
case are quite complicated and this must be referred to an Alim for
clarification. Such a woman is known in the shariah as Mutahayyarah.
HAIDH
HAIDH AND SALAAH
MAS'ALAH 1 : Salaah is not permissible during Haidh. Therefore do not
perform it when menstruating. There is no qadha for the salaah missed
during Haidh. Its necessity is waived by Allah’s I command.
MAS'ALAH 3 : If Haidh starts during the time of salaah and if that salaah
was not performed, it is forgiven and qadha is not necessary. If a time of
salaah elapsed and it wasn’t performed, and then Haidh started, then
the salaah missed will necessarily have to be performed after the haidh
subsides.
MAS'ALAH 6 : If a woman with a seven day Haidh habit bleeds for more
than seven days, then she must observe caution. If it stops before ten
days, she should have a bath and offer salaah from then on. All these days
are of Haidh and qadha is not necessary. But if bleeding continues after
ten days, then the seven days of habit are Haidh and the remaining are
Istihadhah. This is the reason why she must have a bath immediately after
ten days have passed and start perforrming salaah. She must also offer
qadha salaah for the last three days.
MAS'ALAH 5 : If bleeding continued for full ten days and ten nights
and stopped just before subh sadiq, leaving no time even to say
takbirut tahrimah, then that particular fast becomes compulsory
for her. She should make an intention and keep the fast. If
however, bleeding stops within ten days and ten nights and there
is time for a quick bath before subh sadiq, then that fast becomes
compulsory; but if there is no time for a bath, then it is not
compulsory to fast that day. In case the fast becomes compulsory,
then she should make an intention and keep the fast. It does not
matter if she takes a bath later on.
HAIDH, HAJJ AND UMRAH
MAS'ALAH 3 : If a woman dons her Ihraam only for Hajj and if she
reaches Makkah Mukarramah in a state of Haidh, then she must not
perform Tawaaful Qudum (Tawaaf upon entry to Makkah). If she
becomes clean before leaving Makkah for Hajj, she must perform the
Tawaaf. If, however, there is no time and Hajj activities have started, she is
then exempted from Tawaaful Qudum, as it is forgiven. Hajj activities
begin when she leaves for Mina on the 8th of Dhul Hijjah.
NOTE: These days many women stop Haidh and Nifaas through
medicine and injections, this is extremely harmful to their health.
Serious side effects have been reported after using these methods.
Therefore, a woman should avoid resorting to these methods unless it
is absolutely necessary. A woman used these pills to stop her Haidh in
Ramadhan but thereafter when she started bleeding, it continued for
twenty days. Another woman was unable to give birth after using it for
a few years because her Haidh had completely stopped.
MAS'ALAH 2 : She may touch the paper on which these du’a are
written but not the actual words. She is also allowed to read, teach or
touch all other religious books but it is not desirable to touch these
books unnecessarily. She must not touch the actual Ayaat of the Qur’an
which appear in these books. It should be remembered that in this
state of impurity (Haidh) she should try and remain clean and occupy
herself in Dhikr, Du’a, Salawat (Durud), Istighfar, etc. In this way she
will be rewarded additionally, Insha-Allah.
MAS'ALAH 3 : If the days of Haidh are according to her habit, and the
husband wishes to have sexual intercourse and the wife says that her
Haidh has started, then it is necessary for her husband to believe her
even if the wife is not religiously inclined.
MAS'ALAH 5 : If bleeding stops before her normal habit, e.g. she has a
seven day bleeding habit and this time bleeding stops after five days,
she should have a bath just a little while before the time of that
particular salaah ends and she should start offering her salaah. It is,
however, Makruhut Tahrimi (highly abominable, bordering Haram) for
the husband to have sexual intercourse before the end of her normal
habit, i.e. seven full days in this case. Similarly, if these are the days of
her Haidh according to her usual habit, but bleeding only continued
for one or two days and stopped, then too, the husband should not
have sexual intercourse with her because there is a possibility that she
may start bleeding again. However, she should make wudhu and start
performing her salaah.
If no part of the foetus has yet been formed but only thick blood or
flesh-like substance is discharged as a result of miscarriage or an
abortion performed only due to a condition allowed in Shariah, then
this is not regarded as the birth of a child and whatever bleeding results'
from this is not regarded as nifaas (bleeding after childbirth). If a
woman remained clean for fifteen days or more before this miscarriage
or abortion and if this bleeding continued for three days or more, then
it should be regarded as Haidh and all laws concerning Haidh will
apply to her. If this bleeding stops within three days and does not
appear again, then it should be regarded as Istihadhah.
While bathing after Haidh, it is important that the entire body, and
especially the vaginal area are washed thoroughly by rubbing with a
piece of cloth, skin or cotton-wool so much so that no trace of dry
blood is left. A woman y of the Ansaar asked Rasulullah r about this
bath, and was advised to take the above-mentioned precautions, and
in one tradition the ladies have been asked to apply some perfume
(non-alcoholic) around the area where bleeding takes place so that
there will not be the slightest odour of blood. It is therefore, advisable
to apply some perfume if circumstances permit. In this bath, not a
single part of the body must be left dry, otherwise the bath will be
incomplete. If the hair is tied or plaited, then it is not necessary to untie
it. It is quite sufficient if the roots of the hair are made wet and washed,
but it is better if the hair is undone and washed thoroughly. The
method of bathing is that the hands be washed first and then all
impurities that are on the body be removed. Then make wudhu
according to the sunnah way and wash the whole body.
Some Ulama have mentioned that many people are unaware of this
fact. Thus woman should take particular care so as to ensure that water
reaches into the foreskin of the vagina. If water does not penetrate
there, then the ghusl will not be valid.
NOTE: The general impression is that Nifaas is for the full forty days
whereas this is the maximum period not the exact marked period. Due
to this wrong impression salaah, etc. Is unfortunately neglected.
MAS'ALAH 4 : When she is not fasting and she has been ordered to be
like those who are fasting, if she eats and drinks on that day, then this
will be improper. Nevertheless, there will be no kaffarah (expiation-
penalty) and nothing will become wajib on her. She will only have to
fulfil the qadha fast which is obligatory upon her.
Laws regarding the touching of the Qur'an during nifaas are the same
as those of menstruation. (see section entitled "Haidh and the
Qur’an").
NIFAAS, HAJJ AND UMRAH
MAS'ALAH 1 : The laws for Nifaas are the same as the laws of
menstruation regarding Hajj and Umrah. All activities except Tawaaf
are allowed. (See section on "Haidh, Hajj and Umrah").
MAS'ALAH 5 : If the major part of the Tawaaf or Sa’i was done, both
are accepted as completed according to shari’ah; but if she repeats
both after attaining the state of purity, then it is better than giving
Sadaqah and in such a case it is not necessary to give Sadaqah.
The laws regarding Dhikr during Nifaas are the same as those of
menstruation (see section titled "Haidh and Dhikr”).
All Dhikr and wazaif are allowed during Nifaas. In fact, wazaif will
protect one from the mischief of Shaytan who becomes more active
whilst one is in a state of impurity. One should not abstain from Dhikr
under any circumstances. The child that is to be born will benefit a
great deal spiritually through the mother’s Dhikr. If she cannot
make Dhikr, then she should make an intention that as soon as she gets
the strength she will do so. She will be rewarded for this intention also.
The laws regarding Nifaas and the masjid are the same as those of
menstruation (see section titled "Haidh and the Masjid').
The laws regarding Nifaas and the husband are the same as those of
menstruation except that the maximum period here is forty days and
in Haidh ten days (see section "Haidh And the husband').
If some features of the foetus (fingers, nails, hair etc.) have already been
formed, then the bleeding that follows miscarriage is regarded as Nifaas
and the laws concerning Nifaas will now become applicable to her. A
bath will become compulsory when bleeding stops and until then,
salaah, saum, tilawah of the Qur'an and sexual intercourse are forbidden.
A woman must have a bath after Nifaas in the same way as a bath after
menstruation. Wash the hands and then the vagina and its surrounding
area thoroughly with soap and water. After making istinja (washing of
the private parts), perform wudhu according to the Sunnah. It is fardh
(compulsory) to gargle the mouth and to pour water in the nostrils till
the cartilage (soft bone) of the nose is made wet, then wash the head
and the body thoroughly with soap and water. Thereafter one will be
regarded as clean.
Although the Nifaas may have stopped before forty days, quite often,
many women remain in this state of impurity till the forty days and
regard themselves as impure. This is absolutely wrong, it is Haram
(forbidden) to stay in this condition after bleeding has stopped. When
bleeding stops and she feels she will not bleed again then she should
take a bath and start with salaah.
It has also been noticed that in many places at the time off the wedding
it is regarded as absolutely necessary for another to give her the “last
bath" and some women do all sorts of strange things during this final-
bath. These are all ignorant, baseless, superstitious and wrong
customs. It is also senseless to bath daily and have this ‘last bath’. If
bathing daily has been found to be beneficial through experience or is
prescribed by some doctor, then it is a different matter.
MAS'ALAH 2 : Bleeding in the case of girls below nine years of age and
of women above fifty-five years of age after menopause is Istihadhah,
provided that the blood is not very red or black. It should be noted that
if after the age of fifty-five years a woman gets yellow, green or muddy
coloured blood, which is similar to that which she experienced during
her normal periods, then this will be regarded as Haidh, otherwise it
will be Istihadhah.
MAS'ALAH 3 : It is better for her to use cotton wool etc. if this stops the
blood from flowing out during salaah. Similarly it is correct for her to
sit than to stand and read her salaah if this prevents the blood from
flowing out during salaah.
JANABAH
(IMPURITY DUE TO SEXUAL INTERCOURSE ETC)
MAS'ALAH 1 : A bath is compulsory after sexual intercourse and the
couple will remain impure until they have had a bath. This state of
impurity is called Janabah. There are many laws regarding this but we
shall try to cover the subject very briefly.
MAS'ALAH 2 : The moment the head of the male private part unites
with the female private part, then ghusl becomes wajib on both the
husband and wife, even if full entry does not takes place and no sperm
is released. Similarly, ghusl becomes wajib when the private part is
inserted into the anus. However, this action is totally haram and the
punishment for it is very severe. It is related in the Hadith by Abu
Hurairah t who narrates from Rasulullah r
"Cursed is he who comes unto his wife through her anus.”
Dhikr and wazaif are allowed in the state of Janabah but it is better not
to do so because one can become free of Janabah whenever one
wishes to; whereas, in the case of Haidh and nifaas, a woman can only
become pure after the bleeding has stopped. It is against etiquette to
make Dhikr in a state of Janabah. Therefore, it is better to do so after a
bath. Nevertheless, masnun du’a (appropriate du'a for special
occasions) such as for sleeping, when waking up, wearing clothes,
entering the toilet, etc. may be read in the state of Janabah.
MAS'ALAH 1 : The same laws apply here as those of Haidh and Nifaas.
Particular care should be taken when washing the private parts,
making sure that no trace is left of any semen (sperm) which may have
stuck to the body and dried up. No part of the body should remain dry
otherwise ghusl (bath) will not be valid. Gargling up to the throat and
drawing of water up to the cartilage of the nostrils are compulsory.
Particular care should be taken that water reaches into the navel,
under rings, earrings, etc.
MAS'ALAH 2 : For women the term ghair mahram are all those with
whom nikah is allowed under some circumstances including such
people who are generally considered close relatives e.g. husband's
brothers, sisters’ husbands, paternal cousins (father's nephews),
maternal cousins (mother's nephews). It is forbidden and haram to
uncover any part of her body or to come in the presence of a ghair
mahram. If all the above is forbidden in the presence of close relatives.
then we can imagine how strongly it is prohibited in the presence of
outsiders. It is prohibited to sit and talk alone to a ghair mahram.
MAS'ALAH : The law of Hijab requires that the whole female body
from head to feet, including the face, be concealed in the presence
of Ghair-Mahram. A woman should not emerge from the home
unnecessarily. If she has to, due to some need, then she should cover
her face and body with an outer garment, e.g. burqah, so that the
face and shape of the body are not exposed. The wearing of the veil
is wajib according to the Shari’ah.
WOMEN AND HAYA (MODESTY)
Faults can be hidden through modesty and if she will expose herself,
then her good qualities will also have no value. Therefore, it is very
important for her to preserve modesty.
It is for this reason why many Ulama have said that the first six years are
most important in a child's life and they determine the future. This view
is supported by the Hadith too. Inculcating good habits and manners,
as well as upholding the importance of Islam and true Islamic practices
(as opposed to one’s own opinions of what Islam says) will all
contribute towards the upbringing of a champion and leader.
Firstly, she should not get into the habit of sending things to her parents'
home, even with the husband's permission, because this will slowly
reduce the love and respect of the wife in the husband which will be of
great harm to the woman.
Secondly, she must try to treat and regard her in-laws like her own
parents. This will increase her love, honour and regard in the husband
and it will prove very useful and beneficial to her.
WOMEN AND CHASTITY (FAITHFULNESS)
To protect one’s chastity is the main quality of a woman as the other
good qualities depend on this. Superficially, she may have plenty of
good qualities but, Allah I forbid, if she is not chaste and pure, then
she is considered absolutely useless in the eyes of the shari’ah. In the
Qur’an, Allah I describes the Hur of Jannah:
“Untouched by any man or jinn”
A woman whose husband has died should observe Iddah for four
months (lunar) and ten days and should remain in the same house in
which she lived at the time of the husband's death. In the case of a
pregnant woman. Iddah is over as soon as the child is born, the number
of months are not taken into consideration.
PROPHETIC ADVICE
In one Hadith it has been narrated that Rasulullah r has said that he
saw many women in Jahannam. When asked the reason for this, he
replied that firstly they have a habit of abusing and taunting, and
secondly, they are very ungrateful to their husbands.
When it has been found that the tongue can lead her to Jahannam,
then she should direct all effort to control it and should not abuse and
taunt; she should not be ungrateful to the husband.
Another habit which women also have when they meet, is backbiting.
This does much harm to her religion and she should, therefore, try to
safeguard herself from this. It is very important for a woman to dress at
home according to her normal way and standards, if she has to go out
of the house for some reason then she should be simply dressed and
covered even if other women may look down upon her. If she stays
untidy in the house, then she will lose the love and respect of her
husband. If she beautifies herself and goes out of the house, then
outsiders will cast their gaze on her. It is totally wrong for her to go out
in this manner and it should, therefore, be avoided.
EPILOGUE
1. The laws mentioned in this publication are in very simple language. If
one still has any difficulty in understanding or is simply not sure,
then one must consult an Alim (scholar)or Alimah (female scholar).
2. The example of table prepared to be used for the recording of
menstruation has been entered in this booklet due to the importance
of the laws it entails. Our advice is that dates should be recorded to
avoid sin, as the issue of Fardh salaah is directly related to it.
3. This booklet has been compiled with the purpose of highlighting
many issues which affect women but are generally not known. It is
also detailed and thorough enough to be a reference guide, which
should be constantly referred to in due need. The arrangement of
topics under different headings is for additional ease of use.
4. This booklet has been prepared specially for women but a few laws
are also applicable to men and it is, therefore, advisable that men
should also read the booklet and understand the laws because it is
also their responsibility to explain these laws to their womenfolk.