Teen Depression
Teen Depression
Teen Depression
Teenage depression isnt just bad moods and occasional melancholy, but a serious problem that impacts every aspect of a teens life. Teen depression can lead to problems at home and school, drug abuse, self-loathingeven violence or suicide. But as a concerned parent, teacher, or friend, there are many ways you can help.
In This Article:
Understanding teen depression Signs and symptoms Effects of teen depression Suicide warning signs in teenagers Helping a depressed teenager Risks of teenage antidepressant use Supporting a teen through treatment Taking care of the whole family
Occasional bad moods or acting out is to be expected, but depression is something different. Depression can destroy the very essence of a teenagers personality, causing an overwhelming sense of sadness, despair, or anger. Whether the incidence of teen depression is actually increasing, or were just becoming more aware of it, the fact remains that depression strikes teenagers far more often than most people think. And although depression is highly treatable, experts say only 1 in 5 depressed teens receive help.Unlike adults, who have the ability to seek assistance on their own, teenagers usually must rely on parents, teachers, or other caregivers to recognize their suffering and get them the treatment they need. So if you have an adolescent in your life, its important to learn what teen depression looks like and what to do if you spot the warning signs.
Sadness or hopelessness Irritability, anger, or hostility Tearfulness or frequent crying Withdrawal from friends and family Loss of interest in activities Changes in eating and sleeping habits
Restlessness and agitation Feelings of worthlessness and guilt Lack of enthusiasm and motivation Fatigue or lack of energy Difficulty concentrating Thoughts of death or suicide
If youre unsure if an adolescent in your life is depressed or just being a teenager, consider how long the symptoms have been present, how severe they are, and how different the teen is acting from his or her usual self. While some growing pains are to be expected as teenagers grapple with the challenges of growing up, dramatic, long-lasting changes in personality, mood, or behavior are red flags of a deeper problem.
Irritable or angry mood As noted above, irritability, rather than sadness, is often the predominant mood in depressed teens. A depressed teenager may be grumpy, hostile, easily frustrated, or prone to angry outbursts. Unexplained aches and pains Depressed teens frequently complain about physical ailments such as headaches or stomachaches. If a thorough physical exam does not reveal a medical cause, these aches and pains may indicate depression.
Extreme sensitivity to criticism Depressed teens are plagued by feelings of worthlessness, making them extremely vulnerable to criticism, rejection, and failure. This is a particular problem for over-achievers. Withdrawing from some, but not all people While adults tend to isolate themselves when depressed, teenagers usually keep up at least some friendships. However, teens with depression may socialize less than before, pull away from their parents, or start hanging out with a different crowd.
Problems at school. Depression can cause low energy and concentration difficulties. At school, this may lead to poor attendance, a drop in grades, or frustration with schoolwork in a formerly good student. Running away. Many depressed teens run away from home or talk about running away. Such attempts are usually a cry for help. Drug and alcohol abuse. Teens may use alcohol or drugs in an attempt to selfmedicate their depression. Unfortunately, substance abuse only makes things worse. Low self-esteem. Depression can trigger and intensify feelings of ugliness, shame, failure, and unworthiness. Internet addiction. Teens may go online to escape from their problems. But excessive computer use only increases their isolation and makes them more depressed. Reckless behavior. Depressed teens may engage in dangerous or high-risk behaviors, such as reckless driving, out-of-control drinking, and unsafe sex. Violence. Some depressed teens (usually boys who are the victims of bullying) become violent. As in the case of the Columbine school massacre, self-hatred and a wish to die can erupt into violence and homicidal rage.
Teen depression is also associated with a number of other mental health problems, including eating disorders and self-injury.
Teens who are seriously depressed often think, speak, or make "attention-getting" attempts at suicide. An alarming and increasing number of teenagers attempt and succeed at suicide, so suicidal thoughts or behaviors should always be taken very seriously. For the overwhelming majority of suicidal teens, depression or another psychological disorder plays a primary role. In depressed teens who also abuse alcohol or drugs, the risk of suicide is even greater. Because of the very real danger of suicide, teenagers who are depressed should be watched closely for any signs of suicidal thoughts or behavior.
Talking or joking about committing suicide. Saying things like, Id be better off dead, I wish I could disappear forever, or Theres no way out. Speaking positively about death or romanticizing dying (If I died, people might love me more). Writing stories and poems about death, dying, or suicide. Engaging in reckless behavior or having a lot of accidents resulting in injury. Giving away prized possessions. Saying goodbye to friends and family as if for good. Seeking out weapons, pills, or other ways to kill themselves.
Watch 3-min. video: Roadblocks to awareness If you suspect that a teenager in your life is suffering from depression, speak up right away. Even if youre unsure that depression is the issue, the troublesome behaviors and emotions youre seeing in your teenager are signs of a problem. Whether or not that problem turns out to be depression, it still needs to be addressedthe sooner the better. In a loving and non-judgmental way, share your concerns with your teenager. Let him or her know what specific signs of depression youve noticed and why they worry you. Then encourage your child to share what he or she is going through. Your teen may be reluctant to open up. He or she may be ashamed, afraid of being misunderstood. Alternatively, depressed teens may simply have a hard time expressing what theyre feeling. If your teen claims nothing is wrong, but has no explanation for what is causing the depressed behavior, you should trust your instincts. Remember that denial is a strong emotion.
Furthermore, teenagers may not believe that what theyre experiencing is the result of depression. Tips for Talking to a Depressed Teen Let depressed teenagers know that youre there for them, fully and Offer unconditionally. Hold back from asking a lot of questions (teenagers dont like support to feel patronized or crowded), but make it clear that youre ready and willing to provide whatever support they need. Be gentle but Dont give up if your adolescent shuts you out at first. Talking about depression can be very tough for teens. Be respectful of your childs comfort persistent level while still emphasizing your concern and willingness to listen. Resist any urge to criticize or pass judgment once your teenager begins to talk. Listen The important thing is that your child is communicating. Avoid offering without unsolicited advice or ultimatums as well. lecturing Dont try to talk teens out of their depression, even if their feelings or concerns Validate appear silly or irrational to you. Simply acknowledge the pain and sadness they feelings are feeling. If you dont, they will feel like you dont take their emotions seriously.
Expect a discussion with the specialist youve chosen about treatment possibilities for your son or daughter. There are a number of treatment options for depression in teenagers, including one-on-one talk therapy, group or family therapy, and medication. Talk therapy is often a good initial treatment for mild to moderate cases of depression. Over the course of therapy, your teens depression may resolve. If it doesnt, medication may be warranted. However, antidepressants should only be used as part of a broader treatment plan. Unfortunately, some parents feel pushed into choosing antidepressant medication over other treatments that may be cost-prohibitive or time-intensive. However, unless your child is considered to be high risk for suicide (in which case medication and/or constant observation may be necessary), you have time to carefully weigh your options before committing to any one treatment.
Once a week for four weeks Every 2 weeks for the next month At the end of their 12th week taking the drug More often if problems or questions arise
New or more thoughts of suicide Trying to commit suicide New or worse depression New or worse anxiety Feeling very agitated or restless Panic attacks Difficulty sleeping (insomnia)
New or worse irritability Acting aggressive, being angry, or violent Acting on dangerous impulses Being extremely hyperactive in actions and talking (hypomania or mania) Other unusual changes in behavior
Be understanding. Living with a depressed teenager can be difficult and draining. At times, you may experience exhaustion, rejection, despair, aggravation, or any other number of negative emotions. During this trying time, its important to remember that your child is not being difficult on purpose. Your teen is suffering, so do your best to be patient and understanding. Encourage physical activity. Encourage your teenager to stay active. Exercise can go a long way toward relieving the symptoms of depression, so find ways to incorporate it into your teenagers day. Something as simple as walking the dog or going on a bike ride can be beneficial. Encourage social activity. Isolation only makes depression worse, so encourage your teenager to see friends and praise efforts to socialize. Offer to take your teen out with friends or suggest social activities that might be of interest, such as sports, afterschool clubs, or an art class. Stay involved in treatment. Make sure your teenager is following all treatment instructions and going to therapy. Its especially important that your child takes any prescribed medication as instructed. Track changes in your teens condition, and call the doctor if depression symptoms seem to be getting worse. Learn about depression. Just like you would if your child had a disease you knew very little about, read up on depression so that you can be your own expert. The more you know, the better equipped youll be to help your depressed teen. Encourage your teenager to learn more about depression as well. Reading up on their condition can help depressed teens realize that theyre not alone and give them a better understanding of what theyre going through.
The road to your depressed teenagers recovery may be bumpy, so be patient. Rejoice in small victories and prepare for the occasional setback. Most importantly, dont judge yourself or compare your family to others. As long as youre doing your best to get your teen the necessary help, youre doing your job.
Take care of yourself In order to help a depressed teen, you need to stay healthy and positive yourself, so dont ignore your own needs. The stress of the situation can affect your own moods and emotions, so cultivate your wellbeing by eating right, getting enough sleep, and making time for things you enjoy. Reach out for support Get the emotional support you need. Reach out to friends, join a support group, or see a therapist of your own. Its okay to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, helpless, or angry. The important thing is to talk about how your teens depression is affecting you, rather than bottling up your emotions. Be open with the family Dont tiptoe around the issue of teen depression in an attempt to protect the other children. Kids know when something is wrong. When left in the dark, their imaginations will often jump to far worse conclusions. Be open about what is going on and invite your children to ask questions and share their feelings. Remember the siblings Depression in one child can cause stress or anxiety in other family members, so make sure healthy children are not ignored. Siblings may need special individual attention or professional help of their own to handle their feelings about the situation. Avoid the blame game It can be easy to blame yourself or another family member for your teens depression, but it only adds to an already stressful situation. Furthermore, depression is normally caused by a number of factors, so its unlikely except in the case of abuse or neglectthat any loved one is responsible.