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THE QUALITIES OF A SCHOOL COUNSELLOR

(ASSIGNMENT FOR GUIDANCE & COUNSELLING)

Submitted by
Vishal Varia
B.B.A., B.Ed.

Guide
Dr. K.J. Desai
Associate Professor

Department of Education
Saurashtra University, Rajkot
(October 2011)

QUALITIES FOR COUNSELLORS


Introduction
The personal and professional qualities of counsellors are very important in facilitating any helping
relationship. A counsellor must be well equipped to assist individuals to make adjustments and live a
happy and harmonious life. The adjustment can be with regard to the school and curriculum,
vocation and personality. For effective counseling, the counsellor must be equipped with two kinds
of data. First he must have data relating to the counsellees background aptitudes, achievements,
interests, plans etc. Further, he must have the skill to interpret this data. Secondly, the counsellor
must have information about the areas in which the counsellee may seek his assistance. These areas
may be educational or personal. With these two kinds of information he assists the counsellee to
match his individual patterns of potentiality with appropriate opportunity. As the process of
counselling develops, both the counsellor and counsellee must arrive at a common ground.
Counsellors who continually develop their self awareness skills are in touch with their values,
thoughts and feelings. They are likely to have a clear perception of their own and their clients needs
and accurately assess both. Such awareness can help them be honest with themselves and others.
They are able to be more congruent and build trust simultaneously. Counsellors who possess this
type of knowledge are most likely to communicate clearly accurately.
Three other characteristics that make counsellors initially more influential are perceived expertness,
attractiveness and trustworthiness. Expertness is the degree to which a counsellor is perceived as
knowledge able and informed about his or her specialty. Counsellors who display certificates and
diplomas in their offices are usually perceived as more credible than those who do not and as a
result, are likely to be effective. Clients went to work with counsellor who appears to know
profession well.
Attractiveness is function of perceived similarity between a client and counselor. Councellors can
make themselves attractive by speaking in clear, simple, jargon free sentence and offering
appropriate self disclosure.
All the counsellors are not alike. They differ in various ways. Their personal characteristics, as well
as, their personality differ quite substantially. A number of research organisations have tried to
ascertain the personal qualities of a counsellor, which are essential to bring about therapeutical
transformation in another person (i.e. the client). Three researchers namely Carkuff, Truax & Carl
Rogers came up with the under mentioned characteristics, which are as follows:
THE DESIRABLE QUALITIES OF A SCHOOL COUNSELLOR ARE THE FOLLOWING:a) Empathy:
The empathic behaviour is the ability of a counsellor to stand in the shoes of the client i.e. to see the
things from the point of view of the client. The quality of empathy is a must for the counselling
process to succeed. Empathy calls for 'forgetting oneself so that the counsellor surrenders himself
completely towards the client. The process of empathisation is never total or complete, which leaves
a lot to be desired, for the counselling process to succeed. Several empathy enhancing activities helps
in enhancing the quality of empathy in a counsellor.
b) Genuineness:
Rogers as well as Truax considered genuineness, as a very important part of counselling. The
employees of various public services are well trained to meet the public at large, in a very cordial

and friendly manner. "Genuineness" is synonymous with good or honest intentions. A genuine
interest in the client is a must for the counselling process to succeed.
c) Warmth:
Personal warmth or being warm is a controversial issue. There is a hairline difference between being
warm or being dubbed as 'sickliness'. The quality of being warm refers to a situation, where a person
shows interest in other individual/group. 'Cold' individuals rarely become good counsellors. A word
of caution here, a too warm counsellor may lead towards the development of over-dependence on the
part of the client. The ideal feeling of being warm is the one which demonstrates that the counsellor
is non-judgmental and is honestly interested in his/her client. Care should be taken to see that the
counsellor does not try to dominate the process of counselling.
d) Concreteness:
It can be termed as a type of skill. It is an ability to listen, to what is being said by the client, instead
of what is being implied. Concreteness in counselling is essential, if the counselling process has to
succeed. A counsellor possessing the skill of concreteness' does not go for details (regarding
psychological explanations) of what the client is speaking about, but instead tries to understand what
the client is trying to express. Any quick, preconceived or initial judgment about what the client is
saying will not be particularly helpful. In fact, it will be counterproductive. The concept of
concreteness almost integrates all the important elements of the counselling process. A concrete
counsellor, invariably, listens to and accepts what the client is saying and does not quickly make his
judgments.
e) Unconditional Positive Regard:
Rogers came up with a term called, 'unconditional positive regard' to refer to 'necessary and
sufficient conditions for therapeutic change' in the counselling relationship. Rogers emphasized that
the counsellor's positive feeling for the client must never be conditional in nature. He further
suggested that the counsellor should feel warmly disposed towards the client, irrespective of the
client's feelings or emotions, which is almost impractical or unreal. This is impossible. Further, it is
important that a counsellor is broad minded and initially non-judgmental. Also positive general
disposition towards the client is a must for the counselling process to succeed.
f) A Tragic Sense:
In order to get involved with a client's problem a 'tragic sense of life' must be developed. All human
beings have some limitations. A tragic sense helps the counsellor to remain humble. It also inducts a
sense of humanity in him. Counsellors are not people with better brains, but are the people who
readily listen to the problems of their clients.
g) A Sense of Humour:
A sense of humour comes quite handy, in rescuing most of the sensitive or delicate situations. It does
not means that a counsellor should resort to a comedian's tactics. It also does not mean that a
counsellor should start taking the conversation during counselling session lightly. But, it means to
help a client to regain the sight of the larger picture of a problem. It helps in calming down the tense
atmosphere, that builds up because the clients generally blow the things out of proportion. Even
subjects dubbed as 'taboos', can be easily confronted with the help of a sense of humour.

h) Self-awareness:
It means to being aware of oneself i.e. to be aware of one's own limitations and strengths. It means to
explore oneself. It is a realistic attempt of comparing oneself with other people. It means to explore
one's own life situations.
A MAN is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
- James Allen in As a Man Thinketh
A GOOD COUNSELLOR is also:
a positive influencer
enthusiastic
caring
supportive
trusting
focussed
goal-oriented
knowledgeable
attentive
clear and concise
patient
observing
responsive

Formal
Structure

Social
Structure

Habits &
Persistent
Feelings of
employees

Employees
willingness
to
cooperate

Leadership
Practices

Conclusion
An important quality of a counesllor is that he like and respects himself, but he does not use the
counsellee to satisfy his own needs. Every normal human being has a desire to be respected,
recognized and accepted. Then the counselor must qualities of good personality, good character and
wholesome philosophy, health, emotional stability, approachability, sympathic understanding of
youth, intelligence, social culture, broad knowledge and interest in guidance and personal working
conditions and understanding of social economic conditions. They above given qualities must be
possessed by a counsellor.

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