Qualities of A Councellor
Qualities of A Councellor
Qualities of A Councellor
Submitted by
Vishal Varia
B.B.A., B.Ed.
Guide
Dr. K.J. Desai
Associate Professor
Department of Education
Saurashtra University, Rajkot
(October 2011)
and friendly manner. "Genuineness" is synonymous with good or honest intentions. A genuine
interest in the client is a must for the counselling process to succeed.
c) Warmth:
Personal warmth or being warm is a controversial issue. There is a hairline difference between being
warm or being dubbed as 'sickliness'. The quality of being warm refers to a situation, where a person
shows interest in other individual/group. 'Cold' individuals rarely become good counsellors. A word
of caution here, a too warm counsellor may lead towards the development of over-dependence on the
part of the client. The ideal feeling of being warm is the one which demonstrates that the counsellor
is non-judgmental and is honestly interested in his/her client. Care should be taken to see that the
counsellor does not try to dominate the process of counselling.
d) Concreteness:
It can be termed as a type of skill. It is an ability to listen, to what is being said by the client, instead
of what is being implied. Concreteness in counselling is essential, if the counselling process has to
succeed. A counsellor possessing the skill of concreteness' does not go for details (regarding
psychological explanations) of what the client is speaking about, but instead tries to understand what
the client is trying to express. Any quick, preconceived or initial judgment about what the client is
saying will not be particularly helpful. In fact, it will be counterproductive. The concept of
concreteness almost integrates all the important elements of the counselling process. A concrete
counsellor, invariably, listens to and accepts what the client is saying and does not quickly make his
judgments.
e) Unconditional Positive Regard:
Rogers came up with a term called, 'unconditional positive regard' to refer to 'necessary and
sufficient conditions for therapeutic change' in the counselling relationship. Rogers emphasized that
the counsellor's positive feeling for the client must never be conditional in nature. He further
suggested that the counsellor should feel warmly disposed towards the client, irrespective of the
client's feelings or emotions, which is almost impractical or unreal. This is impossible. Further, it is
important that a counsellor is broad minded and initially non-judgmental. Also positive general
disposition towards the client is a must for the counselling process to succeed.
f) A Tragic Sense:
In order to get involved with a client's problem a 'tragic sense of life' must be developed. All human
beings have some limitations. A tragic sense helps the counsellor to remain humble. It also inducts a
sense of humanity in him. Counsellors are not people with better brains, but are the people who
readily listen to the problems of their clients.
g) A Sense of Humour:
A sense of humour comes quite handy, in rescuing most of the sensitive or delicate situations. It does
not means that a counsellor should resort to a comedian's tactics. It also does not mean that a
counsellor should start taking the conversation during counselling session lightly. But, it means to
help a client to regain the sight of the larger picture of a problem. It helps in calming down the tense
atmosphere, that builds up because the clients generally blow the things out of proportion. Even
subjects dubbed as 'taboos', can be easily confronted with the help of a sense of humour.
h) Self-awareness:
It means to being aware of oneself i.e. to be aware of one's own limitations and strengths. It means to
explore oneself. It is a realistic attempt of comparing oneself with other people. It means to explore
one's own life situations.
A MAN is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
- James Allen in As a Man Thinketh
A GOOD COUNSELLOR is also:
a positive influencer
enthusiastic
caring
supportive
trusting
focussed
goal-oriented
knowledgeable
attentive
clear and concise
patient
observing
responsive
Formal
Structure
Social
Structure
Habits &
Persistent
Feelings of
employees
Employees
willingness
to
cooperate
Leadership
Practices
Conclusion
An important quality of a counesllor is that he like and respects himself, but he does not use the
counsellee to satisfy his own needs. Every normal human being has a desire to be respected,
recognized and accepted. Then the counselor must qualities of good personality, good character and
wholesome philosophy, health, emotional stability, approachability, sympathic understanding of
youth, intelligence, social culture, broad knowledge and interest in guidance and personal working
conditions and understanding of social economic conditions. They above given qualities must be
possessed by a counsellor.