Choice Map

Introduction:
 Thoughts, Feelings, Circumstances represent anything that impacts us at

any moment. Some of the things that happen in life are unpleasant, and
those kinds of things can be extremely upsetting. But positive events
impact us too. We don’t have much choices about what happens to us. But
where we do have choice is what we do with what happens. Now, the
question is: how will we react to what happens? This is where the Choice
Map can work and help.
 I learned from the CPC that we usually react according to what we feel
which is affected by our thoughts, and as a coach I should dig into the
client’s thoughts, in order to change their reactions or some limited beliefs
that might be reasons of delay to reach their goals or making decisions
easily. From this point, I decided to demonstrate the Choice Map.
1. The purpose of the Choice Map:

 The Choice Map is about helping the persons to observe themselves and
others better, discovering more options, and choosing more wisely, even
under pressure, so that when things aren’t working, the person can use this
map to figure out what’s in his/her way and find a better path for getting
what they want. It’s not about labelling people or putting them in boxes. It’s
a powerful guide for charting more effective paths through the lives of the
persons. It illustrates what happens when they follow one of two paths: the
Learner path or the Judger path which I will describe them later. It could be
 The Choice Map is about developing ways to make intentional, conscious
choices rather than just reacting and allowing ourselves to be controlled by
events around us. These intentional and conscious choices, moment by
moment by moment, are also essential leadership qualities.
2. The Judger Path and The Learner Path:

 The Choice map represents 2 types of persons, one of them follows a path
where he/she asks themselves negative questions “The Judger Path”, and
the other person follows a path where he/she asks themselves positive
questions “The Learner Path”. From one side, it represents how the
persons feel after following the Judger path, as following this path leads
them to feel Hopeless, helpless, Pessimistic, Depleted, Depressed,
Uptight, Victim, Loser..etc. From the other side, it represents how the
persons feel after following the Learner path, as the latter leads them to
feel Lighter, Upbeat, Curious, more energetic, Optimistic, Hopeful,
discovering that there are new possibilities so that maybe there are
solutions to their problems after all. It also shows how such feelings affect
on the decisions these persons make and on the ratio of their satisfaction
about the decisions they made and themselves.
 Everyone of us has Judger moments, including me, it’s a natural part of
being human. At nearly every moment of our lives, we’re shifting back and
forth between our Learner and Judger mindsets, barely aware we have any
control over which one we’ve chosen. But we do have choice in every
moment. And to be really effective and satisfied in our lives, that will begin
with our ability to distinguish between the two paths. When the person
steps into their observer self, it gives them a chance to focus on the bigger
picture. Without that, the person will be on automatic pilot and reacting
mindlessly. The Learner path takes the person to a very different place
than the Judger path. With Judger mindset we eventually end up stuck in
the mud. With Learner mindset we can discover new possibilities. When
two people are in Judger, the one who wakes up first has an advantage.
That person can choose to go Learner and turn the situation around for
both of them.
3. How to get benefit from the Choice Map in the Life Coaching
Career?
A- Powerful Questions:
 As a life coach, I can get benefits from this map to help the clients who are
seeking to make decisions by changing some limited beliefs they have, so
that they can get self-awareness and see their life situations from different
points of views, discovering new possibilities, hence being able to make
better decisions and at the same time being more satisfied about
themselves and avoiding unintended consequences based on incomplete
information that might arise from the decisions they made. Also I can
switch the mindset of the clients from the Judger path to the Learner Path
so that will help them observe themselves and others better.
 This will happen in case I noticed that the clients is following the Judger
Path while they want to reach their goals, like when it’s obvious from the
sentences said by the clients that they have automatic reactions, are blame
focused and looking to the relations as it should be Win-Lose. Such
sentences will be like: I want to know whose fault is it, it should be
something wrong with me, I should prove that I’m right, I’m stupid, people
are stupid and frustrating..etc. In this case, I can use some powerful
questions to switch the mindset from Judger (Reacting) to Learner
(Choosing), like the following questions:
o What happened?
o What are the facts? What’s useful about this?
o What works?
o What are you responsible for?
o What do you want?
o What can you learn?
o What is the other person thinking, feeling, and wanting?
o What’s the big picture?
o What’s possible?
o What are your choices?
o What’s best to do now?
B- Tools:
Tool 1: Put the Power of Questions to Work: This tool has two parts:
Part A: Internal Questions
Purpose: helping the clients to become more aware of the Self-Questions and to
increase the quantity and quality of their internal questions.
Practice 1: When you get up tomorrow morning, do a little question research. Note
what questions you’re asking yourself as you get dressed. Then, from time to time
throughout the day, ask yourself what questions might be driving your behaviour in
the situation, both in terms of your own actions and your interactions with others. It
may take some patient observing to recognize those behaviour-generating questions,
but stay with it until you are able to see the influential role that Self-Questions play in
your life.
Practice 2: As a second piece of question research, notice your responses to
situations that come up throughout the day. Is your first thought a statement (an
answer), or is it a question? If your first thought is a statement, experiment with
changing it into a question; notice how shifting from a statement to a question
changes your moods, actions, or interactions. Notice any correlations between your
statements or questions and the kinds of results they produce.
Part B: Interpersonal Questions

Purpose: helping the clients to become more aware of the questions they ask other
people, including the impact of the clients questions on them, and to increase the
quantity and quality of the clients interpersonal questions.
Practice 1: Ask yourself approximately what is the ratio of questions you ask versus
statements you make? Do your communications with others involve more questions
and fewer statements or answers? In at least one conversation today, practice
asking many questions.
Practice 2: Recall a time when a particular question made a positive difference in
your personal or professional life. What was that question? What was the result? And
what was it about the question that made such a difference?
Tool 2: Question Assumptions

Purpose: To avoid suffering unintended consequences based on incomplete
information. This will happen when the clients will start to detect the accuracy of their
own assumptions so they don’t trip themselves up. The habit of asking skilfull
questions, both of themselves and others, is a tool for uncovering blind spots and
moving beyond them to discover valuable new information, perspectives, and
possibilities.
Practice: Think of a situation in which you are stuck, frustrated, or where you want a
change. Use the following list of assumption-busting questions to help you take a
disciplined approach to unearth any false or faulty assumptions that might be
blocking your success. For best results, consider each question thoroughly and write
down your responses. Often, the act of writing stimulates deeper reflection and
discoveries.
• What assumptions am I making about myself?
• What assumptions am I making about others?
• What am I assuming from the past that may not be true now?
• What am I assuming about available resources?
•What am I assuming about what’s impossible or possible?

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Introduction:

 Thoughts, Feelings, Circumstances represent anything that impacts us at

1. The purpose of the Choice Map:

2. The Judger Path and The Learner Path:

Part B: Interpersonal Questions

Tool 2: Question Assumptions

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