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Foster Blessings - Angela Paganelli
Table of Contents
Title
Copyright
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13
About the Author
cover.jpgFoster Blessings
Angela Paganelli
ISBN 979-8-88685-828-0 (paperback)
ISBN 979-8-88685-829-7 (digital)
Copyright © 2023 by Angela Paganelli
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Christian Faith Publishing
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Meadville, PA 16335
www.christianfaithpublishing.com
Printed in the United States of America
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Chapter 1
Two. I was two. I was golden from the Miami Beach sun and was being whisked away, by train, from my biological father for a reason that would never be discovered. The culprit? My mother. We spent years hiding; from what, I didn't know. All I have to this day is a picture of him in his garage uniform. He had the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen. We never talked about him again. I would ask later in life and all I would hear is, When you are older.
Apparently, I never got old enough.
I later found out from a distant uncle that my father had looked for me for years. My mother had changed my name and homeschooled me. Imagine my surprise at twenty, when I found out that the name Angelina wasn't what was on my birth certificate, despite that being what everyone called me.
Most of my family believed that the extremely protective nature that my mother held stemmed from my traumatic birth. In 1979, a two-month early preemie weighing under two pounds just didn't survive. I was given a tracheotomy and spent the first few months of my life in an incubator. There were no clothes for a baby that small, so the nurses bought socks, cut the bottoms off, and placed me in them. I was called Miracle Baby by the Dade County Herald newspaper.
As I grew, we moved to Pennsylvania into pure Amish country, surrounded by my mother's family. There were chickens, bare feet, horses, buggies, and life was about as perfect as you could ask for a kid. I had cousins that lived nearby, and our nights, weekends, and summers were filled with fireflies, bonfires, and a zipline that now, looking back, was a pretty dangerous piece of equipment, built by my late grandfather. Many times we found ourselves slamming into the tree at the end or getting deep cuts on our fingers from holding the handle at a bad angle, but you know what? It may have been the best part of my early childhood.
Around the age of seven, I'm not sure how because the internet was decades away, somehow my mother met a man in New York. He was going to be perfect, and we were going to be a family. I don't remember too much about the next few years except the birth of my sister, getting a ten-speed bike, and great Friday night television that would afford me glimpses of what life was supposed to look like.
Quite suddenly, things began to unravel. With the birth of my sister, my mother became ill, both physically and mentally. Her mental illness began to spill over into our home life as I watched our house deteriorate to a home that should probably have been condemned. I would watch my friends having birthday parties and sleepovers, just spending time listening to their pink boom boxes complete with tape recorders, and I would long for normalcy. We spent the next several years in her mentally unstable world, sleeping in cars, homeless/battered women's shelters, and even on the beach.
Every morning, we would wake up at 6:00 a.m. to our mother loading the car for a beach trip, hotel stay, or long drive. We were never home until she became too sick to care for us and would end up in the hospital, which was frequent. I'm not sure how family services never became involved, but I took over the role of mother to my younger sister. At eight, I was potty training, making the only two meals I knew how to (franks and beans and egg salad), learning to wash clothes, and putting her first. I was a mom. As the years went by and our mother was in and out of the hospital, my role as caretaker grew. The older my sister got, the closer we became.
Speaking of pink boom boxes, I had saved a bit of money and snuck away one afternoon to a store less than a mile from my house. Well, I don't know if it was a store so to speak. It was a buy, sell, and trade. I had my eye on that radio for weeks. I finally saved enough and, riding as fast as I could, bought it and rushed home. I couldn't wait to listen to the radio. I carried it outside, showing it off to everyone who passed by. I loved that radio with all of my heart.
Several months later, my mother ended up back in the hospital, and it was a long stay. It was most of the summer. I was so frightened that this was it, that I returned the boom box, got a small amount of my money back because the owner of the shop clearly didn't have a heart, and bought my mother a pack of her favorite candy. I figured, if she knew this was here, she would surely make her way back in anticipation. She eventually did, and I was so happy to present her with the present. It was well worth it to lose my prized possession and have her home with us.
Christmas was rolling around, and I would hear friends talking about all of the things Santa brought them. I often wondered why he seemed to skip my house. One year, I longed for a Caboodle (yes, I am aging myself). All of my friends had started wearing makeup. I saw them carrying their cases around, pulling different shades of lip gloss out, just to put them back into their perfect compartments. I begged my mother for months. Christmas morning, I woke up, and under the tree was one package for me. You guessed it. It was a Caboodle. A used, halfway broken one with no makeup inside. I put on a sweet smile, knowing that she had done her best, and vowed to never show anyone my gift.