The Drop: How the Most Addictive Sport Can Help Us Understand Addiction and Recovery
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In this revelatory and original book, award-winning author of the acclaimed surf memoir On a Wave illuminates the connection between waves, addiction, and recovery, exploring what surfing can teach us about the powerful undertow of addictive behaviors and the ways to swim free of them.
Addiction is arguably the dominant feature of contemporary life: sex, gambling, exercise, eating, shopping, Internet use—there's virtually no pleasurable activity that can't morph into a destructive obsession. For Americans under the age of fifty-five, the leading cause of death is drug overdose. But there is another side of addiction.
In some instances, the very activities that can lead to addiction can also lead out of it. As neurologists have recently discovered, surfing is a kind of study in the mechanism of addiction, delivering dopamine to the "pleasure" center of the brain and reshaping priorities and desire in a feedback loop of narrowing focus. Thad Ziolkowski knows this dynamic intimately. A lifelong surfer, he has been surrounded by addiction since his boyhood. In this unique, groundbreaking book, part addiction memoir, part sociological study, part spiritual odyssey, Ziolkowski dismantles the myth of surfing as a radiantly wholesome lifestyle immune to the darker temptations of the culture and discovers among the rubble a new way to understand and ultimately overcome addiction.
Combining his own story with insights from scientists, progressive thinkers and the experiences of top surfers and addicts from around the world, Ziolkowski shows how getting on a board and catching a wave is a unique and deeply instructive means of riding out of the darkness and back into the light. Yet while surfing is his salvation, its lessons can applied to other activities that can pull us free from the lethal undertow of addiction and save lives.
Thad Ziolkowski
Thad Ziolkowski is the author of the memoir On a Wave, which was a finalist for the PEN/Martha Albrand Award in 2003, and Wichita, a novel. His essays and reviews have appeared in the New York Times, Slate, Bookforum, Artforum, Travel & Leisure, and Interview magazine. He has a PhD in English literature from Yale University and is the recipient of a Guggenheim Fellowship. He is the associate director of the Leon Levy Center for Biography at the Graduate Center, City University of New York.
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The Drop - Thad Ziolkowski
Dedication
For Juliana
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Dedication
Contents
Preface
Part I
Liminality
The Ballad of Andy Irons
Biophilia
The Parable of Mr. Sunset
The Dark Road
A Surfer in Kansas
Between Waves
Part II
Sandy Hook
Waves
Brain Bathymetry
Now Appeal
Bunker
Wavepool Methadone
Part III
Diptych
The Unrecovered
Gidget’s Intervention
The First
Surf Therapy
Looking Back
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Copyright
About the Publisher
Preface
Montclair, New Jersey
Late summer, early morning—warm, clear, windless. I load my sleepy twelve-year-old son and six-year-old daughter into the car, make final adjustments to the straps holding the longboard on the roof rack. Finding time to go can be complicated, but the way is simple: a straight shot on the Garden State Parkway, which flows downhill until it reaches the bridge across Raritan Bay. On the other side, a rest stop called Cheesequake then wetlands, stands of poplars, the occasional heron or osprey.
In Manasquan, there’s a drawbridge over the estuary—lush green reeds and mudflats, sailboats at anchor, a glimpse of the inlet. The surf is small this morning, possibly flat, and I feel none of the haste that overtakes me when I know it’s good or even pretty good—when I might put my wetsuit on backward or forget to apply sunblock or leave the lights on if I arrive at daybreak and return to find the car battery dead.
I get a parking spot near the inlet, which is a victory, and we’re just early enough to avoid paying for beach passes. The waves I see as we crest the slight rise where the sand begins are indeed small but marvelously glassy and blue, shimmering in the morning sunlight.
Dropping our stuff—backpack and towels and sun-shielding tent and food—on the border between the surf and the swim zones, I feel the age-old urgency to get amongst it,
as the Aussies say. I smear sunblock on Teo and Gemma, then on myself, attach the boogie board leashes to their wrists, and watch them enter the water. As I’m scribbling wax on my board, two teenage lifeguards arrive and climb into their throne-like white chair. I attach the leash to my ankle and trot into the shallows, kicking through wavelets and crosshatching ripples. When the water is thigh-deep, I drop the board and place the fingers of my right hand on the deck in automatic fashion. Muscle memories, as of a first language.
I grew up surfing then quit it like a drug to focus on college. It was like throwing a psychic switch from body to mind—an old-fashioned, steampunk kind of switch that sparked and twitched and threatened to fly back the other way. When it finally did, surfing was no longer in the body position. In its place was drinking, then drugs. I was in New York City, the opposite of where I lived in my beachy provincial youth, but as in a dream surfing was at the end of the A subway line when I needed to find it again—Far Rockaway. It felt like falling to my knees, being taken back without question or reproach. I was given a kind of new body or an old reason to have a body, to be fit, to wake up early—to get sober.
Out in the lineup, I turn to check on Gemma and Teo. So far, my carefully offhand and widely spaced invitations to climb on a board have been met with firm refusals. I understand. The ocean is scary and they are always encountering it anew, after weeks or months away. It’s not important, I tell myself. It may even be for the best. I want them to experience surfing, to be conversant, but do I want them to become surfers? To be seized by it as I was? For school and most everything else to lose color and fade into the background? That’s the risk—possession, addiction. And not only to surfing, if they had my proclivities.
I notice what appears to be a surf school gathering on the beach—pink and purple soft-top boards, a pink banner planted in the sand: girls in the curl. Before long, young girls accompanied by women instructors filter out into the lineup. The tide is dead low and their parents stand in the shallows taking videos with smartphones and shouting praise as the girls are pushed into waves, climb to their feet, and ride toward the beach with arms outspread like fledglings.
At the end of a ride, I notice Gemma watching them. She’s left her boogie board on the beach. I nudge my board toward her. Wanna try?
Without taking her eyes off the surf-school girls, she nods as if in a trance and eases herself onto the deck of the board.
I walk us toward the lineup with Gemma lying prone, but the board is so boatlike for her that halfway out she stands up cheekily, showing off as we crest waves. On the backside of a bigger one, she windmills her arms and falls off, climbs back on the board laughing, stands up again. Having reached the lineup, I have her lie down toward the nose and I lie down behind her and paddle around, giving her a tour—over by the dark barnacle-encrusted jetty boulders, then back among the surfers waiting for waves. The surf zone is a dimension unto itself—the sunlight sparkling on the rolling, glassy blue water, the subtle sense of suspended or alternate temporality. Of being sleek and camouflaged like a dolphin and possessed of dolphin-like playfulness. There is nothing to be or become. Everything is all right, complete. This is the essence of what I wanted her and her brother to know—what I believe in enough to wish to bequeath or transmit.
A wave arrives and I swing around and paddle us into it, anchoring the back of the board and gripping the rails to keep it stable. Once we’re shooting along in the whitewater, Gemma jumps to her feet without prompting and rides in a frozen crouch for a long dramatic stretch as I angle the board hard to the right. She’s so small and the ride is going on for so long that the eyes of the Girls in the Curls parents and the rest of the beach have turned to follow us. Gemma seems to sense it: she dismounts at the end with a cannonball flourish.
Again!
she says, and climbs back on the board. But now Teo, having witnessed his sister’s glorious first wave, wants to try it, too, and waits impatiently in the shallows for her second ride, which amounts to a repeat of the first, to be over. I walk then paddle the much larger Teo out into the lineup, then into a wave; he gets to his feet and rides it for a good stretch, then falls off and immediately asks for another, eyes wide and excited. And so begins an endless round of their taking turns—two rides each—and squabbling over whether such and such a shorter or weaker wave actually counts as a turn.
By noon we’re sun-scorched and famished. I set up the sun tent and we eat lunch huddled in its shade and afterward have an ice cream at Carlson’s Corner, a take-out diner with umbrella-shaded tables. Gemma and Teo don’t want to go home yet, but I insist we stay under the umbrella at our table until the fiercest heat and sunlight of the midday is past. They fetch their iPads from the car and settle in.
When we return to the beach later in the afternoon, everything is different. The sun has slipped behind a lid of clouds in the west, the beach is in shadow, and the crowds have thinned. The tide is peaking high rather than low, with foamy tongues licking at the sand near our towels, and a bigger, hectic, short-period wind swell has replaced the glassy morning waves. There’s no sign of Girls in the Curl, the parents, the instructors, the girl students.
It’s going to be altogether trickier to get beginner waves now and I stand surveying the situation.
Are you coming?
Gemma asks at the edge of the shorebreak. Let’s go!
Out of caution, I restrict us to the whitewater on the inside, but there’s a trench just past the shorebreak and the rides are short-lived and disappointing, as Gemma is quick to let me know. That doesn’t count!
she shouts at Teo.
She turns to me. "That was terrible!" she scolds. She’s very aware that people on the beach are watching her and can’t abide disappointing her fans.
After another line of whitewater dribbles away in deep water before she can pop to her feet, she sighs with exasperation and points out to the lineup, where a few beginners bob around cluelessly. "Look at the other surfers, Daddy! Do what they’re doing!"
This is too much. All right,
I say, patting the front of the board. She wants a real wave, we’ll catch a real wave. Get on.
I wait for a brief lull in the nearly incessant waves and sprint-paddle us past the inside bar untouched. We’re just reaching the lineup when a set wave caps as we’re cresting it at a steep angle and the whitewater sweeps Gemma backward, banging her head so hard against mine that I see a flash.
Oh my God, are you okay?
I ask, rubbing my forehead and glancing at my fingers to check for blood. I’m expecting Gemma to tearfully insist on going in, but she surprises me by nodding gamely while rubbing the back of her head. I’m okay. Let’s go.
Are you sure?
I’m sure!
Do you want to go in?
No, I’m fine!
Okay.
I paddle us a bit farther out and we sit up to wait for a wave. The dark green water is alive with tossing, pushy swell energy. I’m uneasy now. That loss of control, my not having factored in how weak a hold Gemma would have on the board as we plowed through these bigger waves, has rattled me.
Looking back, I see the shore is much farther off than I expected it to be. I can barely make out Teo’s head where he’s hanging out in the shorebreak. Meanwhile, aside from a few lost-looking beginners, the lineup is empty. Gemma knows how to swim but not well and not in the ocean. I don’t like how this scene is coming together, with that ominous unremarkable quality preceding terrible accidents.
The next wave that comes, I decide, we’re catching it into the beach. And one arrives almost immediately, bigger than I would have preferred, but I turn and paddle for it.
Okay,
I say, here we go!
Instantly the wave seizes us and we shoot forward. Partially blinded by spray and sunlight, I see Gemma hop blithely to her feet then tumble straight into the drink as the nose buries itself in a chop. The board is an oldish, quite heavy nose-rider, ten feet four inches long. Underwater I grip the rails with all my strength as I’m spun like a riverboat paddlewheel, determined to keep it away from Gemma but fearful it might clip her anyway.
When I finally surface clinging to the board like a spar, I find Gemma dog-paddling in the bright fizzing foam nearby, wide-eyed and gasping.
It’s shallow enough for me to stand. I reach out and sweep her gratefully up with one arm and set her on the board.
Whoa!
I say, peering into her face. Are you okay?
She clasps my arm and gulps in air. When she’s caught her breath enough to speak, she says, Let’s get another one!
Part I
Liminality
Surfers are hardly unique. The allure of the ocean is enormous, mythic, virtually universal. Seeing it for the first time can have the force of a secular revelation. To swim or wade in it, or merely stand on shore and gaze, is entrancing, soothing, renewing. There is something enchanting about both the view of the vastness and the water itself, its texture and colors, the magic of its chemistry. The pulse of its life force is palpable and there is always a sense, however faint, of putting oneself invigoratingly at risk on entering it, of being tested, evaluated, scanned. Hence the costly annual pilgrimages of vacationers and dense clustering of populations along coastlines despite the exorbitant price of beach real estate and the rapidly increasing instability brought on by global warming.
But note that it’s not out at sea, aboard a boat or a ship, that most people want to be—it’s by and in it. The meeting of land and sea forms an elemental threshold with deep, primal resonance and magnetism. The land is like the awake rational mind of the present, the ocean the unconscious, irrational, archaic. The ocean shore is the geographic equivalent of dawn or dusk, of the transitional mode of consciousness between waking and sleep, an intermundial state in which the spirit is quietly loosened from its moorings and set adrift. Edges blur, identities become uncertain, shifting, subject to flux and transformation. New thoughts well up, changes of life direction are contemplated.
The term for interstitial places and states of consciousness is liminal
(from Latin, limen, threshold), coined by early-twentieth-century folklorist Arnold van Gennep. The focus of van Gennep’s hugely influential book is reflected in the title, The Rites of Passage, but he begins with a discussion of ancient borderlands between tribal territories. Often natural barriers such as marshes or forests, these zones are the original thresholds, their magico-religious
properties arising in part from being neither here nor there, neither ours nor theirs. To enter a frontier or borderland is to pass into a new world, where one’s status is uncertain and provisional. Though van Gennep doesn’t mention the treacherous, ever-changing surf zone separating shore from open ocean, it, too, functions as a borderland and was until recently regarded as a realm of evil spirits, spiritual peril, and uncertainty in a variety of cultures—Indonesia, Africa, the Caribbean, even parts of Polynesia. Comparable beliefs also pervaded European coastal communities. The West rid the ocean of sea monsters beginning roughly with the Enlightenment, but even Westerners became aquatic en masse only within the past century or so.
Like entering a borderland, rites of passage and initiations strip away and suspend identities. Many such rituals, van Gennep noted, involve crossing an actual or symbolic threshold, hence the term liminal.
He divided these rites into three phases: the pre-liminal, in which individuals are separated from the group; the liminal or transitional itself; and the post-liminal or reincorporative, in which a girl, for example, having ritually become a woman, reenters the social group under the sign of this new identity and stature. Van Gennep extended the concept of liminality to include transitional states of place, situation, or time: moving from one house to another, or to a new city; starting college or a job, or graduating; New Year and birthday celebrations.
Addiction is liminal, too, an interstitial realm divided from workaday reality by an unseen veil. I think of the opioid addict lying, eyes closed in a nod, on flattened cardboard as rush-hour foot traffic troops past inches away. Even the functional addict, the executive or day laborer, lives in a dimension to one side of her nonaddict coworkers, isolated by preoccupation and dependence. Addicts—and surfers, too—are what Victor Turner, elaborating on van Gennep, calls liminal personae,
or threshold people, who exist on the margins of society in a state of social invisibility and lowliness.
Liminality crops up in neurobiological accounts of addiction: the reward system of the brain, which governs motivation and drive, is reshaped by sustained drug misuse, raising the reward threshold
so that natural pleasures such as food and sex lose their interest and appeal. Only the drug of misuse stimulates the production of the levels of dopamine and other neurotransmitters enough to reach and crest the threshold, producing a high. The Tantalus-like tragedy of addiction is that the reward threshold grows ever higher until finally little to no effect aside from a feeling of relief from anxiety, discomfort, or misery is achievable. Compulsive attempts to reach and cross the threshold end in overdoses, sometimes fatal, especially for opioid addicts.
Whatever causes addiction, whether trauma, genetic predisposition, social despair, sheer exposure and consumption, or some combination thereof, people who become addicts all seem to be haunted by an acute sense