Dealing With Stress
Dealing With Stress
Dealing With Stress
Have you ever been through stressful situations, like having to rush your work
to meet an important deadline or attending an interview for a new job? How about
being caught in a traffic jam?
How did you feel during those situations? What is your usual reaction? Were
you challenged, irritated or threatened? Are you aware that such situations make
you tense? And tensions, whether light or heavy, result in stress.
In this module, you will learn about the signs, types and causes of stress. You
will also learn about its effects on your health and tips on how to cope with stress in
order to live a happier and healthier life.
This module consists of three lessons:
Lesson 1 – Stress: Do You Suffer from It?
Lesson 2 – Too Much Stress and Your Health
Lesson 3 – Manage Stress for a Healthier and Happier Life
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Let’s See What You Already Know
Before you start studying this module, try answering the following questions to
determine what you already know about this topic.
1. Stress is when you feel tension in your body. Tension, on the other hand, is
when you feel mental, emotional or nervous pressure. Which of the
following is not an emotion that you might feel when you are under stress?
a. very sad
b. thrilled
c. bored
d. nervous
2. Stress comes from different sources. Which of the following could be a
source of stress?
a. death of a family member
b. winning in a competition
c. taking an examination
d. all of the above
3. When you do not worry, you do not have stress in your life. Is this
statement right or wrong?
a. Right, because stress is always associated with worrying.
b. Wrong, because both sad and happy tensions like worries and
excitements can cause stress.
c. Right, because it is only when you worry that you will be stressed.
d. Wrong, because worrying has nothing to do with stress.
4. Which of the following is a symptom of stress?
a. cold hands and feet
b. stomachaches
c. too much sweating
d. all of the above
5. Stress overload is when you get so much stress that your body becomes
negatively affected. Which of the following is not a physical sign of stress
overload?
a. frequent colds
b. change in appetite
c. back pains
d. swollen feet
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6. What may happen to your behavior when you experience stress overload
(too much stress)?
a. You become irritable and aggressive.
b. You always yawn.
c. You become critical and defensive.
d. All of the above
7. What may happen to a person who doesn’t reduce the stress he has been
experiencing for a long time?
a. He/she may become physically ill.
b. He/she may feel desperate enough to commit suicide.
c. He/she may end up hating everybody, even himself.
d. All of the above
8. Which is not a healthy way to reduce stress?
a. drinking alcoholic drinks
b. having enough sleep
c. exercising regularly
d. meditation
9. Relaxation can help reduce stress. Which of the following is not a good
relaxation technique?
a. meditation
b. watching movies
c. going on vacation
d. smoking
10. Which of the following attitudes can help reduce stress?
a. believing in your own ability
b. expecting the worst to happen
c. underestimating your own capacity
d. pitying yourself
Well, how was it? Do you think you fared well? Compare your answers with
those in the Answer Key on page 44.
If all your answers are correct, very good! This shows that you already know
much about the topics in this module. You may still study the module to review
what you already know. Who knows, you might learn a few more new things as
well.
If you got a low score, don’t feel bad. It means that this module is for you. It
will help you understand important concepts that you can apply in your daily life. If
you study this module carefully, you will learn the answers to all the items in the
test and a lot more! Are you ready?
You may now go to the next page to begin Lesson 1.
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LESSON 1
In this lesson, you will learn what stress is, how it happens and why you get
stressed. You will also learn to identify common stressors or causes of stress, and
distinguish which of those are negative and positive. Recognizing stress and
identifying its sources is the first step toward planning for a healthier and better way
of handling stress.
After studying this lesson, you should be able to:
♦ recognize the symptoms of stress;
♦ explain the difference between positive and negative stress;
♦ identify the possible causes of stress; and
♦ accept that stress is a reality of life.
Stress is a common part of our everyday life. It often results from the different
kinds of tensions we experience at any time of the day. Tensions are emotional,
physical or psychological pressures that make us feel uneasy.
Below are some common life situations that show how and why persons suffer
from stress. Study the dialogues and analyze the tension that each character
experiences.
Situation 1 Situation 2
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Situation 3 Situation 4
Sweetheart, I will ask
him to stay for lunch. I cannot sleep. These noisy neighbors
Can you prepare I have nothing don’t know the difference between
something? to cook. We night and day. I think I should call
don’t have thepolice.
enough money,
forgroceries!
Situation 5
After analyzing each of the five situations, answer the following questions:
1. Identify the persons in the dialogues who experienced tension. How did
each one feel?
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2. What caused their tension?
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Have you finished answering the questions? If so, compare your answers with
the ones below.
1. The persons who experienced tension were Alma, Wilson and the wife in
Situation 3. They were all uneasy and worried. The woman in Situation 4
was irritated, while Andy in Situation 5 was overjoyed.
2. They are all tense because they face difficult and unusual situations. Alma
is worried about her financial problem; Wilson has to meet a deadline; the
wife is uneasy and worried because she has to prepare some food for an
unexpected visitor; the old woman was irritated with the loud noise from her
neighbor’s house; and Andy was overjoyed after winning in a lottery.
Are your analyses similar to the ones given? If yes, very good! If not, don’t
worry. Continue studying this lesson and you will learn a lot more.
Let’s Learn
What is stress?
Stress is defined as physical, mental and emotional tension. Tensions, on the
other hand, are the emotional, physical or psychological pressures you experience.
They occur when the normal condition of your body is disturbed, like when you get
thrilled when you hug someone special, or when you feel depressed for not being
able to find a job. The feeling of being in control and relaxed is what we call the
body’s normal condition. But when you are thrilled or depressed, your normal
condition is affected, you become tense and you lose some control over yourself.
Excitement and pressure can cause stress. When something good happens, don’t
you get excited? On the other hand, if you have so much work like for example, when
you are meeting a deadline, you get pressured, right? Then you start to get worried,
upset, tense or disappointed.
Can you think of events or situations in your life when you experienced
tension, be it with excitement or pressure? If so, list them down below.
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Here are some examples of situations when a person might experience stress:
♦ Your basketball team did not win despite having gone through rigid practice.
♦ You don’t have money to buy a gift for your best friend’s wedding.
♦ You are afraid to know the result of your medical examination.
♦ Your family temporarily stays in a dirty and crowded relocation area after
a fire destroyed your house.
♦ You are late for an important appointment with a potential buyer for your
woven baskets.
Stress is a common experience in our everyday life. Whenever you are
challenged or threatened, very sad or overjoyed, you feel stress. You become aware
of the stress when you feel something different in your body condition, like when
your heart beats faster, or when your hands and feet become cold and sticky.
Once you are under stress, your body immediately reacts. These reactions are
called symptoms of stress. When you experience these symptoms, it does not mean
that you are ill. These symptoms only warn you that there is some disturbance in the
normal condition of your body.
Some symptoms of stress are:
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Tense Muscles Cold and Sticky Skin, Dry Mouth
Hands and Feet
After learning about the different symptoms of stress, reflect on your past
experiences with stressful situations, then answer the following questions:
1. Were there any situations in which you experienced any of the symptoms
described above? What were those situations? When did they occur?
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2. Ask your friends if they ever experienced such symptoms. Ask them to
describe the situations and the symptoms they experienced.
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Were you able to answer the questions above? Some examples of situations that
can bring about stress are the following:
1. You are about to leave your family for the first time to work in a distant
place. You may feel sick as the day of your departure comes nearer. You
may also experience stomach spasms and dizziness.
2. You have a heated argument with someone. You may experience rapid
breathing and heartbeat, cold and sticky skin, hands and feet.
3. You forgot to bring something very important to work. You expect your
boss to get angry with you. You might feel your muscles becoming tense
and your mouth becoming dry.
4. You suspect that the man near you is a snatcher or a member of a hold-up
gang. He is eyeing your bag, and you fear that he might try to rob you.
1. Because nobody wants to take responsibility, you 1. You have a deep misunderstanding with
are forced to lead your neighborhood in an inter- your friend so you decided to break up
barangay cleanliness competition. your friendship.
2. Your neighbors gossip about you. They say that 2. Your neighbor dumped his garbage in
you are not a good team leader. Because of this, front of your house. You got irritated so
you decided to prove them wrong. you started shouting at your neighbor.
3. Your family and friends are discouraging you 3. You witness a crime committed by an
from joining a singing competition. They say that influential person in your community. You
you are no match to the other contestants. In decided to keep quiet to protect yourself
spite of their discouragements, you still joined the from harm.
contest to prove to them that you can win.
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Do you agree with the examples of positive and negative stress on page 9? If not,
that is normal. We react to similar situations differently. Some stress may have a positive
effect on some people but may be negative on you, or the other way around.
Take, for instance, the second example of positive stress we gave on the
previous page. What if, instead of proving that you are a good leader, you single out
who among your neighbors started the gossip, then you start a fight with that
person? Isn’t it a negative kind of stress?
Now, take the first example of negative stress also listed in the table. What if,
instead of forgetting about your friendship, you try to talk to your friend and solve
your problems? Then you forgive each other and renew your friendship. Your stress
becomes positive, right?
This means that stress can either be positive or negative depending on the
person who handles it.
Now that you have learned the difference between positive and negative stress,
go back to the previous activity on pages 8–9. Analyze the stress you and your
friends felt during the stressful situations you mentioned.
List down in the left column of the table below each stressful situation, and in
the right column indicate if it’s a positive or negative type of stress. Then, explain
why you think it is a positive or negative type of stress.
Here are few examples of stressful situations and the type of stress each one
causes.
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Stressful Situations
1. When you are about to leave your family Can either be
for the first time to work in a distant place, challenged to
you may feel sick as the day of your positive stres
departure comes nearer. You may you are too s
experience stomach spasms and
dizziness.
2. When you get into a heated argument, you Negative. Wh
may experience rapid breathing and threatened be
heartbeat, and cold skin, hands and feet. negative stre
3. When you forgot to bring something very Negative. Wh
important to work and you expect that your thinking of the
boss will get angry with you, your muscles it is negative
become tense, and your mouth becomes
dry.
Let’s Learn
On the next page are several common stressors that we can encounter in our
everyday lives. Analyze which of them are positive and negative. Put a large x-mark
(8) on the drawing if it is a negative stressor. Put a check mark (4) on it if it’s a
positive stressor. Explain your answer afterwards. There are no wrong answers as
long as you can defend your answers well.
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Neighbor who spreads gossip about you Disobedient sons and daughters
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I won!
Discuss your answers with your friends or family members. Do they agree with
your answers? Explain to them why stressors can either be positive or negative,
depending on the person who experiences them.
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Let’s Try This
Name some positive and negative stressors that you have experienced. Can you
tell where those stressors came from?
1. List down in the left column the positive stressors that you have experienced
and in the right column, the negative ones.
2. Ask your friends and family members whether they face similar stressors
in their life. Do they experience stressors that you don’t experience? List
down in the left column the positive stressors that they have experienced,
and the negative ones in the right column.
Common stressors in life are financial and relationship problems. Both stressors
are often negative in nature. However, there are persons who are good in handling
such problems, and they learn how to deal with it in positive ways.
There are many causes of financial problems. Among them are a person’s
inability to budget his/her earnings, or his/her inability to get a job. Meanwhile,
relationship problems may be experienced due to misunderstandings or undesirable
attitudes of the persons involved.
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Let’s Learn
Where do stressors come from? What are the causes/factors that build up
stressors?
Stressors come from within the body or from outside factors. Stressors from
within the body are your thoughts, beliefs and decisions that cause tension. Examples
are fear of not being able to fulfill a new responsibility because you don’t believe
that you can do it, the suspicion that your spouse is cheating on you, or doubt about
passing a job interview.
On the other hand, stress may result from tensions from the environment. It
may come from your family, friends and neighbors or from news on the radio or
TV, or even environmental situations like a typhoon or flood.
Let’s Remember
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Let’s See What You Have Learned
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LESSON 2
In this lesson, you will learn the effects of excessive stress on your health.
Excessive stress happens when the pressure or tension put upon your body is too
much for you to bear. It affects you physically, mentally and emotionally. It might
result in behavioral problems and sickness such as heart disease, nervous
breakdown, insomnia and many others.
After studying this lesson, you should be able to:
♦ enumerate physical and behavioral symptoms of excessive stress; and
♦ identify the effects of long-term excessive stress.
Study the dialogues below. Find out the effects of stress on Mario’s
personality.
Yes, I have
plenty of
things to do.
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(on the phone) What? No, it cannot
be! We cannot accommodate changes Mario, there is a problem
this time; it is already past the with this printing job.
agreed deadline! According to the
customer, the wrong Sir,I’mvery
Excuse me, version was printed. sorry. I might
Will you wait for Mario.Sir
a minute? Can’t have made a
wants you mistake in the
you see I’m on tofinishthis
the phone! rush to beat
as soon as the deadline.
possible.
Have you finished answering the questions? If so, compare your answers with
the ones below:
1. Mario’s health suffers due to stress. He has become thinner, and he is
sleepless and tired. If his stress continues to increase, he may soon get sick.
2. Because of stress, Mario no longer gets along well with his coworkers, or
even with their clients. He gets irritated very easily.
3. Mario’s performance is negatively affected by stress. He easily gets
irritated with their clients. Because of the pressure to meet the deadline, he
committed a big mistake. He printed the wrong version of the project.
Are your answers similar to the ones above? If they are, good! If they are not,
review the activity.
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Let’s Learn
When you are under too much stress, your body might not be able to handle it.
You can easily recognize signs of too much stress if you examine yourself more
closely. Study the illustrations that follow.
Physical Symptoms of Too Much Stress
Do you experience any of the symptoms above? Or does anyone in your family
experience these symptoms?
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Behavioral Symptoms of Too Much Stress
Which of the symptoms above have you observed in people around you?
Which of these symptoms have you experienced?
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Here are some more behavioral symptoms.
Constant Worrying
Try to remember as many of the stress symptoms above as you can. If you
experience two or more of them often, you may be suffering from excessive stress.
Observe yourself often to maintain your health!
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Here are two more behavioral symptoms.
Remember that not all these symptoms are present whenever you experience too
much stress. You may experience two or more combinations of both physical and
behavioral symptoms as a result too much stress.
Have you been in highly stressful situations, or have you ever experienced
stress for long periods of time? If yes, that means you were likely to be experiencing
excessive or too much stress. Now, list down below some of the highly stressful
situations you have experienced in the past. Then, identify the symptoms you felt
during those highly stressful times. You may want to refer to the list of physical and
behavioral symptoms of excessive or too much stress presented on pages 18–20.
Table of Too Much Stress
Highly Stressful
Behavioral Symptoms Physical Symptoms
Situation
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Did you finish filling up the table? Compare your answers with those in the
Answer Key on page 45.
Study the situations below carefully. Then, identify the symptoms of too much
or excessive stress that each character might suffer from. Write your answers in the
blanks provided after each situation.
1. A farmer works very hard in the fields to get a good harvest. He panics
when a sudden typhoon comes.
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2. A mother is irritated because dirty clothes are piling up in their room. So,
she decided to spend the whole day washing all the dirty clothes. A few
hours later, her son accidentally bumped the clean laundry and it all fell on
the ground. The clothes got dirty again.
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3. A very nervous contestant thinks that she cannot win. While she is eating,
somebody tells her that it is already her turn to sing.
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4. A student who is trying hard to study her lessons gets irritated due to the
noisy children playing outside their house.
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5. A person cannot say “no” to other persons’ requests. She is then placed in
a situation in which too much is demanded from her.
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After you finish answering the exercise, compare your answers with those in
the Answer Key on page 45. Did you get similar answers? If so, very good! If not,
don’t worry. Review the parts of the lesson that are not clear to you.
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Let’s Learn
Being under too much stress for a long time can have harmful effects on your
body. The following are some of the possible effects of being under too much stress
for a long time.
Fatigue or Exhaustion
♦ Fatigue or exhaustion is a condition
wherein you feel extremely tired all the
time. You feel like you have lost all your
energy. It happens when you drive
yourself too much at work and you do
not give yourself time to relax. It also
happens when you keep on thinking
about a problem without finding ways to
solve it. You become tired by just
thinking about it without finding a
Deep Depression
solution.
Burnout
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Breakdown
Physical breakdown means you get physically sick. This simply means that
your body can no longer stand the tension it is experiencing. You might experience
fever or other sicknesses that may prevent you from working.
Emotional breakdown, on the other hand, means you begin to engage in
destructive behavior. Isn’t it that when you are really tired you easily get irritated
and frustrated? Such feelings can lead to more serious emotional conditions.
Emotional breakdown can be self-destructive, at times leading to a big fight because
of a small misunderstanding, or even to suicide.
Study the persons below who are experiencing excessive stress and then answer
the questions that follow.
a. A businessman with a business that is in financial trouble
b. A person who cannot pay his debts
c. A barangay captain who is being criticized by his community
members for being incompetent and irresponsible
d. A woman who has an alcoholic and abusive husband
e. A man who has three jobs to support the education of his five children
1. What might be causing the stress for each of the persons above?
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2. Why do they suffer from too much stress?
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3. What will happen if they suffer from too much stress for a longer time?
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Have you finished answering the questions above? If so, compare your
answers with those in the Answer Key on page 46.
Let’s Remember
♦ Too much stress or excessive stress happens when the tension experienced
by a person is too much for him/her to bear.
♦ Excessive stress is harmful to your health physically, mentally and
emotionally.
♦ Excessive stress experienced for long periods of time may lead to fatigue
and exhaustion, deep depression, burnout and/or breakdown.
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LESSON 3
In Lesson 2, we read about the situation of Mario who was suffering from stress
as an employee of a busy printing shop.
Study the dialogues below and find out how Mario tried to manage his stress.
I’msorry.
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Let’s Try This
Are you done? Now compare your answers with the ones below:
1. Mario’s friends encouraged him to drink and smoke in order to forget
about his stressful situation. Such advice would not do Mario any good.
Instead, they may worsen his problem, because too much alcohol harms
the health, impairs good judgment and may further undermine one’s
performance at work. As long as Mario is under the influence of alcohol,
he may temporarily forget about his problems, but they will remain
unsolved.
2. I suggest that Mario talk to his boss and explain his stressful situation at
work. Together, they may be able to work out practical ways of dealing
with the situation.
When faced with stressful situations, a person can choose between healthy and
unhealthy ways of dealing with stress. In the case of Mario, he chose an unhealthy
way — drinking and smoking.
Healthy ways of dealing with stress are behaviors that would help a person
reduce his/her stress and eventually help in solving his/her problem. Examples are
enjoying a healthy meal, watching TV to relax, singing or dancing, praying and
talking about one’s problems with friends. On the other hand, unhealthy ways of
dealing with stress are habits that lead a person into more problems like smoking,
drinking alcoholic beverages and taking drugs.
Later in this lesson, you will learn more healthy ways of dealing with stress.
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Let’s Learn
Find out what causes the stress. Is it because you cannot pay your credit to a
store on the day you promised? Is it because you are worried about your brother’s
health?
Recognize what you can do. Will you feel relieved if you tell the person to
whom you owe money that you will pay it as soon as you can? It’s natural that she
may get upset. If you explain to her why you cannot pay on the day you promised,
she may understand you.
Don’t you think it is better to bring your brother to the nearest clinic so you will
have a clear idea of his illness? Early detection of illness can save him from further
harm. Stop stress by acting on the problem, not by just thinking or worrying about it.
2. Ask help from family members and trusted friends.
If you cannot come up with a proper solution to your problem, your family
members and trusted friends may be able to help you. Some of them can give you
advice. When you are stressed, you need an outlet through which you can pour out
your tensions. You can do so by talking about your problem with your family and
friends. It’s very possible that you’ll feel better afterwards.
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3. Relax and build your emotional reserves.
You don’t have to push yourself too hard to solve your problem or finish your
work. Take some time out to relax. Slow, deep breathing will help reduce tension.
You can also try meditation. Techniques on proper meditation and deep breathing
are discussed on pages 33–34.
Always be kind and gentle with yourself. Be a friend to yourself.
Some people are very impatient. They do more than one thing at a time. They
are very ambitious and driven, and they find it difficult to relax. People who show
these behaviors are more likely to suffer from stress-related illnesses. If you are one
of these people, take the helpful tips below on how to become a “friend to yourself.”
Engage in simple healthy pleasures like:
♦ laughing ♦ listening to music
♦ enjoying a meal ♦ playing a game
♦ watching TV ♦ spending some quality time with your
♦ taking a swim family and friends
4. Exercise
Keep yourself fit in order
to build physical reserves to
fight or avoid diseases. You
don’t need to copy the
complicated exercises like
those shown on TV. Brisk
walking, jogging, biking and
swimming are some of the
more enjoyable and most
effective “stress-busting”
exercises you can do.
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5. Eat a well-balanced diet.
Eat more vegetables and fruits.
Avoid drinking too much coffee because
it will cause heart palpitations (rapid
heartbeats). Also avoid unhealthy food
items like junk food, too much sweets,
etc.
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9. Strengthen your faith.
If everything goes wrong, find
peace and comfort through prayers.
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Let’s Try This
Below is a list of ways of handling stress. Identify which are healthy and which
are unhealthy ways of handling stress. Copy each in the appropriate column in the
table below.
Pray for enlightenment.
Set priorities.
Criticize other people.
Complain about the situation and do nothing else.
Pretend there’s nothing wrong, and ignore the problem.
Use drugs to relieve tension.
Get enough sleep.
Believe in yourself.
Smoke to relieve tension.
Ask advice from friends.
Are you done? Compare your answers with those in the Answer Key on page
46.
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Let’s Try This
What advice can you give to the five stressed persons in the activity on page
24? Give them advice on how to handle and reduce their stress effectively. Write
your advice below.
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Discuss your work with your Instructional Manager, co-learners, friends or
family members. Did they agree with your advice? Why or why not? You may
write down their comments below.
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Let’s Learn
When you are stressed, what can you do to reduce it? Below are some tips for
relaxation to relieve the physical strains of stress. Deep breathing and meditation
will help you feel better.
Here are the techniques:
Deep Breathing
Inhale deeply and allow the lungs to
breathe in as much oxygen as possible.
With this step you begin to relieve tension.
Put your hands below your chest, breathe
in slowly and deeply through your nose.
Hold your breath for a few seconds, then
breathe out slowly through your mouth.
Repeat this cycle three or four times.
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Meditation
Sit in a comfortable position, place
your hands on your lap, close your eyes,
and begin to breathe slowly and deeply.
Mentally focus on a peaceful or positive
word, phrase or image. If other thoughts
enter your mind, just relax, breathe deeply,
and try again. Stretch and exhale after
completing 5 to 15 minutes of meditation.
Before proceeding to the next discussion, try and practice the techniques of
deep breathing and meditation.
How did you feel after you tried the deep breathing techniques? How about
after the meditation?
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Deep breathing relaxes the body while meditation relaxes the mind. These two
techniques are very effective in relieving stress. Stress management groups
(professional help in stress management) highly recommend these techniques for
relaxation.
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Let’s Study and Analyze
Let us return once again to the situation of Mario and his stressful situation at
his workplace in a printing shop.
Read the dialogue, then answer the question below.
What do you think Mario should do in order to finish his task properly and
promptly, and to avoid cramming again?
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Let’s Learn
Time Management
If you don’t know how to manage your time, you might forget to do some of
your work. Then, at the last minute, you rush to do what you failed to do. Thus, you
tend to commit more mistakes. Such a situation can give you stress.
Though stress cannot be totally avoided, some of it can be prevented, including
stress that comes from unfulfilled tasks. If you finish your tasks on time, you will
prevent stress caused by rushing to meet a deadline.
Here are a few tips on how to manage your time:
1. Set realistic goals.
Set realistic and achievable goals. If you think you cannot do a certain job or
task, don’t force yourself to accomplish it. Know your limitations and abilities. For
example, if you are constructing a cabinet, don’t push yourself too hard to finish it
in one day when you know that it is quite impossible to do so. Try to finish it in two
or more days, if necessary instead.
A good practice is to write down your activities or goals for the week. Once
you have listed them, see if they are realistic or achievable.
I have written my goals in the left column of the table below. Write yours in the
right column.
My Goals for the Week Your Goals for the Week
I will pass my job interview on
Monday.
I will finish sewing the dress my
niece will wear on her birthday.
I will sew curtains for the coming
fiesta.
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2. Plan well.
Based on the goals I have written, I made an action plan. Try to make one for
yourself.
My Action Plan for the Week Your Action Plan for the Week
I will prepare myself for the interview
by rehearsing and having a good sleep.
I will continue sewing the dress after
I am done with the job interview.
After finishing the dress of my niece,
I will sew the curtain while I wait for
my first day at work. If I am needed
in the job immediately, I will sew the
curtains during weekends.
Mario has learned to manage his time, and his boss noticed his improvement.
To reward Mario for his good work in his last printing assignment, the boss decided
to promote him. From production assistant, Mario was promoted to production
supervisor. But Mario still seems to have problems. Study the dialogue on the next
page and find out what these are.
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Aren’t you glad that I am afraid I may not
you were promoted to be able to meet our
the position of boss’ expectations.
production supervisor? I’m not even a high
school graduate.
What could be the best solution to this type of stress that Mario feels?
Should he back out from the challenge? What do you think?
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Backing out from a challenge is not a good attitude. You have to believe in
yourself. When you believe in your own ability, you can achieve things that you
think you can’t. It is because confidence in yourself will make you brave and eager
to try your best.
At the same time, remember to set a realistic goal. Plan to do what you can
realistically achieve or do, not what is beyond your abilities. Remember what you
learned previously about time management.
Read on and find some more tips on how to project a positive attitude towards
stress.
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Let’s Learn
Your attitude will help you reduce stress. Here are tips on how to project a
positive attitude towards stress.
If stress cannot be prevented, you can still reduce it by preparing to face it. For
example, suppose you are going to your first job interview, and you can’t help
feeling excited and afraid. Here are three ways of reducing the stress you feel:
(1) Start imagining that the boss is already interviewing you. Then anticipate
common questions such as those about your family background and your
job experience. Practice answering the questions in your mind. That will
surely help you when you are actually being interviewed.
(2) Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t say you will never forgive yourself if
you do not pass the interview. Remind yourself that other opportunities
will come if you do not succeed in this one.
(3) Believe in your own ability. Tell yourself you can do it.
(For more information on how to prepare for job interviews, you can read the
NFE A&E module entitled Are You Looking for a Job?)
What kept you busy these past few days? Analyze your daily routine, and
identify possible causes of stress in the future. Then, think of what you will do to
prevent or reduce such stress. You may want to review the eleven ways of handling
stress that were discussed in the early part of this lesson before writing down your
answer.
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Let’s See What You Have Learned
Compare your answers with those in the Answer Key on pages 46–47.
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Let’s Remember
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Let’s Sum Up
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What Have You Learned?
Study the story of Vivien below. Analyze the situation and answer the
questions that follow.
1. What are the positive and negative stressors that Vivien faced?
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2. What are the signs of stress that you see in Vivien? What are other signs of
stress that Vivien may show in the future?
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4. Can you give Vivien some advice on how to manage stress? List down the
things she can do.
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Compare your answers with those in the Answer Key on page 47.
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Answer Key
B. Lesson 1
Let’s See What You Have Learned (page 15)
1. Stress is a normal feeling. We feel tension almost all the time, caused
by excitement, nervousness, irritation, disappointment, fear or even
extreme joy or sorrow.
2. Stress can be caused by both negative and positive stressors. Stressors
could be events or things that make us feel either good or bad. Sad
things like the death of a loved one make us feel lonely and sad. Good
events such as birthday parties or passing an examination makes us
happy and excited.
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3. You will know that you are stressed when you feel some changes in
your body condition. When you are excited, your heart beats faster
and you sweat a lot. When your are stressed, sometimes you cannot
sleep, or your hands, feet and skin are sticky, or you can’t eat.
4. No. Stress is not always bad. Stress can be both positive and negative.
Positive stress inspires or challenges you to do better. Negative stress,
on the other hand, makes you upset and disappointed. It can make you
lose sleep, feel sick, or make your hands and feet cold and sticky.
C. Lesson 2
Let’s Try This (page 21)
Highly Stressful Behavioral Symptoms Physical Symptoms
Situation
Overreacting; loss of
Losing a friend Headache; insomnia
appetite; nightmares
Being fired from a job Irritable and aggressive; Headache; high blood
constant worrying; extreme pressure
smoking and drinking
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Let’s See What You Have Learned (pages 24–25)
1. a. The businessman suffers from too much stress because he is
worried about the unfavorable financial situation of his business.
b. That person is stressed because he is worried about his debts and
does not know where to get money to pay them off.
c. The barangay captain is stressed because he might be upset about
the criticisms concerning his leadership.
d. The woman is stressed because of the irresponsible and violent
behavior of her husband when he is drunk.
e. The man is suffering from too much stress because he has to keep
three jobs just to support his children. He is stressed physically
and emotionally.
2. The persons in the exercise suffer from too much stress because they
have problems which they may not be able to handle anymore. Too
many worries can result in too much stress.
3. Persons who experience stress for long periods of time may get sick.
They also don’t behave like normal persons, or they manifest violent
behavior.
D. Lesson 3
Let’s Try This (page 32)
Healthy Ways of Handling Stress:
Healthy Ways of Handling Stress Unhealthy Ways of Handling Stress
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3. First, I would try to relax for a while as I think of what I want to do.
Then, I would make a time table so that I could organize properly the
things I need to do. I will also try to clean the house with enthusiasm. I
would be excited to meet this important person, and be motivated to
clean the house and prepare special dishes.
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Glossary
Behavioral symptoms of stress Signs of stress that are evident through the
behavior and movement of a person
Burnout Loss of interest and motivation in life due to extreme exhaustion
caused by working too much
Cramming Trying to accomplish a lot of things or activities within a very
short period of time, usually at the last minute
Deep breathing Breathing from the diaphragm or chest
Excessive stress A condition when too much stress is put on your body, and
the body cannot handle it anymore
Meditation Relaxing one’s mind and muscles through deep and slow
breathing
Negative thinking Looking at the dark or bad side of things
Performance Action; functioning; operation
Physical symptoms of stress Signs of stress that are evident on the physical
appearance or looks of a person
Positive thinking Looking at the bright or good side of things
Rehearse To practice (what you are going to do or say, or a performance)
Spasm A sudden uncontrollable tightening of a muscle
Stress Physical, mental or emotional tensions
Stressor Any condition, situation or thing that causes stress
Symptoms of stress The body’s immediate reaction to stress
Tension When the normal condition of your body is disturbed
Time management Planning and organizing time and activities to make a
person more productive
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