Hotel Bars 2651

Meeting Businesswomen & Professional
Women In Hotels
SHELLEY MCMURTRY
For men who desire to meet intelligent,

articulate, well-dressed, savvy women who
are independent and make their own money!
WholeMan Lifestyle proudly presents
SHELLEY MCMURTRY
There just may be an obvious but hidden place you haven’t yet
explored meeting women…. In the local hotel. Possibly you’ve
thought about that chance once (or a few times) when you were
traveling for business yourself, but have you gone to your local hotel
to possibly meet women?
If you live in or near a larger city, you’re lucky when it comes to this.
You probably have your choice of higher-end, swanky, or historic, or
interesting hotels, which very possibly have a nice bar, coffeeshop,
and lobby. While going to your local Holiday Inn or Marriot Courtyard
is probably not first choice, if it is your only option, sometimes those
types of hotels have bar/food and working areas as well.
The Businesswoman: Oh, the businesswoman…. If you’re a man who
desires to meet an intelligent, articulate, well-dressed, savvy woman
who is independent and makes her own money, then the traveling
businesswoman and/or traveling professional may be your answer!
But, you better understand a few things!...
For starters, you must speak at her level and present yourself as
equally smart and ambitious. Never forget women need to view the
man as having a strong “frame” (identity and character), oftentimes
a stronger frame than her own. The businesswoman who is sitting at
the hotel bar or in the lobby coffeeshop, has already purchased her
drinks, food, or whatever it may be, she has her own money and is
willing to pay for what she desires- your money is no good here. She
isn’t looking for a free ride, she’s only interested in good
conversation, possibly a few laughs, and enjoyable company (and
very possibly some damn good sex).
She’s smart and typically won’t respond well to any sign that the man
is “average”, “only after one thing”, or if he’s disrespectful in any
manner. Consider any hardworking, independent, businesswoman to
automatically be a cut above the rest- so your approach,
conversation, presentation, and any “flirting” better be a cut above
the rest! Be respectful, conservative and gentlemanly. Present
yourself as a professional, while adding some edginess and humor in
between. As things heat up and she opens up, then you can begin to
add a little more. Start slow, then build. Use balance. While you don’t
want to be boring and dull, you want to make sure that you don’t start
out too aggressively by telling corny jokes, making typical
statements, or coming across as “trying too hard” in your approach.
Never forget, even if a woman is totally open to a one-night-stand,
and knows she will never see nor hear from the man again, she still
must feel the man is safe and trustworthy! As well as…. feel
excitement towards his character, helping her to assume the sex will
be good and she won’t be wasting her time and energy on some...
dull lay!!.....
Let’s talk briefly about this: Women will “assume” many things
about a man based on his character and approach towards
conversation and the overall interaction. This is where a man’s
Sexual Character really comes into play. You want a woman to view
you as a potentially good sexual candidate, and this does not come
from bragging or telling stories!! It comes from your overall
confidence, security towards the situation, showing that you are NOT
desperate, and that you have enough edginess and “excitement” to
very possibly provide some edginess and excitement during sex.
Women view men who are unique and interesting

characters, to likely be unique and interesting characters in
the bedroom (or hotel room) as well.
Don’t get too nervous, however…. While businesswomen and female
professionals are smart, savvy and not easily impressed (typically
speaking), you also have to keep in mind that many are stressed,
have limited time to meet men and date (if single), and if married,
very possibly have pent-up sexual energy and frustrations from their
marriage. So, while you don’t want to be average, predictable, boring,
too “aggressive”, and/or some cornball, you still (in many cases)
don’t have to try “too hard”.
Through the years, and with a greater acceptance of wine in America,

you see more women willing to sit at a bar, alone. Especially those
who are experienced traveling for work and don’t have another
option. While some women do still have almost a phobia of going to
a bar or restaurant alone, many (especially the traveling
businesswoman) has been able to break past those fears.
It’s a clean slate…. For myself, as woman, I truly enjoy going to

places alone, sitting at the bar alone, and meeting new people-
female, male and couples. For one, every funny joke and line I have
has never been used on them! It’s a clean slate. I can decide what to
say, and what not to say. I’m in 100% control of what they learn about
me and leave knowing about me. There is just some comfort and
freedom in that. F. Scott Fitzgerald was on to this in the twenties, in
his first novel, describing a female character: “But Beatrice grew
more and more prone to like only new acquaintances, as there were
certain stories, such as the history of her constitution, and memories
of her years abroad, that it was necessary for her to repeat at regular
intervals.”
Through sitting at bars alone, I have met many great people, some
who have continued to be friends. I’ve heard great stories. When
traveling, I’ve gotten advice from locals about restaurants and places
to visit. In each place I’ve gone, I’ve learned a good amount just by
engaging, listening, communicating my interests, and being open to
new people, places and suggestions.
So, when you meet a new woman, especially at the hotel bar,
remember it’s a clean slate. What she learns about you is your
choice. Every joke and comical reference you may have is new again.
While she may be smart and savvy, she’s likely also lonely, stressed,
and possibly has pent-up sexual energy she would love to release
with a good, fun, trustworthy man.
Tip: Traveling to a city, but staying at a lesser hotel? Then

stay at your Motel 6, but visit the bar of a nicer, enjoyable
hotel…. Most people (including women) will probably
assume you are staying there too!
Some of my favorite hotels/hotel bars
and references:
Brown Hotel, Louisville, Kentucky

https://www.brownhotel.com/
Hotel Monteleone, New Orleans, Louisiana

https://hotelmonteleone.com/
21c Museum Hotels (boutique chain with locations in Chicago,

Durham, Nashville, and more)
https://www.21cmuseumhotels.com/locations/
Reference: Historic Hotels of America:

https://www.historichotels.org/
…. And do your own research in your local area or areas

you may be traveling!
Bonus:
Launch Conversations at Hotel Bars with
These 8 Questions!
Good questions to ask where you not only help to uncover a woman's
"reality", but also allow you to have fluid and flexible conversations
with open-ended questions which are unique....
1. Humans connect on shared interests, but we also (especially)

connect on shared dislike and things which aggravate us or we
disagree with. While we may enjoy ice cream, we typically have a
much more passionate feeling towards our beliefs, pet peeves, and
so forth. Therefore, an interesting question to ask a woman is, "Do
you have any pet peeves or what is something that annoys you?".....
Obviously, this may tell you something that you want to try avoiding,
but it's also likely to help explain how she perceives the world around
her, general manners, and so forth. For instance, if she should say
"someone who is constantly texting and on their cell phone at a
restaurant or in public", then that's a good sign that she values in-
person communication, being "present" in the moment, and basic
consideration of others.
2. When it comes to the general and standard questions such as,

"How was your day?", you could ask, "Did anything surprising happen
today?" instead.... Firstly, you are less likely to get a generic close-
ended response such as "fine" or "good". Secondly, it will possibly
lead to an interesting topic or story.
3. Here's another good subject to ask a woman about, "tell me about
one of your best friends", or (even better) "tell me about the person
who has been most influential in your life".... For one, women love to
share and talk about their friends and family. This shows you have a
genuine interest in her life and in getting to know her. It will also help
to show who and what is most important to her, and how much
gratitude and appreciation she has towards someone important in
her life.
4. Another interesting question you might ask is, "What is the best
gift you've ever given someone?" and/or "What is the best gift you've
ever received?".... Again, this could potentially tell you something
greater about her. Or, maybe it's on the comical side and shows she
has a good sense of humor.
5. Instead of the generic and predictable question of "What do you

do?", try asking "What does a typical day look like for you?".... Once
again, this is a more open-ended question and will possibly include
her sharing other interests or activities she participates in. It may
also divulge if she enjoys a percentage of "down time" just reading or
being alone, etc.
6. A good way of showing that you're well read and aware of current
trends and happenings, is to bring up a conversation with, "I was
reading _____ and a study showed that ______".... Then you can ask
her if she agrees, or has found that to be true herself, or whatever
may apply to the statement.
7. Before asking a woman to a dinner date, a good question (and
opener) is, "Is there any food that you don't eat?", or "What is your
least favorite food?.... She may tell you something that's good to
know about her, it may also allow you to craft a dinner invitation
that's unique.... For instance, if she says, "asparagus", then you
could say, "Alright then, I say we go to ________ on Friday night, I hear
they forbid asparagus in their fine establishment!".... Said in a
sarcastic/comical style.
8. Last but not least, you can ask, "What type of vacation do you
enjoy taking?".... This might bring up good memories or even get her
excited thinking about the future. Here's a little tidbit of research that
I found interesting and I think you may too, Professor Richard
Wiseman conducted a study and it showed that 18% of dates who
discussed travel went forward to have a second date, whereas only
9% of dates who discussed movies had a second date.
So.... Get out there, travel, visit hotels, ask good questions, hold fluid
and flexible conversations, and get to know each woman's "reality".
WHOLEMAN LIFESTYLE
2019
SHELLEY MCMURTRY
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Meeting Businesswomen & Professional

For men who desire to meet intelligent,

But, you better understand a few things!...

Women view men who are unique and interesting

Through the years, and with a greater acceptance of wine in America,

It’s a clean slate…. For myself, as woman, I truly enjoy going to

Tip: Traveling to a city, but staying at a lesser hotel? Then

Brown Hotel, Louisville, Kentucky

Hotel Monteleone, New Orleans, Louisiana

21c Museum Hotels (boutique chain with locations in Chicago,

Reference: Historic Hotels of America:

…. And do your own research in your local area or areas

1. Humans connect on shared interests, but we also (especially)

2. When it comes to the general and standard questions such as,

5. Instead of the generic and predictable question of "What do you

From Shelley McMurtry/ MyMind

Copyright, MyMind Publishing This

webpage content is protected by copyright,

MMXIII, MyMind Publishing/ Shelley

McMurtry/Carrie Tillman/ FIHM Systems

All right reserved. Reproduction in any form

of any portion of this is strictly prohibited

without the express written consent of

MyMind Publishing, Carrie Tillman & FIHM

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