Module 02

Tips for the Cubs: On

Dating Older Women
Blame it on Ashton and Demi
and on other celebrities who
are following suit, but older
women are definitely back on
the dating scene and possibly
ruling it.
Throwing conventions out
the window, one-third of
the female population
within the age bracket of
40-69 are in the arms of
younger companions.
 Younger men are also
reciprocating the demand
because of the following
reasons:
1. Younger men like
sophisticated and
successful women.
 These women exude
confidence that young
men find very attractive
and sexy.
 Contrary to what most
women believed, a lot of
men like women with a
strong character.
 It is often the older
female population who
display such quality
because of their life
experiences.
2. Older women look
better with age.
 This is partly due to
science and their
obsession with physical
fitness.
 It is incredible to see how
many women in their 40’s
and 50’s have bodies that
look better than the bodies
of women half their age.
 With divorce and a
healthier lifestyle, older
women are looking more
like a prized catch.
3. Older women are less
complicated.
They are usually in it for
companionship, thrill,
and fun.
 Men feel confident about
dating an older woman
because they know they
don’t have to worry about
popping a proposal anytime
soon.
4. One can safely say that
an older woman has seen
it all.
For this reason, younger
men find them more
interesting, more
adventurous, and more
sexually experienced.
Not all men are drawn to
fresh-faced, attractive
young women.
 Sometimes, men are
willing to pass up on
physical appearance to
pursue other objectives.
5. Younger men and older
women can easily be on
the same wavelength.
Older women are adept
at getting attuned to the
quirks of their younger
partners.
 They are prepared for it
and they know what they
are getting into.
When it comes to energy
and intensity, they can be
perfect match.
Although a relationship
of this nature has to
weather many odds, it
can work.
According to relationship
experts the key lies in
compatibility.
 If one is outgoing, the
other one must be able to
keep up with it.
If one is outspoken, the
other one must do his
part, too.
 There should be a
common ground to keep
both parties interested in
one another.
What Lures Younger Men In
 No matter how trendy and
common it becomes, a
younger men-older women
relationship is still hounded
by intriguing questions.
 It’s been tradition,
especially for women, to
get involved with someone
in the same age bracket or
with someone slightly
older.
This set-up however, has
not only conquered
stereotypes but has also
proven that age, indeed,
does not matter.
Yet, one can’t help but
wonder.
What is it with older
women?
Confidence
 Older women are no
longer shaken by
insecurities that younger
women are dealing with
at their age.
Their confidence comes
from knowing who they
are and what they want
in life.
Men are attracted to that
air of self-assurance and
stability.
With older women, they
don’t have to prove their
affection time and time
again.
 For once, they can take
the back seat and let the
women take the wheel.
Experience
With years also comes
experience.
 When it comes to the
matter of the heart, these
women know what’s
good for them.
 As they are wiser than
their partners, they can
also impart valuable
lessons in life.
They can offer tried and
tested formula which
could prove essential to
the success of their
relationship.
An older woman’s sexual
prowess is also part of
the equation.
 Younger men are eager
to learn what older
women are willing to
impart to them between
the sheets.
Independence
At this age, most women
are already successful in
their careers.
 Women who are brave
enough to go after younger
men are often
at a stage where they have
already established
financial stability.
Ambition is no longer as
important and financial
freedom has given them
the power to do what
they want.
 With the common
pressures out of the way,
the couple can pay more
attention to their
relationship and make it
work.
Emotional Stability
Older women are more
accommodating and
understanding than
younger women.
 They are calmer in
dealing with difficult
situations and are even
willing to offer protective
arms.
 Men need a lot of
pampering and they love
attention, too.
It’s difficult to get these
perks from women their
age because careers are
often in the way.
Maturity
Maturity comes naturally
to older women.
 They seem unfazed by
life’s challenges and men
find this quality
attractive.
 Men who are plagued
with emotional issues can
anchor to these women
for support.
 Older women are
straightforward and not
afraid to speak their mind
or show their feelings.
 This is something that
younger women are not
prepared to gamble in a
relationship.
Experimental
 At their age, older
women have
accomplished what the
norms demand of them.
They already got their
dream job, a beautiful
house and a nice car.
 When they enter into a
relationship, they are not
looking for someone who
can fulfill their dreams
for them.
 They are more into
feelings and they are
content just to be with
each other.
Even with an age gap of
eight to ten years, a
relationship such as this
can flourish.
 Men see this as a great
challenge, an opportunity
to experience something
new.
For women, it is a chance to
experience how to be
young again but without
the recklessness and
awkwardness that come
with that age.
Before Dating A Cougar
Know Where to Find Them
 There really are all kinds of
dating sites that are geared
toward this particular niche:
dateacougar.com,
cougarlife.com, cougared.com
– and the list literally goes on
and on for pages.
But the thing that men that
chase after cougars are
saying is that these dating
sites aren’t even all that
necessary these days.
 With the plethora of social
networking websites and
platforms that are out there,
you really have now an
equivalent of the social
squares and vibrant night-
lives, on the web.
 So what a lot of people
actually recommend doing
is heading to online venues
you would expect the kind
of cougar that you’re
targeting to hang out in.
 Okay, so let’s say you’re
looking for a sophisticated
woman really knows her stuff
when it comes to modern and
current politics in the United
States.
 In a personal view of
somebody that knows her
way around the various
restaurants, diners and
pubs in Washington DC.
As such, you might look
up a number of these
more popular brands and
franchises on platforms
such as Facebook.
 Because of their age,
women of this kind are
more likely to be hanging
out, socializing in more
sophisticated areas and
venues.
Forget about the dingy old dive bars
were adequate during your college
years, most of these women are
career oriented, and so
will be more likely to be hanging out
in droves at fine dining
establishments, even cigar and
whiskey bars.
 What you’re actually seeing a lot of
these days are these older women are
drinking and establishing tastes for
the old classic cocktails of the 1960s
and ‘50s, such as the old-fashioned,
the classic martini, the Manhattan,
and the Vodka tonic.
 Many of them are into
neat spirits – that is to
say, they preferred their
beverages no ice and no
mixers.
That all said, these women
are very aggressive, and so
chances are you will not
even have to search them
out; they will find you.
 They may even be
employing or supervising
you, taking special little
notes about various things
that you like and prefer.
How To Prepare for Them
 For the undergraduate
kind of demographic out
there, rule number one is
to be stable.
 This flies in the face,
everything being a male
in college really implies.
 But if what you’re looking
for is a fully capable,
refined and mature cougar,
then you’ll have to get
grounded – somehow,
someway.
 Although you are dealing with
older women here, that want little
boys to pet and play with, they’re
also looking for young men that
aren’t frail – which many of their
peers will likely be.
They’re looking for men in
their prime – men that are
only going to get better;
not men that have already
seen their best days.
 So in preparation, be
grounded; know what
you want, and know how
to make a commitment:
be decisive; be strong.
 But at the same time, be
empathetic and be sensitive
to the things that are going
on around you and about
the people that are around
you.
Just before a date, make sure that
you’re feeling comfortable, or at
least make sure that your mind is
in a state in which you can
adequately converse and
communicate and express
yourself.
 If you’ve got access to
Activator programs
(http://www.alphamaleactivator.com),
then use them to prep
yourself up.
 Now you don’t necessarily want
to vent and air all of your dirty
laundry from the office on a first
date on Friday night, but you don’t
necessarily want to put off a date
just because you had a rough
week.
This program is not necessarily
advocating that you
dispose of first aid with a
cougar until you feel that the
time is right, so to speak.
 Just make sure that you are able to
express yourself in case things bubble
up; what turns on any woman – cougar
or otherwise – is the ability to
communicate well, to really emotions
and sensations and experiences in a
clear and visceral way.
Setting Your Goals
 It doesn’t hurt to set
some goals when it
comes to dating cougars.
Cougars have been around, and so
chances are more likely that these
women are going to be more
organized, better drilled about
life’s unexpected kind of
occurrences and events.
 And so, something that
can really turn on a
cougar is a life plan so to
speak.
It’s good to be organized,
but not to a needless
extent.
A cougar is going to want
to see that you have your
stuff together.
 But that you’re not a
tight ass about things.
 About setting goals about
cougars in particular, just
make sure that you set
realistic expectations, and you
are well-equipped to handle
rejection.
You’re going to get some
bad dates.
There’s no way around
that.
 Cougars (just like any other
kind of class or category of
person) are going to be
singular and unique, and so
each and every day is going to
be a case onto itself.
 So that’s definitely an
important assumption or
stance to take, while
going out there into the
marketplace.
Okay, so here’s a very
concrete example.
Say you want to meet
five new cougars in a
span of two weeks.
 Well, the first thing you’re
going to have to do is you’re
going to have to target
specific breeding grounds
for and of cougars.
 Remember that there are
some base line type of
assumptions that can be
asserted and use in order to
position yourself in relation
to these cougars.
 Most of the generally attractive
cougars are professional type of
women, and this type of power
women tend to cluster around
corporate and executive watering
holes.
 So, a good place to scope out
some fine prey (or shall we say,
a good place to find yourself as
an eyed or targeted entrée for
cougars) might be your local
high class pub.
 A place that sells really good,
but expensive red meat– top
sirloins and filet mignon’s –
and has a healthy list of
imported beers on tap would
definitely make for good place
to start.
Now, you don’t have to own
the place; you don’t have to
act like you own the
establishment or run the
place: you just have to give
off your own ambience.
 You have to be able to
cut through all the noise
that’s there; you have to
stand out in some way.
That is, if you go the old-
fashioned route of
rounding up cougars in a
brick-and-mortar type of
situation.
But if you’re more of the
expedient and efficient
type, of course, there are
online venues.
 You might target a
particular political
convention or and events
webpage where people
are commenting a lot.
And you might stand out
in that crowd by posting
some incredibly
fascinating and
scintillating comments.
 That’s certainly one way
that you can stand out, in
that sense.
 Whatever tact and
approach you decide to go
with, just know that you’ll
have to set yourself apart,
from the rest of the pack.
 Otherwise, cougars are
not going to pay you any
mind, whatsoever.
Doing Research
 Doing research on
cougars is incredibly easy
and efficient these days.
So much information is
on the Internet these
days.
 You don’t even have to
get into social
networking to figure out
what it is that cougars are
doing.
Cougars are broadcasting
and updating themselves;
in a sense, they are
throwing their
information at you.
A popular cougar is
Ariana Huffington.
She tweets and posts on the
Internet at an alarming rate;
she does so from her own
personal device – her
phones and her tablet
computers.
She’s giving you the play-by-play and
is a good case study in the way that a
cougar – a good example of a very
successful cougar – will actually
volunteer all of this personal detail to
you, from which you can extrapolate
all kinds of logical conclusions.
For instance, she’s in the
habit of posting impulse
reactions to political
events.
 Congress will vote on a
particular measure and she’ll
come out blasting through all
cylinders: hitting up Facebook
and Twitter at the same time.
 And so, in this sense, you
really do have a lot to go on;
you’re getting her unfiltered
ideas and emotions, and
you’re getting them in real
time.
Heck, she even posts her
location from time to
time.
Understanding Social
Stigma
 When it comes to social stigma,
because there are so many
cougars out there, and because it’s
becoming such a widely accepted
sort of phenomenon, there really
isn’t all that much out there in
terms of the stigma.
There’s always going to
be that point, just
because there is that
wide gap in age
difference.
 But when you think
about it, it’s not
something that’s
completely unheard of.
 There are historical
precedents that go back
hundreds of years.
Queens have done this;
powerful women in
recent years have done
this.
It’s a social stigma in very
fragmented ways.
So what is the stigma
exactly?
 Well, they’re quite
obvious if you just allow
yourself to think of the
presumptuous
conclusions.
 Of course, you can’t get
away from the notion that
the whole thing – the entire
relationship – is based on
some kind of insatiable lust
for sexual experiences.
Though there might be a little
bit of that, that ignites the
relationship, as we all know,
sex is hardly something that
will keep a relationship going
strong for years and years.
 So definitely, ageism is going
to be a factor in all this. And
with that you can extrapolate
all of the common sense kind
of deductions and conclusions
based on the age difference.
On the woman’s side, the
stigma is that she’s really
just send it to have a
fresh body to play with.
 And on the younger man’s side,
the stigma and negative
connotation is that he is basically
prostituting himself – giving his
body in order to have a means to
buy material things, to enter
higher class of social circles.
And of course, people can
learn from parallels
among other
demographic differences.
 You can look at the
assumptions and stereotypes
about races and sexes
engender; and just see how
ridiculous some of these
stereotypes and assumptions
are.
Also, men and women can
extrapolate clear lessons
from those wrongheaded
assumptions and
conclusions.
But most importantly – on the topic of
stigmas and negative connotations – a
cougar and a young man that wishes
to be with an older woman simply
need to feel confident and assured of
himself and herself in order to conduct
themselves in a decent and
respectable way in society.
 Ultimately, people just
want each other and
themselves to interact
and behave in a civil way.
 Understanding The
Difference Of Cougars
From Other Women
 Cougars obviously aren’t just
about being older; it never really is
merely about having clocked more
years – having been born in
another generation (think of the
music that you grew up on).
Cougars are a particular
bunch.
 Cougars are very much
like fine wines that have
matured.
And much like a connoisseur can really
save her and relish the experience of a
beverage, so to can a young man
completely lose himself in the
company of an older woman – if he is
indeed a better fit for an older one
(and there are certainly gentlemen out
there that fit this exact mold).
Cougars aren’t just older;
they’re not just richer;
they’re not just more
successful, more
established; they’re wiser.
 They’ve also been
through more hardships.
 In a kind of avuncular
way, cougars tend to
exude a bit of a reserved
composure about things.
Because they’ve been through
more, they’re not as easily
pressed by pedestrian
accolades; and at the same
time they’re not easily
brought down either.
They’ve seen and heard more
than their male companions,
and so there’s certainly a
richer depth to cougars, than
simply being “more,” in
quantitative terms.
The cougar is about depth;
is about quality. It’s
something that is inherent
to a chain well and
maturing; its quality that
cannot be purchased.
 That’s the real difference
between a cougar and another
one, and you get that within
the first five minutes of being
with a good and substantial
conversation with a cougar.