What If She Doesn't Have Time?

(and Other Contingencies)

By Ricardus Domino

One of the best ways to

get good at anything is
to simply practice it… A
LOT (see: How to
Seduce Women Like
the All-Time Greats).
This works *particularly*
well when it comes to
meeting, dating and
seducing beautiful
women.

Why?

Because there are really only so many things that can happen on a
date, and there are only so many things a girl could say in any given
situation… and after youʼve dated a couple of hundred women,
youʼve seen them all before.

And then you can predict whatʼs going to happen… and you already
know the best response, if she says yes, if she says no, or no matter
what she says or does, because youʼve been in that situation a
million times before.

You already know what worked in the past… and what didnʼt.

Youʼll become more refined, more experienced… dare I say, more

rehearsed?
And I donʼt mean more rehearsed in a bad way… Iʼm not talking
about reciting memorized lines (even though, contrary to popular
myth, those really do work – if theyʼre really good! The cheesy lines
youʼll find if you do a quick Google search or if you pick up a menʼs
magazine wonʼt do the trick).

I mean rehearsed more in the sense of a Kung Fu master, who has

been in so many fights that he has seen any move an opponent
could make over and over again… and he has a block up his sleeve
to defend against each one of them.

Not that dating is at all adversarial… I can absolutely guarantee

you that your results will double overnight if you can really start
looking at girls as teammates who want the same thing you do.

But she *will* throw you curve balls, if only to test whether you have
this attitude, to see whether you have the psychological strength
she looks for in a man, and whether you are a high value man with
many options.

The Contingency Plan

Letʼs see what the dictionary has to say:

con·tin·gen·cy /kǝn tinjǝnsē/

Noun:

A future event or circumstance that is possible but cannot be

predicted with certainty.
A provision for such an event or circumstance.

Having such a provision for any possible event or circumstance that

could come up when youʼre with a girl requires some good
judgment…
And as the saying goes, good judgment is the result of experience…
while experience is the result of bad judgment!

And thatʼs precisely why you have to get out there and fail as much
as you can and not worry about it…

Because you can only fail so many times before youʼve gone
through all the ways that donʼt work (provided youʼre constantly and
deliberately testing out new paths to your end goal, something
thatʼs super important) – you will eventually come across the ways
that do work *automatically*.

It is INEVITABLE.

That said, we can shortcut the process a little bit by looking for a
mentor… somebody that has ALREADY made all the mistakes that
can be made.

As we say in Europe: Intelligence learns from *other peopleʼs*

mistakes.

Personally, I have failed my way to massive success with women… in

fact I have failed over and over and over. Iʼm not going to say “I have
failed so that you wonʼt have to” – because there will be some
amount of failure in anybodyʼs learning curve.

But I can certainly give you some of the contingencies Iʼve found to
be the most important ones.

The Approach

The three contingencies on the approach are yes, no, and maybe. A
girl will do one of the following three things when you strike up a
conversation with her:
 YES – She immediately shows that she is interested in you too
(this happens a lot for handsome guys, but average looking
guys get that reaction as well - just because you happen to be
her type) – see my 5-part series on How to Pick Up Girls.

NO – She rejects you off and doesnʼt want to talk to you. She
immediately shows you that sheʼs not attracted to you and not
interested in getting to know you. While those can be turned
around, donʼt spend more than a few minutes on this
endeavor… otherwise Pareto will get angry and call you a fool
(justified or not).

MAYBE – She does neither one thing nor the other… she
doesnʼt fully engage and reciprocate the interest youʼve
demonstrated, but she doesnʼt blow you off either. She might
appear to be skeptical, but she keeps the conversation going to
see what you have to say.

We donʼt need to worry much about the yes and the no girls… if you
get a no, youʼre well-advised to just move on in most cases - and if
you get a yes, you can simply begin framing and then escalating the
interaction.

The most important contingency plan is for the MAYBE. If a girl

neither rejects you nor reciprocates your interest – thatʼs where
GAME begins.

This is where your charisma is going to come into play… and this is
where you need to stay CHILL, remain a dominant man, and not
resort to all kinds of tricks and jokes and gimmicks to try and make
her like you.

Be normal… girls always suspect you *might* be a weirdo if you

approach them out of the blue. Donʼt prove them right by reading
her palm. Have a normal conversation at first to break the ice, and
then start framing.

Getting Her Number and a Date

Another situation that will become a lot like a scene from the movie
Groundhog Day for you is the moment when itʼs time to nail down a
second meet up.

By the way, “getting her number and a date” should really read the
other way round… “getting a date and her number”. Keep this in
mind because this is HUGE.

If you get the date first, the number just seals the agreement.
Whereas if you get the number first, youʼll still have to chase her
down, call her and try to agree on a time to meet up with her again
later.

So while youʼre still chatting with her during the initial pickup, you
should already start talking to her about a time, a date and a
place when the two of you will meet again.

This is what we discuss in “Natural Number Swapping,” and it will

make your phone number a lot more “solid” – and women will also
be much more likely to take your exchanges seriously if they have
already made plans with you. Youʼve already made a girl visualize
the two of you being together again at some point in the future.

What If She Doesnʼt Have Time?

If she says sheʼs not free whenever you want to ask her out on a
date, youʼve already violated one of the rules from tomorrowʼs
article - namely, you should ask HER for a suggestion for a time
and date, or at least find out what her schedule is like, before
you ask her out.

In fact, this is true for most problems you run into – if youʼre having
a problem NOW, it was usually caused by something you did earlier.
This is true for all kinds of things in life too... not just seduction.

Here are some examples of what I mean:

If she says she doesnʼt want to sleep with you “because she
doesnʼt even know you”, itʼs because you failed to show some
depth and fill in the blanks of your lifeʼs canvas for her – OR you
messed up somewhere during a transition point and made her
feel uncomfortable.

If she says she doesnʼt want to kiss you, itʼs probably not
because you did something wrong at that moment, but
because you didnʼt *come across* like the kind of guy she
would like to kiss earlier.
 And so on…

So whenever there is a hiccup in your seductions, see what mistake

you made just before you ran into the problem.

And always find out when a girl is free before you suggest a time for
a meet up.

But what if she still says sheʼs busy?

Well, it depends…

If a woman legitimately canʼt meet you even though she wants

to, she usually makes some kind of counter offer.

“Ya… Iʼm really busy this week, but howʼs next week Wednesday?”

Thatʼs not a blow-off.

If she doesnʼt have time and also doesnʼt make a counter offer,
sheʼs either playing games with you or not interested. In both
cases, youʼre better off if you disengage and DONʼT CHASE at
this point.

If it was the former, and she was interested and hoping youʼd start
chasing after her, she will reinitiate soon enough… and then youʼll
have the date on your terms, and not on hers.

On The Date

This is really, really simple, actually.

Hitch said it first… and heʼs absolutely right. A girl that will go out
with you already likes you. You donʼt have to do anything. She is at
least *interested* in being sexually or romantically involved with you
The big question is then only: is it going to be sexual or
romantic… or both? And to what degree? Will this be purely sex for
fun and a good time was had by all… or are you courting each other
for something potentially more long-term?

It is absolutely VITAL that you subtly frame the interaction, because

otherwise she will set the frames… and then it is all going to be on
her terms, and also pretty random… simply because women arenʼt
good at taking the lead.

Read the article about frames (if you havenʼt already) to make sure
you get this right… this is key.

The second thing you want to do on a date is be a normal person. I

know this is hard for many people who have read too much pickup
advice… but donʼt do anything too fancy now.

Again, she already likes you… she just wants to get to know you a
little better, so that she can feel comfortable sleeping with you.

Really!

So, talk a little bit about your life and hers… you can even talk about
your childhood, your dreams in life or your family. Anything that will
make you more three dimensional than all the other seventeen
drunk guys that hit on her every night.

Sure, you want to be charismatic and you want to be interesting,

but this isnʼt rocket science. She already likes you, youʼve already
framed the relationship, now you just need to spend some more
time with her and be a cool, normal guy that she wouldnʼt be
embarrassed to be seen with... and would be happy to, instead.

Thatʼs all it takes… and then you can take her home and take her to
bed.

Keep Going!

So, hereʼs the thing… as I

said above, you will fail a
lot… everybody whoʼs
good with women has
failed a lot. In fact, we all
fail way more than we
succeed. Thatʼs fine… as
long as you learn from
your mistakes, and as
long as you donʼt take the failures to heart.

With any learning curve, you will always be enthusiastic at first… you
will feel excited about the new skill, because you realize that the
possibilities are endless!

However, you will eventually hit a plateau… a time where for quite a
while; it will appear like youʼre not getting anywhere, and like youʼre
not making any progress.

Itʼs easy to get frustrated or even defiant at this point… and if

there is one thing Iʼve learned from anybody thatʼs ever been
successful at anything, if there is one single key to success in life it
is this:

KEEP GOING WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH!

On the plateau, when you are putting in a lot of hard work and you
donʼt seem to be improving at all and the results just arenʼt coming,
THATʼS where youʼre really learning.
Thatʼs where youʼre collecting your experience… where youʼre
getting familiar with the contingencies… where youʼre becoming
“rehearsed” (again, in the best sense of the word) … where youʼre
becoming *SMOOTH*.

Stand Guard…

…at the gate of your mind. Sage advice that is never more important
than it is during these phases… during the hard times, when youʼre
working through all the possible contingencies.

You see, itʼs no secret that controversy and polemics attract

attention. The “human chimpanzee” inside of us all gets sucked in
by the drama… there is something in our minds that just LOVES this
stuff.

Clever marketers take advantage of that fact and write posts with
titles such as “Why Cold Approach Doesnʼt Work”, or “Why the
Pickup Industry is Full of False Promises.”

Maybe the authors gave up on the plateau!

Or maybe they just want to get attention…

But in either case, these claims are absolutely false.

You can really go from plateau to plateau, so long as you stick with it
and donʼt throw in the towel when itʼs most difficult to keep going…
so close your ears to anybody who wants to tell you that itʼs not
possible to be successful at ANYTHING.

When you first start out, you struggle approaching girls… eventually,
you get good at it, but now the problem is keeping conversations
going. Once you got that nailed, youʼll run into the next challenge:
actually making girls attracted to you, rather than just having polite
chit-chat with them.

And on and on you go, from plateau to plateau… until eventually you
struggle with advanced problems such as female squirting orgasms,
threesomes and harem management.

And the moment you bust these last three sticking points, you can
really live the life of a Sex God… Honest to God, Iʼm not the only guy
I know who has more sexual access to more beautiful women than
he has either the sex drive or even the free time to sleep with!

But it does take some work to get there… and you canʼt listen to
negativity and throw in the towel.

Keep going… stand guard at the gate of your mind… and eventually,
it becomes completely and absolutely *impossible* for you not to be
successful.

Onward and upward,

Ricardus

About the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and

respected coaches in the menʼs dating
advice industry. Heʼs dated some of the
planetʼs most beautiful women, ranging
from a Miss World contestant, to a model
for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazilʼs Next Top
Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most
remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is
currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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