Stop Complaining
Stop Complaining
Stop Complaining
“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb
This is definitely easier said than done. Our brains tend to gravitate toward the negative. Much like the quote above, we are
bothered first by the thorns in the rose bush instead of being marveled by the sight of the beautiful roses.
This requires a new practice of being mindful. When you find yourself thinking or saying a negative comment about something or
someone, stop and force yourself to say something positive instead
Constantly ignoring your negative thoughts could add up. If you are really going through a rough time, don’t be afraid to share
your feelings with a close friend or family member or see a therapist. Don’t feel ashamed if you need to talk through negative
feelings.
3. Practice yoga.
Yoga is a great way to exercise, relax, and learn to be mindful. Yoga focuses on breathing, movement, and meditation and helps
you to control your mind and body. Our minds often race in a million directions. Yoga can help you calm your racing thoughts and
be more positive with your intentions.
We often complain about others because we think they are not up to our standards. Once you stop judging people without
knowing their stories, you will most likely complain less about the things people do.
Stopping for a minute and thinking of all the great things and amazing people in your life will probably put any silly complaints
you had to rest.
Next time you’re with your friends, family, or co-workers and engaged in a complaint fest, speak up or quiet down. Depending on
the crowd, either speak up to stop the complaining and change the subject to something sunnier or simply be quiet and don’t
complain yourself.
7. Accept responsibility.
If something is bothering you, either fix it or accept that nothing can be done right now, so why complain? Complaining is a
passive activity. Change that complaining into action to solve the problem or simply accept it and give your mind something else
to focus on.
Sometimes this list can be easy, full of hobbies you enjoy. Sometimes it requires deeper introspection. Are you constantly
complaining about your job? Maybe it is time to make the hard decision to move on to another job or career. Uncover what your
biggest complaints are about and see if you can change the situation to make you happy.
Stress and a busy lifestyle can often take over our lives and break down anyone’s positive spirit. Take time out from your life for
just you. Make sure you get to see that movie you were dying to watch, take a hot bath, head to your exercise class, get a
manicure, play sports, or do whatever relaxes and energizes you. It could just put you in a new frame of mind.
10. Simply ask yourself when you open your mouth: Would you rather complain or be happy?
Choose happiness, focusing on the positive, and being kind always! It is your choice and no one else’s.