How To Be Happy and Be Carefree

Remember being carefree and optimistic during your childhood?
Now, you are older

and wiser and maybe even cynical. As we get older, life gets tough because we get
more responsibilities or life throws experiences at us that shape us into pessimists.
Don’t worry, even if you are at the glass-half-empty end of the spectrum, there is still
hope for you. It is never too late to change your thoughts. After all, your thoughts
shape your reality.
But how can you stop being pessimistic? How to be more of a “glass-half-full”
person?
If you want a positive reality, then your thoughts need to reflect the same.
Not everyone is a pessimist, sometimes we just have bad days. Here are a few telltale
signs that will let you know if you are being pessimistic or not.
 You always think, “what if it doesn’t work out rather than what if it does?”
 You don’t get shocked when things go wrong.
 You easily give up.
 You expect to get bad news.
 Sometimes, you may be selfish.
 You find it difficult to forgive.
 You get annoyed by optimists.
 You engage in negative self-talk.
If all or some of these signs resonate strongly with you, then it may be that you are a
pessimist. Don’t worry, you can still change this.
Below are ten ways you can stop being pessimistic. Do remember that these are not
one time solutions. These are small habits you need to inculcate in your everyday life.
Once you start incorporating them, they will become inherent, and being more
positive will become like breathing.
1. Replace Every Negative Thought With a Positive

One
The next time you catch yourself thinking negatively or even just thinking some
mind-boggling thoughts, stop there and replace that with a positive thought. It can
be anything. Think of anything that makes you happy and adds value to your life.
This is essential because we have the power to rewire our brains even if many of us
don’t realize it. When you constantly replace pessimism with optimism, you will
rewire your brain to think more positively.
The result of this? Thinking positively will be second nature to you!
2. Make a Gratitude List

When you focus on things you have rather than what you lack, you create abundance
in your life. Sometimes, we take the little things in life for granted and this is where
pessimism comes from.
We don’t appreciate everything enough and this creates a negative attitude. Being
optimistic is all about changing the lens through which you view the world.
Focus on what you have by making a gratitude list. Every day, write about five things
you are thankful for in life. This will help you to keep things positive as you will focus
on what you do have, and it’ll help stop you from being pessimistic.
3. Stop Seeing Setbacks as Failures

We tend to amplify setbacks in life by thinking that they are the end of the world.
Everyone faces obstacles. They are part of the package deal that we call life. However,
it is important to keep your perception clear.
See your setbacks for what they are. Life is a learning process and they are there to
help you grow. Learn from them and do better next time.
When you feel like giving up altogether think about how you can learn from it? What
is the bright side of it? How can you do things differently to get the outcome you
need?
These are the questions you need to ask yourself so you can deal with setbacks in a
much better way.
4. Do Good Things for Others

Your pessimistic mindset can only be replaced with positive thoughts. Do you know
what will help you feel positive and stop being pessimistic? Being kind and doing
good for other people.
If you think the world needs repair, then be the change to help repair it. Smile at
someone to make their day, leave a good tip for your waiter, offer to hold groceries
for an elderly, or compliment a stranger.
These little things count. They help others and they help you because your soul feels
joy when you do good for others.
5. Find an Outlet to Release Negativity

You automatically channel your thoughts into actions. This is why if you have
negative thoughts, you can channel it into doing something that releases that
negative energy.
You can take up painting, drawing, kickboxing, or anything that brings you joy and
helps release pent-up energy. The outlet you find is up to you!
6. Speak to Yourself the Way You Would Speak to

Your Loved Ones
We can be our worst enemies and hinder our progress. Don’t ever speak about
yourself negatively. Provide yourself the same compassion you give to someone else
because you are worthy of it, too.
One great way to start speaking to yourself positively is by having positive
affirmations around you. Find some things that resonate with you and keep them
around the house as a reminder. This way, you will be able to easily feel more
positive.
7. Don’t Label Yourself as a Pessimist

If you want to stop being pessimistic, then don’t label yourself as one. Don’t ever put
yourself in a box.
When we label ourselves, we are putting a limitation on ourselves. The label then
defines us and we do everything according to that definition. If you label yourself as a
pessimist, then you will keep thinking and doing things in a way a pessimist would.
Remove this label and look beyond it. You are just a human who has both good days
and bad days. All of us do. What you make of those days is completely up to you
because you have the power even if you have forgotten it.
Get rid of the label and stop putting yourself in a box. You can be anything you want,
even an optimist!
8. Have People Around You That Provide You With

Positive Energy
Like attracts like. If you think of yourself as a pessimist and you have people around
you that also think alike, then it is time to get rid of them. Yes, that may be hard, but
it is something you need to do.
If you want to move forward in life, then you need to get rid of people and habits that
don’t serve you. If the people around you add to the negativity, then find new people
that are more positive.
The company you keep influences you, and when you surround yourself with positive
people and optimists, then you will also start thinking that way. Let go of all the
negative energy that doesn’t serve you and see how beautiful your life becomes.
9. Find Someone You Can Vent To

Sometimes, all we need is someone to listen to us and understand. It is important to
have a person in your life that provides you with a source to share your thoughts. We
can stop being pessimistic if we can find someone we can vent to.
You can vent, share your negative thoughts, and let it all out. This can be anyone. You
can either vent to a close friend whom you trust or find a therapist.
The important thing is to have someone to listen to you. This will help you in taking
off a burden. You will feel light and you will get a fresh perspective on things. This
will give you the drive to do better and take charge of your life.
10. Include Movement in Your Life

Movement also gets rid of the energy that we have built up for long. A great way to
get rid of negative energy is to work out. It can be as short as a fifteen-minute
workout. You just need to move your body to release that energy.
Your tensions, negativity, pessimism, and stress will be released. Your mind will
become more focused and driven. You will take your mind off from all the negative
thoughts that don’t serve you.
Even if you don’t feel like working out, try going for a walk or run. Being out in the
open in the fresh air can do wonders for your attitude. It will also help you feel more
positive.
Our bodies store our emotions, so shed those negative emotions through the wonders
of movement. It doesn’t matter what kind it is. All you need to do is move!
Final Thoughts
We all have an individual lens through which we look at the world. Sometimes, that
lens can be distorted and no longer serve us. It is important to recognize these
patterns and be serious about making a change in your life when you come to this
realization.
These ten ways will help you move forward in life. They will help you break all
negative patterns so you can stop being pessimistic and finally live a life full of
positivity. Stop hindering your growth and progress.
Start making these changes now, and see how your life changes for the better. The
first step is always the hardest, but it is one you need to take.

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Remember being carefree and optimistic during your childhood?

Now, you are older

1. Replace Every Negative Thought With a Positive

2. Make a Gratitude List

3. Stop Seeing Setbacks as Failures

4. Do Good Things for Others

5. Find an Outlet to Release Negativity

6. Speak to Yourself the Way You Would Speak to

7. Don’t Label Yourself as a Pessimist

8. Have People Around You That Provide You With

9. Find Someone You Can Vent To

10. Include Movement in Your Life

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