Attachment and Romantic Relationships

Attachment and romantic
relationships
Attachment: From the cradle to
the grave
Hazan & Shaver, 1994
Attachment Review
Can I count on my attachment figure
to be available/responsive?
• Yes – Secure
– Exploration
• No – Insecure/Avoidant
– Defensiveness
• Maybe – Insecure/Resistant
– Anxiety
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Three features
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Attachment development
Phase Parents Peers
Proximity
Infancy Safe haven
Secure base
Early Proximity
childhood Safe haven
Secure base
Late Proximity
childhood/ Safe haven
adolescence Secure base
Adulthood Proximity
Safe haven
Secure base
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Attachment formation to partner
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Fundamental questions
• What makes relationships satisfying or enduring?
– how well they meet basic needs for comfort, care, sexual gratification
• …at least compared to alternatives
– fear of separation from attachment figure activates attachment system
• even if needs not being met
• Why do relationships dissolve?

– relative importance of basic needs changes
• lack of caregiving exposed when sexual passion declines
• What are the reactions to relationship breakup?

– attachment system activated
• separation-protest to seek proximity
– sadness & detachment
– re-attachment to another
• sometimes premature
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Different strategies for
maintaining felt security
• Inconsistent responsiveness  anxious/ambivalent attachment
• preoccupation with keeping others close
– (fall in love easily, early self-disclosure)
• intense expression of distress
– (view partners as insufficiently responsive)
• diminished exploratory behavior
– Consistent unresponsiveness  avoidant attachment
• avoiding intimacy
• compensatory engagement in non-social activities (work)
• regulation anxiety through other means
– (uncommitted sex, substance use, distraction)
– Gender
– no differences in attachment styles
– females more oriented to caregiving, males to sex
Parent  Peer  Partner
• Attachment representations of the three
relationships are distinct yet related
• Attachment style
– Parent - Peer (friend) concordance
– Peer – Partner (romantic) concordance
– Not Parent – Partner
– Peer relationships appear to be a mediator
– Furman, W., Simon, V. A., Shaffer, L., & Bouchey, H. A. (2002). Adolescents' working models and styles
for relationships with parents, friends, and romantic partners. Child Development, 73(1), 241-255.
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Background
• Secure attachment  positive relationships with peers, ego resilient, good

adolescent friendships
• Examine the antecedent attachment styles longitudinally
• Maternal sensitivity: availability, dependability, and responsiveness
• Social competence : cooperation and self control
• Friendship: Quality of peer relationships
• Temperament
• Genetic polymorphisms
• Past longitudinal attachment studies:
• Use retrospective memories
• Not as comprehensive
Method
• Participants:
• Data from NICHD Study of Early Child Care and Youth Development (SECCYD)
• N = 707 out of the original 1,364
• Birth to 15 years of age
Measures
• Adult Attachment:
• Global attachment styles: Attachment-related Avoidance and Attachment-related Anxiety
• Romantic attachment styles: Romantic-related Avoidance and Romantic-related Anxiety
• Caregiving Environment:
• Maternal sensitivity
• Maternal depression
• Father absence
• Social competence:
• Mothers and teachers rating
• Friendship Quality:
• Child’s rating of friendship with best friend
• Early Temperament:
• Maternal rating: Restlessness/Activity, Shyness, Attentional focusing, Passivity, Fear
• Genotyping
• A LOT of polymorphisms associated with adult attachment
• Control variables: child gender, child ethnicity, maternal education, family income
Results: Outcome = Adult Attachment
Summary of Findings
• Individual developmental history  Individual differences in adulthood

• Adult attachment differences attributable to:
• Variations in quality of caregiving
• Emerging social competence
• Quality of best friendship
• Serotonin Receptor gene (HTR2A rs6313- with 2 C alleles)  higher attachment
• Adult attachment differences NOT attributable to:
• Temperament
• Most genetic polymorphisms
Discussion Questions
• What do these findings tell us about adult attachment styles?

• What do you think about the father absence variable?
• Teacher Rating of child’s social competence versus Mother’s rating?
• Are there more variables that should have been investigated in this study?
Adolescents' social relationships…
• Can support or interfere with the development
of successful romantic relationships.
• Adolescents with fewer other-sex friends, less
positive & more negative interactions with best
friends  high levels of dating anxiety.
• Never having a romantic relationship, no current
romantic partner, and less positive & more negative
interactions with their romantic partners  higher
levels of dating anxiety.
• La Greca, Annette M .;
Mackey, Eleanor Race Journal of
Clinical Child and Adolescent
Psychology. Vol 36(4),2007, 522-
Messinger 533.
ADOLESCENT RELATIONSHIPS: DO THEY
PREDICT SOCIAL ANXIETY AND
DEPRESSION?
 Peer crowd affiliations (high and low status), positive
qualities in best friendships, and a dating relationship
protected adolescents against social anxiety
 But relational victimization and negative best friendship
interactions predicted social anxiety.
 Affiliation with a high-status crowd afforded some
protection against depressive affect
 But relational victimization and negative qualities of best
friendships & romantic relationships predicted depressive
symptoms.
 La Greca, Annette M.; Harrison, Hannah Moore Journal of Clinical Child and
Adolescent Psychology. Vol 34(1), Feb 2005, 49-61.
 Followed 200 participants (100 male, 100 female) over 9
years
 From age 15-24
 Assessed relationship quality
 Support
 Negative Interactions
 Relationship satisfaction
 Assessed adjustment
 Internalizing and externalizing
 Substance use
 Dating satisfaction Collibee & Furman,
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INTERNALIZING SYMPTOMS
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EXTERNALIZING SYMPTOMS AND
SUBSTANCE USE
Externalizing symptoms:
•Decreases with age
•Negatively associated with
romantic support, and
relationship satisfaction
•Associated with negative
interactions
Substance use:
•Increases with age
•More substance use related
to more negative interactions
•Teens: substance use is
associated with relationship
satisfaction
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OVERALL SATISFACTION WITH DATING
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DEVELOPMENTAL TASK THEORY
 Romantic relationships become more salient over time

 Adolescence—Emerging Task
 Quality matters less
 Not closely linked with future outcomes or concurrent adjustment
 Adulthood—Salient Task
 Quality matters more
 More closely tied to current and future functioning
 The nature of romantic relationships change as a function of development
 Relationships become more of a secure base over time
 Being in a relationship as a teen can have negative associations
 More internalizing, externalizing, and drug use
 Being in a relationship as an adult has the opposite effect
Collibee & Furman,

2015

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• Why do relationships dissolve?

• What are the reactions to relationship breakup?

• Secure attachment  positive relationships with peers, ego resilient, good

• Individual developmental history  Individual differences in adulthood

• What do these findings tell us about adult attachment styles?

Collibee & Furman,

Collibee & Furman, 2015

Collibee & Furman,

 Romantic relationships become more salient over time

Collibee & Furman,

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