Self Awareness and Anger

The present review summarizes the current research on anger coping and experiencing. We proceeded step by step, starting from the structure of anger coping, covering the influence of anger coping on somatic health, the influence of anger coping on psychic health, and finally we discussed the interpersonal domain of anger coping, including dyadic interactions. The main emphasis was given on the shift in the conceptualization of anger coping from the simple descriptions of coping mechanisms towards the dynamic explanations within the interpersonal context. We discussed contextual factors, such as situational specificity, relative status of the individual within the social group, interpersonal targeting of anger expression, perceived level of injustice in anger elicitors, etc. Further, we also focused on the domain of the nonverbal expression of anger. Since nonverbal expression constitutes the essential part of emotional coping, we surveyed some aspects of this subfield, such as facial expression of anger, energetical costs of nonverbal expression of anger, intrapersonal emotional transfer, and emotional transfer of anger between individuals.

The phenomenon of self- anger has been overlooked in the contemporary literature on emotion. This is a failing we should seek to remedy. In this paper I provide the first ef-fort towards a philosophical characterization of self- anger. I argue that self- anger is a genuine instance of anger and that, as such, it is importantly distinct from the negative self- directed emotions of guilt and shame. Doing so will uncover a potentially distinctive role for self- anger in our moral psychology, as one of the strongest affective motiva-tors for self- change.

One of the definitions of ‘therapeutic’ is ‘having a good effect on the body or mind; contributing to a sense of well-being’. ‘A therapeutic silence’ is given as an example of something that has the aforementioned good effect on the body or mind, that contributes to our sense of wellbeing. As a writer, I believe that the best writing comes from that silence, that deep well of quiet we sometimes access, where the words just seem to well up rather than having to be dragged up kicking and screaming. Sometimes the exact right words, the exact right impressions, come to us unbidden. Via dreams, or daydreams or fanciful notions. If we’ve been schooled to distrust instinct or intuition, to always favour the rational over the irrational, we discard much of this wisdom that comes from the depths of our being.

Life Skills for Children – the book 'Letting Go of Yucky Feeling OR Drop the Lemons' is the third book in the Jade's Life Skills series. The title speaks for itself – learning how to self-help oneself by letting go of sadness, anger and any other yucky feeling.
Asaf Shani, father of 4, is an international speaker in the field of conflicts and negotiations that in the last 17 years acquired substantial 'hands-on' knowledge about life skills in general and their implementation with children in particular.
Thousands of parents would wide, along with his own 4 kids at home, will attest to the effectiveness of the ideas and tools he presents in the Jade Life Skills for Kids series.

Genel tanımı ile öfke; ‚bireyin planları, istek ve gereksinimleri engellendiğinde ya da bir haksızlığa uğradığında ve kendi benliğine yönelik bir tehdit algıladığında yaşadığı bir duygu‛dur. Öfke, genellikle suça ve şiddete yönelik davranışlarla ilgili olarak eş ve çocuklara yönelik eziyetlerde ve toplu şiddet olgularında kendini daha sık göstermektedir. Günlük yaşam içinde sıklıkla yaşanan öfke, duygusal temelde en az iki kişinin mutsuzluğuna neden olmaktadır. Öfke, hem yöneldiği hedefi hem de kaynağını olumsuz bir yaşantı içine sokmaktadır. Burada öfkeyi yaşayan için, öfkenin kontrolü, öfkenin yöneldiği kişi içinse, gelen bu öfkeyle nasıl baş edileceği yani nasıl başa çıkabileceği önemli bir sorundur. Duygusal, fizyolojik, bilişsel ve sosyal boyutlarda yaşanan öfkenin, yoğun ve istenmeyen etkileri göz önüne alındığında ciddi sorunlara kaynaklık ettiği görülmektedir. Kontrolsüz öfke hem birey hem de toplum üzerinde inanılmaz olumsuz etkilere neden olmaktadır. Kişilerarası sorunlu ilişkilere, suç işlemeye, boşanmaya, çalışma yaşamında üretkenliğin ve işlevselliğin bozulmasına, fiziksel ve ruhsal sağlıkta önemli sorunlara neden olabilmektedir. Bireyler, duygularına göre davranıpdavranmayacaklarına kendileri karar verirler. Öfkenin tüm olumsuzluklarına karşın, olumlu sonuçları da bulunmaktadır. Kişiyi uyarıcı, koruyucu ve harekete geçirici olan işlevleri, bu duygusal yaşantının, yaşamın devamı için ne kadar önemli olduğuna işaret etmektedir. Doğada birçok canlının yaşamını sürdürebilmesi için, kendisine yönelik tehditlere karşı uyarılması; kendisini korumak, yaşamda kalabilmek ve türünü sürdürebilmek için saldırgan davranışlar göstermesi gerekir. Dolayısıyla öfke bir taraftan organizmayı bir problem olduğu konusunda uyarırken, diğer taraftan da organizmanın kendisine zarar verici veya saldırgan davranma eğiliminin farkına varması konusunda etkin bir rol oynar. Bazı kimseler başkalarına göre daha öfkeli olabilmektedirler. Bu durumun nedenleri, genetik, fizyolojik ve sosyal-kültürel olabilir. Öfkeli çocukların huysuz, alıngan ve çabuk kızan özelliklerle doğduğuna ve bu işaretlerin çok erken yaşlardan beri mevcut olduğuna dair araştırma bulguları vardır. Öte taraftan öfkeye yol açan sosyal-kültürel etmenler de vardır. Araştırmalar aile yaşantısının da öfke ifadesinde önemli rolü olduğunu göstermiştir. Buna göre çabuk öfkelenen insanların, tipik olarak yıkıcı, karmaşık ve duygusal iletişimi iyi olmayan dengesiz ailelerden geldiği bildirilmiştir. Klinik perspektiften baktığımızda, öfkenin içsel ve yıkıcı dürtülerinin ergenlerde intiharı netice verebildiği görülmektedir. Bu çalışmada, öfke olgusu ele alınarak, sosyal psikolojik boyutları ile incelenmiştir. Çalışmada, literatür taraması yapılmış olup bu alanda yapılan çalışmalardan elde edilen veriler paralelinde bir değerlendirme yapılmaya çalışılmış ve öfke yönetimine ilişkin öneriler ortaya konmuştur.
Anahtar sözcükler: Öfke; öfke nedeni; öfke yönetimi; öfke patlamaları; dürtüsellik; öz saygı; ruh sağlığı.
Abstract:
Anger, with a general definition, is; ‚a feeling of individual when his/her desire or needs are blocked or he/she is hard done by something and he/she perceive a threat towards his/her own personality. Anger generally shows itself more, towards children or the partner with some behaviors related to crime and violence and with the facts of violence collectively. Anger that is experienced often in daily life causes at least two individuals’ unhappiness in the emotional basis. It causes an adverse experience for both the target to which it is inclined and the source. Here, it is an important problem to control the anger for the person who experience it, and for the target of the anger how to cope with this anger. Considered as the source of serious problems; anger, experienced in emotional, physiological, cognitive, and social extent, causes intense and adverse effects. Unbounded anger causes unbelievable adverse results for both the individual and for the society. It can cause problematic interpersonal relationships, committing a crime, divorce, failure of productivity and functionality at work, serious problems of physical and mental health. Individuals decide themselves whether they will behave in accordance with their emotions or not. Despite all the negative aspects of anger, there are also positive results. Stimulating, protective and actuator functions of anger for the individual, point that how this emotional experience is important for continuation of life. In nature, in order to survive many spices need to be warned against threats, to sustain their life they also have to demonstrate aggressive behaviors. Therefore, while anger warns the organism about a problem, it also plays an active role in making the organism aware of tendency of harmful or offensive behaviors. Some people may be more furious than others. Genetic, physiological, and social-cultural factors can be the reason of this situation. Research findings show that angry children born with grumpy, touchy and irritable features and these signs have been present from a very early age. On the other hand, socio-cultural factors also cause anger. Studies have shown that family life plays an important role in the expression of anger. Choleric people have typically destructive, complex and emotionally unstable families and these families do not have a good communication. When we look from the clinical perspective, anger is also an important predictor of suicide in adolescents because of the internal and destructive impulses.
In this study, the matter of anger is examined and analyzed with the social psychological dimensions. Literature review is made with the data obtained from the studies in this field. Evaluation was made in line with this data and suggestions for the management of anger were revealed.
Key Words: Anger; cause of anger; outbursts of anger; impulsivity; self esteem; sanity.
Type of study: Literature review.

This article appeared in a local Queens newspaper, THE BAYSIDE TIMES. It describes how and why I used popular music, contemplation, writing, and discussion to change my students' lives and the whole classroom atmosphere.

With the accumulation of positive, cerebral changes in the children, where their listening, thinking, and visualizing skills improve, the class's overall ability to learn as a group will change for the better.

When teachers focus on concentration, contemplation, reflection, thinking, metacognitive, and visualization skills--as a subject--it works to improve the child as a student and a person. Contemplation Music Writing is about the whole person and that helps the child and class grow much faster than teaching the "subjects" and looking for these skills within each one.

Skills learning, in my opinion and experience, is a separate subject just like reading and math. As children become more self-aware and self-motivated, the basic subjects can be taught and learned at optimal levels.

An invited guest sermon at the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Rock Tavern, November 9, 2014.  I discuss first the "hard sayings" in Paul's Letter and in the Sermon on the Mount, then insights of John Cassian, Augustine of Hippo, and John Chrysostom, and suggest how these insights may apply to our lives in the present

A computational model of emotion is derived (using minimalistic assumptions) to quantify how emotions are evolved to estimate the accuracy of an internally generated brain model that predicts the external world. In this model, emotion is an emergent property serving as a self-derived feedback that monitors the accuracy of the internal model via the discrepancy (error measure) between the (internal) subjective reality and (external) objective reality—reality-check subconsciously. Minimization of error (computed by the “gain” toward the desired outcome) will optimize congruency between internal and external worlds—resulting in happy emotion. Unhappy emotion is resulted from the discrepancy between internal and external worlds, which can serve as feedback for self-correction to minimize the “loss” (error) between desired and actual outcomes. Unhappiness provides the internal guide to self-identify whether the cause of error is due to input (sensory perception) error, output (motor execution) error, or modeling (internal model) error. Experimental validation of the hypothesis using the ultimatum game paradigm confirmed the inverse proportional relationship of anger to perceived gain (or direct proportionality to loss) that estimates the discrepancy between what we want and what we get. It also characterizes specific emotional biases by shifting the emotional intensity curve quantitatively.