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The document discusses personal relationships and the stages of falling in love. It defines personal relationship as the connection built between people to make them closer through mutual understanding. Personal relationships have a theological nature with a social purpose, as humans have innate needs to form interpersonal bonds and find mates. The three stages of falling in love are discussed as lust, attraction, and attachment. Attachment theory and the importance of secure attachment in childhood development and future relationships is also summarized.

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The document discusses personal relationships and the stages of falling in love. It defines personal relationship as the connection built between people to make them closer through mutual understanding. Personal relationships have a theological nature with a social purpose, as humans have innate needs to form interpersonal bonds and find mates. The three stages of falling in love are discussed as lust, attraction, and attachment. Attachment theory and the importance of secure attachment in childhood development and future relationships is also summarized.

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LESSON 9

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

 The Free Dictionary (2012) defines personal relationship as a relation


between persons. Hamilton (2017) also defined the term as the
ability to interact effectively with diverse others in a variety of
situations. The concept when understood clearly seemed to be
broad and complex. In a nutshell, we can say the phenomenon
called personal relationship is the connection we build with other
people to make us closer to them. This bond has attached us
significantly to others thereby creating a mutual understanding with
whom we are connected.
 Moreover, personal relationship has teological nature, according to
Rychlak (1984).
This means that interaction with others is done with a purpose.
Although personal, the outcoms of which is social. As social
beings, humans are generally known to have innate needs and
desires to form an interpersonal relationship with other human
beings. We are driven to find a mate, bomd and reproduce
(Fisher, H.E. et al., 2006). This human tendency is euphemized
with a term, called “LOVE”.
Furthermore, this drive, according to an article wrote by Dr.
Sara Seabrooke, a lead scientist at Inceptum Reseach and
Therapeutics, is called the “attraction system” (Seabrooke, ND).
She purported that this system is made up of three fundamental
pathways – lust, attraction and attachment (Seabrooke, ND).
When attraction between two persons is discussed, it is often
understood as based on physical appearance.
Three Stages Of
3 Stages of
Falling In Love
falling in love
Lust – This refers to an urge or desire that
motivates a person to partake in sexual activity. This
desire to be involved in sexual activity is there
regardless of whether someone has a sexual partner
or not.
Attraction – This is the stage when a person loses
sleep and appetite over someone and becomes
very excited while daydreaming of this special
person. Although often described as part of lust, the
attraction is distinguished from lust because it
involves focusing our attention on a particular
person or desire.
Attachment – When a couple enters the
attachment stage, long-lasting commitments
are exchanged and may lead to raising a
family. Attachment promotes the likelihood
that two individuals will stay together to
complete parenting duties.
How attachments are developed?

 The word attachment is very important in the language of personal


relationship. In fact; there are psychological theories generated to
bettter understand this term. One theory which highlighted the
importance of attachment in relationship building is from John
Bowlby. Bowlby, a psychologist who was noted for his interest in
child development, founded the theory of attachment (Haggbloom,
et al., 2002). According to this Attachment Theory, the very first
meaningful relationship every human being encounters is with one’s
mother. Even before birth, the mother-child relationship is already
established. A careless and non-caring pregnant mother may lead
to psychological and emotional scars even before the child is born.
3 Different Attachment Styles

 Secure Attachment – When the primary caregiver is most of the time present and
when all the emotional needs of an infant are met providing a sense of security to
the infant. A child who exposed to this attachment will grow up to have a more
stable relationship.
 Avoidant attachment – when the primary caregiver is cold and detached, and
even unresponsive to a child’s needs. A child who is exposed to this kind may
experience unstable relationships in the future.
 Anxious-ambivalent Attachment – when the primary caregiver is not consistent in
terms of presence and in the meeting of a child’s emotional needs. A child who
experienced this type of attachment may develop anxieties or mixed feelings
between hesitancy and commitment when entering into meaningful relationships.
In the end, a personal relationship cannot be
ultimately fulfilled without having, first and foremost,
loving yourself. As they say, self-love is the greatest
love of all. The bible explicitly tell us, “love your
neighbor as you love yourself” (Matthew 23:39).
Hence, to sum it up, self-love is essential in cultivating
a personal relationship. Self-love is not selfishness
rather it is recognizing your self-worth. As you move
forward in your life and build a relationship, you will
understand that no relation lasts long unless you
discovered the truth, that, you are God’s image and
likeness. God is love so you are. You cannot keep this
love unshared, you have to share this love through
building genuine personal relationships.
Quiz
Multiple choice

 Which refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions?
a. Attraction c. Love
b. Passion d. Relationship
 Which is the first meaningful relationship that every one human encounters?
a. Brother-Sister Relationship c. Husband-wife Relationship
b. Mother-child Relationship d. Father-son Relationship
 Which refers to a cold, detached or unresponsive treatment to a child’s need?
a. Secure Attachment c. Cold Attachment
b. Avoidant Attachment d. Anxious-ambivalent Attachment
 In which kind of attachment are the child’s emotional and security needs provided?
a. Secure Attachment c. Cold Attachment
b. Avoidant Attachment d. Anxious-ambivalent Attachment
 In which kind of attachment doesn’t caregiver constantly provide the child with his/her emotional needs?
a. Secure Attachment c. Cold Attachment
b. Avoidant Attachment d. Anxious-ambivalent Attachment
Fill in the blank

1. The concept of relationship is very _____________ and complex.


2. A child who experiemce anxious-ambivalent attachment may
develop ___________ or mixed feelings between hesitancy and
commitment when entering into meaningful relationships.
3. Lust refers to a/an ____________ or desire that motivates a person to
partake in sexual activity.
4. When a person experiences attraction, he/she becomes very
excited for someone while _____________ of this special person.
5. Close connections between people formed by emotional bonds
and interactions are reffered to as _____________.

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