EMERGING
RITUAL IN
SECULAR
SOCIETIES
of related interest
Crafting Secular Ritual
A Practical Guide
Jeltje Gordon-Lennox
Foreword by Isabel Russo
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EMERGING RITUAL IN
SECULAR SOCIETIES
A TRANSDISCIPLINARY
CONVERSATION
Edited by
Jeltje Gordon-Lennox
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CONTENTS
List of Figures
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Acknowledgements
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Introduction: Opening the Conversation
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Jeltje Gordon-Lennox
Part I: The Origins of Ritual
1 The Art of Ritual and the Ritual of Art
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Ellen Dissanayake
2 Human Rituals and Ethology
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Matthieu Smyth
3 The Neurophysiology of Ritual and Trauma
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Robert C. Scaer
Part II: Sensemaking in Life Events
4 The Rhyme and Reason of Ritualmaking
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Case Study: A Nordic Rite of Passage Comes of Age
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Jeltje Gordon-Lennox in collaboration with Lene Mürer, Siri Sandberg and
Inger-Johanne Slaatta (Norwegian Humanist Association), Marie Louise
Petersen (Danish Humanist Society), Bjarni Jonsson (Icelandic Ethical
Humanist Association) and Tuomas Rutanen (Finnish Prometheus Camps
Association)
6 Multicultural Wedding Ceremonies
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Andrés Allemand Smaller
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Case Study: A Funeral Ceremony for a Violinist
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Christine Behrend
8 Case Study: A Memorial and a Wedding Rolled
into One Humanist Ceremony
Isabel Russo
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Part III: Ritualizing in Intimate Spaces
9 Ritual as Resource
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Michael Picucci
10 Sensing the Dead
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Joanna Wojtkowiak
11 Food and Ritual
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Lindy Mechefske
Part IV: Ritualizing in Public Places
12 Commemorative Ritual and the Power of Place
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Irene Stengs
13 New Ritual Society
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Gianpiero Vincenzo
14 Ritual and Contemporary Art
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Jacqueline Millner
15 Interview with Ritual Artist Ida van der Lee
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Christine Behrend
16 Conclusion: Conversation to be Continued
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Jeltje Gordon-Lennox
Notes on Contributors
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PART II
SENSEMAKING
IN LIFE EVENTS
4
THE RHYME AND
REASON OF
RITUALMAKING
Jeltje Gordon-Lennox
Human beings are very resilient. During precarious periods of history,
humankind’s adaptive capacity is put to the test. As a species we have
braved – and so far survived – wars, disasters (natural and humanmade), violence and personal betrayals. In the face of uncertainty, ritual
contributes to our sense of security by beating time to our natural rhythms,
helping us make sense of our world and enhancing our social bonds. The
dislocation1 of modern Western society causes suffering on both public
(political, economic, social, cultural, spiritual) and intimate (emotional,
sensory, sexual, relational, neuronal) levels. Rarely, if ever, has humankind
experienced fragmentation to such an extent. Rarely have people been
shielded by so few meaningful social rituals.
This chapter explores how ritual and ritualmaking as social activity
– remarkable for how it sustains wellbeing for individuals and society as
a whole – meets the unprecedented challenges of multilevel dislocation.
I came to ritology through the backdoor as a practitioner. This means
that practical experience filters my exploration of ritual theory. As a
psychotherapist, I am well placed to see the pain and damage caused by
inadequate ritual as well as the sense of joy and rightness when milestones
1
In chemistry, the term ‘dislocation’ refers to irregularities in the fine structure lattice
of an otherwise normal crystal. In this context, the word refers to subtle and not so
subtle irregularities in the fine structure lattice of modern society.
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are appropriately observed. After several years of presiding at religious rites,
I left the religious institution to craft secular life event ceremonies. My move
from religious to secular ritual was motivated primarily by a desire to meet
the growing need for non-religious ceremonies. In the process, I realized
that it corresponded to changes in my own experience and thinking. I also
learned that ritualmaking has not always been the domain of specialists.
SECULAR RITUAL
While observing people go about their everyday lives, ethologist Ellen
Dissanayake noticed that humans everywhere avidly engage in playful,
artistic and ritual pursuits. She became convinced that these activities
represent a biologically endowed need, and called this compelling and
‘deliberately nonordinary’ activity ‘making special’ (1992, pp.42–48). Rituals
have been invented and reinvented ever since humankind first felt the
need to connect events with thoughts and feelings, hopes and fears.
Rituals ‘are adaptive’, affirms Dissanayake, ‘not only because they join
people together in common cause but because they also relieve anxiety.
It is better to have something to do, with others, in times of uncertainty
rather than try to cope by oneself or do nothing at all’ (2016).
Over the last century, ritual experts led us to believe that all ritual is
religious, or at least sacred. Yet religion, like secularism, is just one type
of worldview (see Figure 4.1). Anthropologist Mary Douglas insists that
secularism is ‘an age-old cosmological type, a product of a definable social
experience, which need have nothing to do with urban life or modern
science […or] transcendent explanations and powers’; it can turn up in
any historical age and locale (cited by Bell 1997, p.200). Anthropologist
Talal Asad2 sees the secular as ‘a concept that brings together certain
behaviours, knowledges, and sensibilities in modern life’ (2003, p.24).
Ritual studies scholar ‘Catherine M. Bell’s profound insight’, states her
friend Diane Jonte-Pace, ‘was that ritual, long thought of as thoughtless
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‘The secular is neither continuous with the religious [phase] that supposedly preceded
it (that is, it is not the latest phase of a sacred origin) nor a simple break from it (that
is, it is not the opposite, an essence that excludes the sacred)’ (Asad 2003, p.24).
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action stripped of context, is more interestingly understood as strategy:
a culturally strategic way of acting in the world. Ritual is a form of social
activity’ (Jonte-Pace 2009, p.vii). As such, ritual is neutral: it has been
used to promote love, healing and social cohesion but also to foment
war, hatred and racism. How it is used makes it a culturally strategic way
of acting in the world.
Figure 4.1. Ritual strategy
Ritualizing is a culturally strategic way of acting in the world. Religious and secular
rituals are different forms of social activity that can also be spiritual, cultural or even
civic. Coherence between the occasion, the context and relationships is sine qua non for
effective ritualizing.
RITUALIZING IN AN ULTRAMODERN ERA
Whether we live in a megacity or on a small remote island, we must
all adapt to urban rhythms and an ever-increasing pace of change.
Moreover, society barely functions today as a social entity. Globalization
and individualization, the ‘free market’ and relentless competition have
destroyed our sense of belonging to civilized, supportive groups. French
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philosopher Frédéric Lenoir dubs our era ‘ultramodern’,3 and puts the
hazards of accelerated change into historical perspective:
Humanity took a giant leap at the turn of Palaeolithic and Neolithic
ages. These changes affected society, religion, value systems and
the way of life; they also touched and transformed the human
brain. I’m convinced that what we are living today will generate
equally sweeping changes that concern our innermost being. We
will not emerge unscathed from these tremendous upheavals…
What our ancestors dealt with in a couple millennia, we have to
grasp the significance of in a few decades. (2012, p.63)
Only 5000 years ago, spirituality was still inextricably tied to ancient
hunter-gatherer traditions. Societal structures were small and for the
most part, horizontal. Maintaining relationships within the community
and assuming responsibility towards nature are recurrent themes in
hunter-gatherer rituals, because they contribute to individual and group
self-regulation. Today, too, we function best when our priorities focus
on sustaining our relationships with others and nature. Yet this way of
functioning is incompatible with complex hierarchical social structures.
Our need for landmarks
Over the last two to three millennia, traditional ties between spiritual and
cultural ritual practices crumbled as religious institutions arose capable of
absorbing adherents across cultural, political and geographical frontiers.
With the verticalization of socio-political structures, participative ritualizing
gave way to institutionalized rites. Centralized religions and governments
alike placed people in leadership roles to oversee healing, spiritual practice
and moral guidance. Recent crises within these hierarchical structures –
many of which concern leadership – have contributed to the breakdown
of their monopoly on traditional ritual. With the dawn of the ultramodern
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Lenoir (2012) prefers the term ‘ultramodern’ to ‘postmodern’ because the latter gives
the false impression that we are disenchanted with the myth of progress and the
modern process when in fact we are in the midst of an unprecedented acceleration
of modernity (critical reason, individualization, globalization).
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era, our vertical and horizontal safety zones disappeared. ‘We have killed
the gods’, remarks Lenoir, ‘we have abolished or erased our borders. It is
within ourselves that we must now find these “safety zones”’ (2012, p.64).
Change itself is neither good nor bad: it can bring relief and renewal,
but it inevitably implies loss and separation from the familiar. The young,
old, sick and injured are most vulnerable. Low adaptive capacity means a
high need for the familiar, protection and clear markers in relationships,
time and space. The momentum of change today does not take into
account our individual and collective need for consistent landmarks, our
capacity to adapt, or even the health of our planet.
Technological advances, in particular the internet, fundamentally
revolutionize how humankind functions on all levels: social, psychological,
economic, cultural, intellectual, spiritual, academic and even neuronal.
Young people in particular are bombarded by a host of information they
must absorb and sort. This adaptation has a price: as communication with
people from around the world is facilitated, warm-hearted face-to-face
talk with those around us grows increasingly difficult.
Our need to feel safe
Biophysicist Peter A. Levine,4 formerly a NASA stress consultant, states:
‘Though we as a secular society are deluged with information (much of
it stimulating and useful), at the same time, we suffer from a paucity of
wisdom and have the desire for more personal warmth, connection and
4
Peter A. Levine developed Somatic Experiencing (SE), a naturalistic approach to the
treatment of trauma based on the observation that wild prey animals, in spite of being
repeatedly threatened, are rarely traumatized. According to Levine, the symptoms of
trauma are not caused by the dangerous event itself, but by our reaction to it. The
reaction may be a debilitating ‘large-T’ trauma or a seemingly inconsequential ‘small-t’
trauma. The symptoms of trauma may arise soon after the event or even much later.
They are caused by the residual energy of the reaction when it is not discharged from
the body. Levine describes traumatic memories as being implicit and stored in the
body and the brain as automatic or ‘procedural’ sensations, emotions and behaviours.
Trauma cannot be cured by advice, drugs or understanding, observes Levine, but it can
be ‘renegotiated’ – rather than relived – by accessing procedural memories. ‘Pendulation’
is a fundamental SE concept used in resolving implicit traumatic memories. It involves
touching on the inner sensations and then learning how to carefully access this ‘felt
sense’ and to tolerate the feelings by noticing that one can survive them (Levine 2015,
pp.xv, xvi, 38, 55).
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engagement’ (2005, p.xvii). Like Lenoir, Levine encourages the building
of ‘islands of safety’ within ourselves to keep from being overwhelmed
by the after-effects of highly charged life experiences. He observes that
‘whether we are survivors of trauma or simply casualties of Western
culture’ (2010, p.256) we suffer from what he describes as ‘an impairing
disconnection from [our] inner sensate compass’ (2010, p.355).
Severed contact with our inner sensate compass is experienced as
fragmentation or disembodiment. Psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk explains
that when the connections within the brain as well as those between the
mind and the body are disrupted through trauma, we become trapped in
the emotions and feelings of the past (2014). As survivors of trauma and
Western culture we expend inordinate amounts of energy just keeping
these sensations under control – usually at the expense of concentration,
the ability to memorize and simply pay attention to what is happening
around us. Neurologist Robert Scaer describes this frightening experience
as ‘an aberration of memory’ (2001, p.43).5 The inability to live fully in
the present impedes adequate preparation for the future, which in turn
wreaks havoc on health and social relationships such as marriages, families
and friendships (Scaer 2005, p.152; 2012, p.114).
The Book of Changes
A shock occurs, then there is a tremor caused by fear. This tremor
is a good thing because it allows inner gladness and joy to follow.
Even if rumbling thunder sows terror a hundred miles around,
we remain so calm that we do not interrupt the ceremony by
dropping the ritual spoon filled with spicy wine. (Hexagram 51,
I Ching, late 9th century bce)
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In the case of trauma, memory imprints (known as ‘engrams’) are experienced – not as a
recurring recollection of a terrible event that happened in the past, but as overwhelming
life-threatening physical sensations in the immediate present (Levine 2015, p.7). These
physical sensations are ever the more frightening in that they may be tied to events that
we do not remember and then triggered without warning by anything, a sudden noise,
a smell, a taste, a colour or a tone of voice, usually totally unattached to a conscious
memory of an event.
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RITUAL AS A SAFE FRAMEWORK FOR EMOTION
Ritualizing life events, in particular weddings and funerals, often evokes
potentially destructive memories and feelings. When intense emotions are
expressed and harnessed through ritual in a safe setting, they contribute
to turning off what Scaer refers to as the ‘fear generator’ from the past.
Ritual thus regularizes our perception of time and allows us to stay in
the present to safely experience attuned relations with other people
(Scaer 2012, pp.141–143). Psychophysiological researcher Stephen Porges
insists that feeling safe is the decisive factor for both our wellbeing and
creative activity (2012). When solving complex, deep-rooted conflicts that
require lasting transformation of worldviews, identities and relationships,
peacebuilder Lisa Schirch promotes the use of ritual because it can help
people see each other as human beings rather than as enemies. ‘Ritual is
a powerful form of communication precisely because it involves people’s
bodies, senses, and emotions’ (Schirch 2005, p.83).
While conducting secular funeral ceremonies I observe that mourners
experience and express powerful feelings while being safely surrounded
by friends, family and well-intentioned strangers. The grieving assembly’s
attention span is extremely short, but the senses are acute, particularly
touch and smell. Mourners can spontaneously oscillate between sadness and
gladness. Tears and laughter may follow in rapid succession. The process
flows in a fulfilling manner when the ritual context, the assembly and an
attentive, skilled celebrant support the oscillation by gently keeping the
mourners physically in the present time. There may be signs of release
or discharge: yawning, moist eyes, trembling in the face or lips, a deep
breath, a shiver in the torso, the stretching of shoulders, neck, hands or
legs. At that point, mourners often feel growing gratitude for their dear
one’s life and the times they shared.
As the ceremony draws to a close, I see people glancing around. They
appear to be waking up, reorienting themselves to the present moment,
the room and the people around them. Later, some describe the funeral
as a time of feeling supported in a ‘time-out-of-time experience’. Others
speak of having sensed their loved one’s passing from the realm of the
living to that of the deceased. With a gut-level calm that does not exclude
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deep grief, they move away from the casket, urn or grave and return home,
physically anchored in a new reality.
While my observations of these reactions are entirely subjective,
sociological researchers Marie Bruvik Heinskou and Lasse Suonperä Liebst
draw our attention to objective ways of measuring the feelings that unfold
during social engagement in ritualization (2016). In particular, Porges’
landmark work6 adds new tools and methods to the scientist’s toolbox.
RITUAL ANCHORS MEMORIES AND TIME
Interestingly, Levine prescribes this process of oscillation between intense
emotions for the resolution of trauma in the therapeutic context.7 Based
on the observation that pain and pleasure cannot be felt simultaneously,
he advises titrating strong feelings and pendulating between painful
and pleasurable memories. This is exactly what a competent celebrant
instinctively does during a ceremony. Although Levine has never applied
this part of his theory to ritualizing, he does assert: ‘The tranquil feelings
of aliveness and ecstatic self-transcendence that make us fully human can
also be accessed through ritual. This way they become enduring features
of our existence’ (2005, p.xvii). This process is reinforced by memory.
Recent neuroscientific research by Karim Nader’s research shows that,
contrary to what we previously thought, memories are not permanent:
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‘Porges helped us understand how dynamic our biological systems are. He gave us
an explanation why a kind face and a soothing tone of voice can dramatically…help
people shift out of disorganised fearful states… If physiological mind-brain-viscera
communication is the royal road to affect regulation, this invites a radical shift in our
therapeutic approaches…to anxiety, attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, autism,
and trauma-related psychopathology… The polyvagal theory legitimates the study of
age-old collective and religious [sic] practices such as communal chanting, various
breathing technics, and other methods that cause shifts in autonomic state’ (van der
Kolk 2011, p.xvi).
Levine refers to this moving back and forth between emotions as pendulation, ‘the
primal rhythm expressed as movement from constriction to expansion – and back to
constriction, but gradually opening to more and more expansion... The perception
of pendulation guides the gradual contained release (discharge) of “trauma energies”
leading to expansive body sensations and successful trauma resolution’ (2010, p.80).
He uses the acronym TRIPODS to describe this process in healing trauma: Titrating,
Resourcing, Integrating, Pendulating, Organizing, Discharging, Stabilizing.
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His mentor Joseph E. Le Doux explains that the ‘brain isn’t interested in
having a perfect set of memories about the past… instead, memory comes
with a natural updating mechanism, which is how we make sure that the
information taking up valuable space inside our head is still useful. This
might make our memories less accurate, but it certainly makes them more
relevant to the present and the future [i.e., adaptive]’ (Le Doux quoted in
Levine 2015, p.141). Since memories are not fixed, recall during ritualization
has the potentiality of switching off the fear generator and interrupting
the somatic loops that involve negative repetitive thoughts, emotions,
images or actions. Rituals reflect our concept of time, how it passes and
what that passing means. Appropriate ritualizing in a safe setting is an
opportunity to relegate painful sensations from the past to the past by
updating a memory based on new information. Upgraded sensations, in
particular smell,8 form rescripted memories and emotions that, when
accessed anew during ritual, empower rather than overpower. ‘In this way’,
remarks anthropologist Matthieu Smyth, ‘ritualizing a lifecycle passage, or
even a seasonal event, serves as a benchmark or reference point among a
series of lesser points. It reassures us that we have indeed moved on from
one phase to another, and that the transition has truly been completed;
it inaugurates a new reality within which we can evolve in peace’ (2014).
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According to Amanda White, research technologist in the Psychiatry Department
at Penn State College of Medicine, the olfactory bulb has direct connections to two
brain areas that are strongly implicated in emotion and memory: the amygdala and
hippocampus. Interestingly, visual, auditory (sound) and tactile (touch) information
do not pass through these brain areas. This may be why olfaction, more than any other
sense, is so successful at triggering emotions and memories (White 2015).
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Figure 4.2. Creative process
Figure 4.2 illustrates the application of the creative process to the creation
of secular ritual. The threefold process involves planning, creating and
realizing (see the outer ring). The six basic rules of ritual design form the
acronym CRAFTS (see the second ring). Ritual design is buttressed by six
supports: need, roles, context, content, sensemaking and coherence (see
the third ring). At the heart of each ritual is a person or people, an event,
a transition or an occasion (see the centre). These concepts are developed
more fully in my book, Crafting Secular Ritual: A Practical Guide (2016).
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RITUAL AS A CULTURALLY STRATEGIC
WAY OF ACTING IN THE WORLD
Ritualizing is a social activity that contributes to our capacity as human
beings to celebrate joyful moments and spring back after hardship. ‘Unlike
in recent centuries, in which rituals [were] set by hierarchical societies,’
Levine observes, ‘we moderns need to participate directly in the creation
of our own transformational experiences through ritual’ (2005, p.xvii).
The function of traditional ritual
Traditional ritual brings people together for a ceremony; the social gathering
that follows is just as important. Our sense of taste enhances a sense of
belonging and conviviality. When people first feel that traditional rituals
are no longer appropriate, they typically try to get their institution to
adapt its rituals to suit their needs. Fiancés ask their religious leader or
mayor to do or add ‘something special’ so that the traditional wedding
ceremony has meaning for them. Upon the death of a non-religious
relative, families request that there be no mention of religion or god
during the funeral. As a rule, traditional ritual is designed to take people
smoothly from the planning to the realizing phase. Established ritual
components were created and then evolved over a period of time; they
require participation but no creative input from the adherent. The desire
to actively create one’s own transformational ritual experience is at crosspurposes with the institution’s function as guardian of ritual tradition.
Ritualizing in multicultural contexts
Another common reaction to the sentiment that traditional rituals
are unsuitable involves borrowing or stealing – depending on one’s
perspective – rituals that seem to work for other cultures.9 This is not a
new phenomenon. Throughout the history of humankind, ritualmaking
has been enriched by cultural exchange. Sinologist Nicolas Standaert
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Many indigenous peoples are insulted by Westerners’ appropriation of their rituals.
Ironically, appreciation for tribal rituals increases at a time in human history when
it is rare, if not impossible, to find people who remain unscathed by the impact of
Western culture.
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explores a 17th-century example of cross-cultural ritual exchange
between Europeans and Chinese people during the funeral of an Italian
Jesuit priest called Matteo Ricci (1552–1610). Ricci’s funeral lasted well
over a year, as traditional Christian rites were grafted onto established
Chinese practices to reinvent funerary rituals. Standaert’s analysis of
the mechanics of two-way cultural interaction exchange10 is pertinent,
not only for Ricci’s colleagues and their Chinese converts, but also for
21st-century contexts where people also find themselves ‘in-between’
traditions. Standaert stresses the importance of ‘the internal coherence
of rituals that are created anew as a result of [cross-cultural] encounter…
By “coherence” is meant that in the eyes of [the ritualmakers], the new
creation fits internally together, makes sense, and is considered effective’
(2008, p.212). Without a doubt, throughout the ages, creating rituals
that fit these three conditions has always required time, skill and rigour.
The risks of do-it-yourself ritual
The fanciful, copy-paste approach too often associated with emerging
ritual is rarely satisfying and not without risk. Ritologist Ronald L. Grimes
observes:
Like traditional rituals, do-it-yourself (DIY) ritual can result in
complicity, empty gestures, people having to do something they
resist doing. In either case, deep-seated resentment can lie under
the surface of ritual acts. If DIY rituals are really going to meet
our needs, they have to be made up out of the familiar, not the
exotic: metaphors that make sense to us, language that reflects the
way we see the world, and symbols with which we have a history.
Start with your own broken teacups, the stuff in your backyard,
keepsakes in the backs of drawers. Begin there, not with someone
else’s rituals. (Grimes 2016)
10 Standaert presents four analytic frameworks for understanding the role of crosscultural exchange in ritualmaking: transmission, reception, invention and interaction,
and communication. He describes the fourth framework as ‘not a radical alternative
to the other frameworks, but rather it builds upon those previous frameworks…it
helps to reveal the internal coherence of rituals that are created anew as a result of
the Chinese-European encounter’ (2008, p.212).
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SENSEMAKING 11 IN RITUALMAKING
The couple who believe that they must give meaning to their wedding
ceremony may spend hours trawling the internet, sifting through
wedding vows, ready-made poems or readings; they may take symbols
from cultures that are foreign to them. Most find it more rewarding to
sit face-to-face, perhaps over a glass of wine or on a sunny terrace, in
sincere discussion about what the transition means to them separately
and as a couple. The real challenge they face is how to nudge out what
being married means to them.
One newly married couple I worked with told me:
We had little idea of the work involved when we contacted you.
But, what we do remember about our wedding was the ceremony:
the preparation was crucial. For us, it meant an eight-month long
process that gave us the opportunity to ask ourselves questions and
put words on how we experience our relationship. Pronouncing the
vow we wrote ourselves in front of our nearest and dearest made
it official. The symbolic gestures of our promise were meaningful
because they made sense to us and to our guests. When we left
[the place where the ceremony was held] we felt married. When
we got home, it felt real. Now, we cannot imagine having done it
any other way; it was so right for us.
This couple made their personalized wedding ceremony ‘from scratch’,
yet it was not creatio ex nihilo. The process involved setting aside time
to explore the meaning that is tucked away in the nooks and crannies
of their own lives and cultural traditions. The values they share were
‘decoded’ into words and gestures. The couple negotiated the wording of
their commitment to their common goals in a joint wedding vow. Every
aspect of their ceremony communicated these shared values to their
guests: vow, words spoken, symbols, choice of guests, venue, decorations,
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Sensemaking is the process by which people experience and make sense of their
experiences. While the search for sense has been studied by several disciplines under a
number of names for centuries, the term ‘sensemaking’ has marked scientific research
since the 1970s.
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food and drink. It was the coherence of these elements that rendered the
wedding ritual meaningful for them and their entourage.
People with pluricultural origins may need to delve deeply into their
multifaceted heritage and draw upon several traditions simultaneously
to achieve a sense of wholeness in their ritualmaking. Since they belong
to these cultures, their use of traditional texts or practices is not only
legitimate but it is also meaningful, respectful and coherent with their
identity.
Some occasions, such as when a newborn is not expected to live,
leave little time for deep interactive planning. Yet even then there is
no reason to resort to a chaplain or other people’s rituals. I encourage
young parents to consciously make this time special by being an island of
safety for their baby. Leave no room for regrets. Touch, authentic words
and taking in each other’s smells contribute to savouring each moment.
Clinical psychologist and rolfer (bodyworker) Pedro Prado affirms that
meaning-making involves not only the mind and the body: ‘Meaning is
an individual and cultural factor. When we are going for meaning…we
are also going for how the individual shares it with others’ (Prado and
Allen 2005, pp.25–28). Even an ephemeral ‘community’ composed of a
nurse and a parent contributes to humanizing a tragic situation. One
couple held their newborn, shared their hopes and sorrows, and tied a
colourfully braided ribbon to the baby’s ankle to mark her connection
to their ‘clan’. It made more sense to them than a few drops of water
sprinkled by clergy they might never see again.
Expectations for sensemaking and authenticity are higher for reinvented
and customized ritual, observes sociologist Margaret Holloway. She
quotes a mourner leaving a funeral as saying: ‘Funerals aren’t nice but it
couldn’t have been nicer’ (2015, n.p.). Emerging rituals need to feel right
to be right. In order to feel right, ritualizing must touch the body’s ‘feltsense’ and effect a ‘felt shift’12 (Gendlin 1962, p.44). Making ritual that
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‘A felt sense is not a mental experience, but a physical one, a bodily awareness of a
situation or a person or an event. [It is] an internal aura that encompasses everything you
feel and know about a given subject at a given time – encompasses it and communicates
it to you all at once rather than detail by detail’ (Gendlin 1962, p.44).
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feels right involves seeking, creating and taking meaning (Holloway 2015).
People seek meaning through their choices about the different aspects
of the ceremony such as music, readings, dress and symbols. They then
use these elements to create meaning for themselves and those present
at the ceremony. Taking meaning from a ceremony marks the transition
and anchors it in daily life.
Guidelines for repackaging ritual
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Authenticity, not parody of others’ rituals
Voluntary, not imposed
Theatrical, not theatre
Artistic, not Art
Celebration, not a party
Therapeutic, not therapy
Playful, not a game
Time-out-of-time, not time-out
THE SECRET TO REPACKAGING CONTEMPORARY RITUAL
Ritual needs to be repackaged today as an alternative culturally strategic way
of acting in the world. The secret to making secular ritual that effectively
meets our most profound human needs lies in a creative process based
on coherence and authenticity. This calls for theory that focuses on the
experiencing body. Ritual is not a game, but it can be playful; it is not
therapy, but it can be therapeutic; it is not theatre, but it is theatrical; it
is not Art, but it is artistic.13 The process I use as a celebrant to ritualize
lifecycle transitions can be summarized as personalized accompaniment
that leads to the creation of ritual that makes sense because it is based
on authenticity, affect and coherence.
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While I have used these formulas for years with clients and in celebrant training courses,
I was delighted to discover recently that Ronald L. Grimes presents his students with
a table of similar formulations to stimulate discussion about ritual. See Chapter 8
‘Mapping Ritual’ in his book The Craft of Ritual Studies (2014).
The Rhyme and Reason of Ritualmaking
CONCLUSION
We live in a dislocated society at the cusp of an era of inevitable change.
The challenges of our ultramodern world require that people everywhere
‘do something’ to remain human and connected with others. Like the
ancients, we do this by conscientiously engaging in playful, artistic and
ritual pursuits. As a culturally strategic way of acting, ritual is basically
communal and emotional: it makes us feel less alone, more supported,
inventive, proactive, safe and alive. Fitting secular ritual represents a
unique and profoundly humanizing and civilizing force that fixes us –
individually and collectively – firmly in present reality.
We create and harness the power of ritual as we celebrate a marriage,
welcome a child into the family, mark a youth’s coming of age, a graduation,
a birthday, a seasonal festival or honour the dead with a funeral. By
acknowledging our joys and sorrows together, we strengthen our
attachment and emotional attunement and fashion landmarks in time
and space that help us make sense of our lives, our relationships and the
world around us. To achieve this end, our ritualmaking must obey the
highest laws: respect for people, relationships and the Earth. Body-based
secular ritualizing is capable of enhancing our social bonds, transforming
us into caring groups and fostering organic communities that promote
social and even ecological and geo-political stability.
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NOTES ON CONTRIBUTORS
Andrés Allemand Smaller is a world news journalist and a secular wedding
celebrant who specializes in creating ceremonies for pluricultural couples.
Andrés was born in Buenos Aires, Argentina. He grew up in New York, USA
and in Geneva, Switzerland, where he now lives with his Australian wife
and four children. Andrés regularly writes in French in the international
news section for the daily La Tribune de Genève.
Christine Behrend is an international qualitative market researcher
as well as a secular wedding and funeral celebrant. She was born and
studied in the UK before moving to France and then Switzerland. Fully
bilingual, she works in both English and French. Christine is based in
Lausanne, Switzerland.
Ellen Dissanayake, Hon. PhD, is an independent scholar who writes
about the arts from the perspectives of ethology and evolutionary biology.
Ellen is a mother of two and has one granddaughter. She has spent
significant periods of her life in Sri Lanka, Nigeria, Papua New Guinea
and New York City, and now lives permanently in Seattle, USA, where
she is an Affiliate Professor in the School of Music at the University of
Washington. She is the author of What is Art for? (1988), Homo Aestheticus:
Where Art Comes from and Why (1992), which was translated into Chinese
and Korean, Art and Intimacy: How the Arts Began (2000) and L’Infanzia
dell’Estetica: L’Origine Evolutiva delle Pratiche Artistiche (2015), a translation
of seven of her published articles. She is now collaborating with Ekkehart
Malotki on an ambitious book, Early Rock Art of the American West: The
Geometric Enigma.
Jeltje Gordon-Lennox, MDiv., is a psychotherapist, a celebrant trainer,
and founder of the non-profit Ashoka Association (ashoka.ch). Jeltje lives
with her husband and their two children in Geneva, Switzerland. She
is the author of three manuals on how to create secular ceremonies of
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which two are in French, Mariages (2008), Funérailles (2011), and one is
in English, Crafting Secular Ritual. A Practical Guide (2016).
Bjarni Jónsson became the General Manager of Siđmennt, the Icelandic
Ethical Humanist Association, in 2015 when he was hired on as full-time
staff. Bjarni joined the organization in 1990, the year it was founded, and
has since served in several capacities such as board member (2000–present)
and vice-resident of the association.
Lindy Mechefske is a former scientific copyeditor turned freelance
writer. She has lived in England, the USA and Australia, but now resides,
along with a big shaggy dog, in beautiful, historic Kingston, Canada.
Lindy is the author of Sir John’s Table (2015) and A Taste of Wintergreen
(2011). You can find her blogging about her adventures in the kitchen at
lindymechefske.com
Jacqueline Millner, PhD, is associate dean, Research, and lecturer in
Critical Studies at Sydney College of the Arts, The University of Sydney,
Australia. Jacqueline completed studies in law, political science and
visual arts, before consolidating a career as an arts writer and academic
specializing in the history and theory of contemporary art. Jacqueline
wrote two books on Australian contemporary art, Conceptual Beauty
(2010) and Australian Artists in the Contemporary Museum (2014), which
is co-authored with Jennifer Barrett. Her latest book, Contemporary Art
and Feminism (2017), is co-written with Catriona Moore.
Lene Mürer is Head of Ceremonies at the Norwegian Humanist Association.
Marie Louise Petersen is Vice Chairperson of the Danish Humanist Society
(DHS). She also took charge of Ceremonies (2013–2016) and contributed to
the development of programmes for funeral and confirmation ceremonies
and has practical experience in both fields. She is currently developing a
Humanist Chaplaincy programme for the DHS. Marie Louise lives and
works as a trained teacher in Copenhagen.
Michael Picucci, PhD, is a psychologist, psychotherapist, Master Addictions
Counsellor, Sexologist, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Organizational
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Consultant. Michael lives with his partner in New York City and the
Catskill Mountains, USA. He has authored six books on healing; among
the latest are Ritual as Resource: Energy for Vibrant Living (2005), Focalizing
Source Energy: Going Within to Move Beyond (2012), and Focalizing Dynamic
Links: A Human Technology for Collectively Engaging Source Energy and
Creating a Better Future (2013). Michael experiences his life and work as
dancing on the fulcrum of evolution; the constant emerging newness of
this inspires him. See his work at www.michaelpicucci.com
Isabel Russo, BA Hons, is Head of Ceremonies at the British Humanist
Association (BHA). Isabel lives with her son and works in London, UK.
She worked internationally as an actress in theatre, film and television
for 20 years before becoming a humanist celebrant in 2009. Isabel was a
funeral, wedding and naming celebrant for four years before becoming
Head of Ceremonies at the BHA. The role of ritual and storytelling in
shaping and influencing community has been a central thread throughout
her working life.
Robert C. Scaer, MD, is a neurologist and psychologist, currently retired
from clinical medical practice. Robert is the father of four children and
has six grandchildren. He lives in Louisville, USA with his partner. He
is the author of a number of books and articles on the effects of trauma,
notably The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation and Disease (2001);
The Trauma Spectrum: Hidden Wounds and Human Resiliency (2005); and
8 Keys to Brain-Body Balance (2012).
Matthieu Smyth, PhD, is a ritual anthropologist, professor at the University
of Strasbourg, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Matthieu lives in
Pontarlier, France. He is the father of three children, an avid alpinist and
the author of two books La Liturgie Oubliée (2003) and Ante Altaria (2007).
Irene Stengs, PhD, is a cultural anthropologist and senior research fellow
at the Meertens Instituut in the Netherlands. Irene lives in Amsterdam.
Her specialty is ritual and popular culture. She is the author of Worshipping
the Great Modernizer. King Chulalongkorn, Patron Saint of the Thai Middle
Class (2009) and Het fenomeen Hazes: Een venster op Nederland (transl.
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The Hazes Phenomenon: A Window on Dutch Society) (2015), and editor of
Nieuw in Nederland. Feesten en rituelen in verandering (2012) (transl. New
in the Netherlands: The Dynamics of Multicultural Ritual).
Gianpiero Vincenzo, MA, is a sociologist, art critic, novelist and specialist
in Islamic studies. After several years at the University of Naples Federico
II, in 2010 he was appointed professor of sociology at the Fine Arts
Academy of Catania in Sicily, Italy. Gianpiero lives in Sicily with his wife
and daughter. He has curated contemporary art exhibitions and published
art catalogues, academic essays on Eastern religions and civil ritual and
novels. His historical novel Il Libro Disceso dal Cielo (2005) was translated
into six languages. His recent book, New Ritual Society: Consumerism and
Culture in Contemporary Society (2015), is available in Italian and English.
Joanna Wojtkowiak, PhD, is a cultural psychologist and assistant professor
at the University of Humanistic Studies, Utrecht, the Netherlands,
where she initiated one of the first university-level training courses for
secular celebrants. Joanna lives with her partner and their two children
in Nijmegen. She is the author of I’m Dead, Therefore I Am – The Postself
and Notions of Immortality in Contemporary Dutch Society (2012).
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