FINDING LOVE ONLINE Short

ABSTRACT
In today's generation, Millennials can be considered as one of the many users of
social media as a form of dating tactic to have a relationship, specifically on Facebook
for the Filipino Millennials. This study utilized the qualitative research method using
case study. This study focused on understanding the dating behaviors of millennials on
Facebook.
Before the gathering of data, the researchers seek the approval of the Dean of
the College of Education and the Principal of the Laboratory High School. The interview
started by explaining to the participants the purpose of the interview. The researchers
have evaluated and conducted a one-on-one interview to each participants as the main
instrument used in the study to find out how they behave online as a baseline to
propose some interventions regarding with their academic performance. An audio
recording device was employed in recording the interview. The researchers have
chosen ten (10) Millennials as participants in the study. These participants are all
students of the College of Education enrolled in the school year 2018-2019 at Naval
State University, Naval, Biliran with random genders that were born between the years
1980-1996. Emergent themes were identified and were used to discuss the results and
finding of the study. Thereupon, these emergent themes are Compulsively Heedful,
Contemporaneously Vehement and Proportionality and Integrity. The latter part of the
study, all of the gathered data were interpreted and analyzed to give a verdict.
The researchers conclude that majority of the participants when behaving online
are compulsively heedful. Most of them are utterly inspired to finish their studies whilst
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having an online relationship and some of them take it as a challenge to make their
partners proud.
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CHAPTER I
INTRODUCTION
Background
“Dating” means different things to different people, particularly across
generations. It is define as two people who are in an intimate relationship. It is also
defined as actively getting out there and meeting people and spending time with them.
“Dating someone” means you’re seeing somebody specific, with purpose and on a
regular basis. The relationship may be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. It may be
serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. Dating on
the internet is reasonably new. Millions of people are currently using dating services
online. According to Gilmour (2017), people’s thinking and behavior are often the one’s
who create the pattern. Using the internet, there are several dating patterns that can set
the minds of people to follow these, including the dating pattern of people meeting
online.
In today’s generation, social media has influenced the youth both positively and
negatively, without which people cannot reside. Butler and Matook (2014) state that in
an increasingly digital world, social media systems have become deeply embedded in
many day-to-day relationships. It is clear that social media plays a big role in people’s
daily basis that is why it is seldom manipulating a person’s life, including their
relationship. Regardless of false assurance of serious dating, people appear to prefer
dating virtually rather than actually meeting him or her in person.
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The researchers want to understand the various positive and negative aspects
associated with online dating through different social media platforms. Some Millennials
can be considered as one of the many users of social media as a form of dating tactic to
have a relationship. The researchers want to understand how Filipino Millennials act or
behave when finding love online.
Objectives
This study aims to understand the dating behaviors of Millennials in the College
of Education of Naval State University.
Specifically, it seeks to:
1. Know the reasons why Millennials are fond of dating online; and
2. Understand how Millenials behave online as baseline to propose some
interventions of their academic performance.
Theoretical Framework
Millennials are widely exposed to social media. It helps build new relationships
and connections from one person to another. A theory that can best support the
researchers' study about dating patterns in social media is the social exchange theory.
According to Cherry (2018), social exchange suggests that it is the valuing of the
benefits and costs of each relationship that determine whether or not we choose to
continue a social association. One of the reasons why Millennials enjoy having online
dating is because of the cost- benefit it suggests based from the social exchange
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theory. The researcher’s interpretation from the social exchange theory is that
Millennials based their choice on whether to stop or continue a social association on
social media on how each sides value the benefit each one gets. It is giving value about
the cost one’s can offer and the befit it gets in return. Another theory that supports this
study is the Uses and Gratification Theory. According to JonKane (2015), the main idea
is that people turn to media to assist them in fulfilling certain needs that used to be filled
by just talk to other people. Interpersonal relationship is a basic human need and some
Millennials find this need using media. Interpersonal communication can take place in a
face-to-face scenario, as well as through the virtual media platforms. Some of the
Millennials’ interpersonal relationship is between whom people meet through social
media. Social media, such as Facebook and Messenger, is a place where people meet
their human need’s satisfaction level. Through social media, Millennials can build a
deeper social association like dating online. In this, people can choose whether to stop
immediately or prolong the built relationship depending on how each one value the cost
they give than the benefit people get. Through that value, some of the Millennials’
behaviors may change that can create dating patterns.
Conceptual Framework
MILLENIALS
SOCIAL MEDIA
(FACEBOOK)
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DATING PATTERNS
FOUND LOVE ONLINE
Millennials are patent and prone to using
social media which has two probable sides, either it may be advantageous or
disadvantageous. The most common social media platform is Facebook which has an
extravagant amount of people using the said platform. In using Facebook, Millennials
can build new relationships and dating patterns because through Facebook, people
freely communicate, or what Millennials call “chatting” to socialize with others. The
researchers’ goal to this study is to understand how Millennials behave on finding love
online by those relationships and dating patterns each one has created over the course
of time.
Significance of the Study
The importance of this study is to understand and gain further knowledge about
the entirety of a certain person’s behavior towards dating online.
Scope and Delimitation of the Study
The research will be conducted at Naval State University, Naval, Biliran. This
study will limit its coverage on Millennials ranging from ages twenty-two (22) to thirty-
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nine (39) years old. The study focuses on Millennials that are currently in a relationship.
The researchers use the case study Qualitative Research Method in which the
researchers observe, interview, record every details, and consider the informants’
opinion in the study.
Definition of Terms
 Dating- a state of romantic relationship
 Dating Patterns- how people behave during a relationship
 Social Media- websites and applications where people use to interact socially
 Internet- computer network that people use to search and communicate
 Virtual Relationship- where people tend to date online
 Actual Relationship- where people tend to share information, ideas and interest
 Social Media Platform- where people share information, ideas and interest.
 Cost- what a person could give or risk (may be an information/data about a
person to the one he/ she is dating with online
 Benefit- what a person may get after he/she exchange data/information about a
certain person
 Intimate Relationship – very close relationship
 Online Dating- when people create a relationship through social media
 Offline Dating- when people have an actual relationship
 Intervention- unrelated events that can cause problems or delays on their
academic performance.
 Romanically Excited- feeling in love
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 Considerate- showing kindness toward his or her partner
 Accomodating- willing to fit in with someone’s standards, needs, and wishes.
 Cybercrime- a crime that involves computer and a network
 Cyber Security- protection of computer systems from theft of the services they
provide.
 Compulsively Heedful
 Contemporaneously Vehement
 Proportionality
 Integrity
Related Literature
Mcmillan, S. J (2006) studies about the internet and young people often focus
primarily on pre-teen children rather than young adults although some studies have
examined teenagers. She frames new media use as a conduit, a language, and an
environment.
According to Russell, M. A. (2011), all SNSs support multiple modes of
communication: one-to-many and one-to-one, synchronous and asynchronous, textual
and media-based. On most social network sites, these features can be public or more
private. Features like comments on Facebook, @replies on Twitter, and shouts on
Foursquare allow people to communicate with their network of Friends in ways that are
visible to broad audiences. Meanwhile, many SNSs have private messaging or chat
features that allow for more intimate dialogue. Importantly, through features such as the
ability to comment on Friends’ content or social gaming, users are able to communicate
with the networks of their Friends.
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McKeon, M. (2010) pointed out that social network sites have become
mainstream, traversing the connections between people to view profiles is no longer the
sole—or, even primary—way of participation. Content is surfaced through streams, and
each piece of content is embedded with numerous links to other content nuggets. While
early iterations of sites like Facebook allowing people to traverse everything. Although
early social network sites provided numerous points of navigation, Friends lists were the
most notable; today, they have faded into the background as sites increasingly offer
countless alternate discovery pathway
Hall, J.A., (2010) stated that according to dating site users appear to be well
aware of the importance of self-presentation—and the role of the profile in conveying
that self-presentation—in attracting potential matches, and prior work has explored the
role that deception plays in “fudging” quantifiable metrics like height and weight.
Physical attractiveness is also an important aspect in choosing a mate, and thus the
photographs of members are highly salient to potential matches. However, previous
studies have shown that around a third of photographs are rated as being “inaccurate”
in their depiction of the member—and this deception is often a result of users’ desires to
mediate, control, and enhance their self-presentation.
The goal of online dating according to Putnam, R.D. (1996) is, ultimately, to
connect individuals in person. And, despite the concern that online dating might
separate people from their real world communities and existing social networks prior
work has demonstrated that this may not be the case. Online dating is deeply tied to the
physical world, as people use their non-dating social networks as a method to find
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potential partners as stated by Ellison, N.B. (2007), Lee, A.Y and Buckman, A.S.
(2007) , and also share their profiles with real world friends.
Jacobsen, W. C. (2011) states that there is a huge influence of electronic media
use on the academic and social lives of university students. They have explored through
time-diaries and survey data the use of various types of electronic media among first-
year students. Time-diary results suggest that majority of students use electronic media
to multitask. In addition, they have found a positive association between social-
networking-site use, cellular-phone communication, and face-to-face social interaction.
Other studies have suggested that young people’s online social life mirrors offline
relationships: computer activities provide support for offline friendships; are mainly
devoted to ordinary yet intimate topics (e.g., friends, gossip); and are motivated by a
desire for companionship (Facer et al., 2001b; Gross et al., 2002). Some studies have
also explored specific behaviors of young people such as online dating (Clark, 1998),
online musical explorations (Boiarsky, 2002), internet addiction (Hall and Parsons,
2001), and compulsive online shopping (LaRose and Eastin, 2002).
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CHAPTER II
METHODOLOGY
Research Design
This research is a case study on which the researchers will be having one-on-
one interview to ten (10) selected Millennial participants. This study is purposive
because of the set of criteria that the researchers provide and only needs limited
participants.
Research Participants
Ten (10) chosen millennial will be the research participants. The researchers will
choose the participants with random genders that were born between the years 1980-
1996 in the College of Education, Naval State University. The prticipants should also
have a growing virtual relationship that has started for a few months or years. The
researchers will evaluate and conduct a one-on-one interview in order to complete the
research study.
Research Locale
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The one-on-one interview on this research study will be conducted at the College
of Education building at Naval State University located at the Municipality of Naval,
Province of Biliran.
Data Gathering Procedure
The data will be gathered after getting the approval of the principal of Naval State
University Laboratory High School and the Dean of the College of Education to conduct
a study. Upon assurance, the researchers will have a one-on-one interview to the ten
(10) randomly selected informants during their vacant time to avoid disturbance of
classes or works. The informants will be given enough time to answer the researchers’
prepared questions to be asked. After gathering the data, the researchers will ask for
the consent of the informants to provide a screenshot or a copy of their conversation
proving that there is virtual dating happening from the informants.
Research Instrument
The researchers will provide a personal consent where the participants can
assure that their personal information will be hidden between the participants and the
researchers only. The researchers will be having guide questions to be asked for the
one-on-one interview of the partcipants. While conducting the one-on-one interview, the
researchers will use a recorder so that the researchers can interpret the responses of
the participants well.
Statistical Treatment of Data
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This study will engage standard interview sampling in choosing the ten (10)
participants. All data that will be gathered will undergo analysis and consideration
because it is only on Social Media.
CHAPTER 3
RESULTS AND DISCUSSIONS
In this case study, the researchers aimed to understand the dating behaviours of
Millennials in the College of Education in Naval State University in order to know the
reasons why Filipino Millennials are fond of dating online and how Millennials behave
online as baseline to propose some interventions in their academic performance. For
this purpose, by doing one-on-one interviews to ten (10) chosen Filipino Millennials, the
researchers seek their behavioural patterns on how they date online. What the
researchers obtained based on their answers and opinions indicated the importance of
each mentioned factor. Based on the result and findings of the study, three emergent
themes were identified, namely; Compulsively Heedful, Contemporaneously Vehement
and Proportionality and Integrity.
THEME 1: Compulsively Heedful
Millennials when dating online are compulsively heedful. They want to seek
attention from their partners, thus the attention that they need can only be satisfied if
they communicate daily. Millennials are willing to have daily communications with their
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partners and is willing to take the risk in order to get the benefit that they want, which is
the attention.
“We always communicate. Not only during evening, whether it be in school,
morning till noon; always. Video chat always-- on my birthday, on valentine’s day. We
don’t have a choice because of the distance. We were friends at first, and he started
courting me after 6 months. He proved that even though we only met each other online,
he isn’t like other men. For me, online dating is an inspiration because of how it
motivates me.” (P1; Page ; Line 4-5; Transcript 1)
“We communicate every day, but we live in different time zones because he’s
from Belgium. Chat with him at night here in the Philippines, because it’s morning
there.” (P3; Page ; Line 3-4; Transcript 3)
“We communicate everyday. We chat after he finishes his shift, because he’s a
Seaman, we only communicate during his vacant time.” (P5; Page ; Line 4; Transcript
5)
“We communicate everyday. We always chat when we’re both online.” (P6;
Page ; Line 5 & 8; Transcript 6)
“We communicate everyday. Not a day goes by that we don’t talk.” (P7; Page ;
Line 4; Transcript 7)
“Starting from morning then evening because he’s free in those times.” (P8; Page
; Line 5; Transcript 8)
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“On my vacant times in the morning, noon, and every night-- we would
communicate.” (P9; Page ; Line 4; Transcript 9)
“We communicate everyday, and not a minute goes by that we don’t chat.” (P10;
Page ; Line 4; Transcript 10)
According to the Social-Exchange theory, people have cost-benefit relationship
to their partners. In accordance to it, the participants want to have the “benefits”, which
is the attention they want from their partners, when they engage themselves during their
daily communications. They want to gain the attention from whom they want to
communicate daily. Like what Ellison, N.B. (2007) stated, online dating is deeply tied to
the physical world and may become a method on finding potential partners. Having daily
communications can affect someone’s relationship towards her partner because having
interpersonal communications can be psychologically helpful in finding
EMERGENT THEME 2: Contemporaneously Vehement
One of the main reasons why Filipino Millennials are fond on dating online is
because they are contemporaneously vehement whenever they communicate to their
partners online. One of the respondents encounter the undeniably unique feeling of
having someone who wants to embrace the aspects of her life even if they did not meet
personally.
“Yes, Of course! I’ve enjoyed it!” (P2; Page ; Line 16; Transcript 2)
“Yes, I did enjoy the process (giggles)” (P4; Page ; Line 19; Transcript 4)
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“Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love his sweet messages.” (P5; Page ; Line
13; Transcript 5)
“Yes. I enjoy, because we chat everyday. I’m used to always chatting with him—
each morning, noon, or afternoon, there’s someone greeting me, and I enjoy it.” (P6;
Page ; Line 8; Transcript 6)
“Yes I enjoyed [having online relationship]. I can easily share what I want to tell
online and it does not make me timid. In actual, I become bashful.” (P8; Page ; Line 15;
Transcript 8)
“Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me.” (P9; Page ; Line 8; Transcript 9)
“Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just online. We send sweet messages and flatter
each other. That’s why I enjoy it.” (P10; Page ; Line 12; Transcript 10)
Ordinary yet intimate topics are motivated by a desire for companionship as
stated by (Facer et al. 2001b; Gross et al., 2002). These topics can lead to romantic
enthusiasm towards their partners. Just like Clark (1998) stated, there are specific
behaviours of young people who dates online, and one of these is feeling
contemporaneously vehement during their conversations. Daily communication through
online plays a big role in developing one of a person’s basic human needs, the
interpersonal communication, which was encountered from the people in a romantic
way. The participants are contemporaneously vehement because of the sweet
messages and greetings that can create happiness.
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THEME 3: Proportionality and Integrity
Filipino Millennials’ proportionality and integrity are present when behaving online
in terms of the baseline to propose some interventions of their academic performance.
The participants are willing to fit in with their partner’s wants and standards. One of the
participants, described her partner as her inspiration for her academic success and
wants to be determined in finishing her studies. However, there are some interventions
that can affect the academic performance of the participants. One of it is the lack of trust
towards his or her partner and how they behave whenever they encounter problems
that might affect their academic performance. One participant stated that she is
motivated to attend class if their relationship is smooth, but if not, she loses the energy
to go to school. Some of them also want to have privacy and wants to mind their own
businesses. That is the main reason why they are not open to each other on their
academic-related activities. Still, the participants are proportional to their partners as
well as how they attend their own academic performance. Their role on being on a
romantic relationship and being a student are balanced.
“Yes, and he also helps with my homework. Because he’s in the Navy, he’s
especially helpful in ROTC.” (P1; Page ; Line 6; Transcript 1)
“When you talk about the studies, it’s not actually a hindrance but an inspiration.
Because when we talk about love there’s a feeling of attachment. In my defense, my
purpose of acknowledging him was just a sort of fun when I get bored. (In a good way)”
(P2; Page ; Line 7; Transcript 2)
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“It’s an inspiration for me in terms of studies, but it all depends in the person if
they know how to manage. I don’t open up on school related things to my online date,
because it’s personal.” (P3; Page ; Line 5-6; Transcript 3)
“For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online is much safer, because temptation is
farther on a virtual platform compared to an actual relationship, but we should limit
ourselves on either one, because we’re still students.” (P4; Page ; Line17; Transcript 4)
“He’s an inspiration for me. Of course he makes me want to finish my studies. I
get inspired and motivated in class, because I feel happiness and love. He often asks
me about the things happening in school and he also motivates me.” (P5; Page ; Line
5-6; Transcript 5)
“For me it’s an inspiration, because I know how to balance dating and studies.”
(P7; Page ; Line 5; Transcript 7)
“Some of them (laughs) are hindrances to me since, at first, it is okay and in the
latter it becomes complicated.” (P8; Page ; Line 11; Transcript 8)
“It’s an inspiration for me to study. That feeling that you want to study more
because of it and it makes you happy, but I lose interest in studying everytime we fight.
It’s an inspiration and a hindrance at the same time. Actually, he’s already working, but
he always asks me about my studies, but I don’t open up because I don’t think he
knows what it’s about.” (P9; Page ; Line 5-6; Transcript 9)
“I do not often open up my academic errands to him but he always supports me,
like I do.” (P10; Page ; Line 6; Transcript 10)
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Like Jacobsen (2011) stated, students using electronic media multitask their
association with their academic errands. The participants are proportional or fairly
consider both their academic priorities and their dating life. They take their online
relationship as their motivation to pursue their education and would not let some
academic interventions to ruin it if they know how to manage both their relationship and
studies.
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CHAPTER 4
SUMMARY, CONCLUSION, RECOMMENDATIONS
This chapter presents the summary of findings, conclusions, and
recommendations based from the results and implications in the preceding chapters.
There are ten transcripts of the participants, one hundred twenty-five significant
statements, one hundred twenty-five formulated meanings, nine cluster themes, and
three emergent themes.
Summary
This study utilized the qualitative research method using case study. This study
is purposive because of the criteria that has been set. This was conducted in the
College of Education building at Naval State University located at the Municipality of
Naval, Province of Biliran.
Ten (10) Millennials were chosen to be the research participants. These
participants are all students of the College of Education with random genders that were
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born between the years 1980- 1996. The participants have a growing virtual relationship
that has started for a few months or years. The researchers have evaluated and
conducted one-on-one interviews to each participant. Screenshots are then given by the
participants to prove their virtual relationship.
The main instrument used in this study was the interview guide personally
prepared by the researchers containing questions that are connected to our objectives
which was validated and approved by the researchers’ adviser.
Before the gathering of data, the researchers seek the approval of the Dean of
the College of Education and the Principal of the Laboratory High School. The interview
started by explaining to the informants the purpose of the interview, the right to
voluntarily participate and their approval were asked by letting them signed the informed
consent form. In so far as ethical consideration is concern, informants’ names and
identities were kept between the researchers and the participants only.
An audio recorder was employed in recording the interview. Cell phones were
also used to record a video on the participants’ interviews. The gathered data were
transcribed, read and analysed multiple times in extracting significant statements.
These significant statements were translated and analysed in forming formulated
meanings. Similar formulated meanings were grouped in creating cluster themes. From
this clustered themes, emergent themes were identified and were used to discuss the
results and findings of the study.
CONCLUSION
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The aim of this study was to understand the dating behaviours of Filipino
Millennials in the College of Education in Naval State University. A qualitative approach
was adopted using a range of complementary methods. The study has provided insights
of how Millennials behave online as baseline to propose some interventions of their
academic performance. It has also identified one of the reasons why Millennials are
fond of dating online.
The researchers conclude that majority of the participants have a daily
communication with their partners because they are compulsively heedful, thus
compulsively heedful serves as the dating pattern and/or behavior of the Filipino
Millennials on Facebook. Wanting for attention was evident because everyone wants to
communicate with his or her partners every single day making the participants
compulsively heedful when behaving online. In addition, Millennials who date online
affects their interpersonal communication skills in both positive and negative way.
Different feelings and perspectives on how Filipino Millennials date online were shown.
Feelings of excitement and fondness are present while having conversations online, this
is because of the sweet messages and greetings received by the participants from their
partners. Contemporaneously vehement was one of the reasons why Filipino Millennials
appeared to be fond of dating online, specifically on Facebook because it is easier and
more convenient to use. As still students, the participants’ time management in handling
his/her academic performance and love life is very important. Most of the participants
want to open up their studies and other academic-related activities to their partners,
they are hitting two birds at the same time. The presence of proportionality and integrity
play a major role to the participants when behaving online as baselines to propose
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some interventions of their academic performance and love errands. Most of them are
inspired to finish their studies while having an online relationship and some of them take
it as a challenge to make their partners proud.
RECOMMENDATIONS
It is by far, one of the most reprimanding things to ever happen when you enter in
a romantic relationship. Allowing oneself to emerge to a very committed scenery.
It is unequivocal that everyone should be at ease and should achieve equilibrium.
They must practice balance in everything whether it may be in terms of dating or
otherwise. Those millennials who partake those paths of being in an online relationship
should be transparent in any way around. According to this line said by a character
namely, the Sugar Plum, as she stated this-it may not be directed to the topic however
the line can be very complex and subtle. “There is a funny little perk to these things, it
works both ways”.
Each one should be very meticulous in choosing the right person whom you can
exchange messages or SMS with. Vividly, it is also plausible for millennials to go on an
online relationship, and it may not or may hinder because it can help them
psychologically to manifest in focusing in their academic errands. On the other side of
the table, the individuality of the being should be properly perceived for it distinguishes
vigorous integrity to the utmost being of each one.
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For students who have experienced online dating in years, they should not be too
afraid of it and should take the risk. But still, they should be careful because of the
different cybercrimes that they may encounter on dating online. An example of it is
identity theft on which hackers and scammers may use fake emails to trick victims into
giving up passwords and information. According to Kazmeyer (2007), the internet is the
great tool for scammers and miscreants, since it allows them to ply their trade while
hiding behind a shield of digital anonymity. Cybercrimes may affect society both in
offline and online world. It has been proven this type of dating produces many benefits
for students but still, they cannot avoid the negative possibilities they might get. The
research shows that online dating boosts students’ morale and in most cases, gives
them incentive to study harder. Students should also open up about their school work if
they are in an online relationship, because in some cases, this has proven to be quite
helpful in to those who do, due to their partner’s helping and giving support being a
result of it. Many of the students have a close bond with their online partners, so it is
encouraged that one takes advantage of this and turn it into one of the benefits in
having an online relationship. One must not, however, whoever one comes by without
thorough knowledge of who a person is. This is commonly warned by the subjects when
talking about whether or not one should get into a relationship.
For the future researchers in connection with this study, there is a need to study
the different psychological effects of Millennials involve in dating online to understand
deeply the behaviors of Millennials dating online. Be able to widen the information about
the study and make a further explanation for it.
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Future studies should focus and learn more about Generation X and Generation
Z having different genders to find out if both generations have similar or different results
with Millennials. Since the study is only limited to Millennials, the researchers believe
that there would be lots of differences in their study.
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fbclid=IwAR3XnIWIwK_hw1wLLNl6DxEh58yAnfzChm83MSeD9lQMpgCFLv0HM
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APPENDIX A
Republic of the Philippines

NAVAL STATE UNIVERSITY
COLLEGE OF EDUCATION
LABORATORY HIGH SCHOOL

Naval, Biliran
February ____, 2019
Dear Student Respondents,
Greetings!
STEM 11-A researchers is conducting a research work entitled “Finding Love Online: A Case
Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”, in partial fulfillment of the requirements
for the subject Practical Research 1.
The success of this study is dependent on your support and cooperation. In connection to this,
please answer the interview and attached questionnaires with full honesty to come up with a
verified data. The findings of this study will serve as basis to find out why Millennials are fond
of Online Dating and know if this might affect one’s academic performance.Please be assured
that your responses will be kept with utmost confidentiality.
Thank you in advance for your wholehearted support, kindness, and cooperation.
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Very truly yours,
HANAH MAE ARSOLON

Group leader, STEM 11-A
Republic of the Philippines

NAVAL STATE UNIVERSITY
COLLEGE OF EDUCATION
LABORATORY HIGH SCHOOL

Naval, Biliran
February 4, 2019
DR. ROLAND A. NIEZ

Dean, College of Education
Naval State University
Naval, Biliran
Sir:
Cordial greetings of peace and prosperity!
We, the Grade 11 STEM students of Naval State University Laboratory High School Senior
High School, are currently conducting our research for Practical Research 1 entitled “Finding
Love Online: A Case Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”.
In this regard, we would like to ask for your approval and support in conducting the said
research.
Thank you and God Bless!
Respectfully yours,
ADRIAN PAUL DIONGZON HANAH MAE ARSOLON
MARIA LEANNE PANCITO MARY ROSE SORRILLA
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SAMANTHA GRACE VIDAL Researchers
Noted:
RALPH ARVIC T. ARCENAL, MMS NOEL P. TANCINCO Ph. D.

Instructor, Practical Research 1 Chairman, NSU-LHS
ROLAND A. NIEZ, Ed.D.

Dean, College of Education
APPENDIX B
VOLUNTARY INFORMED CONSENT FOR RESPONDENTS
This sign of consent is to clarify my willingness to participate in the thesis entitled,

“Finding Love Online: A Case Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”.
1. That I understand the general purpose/objectives of the study to find out why Millennials
are fond of Online Dating and know if this might affect one’s academic performance.
2. That my participation as a subject of this research was done with my personal consent
and voluntary participation with the researcher in the conduct of this study. I further
acknowledge that my participation will not hamper or derail my daily work and activities
as well as my personal responsibilities and obligations.
3. That my information about me, obtain from the study will be strictly kept confidential by
the researchers, and none of my personal information be identified/revealed in any
report of publication without my prior consent or permission.
4. That it was agreed that if there are some questions which are offensive, discriminating,
or derogatory on part, I am free to refuse, withdraw, or terminate my participation
anytime in the course of the interview without prejudice, penalty, or loss of credibility to
the subject matter being studied.
5. That it was agreed that I may have my response audio recorded solely and exclusively
as pertinent data for the conduct of the study and of so I feel uncomfortable and
unwilling to I may freely withdraw.
6. That I am willing to share my personal online conversations by providing a screenshot,
but still wishes to secure my identity and my partner’s as well.
7. That I also acknowledge that my participation in this study involves no monetary

compensation on my part, except that whatever appropriate, I may be provided with
additional pertinent information after the result of my participation.
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With all those term and conditions, I do hereby affix my signature below to prove that I
will freely agree to participate in the conduct of this study.
Participant’s assent:
Printed Name and Signature Date
Researcher’s Signature Date
APPENDIX C
INTERVIEW GUIDE
“FINDING LOVE ONLINE: A CASE STUDY ON DATING PATTERNS OF
MILLENNIALS ON FACEBOOK”
The following are the questions for gathering information about the study:
Question 1: How long have you been dating online?
Question 2: Who approached first?
Question 3: How did you know each other?
Question 4: How often do you communicate with each other?
Question 5: How do you describe your online date? Is he or she an inspiration or a
hindrance to your academic success?
Question 6: Does your online date opens his or her homeworks or other school-related
activities to you?
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Question 7: Do you think that it’s easier to date online through Facebook?
Question 8: Did you enjoy or did you feel fondness while you and your partner
communicate online?
Question 9: Do you believe that you can find love online?
Question 10: Would you recommend Facebook as a medium of finding love online?
APPENDIX D
TRANSCRIPT OF INTERVIEW
Informant : Participant 1
Session Number :1
Date : February 7, 2019
Time Started : 1442H
Time Ended : 1448H
Duration : 3 minutes, 55 seconds
Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building
Interviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Transcribed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Reviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Line Responses Code
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Number
1 Baye P1
2 29 years old P1
3 In a relationship P1
4 College P1
5 Millennial P1
1 5 years P1
2 Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka Military Navy. Half P1
American, Half Filipino siya. Actually ning uli siya kadtong
[kuan] December.
3 [Kuan, kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa akoa, nag P1
“Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes, siya’y unang ning chat unya
mao rato.
4 Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug naa ko diri P1
magtawag ug basta, always gyud siya.

5 [Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong birthday video chat unya P1
Valentine’s Day, video chat kay layo man gyud.
Friends ra to sa una unya mga 6 months sa siya nag
sige ug panguyab unya kay iya gyung gi prove na bisag
online ra, dili siya ingon na pareha sa ubang laki.

6 Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya *giggles* Unya P1
Navy man siya di siya usahay [kakuan] sa akong
education, pero musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.

7 Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real life? Oo, kay P1
maexpress man nimo kung unsa gyud, makita sad niya
kung unsa gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.
Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo, agwanta lang gud.
Trust.
8 Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo *nods* kay ako I P1
have two kids na unya two years name unya nagplano
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siya na muuli karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko kasabot
basin, wa ko kasabot lage *smiling* Maybe? *laughs*

9 Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust dayon sa tawo. P1
10 Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat online although P1
ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon sa us aka tawo. More on imo
sa siyang ila ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra.

11 Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo kay ma P1
motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako, siya is 45, diba? Unya
gusto ko mugraduate kay professional baya siya. Oo, so
ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko para ma professional
pod ko parehas iyaha.
Session Number :2
Time Ended : 1504H
Interviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
Transcribed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
Reviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
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Line
Number Responses Code

1 Lalaki P2
2 22 years old P2
3 In an online relationship P2
4 Bachelor of Secondary Education Major in Social Studies P2
5 Millenial P2
1 Talking about really dating, well it’s not actually dating, P2
it’s just something like “char-char”(Some sort of gay lingo
where it has different meanings like ‘just kidding’) or
something when I have fun conversation with someone
else. Even though di mi related or di nako kaila.

2 Murag wa man siya niabot ug year. I think mga a month P2
lang or 2 months like that.

3 In terms of “approach-approach” [kanang] ako kasi ang P2
tipo na tawo na [kanang] dili mahilig makipag
conversation sa tawong di nako kaila but then pag nay
mu “hi”, “hi” lang pod. Chika-cika lang pero mao to siya .
Siya gud talaga muuna pero sometimes ako man pod
pero dili talaga as in murag 40% ako 60% siya.

4 Aw kaun, siyempre, online man. “Taga saan ka?”, P2
siyempre, lisod sad ug magdate-date ta diri’g ato la no?

5 Aw dili oy. [Kanang] murag sabot mo kaila man mo aning P2
“NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs* neargroup, my god!Ana na

6 Gabii. Usahay mga hapon. P2
7 When it talks about the studies, it’s not actually hindrance P2
but an inspiration. Because when we talk about love naa
gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa ako, ang akong
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purpose lang gyud ato kay having fun lang ba, [basta]
way lingaw.
8 Dili. Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first year college lang P2
ko pero di ko muingon na stress ko ron.

9 Dili. Abi pa lang weak ta. Aw? *Jokingly says “Aw?!” P2
10 Obviously actual gud talaga. P2
11 We can’t [really] trust people online [easily]. P2
12 Obviously, yes! P2
13 Ah, well, nowadays, easy ra gud talaga siya. Kay alam P2
mon a communicate lang bisag dili kasaligang tawo.

14 Dili. Dili gyud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili talaga mo P2
actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili talaga. Muabot sa time na
“wa na!”. “You can’t reply to this conversation” wala na.
Diba?
15 I can’t really force them to be involoved in this online P2
dating. It’s up to them. Kung asa ta malipay, didto ta.

16 Oo gad. Enjoy gad. P2
Session Number :3
Time Ended : 1506H
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Interviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Transcribed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Reviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Line Responses Code
Number
1 P3
2 From the Municipality of Kawayan, specifically on Brgy. P3
Mapuyo, Kawayan Biliran

3 22 years old P3
5 Bachelor of Secondary Education, Major in Social Studies P3
6 Millennial P3
1 *thinking* 4 months? P3
2 Siya. P3
3 Through *thinking* chat. Ning approach ra gyud siya. P3
Yeah.
4 Everyday *thinking* Morning man sa ilaha pag night ari P3
so. Taga Belgium man siya.

5 In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili man. Di pod ko P3
muingon na inspiration because depende ra man na sa
tawo kung [kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.

6 No. It’s personal. P3
7 I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning online man kay is P3
a platform of communication, so in somewhat way kung
magkaila mo online may possibility na magkaila pod mo
sa personal, but prefer nako both.
8 Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about [kaning] it’s either P3
personal communication or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway
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so, mafeel ra nimo siya.
9 No. May times na, syempre di man gyud [kaning] online, P3
may time na magbinuwa siya, may time na dili puro
*thinking* pero [kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles*
Kay may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka so.

10 Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs slightly* because P3
[kuan, kaning] optional kasi siya. Kung imo ng
irecommend so dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana.
So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa person.

11 Di ko makaingon because life is a long process. So, di ko P3
makaingon na kami talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.

12 Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy ko kay P3
somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy ko tungod sa iya,
ana.
Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.
Session Number :4
Time Ended : 1914H
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Interviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
Transcribed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
Reviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
Line

1 Babae P4
2 23 years old P4
4 BSBA in Naval State University P4
5 Millenial P4
1 It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. P4
2 Siyempre akong uyab. P4
3 *Stutters* Through messenger nagkataon lang pod ba na P4
tapos ning gamit akong…ang akong classmate ug
messenger nako nakichat siya tapos wala ko kasabot na
muchat diay siyas ako.

4 Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba. P4
5 Everyday *Giggles* P4
6 Kadalasan man gyud kay hapon. Tapos gabii kay mao P4
raman iyang free time.

7 Oo. Magtinabangay man mi. P4
8 Oo. Nag-OJT man siya. P4
9 Dili man siya maingon na “Hindrance” murag ni serve P4
siya as “inspiration” sad kay [kanang] mutabang man
siya. Musupport siya sa ako.

10 [Kanang] example [kanang[ muingon ko na “gikapoy P4
nakog eskwela karong adlawa” niya muingon siya na
“ayawg absent ako gani gikuan [gikaya] man gani nako.

11 Mas nindot man gyud nang actual gud kay murag adto P4
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nimo masabtan ug unsa gyud siya kaseryoso ba.
12 Okay rasad. Kay kung wala, siyempre, kung naa mos P4
layo mao raman inyong kuan gyud, “communication”.

13 Dili kayo *laughs* P4
14 Kay naa bayay uban maayo lang mangatik, maayo P4
musulti ana ba. Pero parehos iyaha di man pod, seryoso
man pod siya.

15 Wa ta kasabot sa panahon baya. Walang forever P4
*giggles*
16 Hmmm…Kay kadalasan baya karon no murag murag P4
torpe na ang mga lalaki unya through online murag dali
ra nila express ilang love sa babae.

17 Puydi man muchat pero dili gud ingon na kuanan gyud
nimo ba…unsa ni…mu “oo” ka dayon kay wala ka P4
kasabot sa ugali sa us aka lalaki kailangan gyud [kanang]
sa personal sad kilatison.

18 Mas nindot man gyud basta actual. P4
19 Kay kanang kuan, usahay baya [kanang] mumessage ug P4
sweet ana.
Session Number :5
Time Ended : 2036H
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Interviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Transcribed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Reviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Line Responses Code
Number
1 Baye P5
2 I live in Cebu City P5
3 23 years old P5
5 Bachelor of Science, Business and Administration in P5
Naval State University

6 Millennial P5
1 Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1 month? Yes. P5
2 Siyempre siya *giggles* P5
3 Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Di kay ang una ato nay P5
birthday unya nakit-an kuno ko niya, pero wala ko
kabantay niya kay mao lage di man ko magbantay. Mao
to nangutana akong kuya sa ako kung manguli na ba mi
unya musakay nala daw mis ilaha. Mao to gipapili ko niya
kung asa ko musakay, sa kay kuya ba or sa iyang
kauban. Muto kay kuya ko kay siyempre wa ko kaila sa
iyaha tapos akong us aka igsoon sa iyang kauban. Mao
to siya human ning ingon siya kay kuya na namiling kuno
siyag babaye na [kanang] unsa na? Church-oriented ba,
buotan kuno charot *laughs* Muto naka huna huna si
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kuya sa akoa ba char *laughs* unya mao to, iya kong gi
add sa Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa ako kung
naa bay nag add sa akoa sa Facebook, muto wa ko ka
[kuan] ka bantay ba mutong pag [kuan] mutong
nangutana ko kung kinsa. Tapos nangutana ko sa
pangalan *giggles* mutong ako siyang giaccept. Tapos
ning chat siya sa akoa ug “Hello”, ningreply ko *giggles*

4 Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs* [Kuan] Kahuman P5
sa iyang duty. Seaman man siya. [Kuan] siya mumata
siya alas sais kay iyang duty kay 8-12 man, pagkatima
niyag dutty sa 12, muchat na pod na siya sa akoa.

5 [Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre maganahan tag P5
eskwela. Inspired *smiling* I feel so loved. Yeah, so
loved, my happiness *laughs*

6 Oo kay mangutana man siya. Muana man siya sa ako P5
“Paniguro ug eskwela”.
7 Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas ganahan kog actual, P5
pero wa may choice kay trabaho baya.

8 Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na nagsugod, naunsa ba P5
*romantic excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay
nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles*

9 Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang unsa na?] kay P5
magcommunicate mi pirme.
10 Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay no choice man. P5
Pero mas angayan kung actual gud.

11 Facebook kay mao may uso. Mao may pinaka common. P5
12 No, no *laughs* Okay lang *laughs* No diay, gusto nilag P5
personal *laughs* Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man
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gyud sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra
makapamuwa.
13 Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang chat sa akoa P5
*smiles*
Session Number :6
Time Ended : 1425H
Interviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
Transcribed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
Reviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Line

1 Babae P6
2 22 years old P6
4 1st year college student P6
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5 BSBA P6
1 Millenial P6
2 Almost 8 months. P6
3 *Giggles*Ako. P6
4 Nakit-an ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos akon gi sendan P6
ug friend request *smiles*

5 Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday. Aga, udto, P6
depende kun online hiya, online ako.

6 Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig ha ak bisan hiya P6
ada bisan online la sige geap hiya akon chat na sugad
ini pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So inspiration liwat hiya.

7 Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling kaman presence P6
talaga sa usa ka tawo diri la kay online.

8 Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre nasanay ka naman P6
na hiya imo kachat, pag mag good morning…ganun hito.

9 Oo. P6
10 Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka maaram kun P6
proket nagkachat la kamo…*pauses* basta. Diri kasi
tanan nga time na online ang inyong pag date kay may
time talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya mo talaga ya
magkita face to face kamo, magkita kamo talaga,
makaptan mo hiya through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud
ha online. Pero kun LDR talaga kamo online is okay
nana.
11 Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada… Waray man hiya P6
instagram, waray man hiya twitter.

12 Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang tanan. P6
13 *Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal, diri kun di mu P6
ya kilala kay kuri man hin mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay
bangin poser ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya pwede ka
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naman online nala basta nakit-an mon a hiya.
Session Number :7
Time Ended : 0923H
Interviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Transcribed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla
Reviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito
Line

1 Babae P7
2 22 years old P7
5 BSBA- 2A. Nag-eskwela ko sa Naval State University P7
6 Millenial P7
1 God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to *laughs* Mga 2 P7
years? *laughs* Oo.
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2 Siya. P7
3 Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya. P7
4 Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero pag [ano] P7
makatulog ug sayo so usahay walay gabii. Pero everyday
gyud, wa gyud nay adlaw na [ano]. Oo.

5 *thinking* Both ra *nods* Pwede sag, same as [kuan] P7
kasi mi [kanang], diba pag ing-ana parehas sa akoa, di
pod kasi na siya hindrance sa akoa kay katigo man pod
ko, murag [ano] ba, mu balance balance, sa dating ug sa
[kuan]. Oo, inspiration sad.

6 Actual relationship. P7
7 Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles* P7
8 Yes! Huh? *giggles* Pwede di ra nako iingon? *smiles* P7
9 Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso, unya ako P7
seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo,
unya sa online ra baya.

10 Depende lang pod. Depend ra man gyud nas inyong P7
[kuan] inyohang duha. Whether ma online or ma [kuan],
kung seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.

11 Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag through online ra P7
ug kana na siya na tawo gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo
gyud nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship ninyo
bisag through online lang siya.

12 Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan] pwede ra sad sa P7
online kay murag ug sa relationship, safe siya kay diba
layo sa temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na [ano]
relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na limit limit lang pod
ta, kay di pod raba ta makasabot sa panahon.

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Session Number :8
Date: : February 7, 2019
Time Ended : 1938H
Duration : 6 minutes and 31 seconds
Location : Naval State University COED Building
Interviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
Transcribed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal
Reviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Line Response Code
Number
1 Lalaki P8
2 22 years old P8
4 A student from Naval State University P8
5 Millenial P8
1 Not online just…met him accidentally. It was a party in NSU P8
which is “Acquaintance Party” last year since my
acquaintance party that time was so depressing and very
stressed kay akong friends didto nag-away mi that time so
nag decide ko na akong mga kauban na classmate
manggawas mi mag goodvibes mi so nameet ko na ang
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lalaki, taga Almeria…charot!
2 Nagchat mi… few days after… [mga] October o November. P8
3 Mga… five months. P8
4 Siya. P8
5 Starting from morning then evening because he’s free in P8
those times.
6 Every minute P8
7 First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the last…ah lately P8
hindrance na
8 Involve na ag money P8
9 No P8
10 *Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh my god… P8
experience ang actual kasi since ano lang naman eh kung
hindi, hanggang ano cellphone cellphone lang. I want to
experience actual.
11 No. Some of them *laughs*areano na… hindrance nas P8
akoa ha katikang ha umpisa okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal
na kung dili na.

12 No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent mumbling* P8
13 *Pau1es* Sometimes…I-express akong feelings with ano P8
lang… to chat, something like that but in actual I’m really
shy.
14 Uh *pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano ba…it depends P8
nalang sa tawo kung gusto ha akon *coughs* okay siya
pero depende ragyud sa tawo

15 Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko masabi ako gusto P8
[nafeel] tapos di ako nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako.
Session Number :9
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Time Ended : 1829H
Interviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Transcribed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Reviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
Line

1 Babae P9
2 22 years old P9
5 Bachelor of Science and Business Administration P9
6 Millenial P9
1 [Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year and 3 months, P9
pero [kuan] gyud siya [kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]
permamente mi [kanang] two months murag di mi [kuan]
maayog communication munang nay usahay na
magbuwag me for pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7
months nalang siguro.

2 [Kuan] Siya. Oo. P9
3 Gi reto siya sa [kuan] iyang barkada. Iyang barkada nag P9
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[kuan], kaila mi sa iyang barkada, unya iyang barkada
ang nagpaila-ila niya sa akoa. Unya sunod ato, nag chat
chat nami.
4 [Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto, then [kuan] P9
hapon, then gabii pod.

5 Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang] makahatag siyag P9
inspiration sa akoa unya [kanang] murag ganahan gyud
ka pag eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag
communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag-away pod hinoon
pod mo, wan a pod hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana
*laughs*
6 Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale mangutana nala ni P9
siya sa akong mga assignments pero dili nako i-open up
sa iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra man nang
problema.
7 [Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya nanrabaho man P9
siya ug Manila so mao tong murag [kuan] ang among
[kanang] communication, online nalang.

8 Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig *giggles* P9
9 Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon karon na P9
murag [kuan] successful na gyud na siya kay [kuan] man
[kanang] unsa na? Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa
pa ta kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di bitaw
*laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana, exactly ba, kay [kuan]
baya.
10 [Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug Facebook Facebook P9
lag, ganahan ko ug tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa
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Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles* Well, para sa
akoa, mas ganahan ko mag tawag tawag ra mi.

11 [Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa [kanang] P9
through chat chat lang, dili ko mutuo ana.

12 Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud akong matubag P9
ana kay [kanang kuan] dili man gyud ko makaingon na
makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay [kuan] raba.
Session Number : 10
Time Ended : 1925H
Interviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Transcribed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon
Reviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon
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1 Babae P10
2 27 years old P10
3 From Looc, Culaba, Biliran P10
4 Naval State University Student P10
5 Millenial P10
1 *giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* Umm 5 P10
months? 5 months.
2 Siya, unang ning message sa akoa *smiles* P10
3 Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya nagpaila-ila ha P10
amon.
4 *thinking* Every minute gani *giggles* [Ano] Aga hantod P10
basta permamente [ano] kung ningkaon ka na ba, ana.

5 *giggles* Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay [ano] kung P10
pursige ka, ingon an aba. Halimbawa karon nag-eskwela
ko kay tungod man pod sa ilaha, mao nang ningbalik ko
pageskwela, mao na akong inspirasyon.

6 Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport man pod siya sa P10
akoa.
7 *thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] Kasi kung actual, P10
makilatis mo dayon ang isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.

8 *laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko naka[ano] *laughs* P10
9 Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi *smiles* P10
10 *thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man ang personal, P10
imo mang, siyempre di man gyud nimo anay makilatis
ang us aka tawo kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo
ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay mo bago mo
makilala ang us aka tawo *smiles*

11 Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri maupay kay kasi P10
damo na bitaw [kanang] nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa
mga kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila kilatis
kaupay.
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12 *giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga sweet na mga P10
[ano] la [kanang] sweet messages, ingana ba. *giggles*
Halimbawa kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay
inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la adto *smiles*
FORMULATION OF CORE MEANINGS
PARTICIPANT 1
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENTS FORMULATED MEANINGS
(5 years) Their relation lasts long because they are
5 years sincere to each other.
P1: SS1 FM1

(Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka Military
Navy. Half American, Half Filipino siya.
Actually ning uli siya kadtong [kuan]
December.) The participant did not hesitate to introduce
her partner, she is a proud partner.
My chat-mate approached me first. His
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name is Marco Angelo. He’s a half
Filipino, half American and he’s in the FM2
Navy.
P1: SS2
([Kuan,kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa
akoa, nag “Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes, Started with a common conversation.
siya’y unang ning chat unya mao rato.)
He first approached me through chat.
We started to greet each other with hi’s
and hello’s. FM3
P1: SS3
(Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug
naa ko diri magtawag ug basta, always Living everyday is not complete without
gyud siya.) communicating with each other.
We always communicate. Not only
during evening, whether it be in school, FM4
morning till noon; always
P1: SS4
([Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong birthday
video chat unya Valentine’s Day, video
chat kay layo man gyud.
Friends ra to sa una unya mga 6 months
sa siya nag sige ug panguyab unya kay iya
gyung gi prove na bisag online ra, dili siya
ingon na pareha sa ubang laki.)
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Video chat always-- On my birthday, on Slowly becoming one’s special someone.
valentine’s day. We don’t have a choice Making sure that each one will not miss to
because of the distance. We were greet each other during one’s special day.
friends at first, and he started courting
me after 6 months. He proved that even
though we only met each other online,
he isn’t like other men. For me, online
dating is an inspiration because of how FM5
it motivates me.
P1: SS5
(Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya
*giggles* Unya Navy man siya di siya
usahay [kakuan] sa akong education, pero Her partner accepts and helps her in every
musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.) aspect of her life may it be in her
Yes, and he also helps with my education.
homework. Because he’s in the Navy,
he’s especially helpful in ROTC.
P1: SS6 FM6

(Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real
life? Oo, kay maexpress man nimo kung
unsa gyud, makita sad niya kung unsa
gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.
Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo, Even having a good relationship through
agwanta lang gud. Trust.) online, she also prefers having a real life
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I prefer dating in real life, because you date. She’s determined in their relation as
can express your love and the amount long as trust and endurance are there
of love that you have for a person is
shown, but online dating is okay too. FM7
Trust and endurance is all that it takes
P1: SS7
(Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo
*nods* kay ako I have two kids na unya two
years name unya nagplano siya na muuli She’s romantically excited that she has
karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko kasabot someone out there who’s willing to
basin, wa ko kasabot lage *smiling* embrace her life.
Maybe? *laughs*)
Of course, yes. I already have two kids,
and our relationship has been going on
for a very long time, and my partner is FM8
planning to come home this June.
P1: SS8
(Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust
dayon sa tawo.) Don’t want to trust that easily.
No, because it’s hard. You shouldn’t
trust anybody immediately FM9
P1: SS9
(Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat
online although ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon Without hesitation she recommends it and
sa us aka tawo. More on imo sa siyang ila gave some advises towards trust issues.
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ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra.)
Yes, of course, but don’t just trust
anyone immediately. Be sure to know a FM10
person thoroughly first even if it’s only
online.
P1: SS10
(Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo
kay ma motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako,
siya is 45, diba? Unya gusto ko
mugraduate kay professional baya siya.
Oo, so ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko
para ma professional pod ko parehas Romantically excited confess that he is her
iyaha.) inspiration towards her education.
For me, maybe he is an inspiration, yes
because he motivates me. I am 29 years
old and he is 45, see? In this situation, I
am really motivated to be able to FM11
graduate because he is already a
professional. In my part there is also a
need for me to be a professional like
him.
P1: SS11
PARTICIPANT 2
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS

Talking about really dating, well it’s not
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actually dating, it’s just something like He was straight-forward for what he
“char-char” or something, when I have fun forementioned. He enjoys the company of
conversation with someone else. Even having to talk to someone else whether
though di mi related or di nako kaila. he does know the person or otherwise.
Talking about really dating, well it’s
not actually dating, it’s just something
like “char-char” or something, when I
have fun conversation with someone
else. Even though we’re not related or FM12
I don’t know them personally.
P2:SS12
Murag wa man siya niabot ug 1 year. I
think mga a month lang or 2 months like He mentioned about how long have they
that. been dating online. The interviewee was
I suppose it didn’t go as far as 1 year. muddled for a second. He was quite
Maybe 1 month or 2, something like unsure about the months.
that. FM13
P2:SS13
In terms of “approach-approach” [kanang]
ako kasi ang tipo na tawo na [kanang] dili
mahilig makipag conversation sa tawong
di nako kaila but then pag nay mu “hi”,
“hi” lang pod. Chika- chika lang pero mao Precise and unambiguous approach. He
to siya. Siya gad talaga muuna pero was getting numerical in explaining as he
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sometimes ako man pod pero dili talaga was stating who initiates first.
as in 40% ako 60% siya.
In terms of approaching [um] I’m the
type of person who’s [um] not fond of
initiating a conversation to those
people I don’t personally know but
then again if someone says “hi”, I’d
reply in return. We chat along. But FM14
most of the time he initiates the
chatting like 40% me and 60% him in
percentage.
P2:SS14
Aw kuan, syempre, online man. “Taga
saan ka?”, syempre, lisod sad ug mag They knew each other in the cyberspace.
date-date ta diri’g ato la no? He was getting a bit irrelevant .He
It’s online, of course. “Where do you seemed to be preoccupied when he
live?” It’s hard to just date on your answered.
own, you know.
P2:SS15 FM15
Aw dili oy. [kanang] Murag sabot mo kaila
man mo aning “NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs* Albert jokingly shared about Near Group
NearGroup, my god! Ana na. and he was sort of passive sharing it.
Oh, no. [um] We all know
“NearGroup”. *Jokingly says
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NearGroup* Ahh! *laughs* NearGroup,
oh my god FM16
P2:SS16
Gabii usahay mga hapon Certain and established when answering
Often at night, seldom in the this part.
afternoon.
P2:SS17 FM17
When you talk about the studies, it’s not
actually hindrance but an inspiration.
Because when we talk about love naa
gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa His voice whilst explaining was quite a bit
ako ang akong purpose lang gyud ato kay charged. He directed the message like he
having fun lang ba, [basta] way lingaw. would acknowledge his online date when
he got no one to talk to but in a good way.
When you talk about the studies, it’s
not actually a hindrance but an
inspiration. Because when we talk
about love there’s a feeling of
attachment. In my defense, my FM18
purpose of acknowledging him was
just a sort of fun when I get bored. (In
a good way)
P2:SS18
Dili. Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first
year college lang ko pero di ko muingon He was getting defensive and stood for
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na stress ko run. his core beliefs that he doesn’t need help
No. I’d say [um] I’m a first year college when doing his academic errands.
student but I don’t say innuendos like
I’m stressed (this day). FM19
P2:SS19
Dili. Abi palang weak ta. Aw?! *Jokingly He wanted to stress that he’s not weak in
says “Aw?!”* doing his academic errands. He jokingly
No. They might say I’m weak. Aw?! said what he said.
*Jokingly says “Aw?!”*
P2:SS20 FM20
Obviously actual gud talaga.
Obviously I prefer actual (dating). Admitted directly.
P2:SS21 FM21
We can’t [really] trust people online He mentioned about not trusting people in
[easily]. the cyberspace easily. He was quite a bit
We can’t [really] trust people online ceremonious when he pitched the
[easily]. answer.
P2:SS2
FM22
Absolutely, yes! Loud and certain when “yes” was said.
Absolutely, yes!
P2:SS23 FM23
Ah well, nowadays, easy na gud talaga He was bothered by the fact that it is now
siya. Kay alam mo na communicate lang easy to be involved in online dating even
bisag dili kasaligang tawo. to those people who doesn’t know each
Ah well, nowadays, it’s easy to date other personally.
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online. You know, some people tend to
communicate with total strangers. FM24
P2:SS24
Dili. Dili gud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili
talaga mo actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili He addressed the concernment of how
talaga. Muabot sa time na “Wa rare it would be to have a successful
na!”…”You can’t repy to this relationship online. He was quite a bit
conversation” wala na. Diba? impassive in answering this and sort of
No. Especially when you haven’t really didn’t reveal much of what he felt.
seen each other. There will come a
time where it’s done and you don’t
chat each other anymore. FM2
P2:SS25
I can’t really force them to be involved in
this online dating. It’s up to them. Kung He was auspicious about following what
asa ta malipay didto ta. they desire. He directed it like he was
I can’t really force them to be involved obligating.
in this online dating. It’s up to them. If
that’s what makes us happy then we’d
follow what we desire FM26
P2:SS26
Oo gad, Enjoy gad.
Yes, Of course! The certainty of his answer was
P2:SS2 captivating
FM27
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PARTICIPANT 3
(*thinking* 4 months?) Took a while before he answered.
4 months
P3:SS28 FM28
(Siya.) Proudly admits who approached first.
He approached me first through chat
P3:SS29 FM29
(Through *thinking* chat. Ning approach ra His partner was the one who drew his
gyud siya. Yeah.) attention towards him.
We only met each other through chat.
He really chatted me first
P3:SS30 FM30
(Everyday *thinking* Morning man sa ilaha
pag night ari so. Taga Belgium man siya.)
We communicate everyday, but we live Different time zones were not hindrances
in different time zones because he’s on their communication daily.
from Belgium. Chat with him at night
here in the Philippines, because it’s FM31
morning there
P3:SS31
(In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili
man. Di pod ko muingon na inspiration
because depende ra man na sa tawo kung One’s opinion is the main basis on how to
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[kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.) handle a relationship.
It’s an inspiration for me in terms of
studies, but it all depends in the person
if they know how to manage. FM32
P3:SS32
(No. It’s personal.)
I don’t open up on school related things Hesitant on sharing his personal business.
to my online date, because it’s personal.
P3:SS33 FM33
(I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning
online man kay is a platform of
communication, so in somewhat way kung He considered both type of dating because
magkaila mo online may possibility na there are possibilities that people who meet
magkaila pod mo sa personal, but prefer online are likely to meet in person
nako both.)
I prefer both, because online dating is a
platform of communication. In some
way, if you meet someone online, FM34
there’s a chance that you’d meet each
other in person.
P3:SS34
(Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about
[kaning] it’s either personal communication
or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway so, mafeel Feeling certain that love isn’t just through
ra nimo siya. actual communication but it also involves
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Yes, of course. Love isn’t about actual how one is feeling.
communication. You just feel that you
love someone if you get to know them
properly through chat or otherwise. FM35
P3:SS35
(No. May times na, syempre di man gyud
[kaning] online, may time na magbinuwa
siya, may time na dili puro *thinking* pero
[kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles* Kay
may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka Having uncertainty of trusting somebody
so.) because he can’t spare all his time for him.
No, because there’s gonna be that time
where he’s untruthful and he won’t
update you all the time. But it’s okay FM36
because I get my privacy and he gets
his privacy.
P3:SS36
(Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs
slightly* because [kuan, kaning] optional
kasi siya. Kung imo ng irecommend so He considered first on how people adapt
dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana. and how people will handle having an
So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa online relationship.
person.)
I can’t recommend, because it’s
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optional. It depends on the person if FM37
he/she can adapt.
P3:SS37
(Di ko makaingon because life is a long
process. So, di ko makaingon na kami
talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.) Uncertain of their future depending on their
I can’t say it’s successful because life is situation right now.
a long process. I can’t say for certain
that we’ll end up with one another, but I
would like it to be that way. FM38
P3:SS38
(Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy
ko kay somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy
ko tungod sa iya, ana. Feeling energized, positive and happy
Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.) because of his partner.
Yes, I’m enjoying it. I’m happy because
of him, and I’m happy because we’re
dating. FM39
P3:SS39
PARTICIPANT 4
It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. Slightly paused but certain.
It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months.
P4:SS40 FM40
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Siyempre akong uyab. He was sure that her partner was the one
Siyempre akong uyab. who approached first.
P4:SS41 FM41
*Stutters* Through messenger nagkataon
lang pod ba na tapos ning gamit akong… She was unaware that the boy sent a
ang akong classmate ug messenger nako message to her whilst her classmate was
nakichat siya tapos wala ko kasabot na using her messenger. Their acquaintance
muchat diay siyas ako. was unanticipated.
*Stutters* Through messenger. My
classmate used my messenger and by FM42
chance he sent me a message without
my knowledge.
P4:SS42
Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba. She was slightly hesitant when telling that
Yes. My classmate was somehow the her classmate was somehow the bridge.
bridge.
P4:SS43 FM43
Everyday. *Giggles* Precise and proud. They tend to keep in
Everyday. *Giggles* touch by chatting everyday.
P4:SS44 FM44
Kadalasan man gyud kay hapon. Tapos Feeling impassive. She explains even if
gabii kay mao raman iyang free time they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend to
Often in the afternoon and in the at least chat in between like free time.
evening since those times are his free
time.
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P4:SS45 FM45
Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles* She was romanticized when she
Yes, always. answered.
P4:SS46 FM46
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya
seryoso, unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, She tackled about the downside of having
dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa a relationship online. She said it’s most
online ra baya. likely to fail if only one is doing effort.
It depends, because there’s always the
chance of breaking up. We can’t
predict the future. FM47
P4:SS47
Depende lang pod. Depend era man gyud
nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. She emphasized that no matter how
Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung romantic your relationship is whether
seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo. online or actual, if you’re with each other
It depends, because even if you’re and respect and be loyal, it’ll work, for
dating online or in real life, you’re sure.
going to have a good relationship if
you’re serious with each other.
P4:SS48 FM48
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag
through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo She wanted to stress that if you’re meant
gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud to be then God will always find a way to
nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang your innuendos and pave you to each
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relationship ninyo bisag through online other’s.
lang siya.
Yes, even if you met online, if God
gave you that person, your relationship
will eventually become real.
P4:SS49 FM49
Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan]
pwede ra sad sa online kay murag ug sa
relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa
temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na She uttered that it’s safe to say that online
[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na relationship could somehow be the choice
limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta but but we should know boundaries.
makasabot sa panahon.
For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online
is much safer, because temptation is
farther on a virtual platform compared
to an actual relationship, but we FM50
should limit ourselves on either one,
because we’re still students.
P4:SS50
Yes, na-enjoy ra nako ang process She loved the idea of chatting and having
*giggles* online relationship. She smiled when she
Yes, I did enjoy the process *giggles* uttered the answer.
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P4:SS51 FM51
PARTICIPANT 5
Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1 Hesitated to answer directly.
month? Yes.
1 month. FM52
SS52
Siyempre siya *giggles* Proudly admits who approached first.
He approached me first.
SS53 FM53
Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Mao to siya
human ning ingon siya kay kuya na
namiling kuno siyag babaye na [kanang]
unsa na? Church-oriented ba, buotan
kuno charot *laughs* Iya kong gi add sa
Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa ako
kung naa bay nag add sa akoa sa Told the story on how they met and how
Facebook, muto wa ko ka [kuan] ka they ended up chatting online without
bantay ba mutong pag [kuan] mutong hesitation. There are no secrets that are
nangutana ko kung kinsa. Tapos hidden because she proudly stated what
nangutana ko sa pangalan *giggles* happened.
mutong ako siyang giaccept. Tapos ning
chat siya sa akoa ug “Hello”, ningreply ko FM54
*giggles*
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Yeah, someone introduced us. Then he
told my Kuya that he likes good
women who always go to church, and
he immediately thought of me—I was
that type of girl. He sent me a friend
request on Facebook, then I’ve
accepted it, then he chatted and said
“Hello” then I replied.
SS54
Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs*
[Kuan] Kahuman sa iyang duty. Seaman They are committed with their relationship
man siya. because they always keep in touch with
each other.
We communicate everyday. We chat
after he finishes his shift, because he’s FM55
a Seaman, we only communicate
during his vacant time.
SS55
[Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre
maganahan tag eskwela. Inspired Feeling inspired, loved and happy. Always
*smiling* I feel so loved. Yeah, so loved, motivated in class because of her
my happiness *laughs* partner’s love.
He’s an inspiration for me. Of course
he makes me want to finish my FM56
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studies. I get inspired and motivated in
class, because I feel happiness and
love.
SS56
Oo kay mangutana man siya. Muana man
siya sa ako “Paniguro ug eskwela”.
Yes because he often asks me about Feeling motivated to go to school and
the things happening in school and he finish her studies.
also motivates me.
SS57 FM57
Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas
ganahan kog actual, pero wa may choice
kay trabaho baya. Unsure of her thoughts because there are
I prefer both actual and online, but in no other choices and options, but still
our relationship, we really have to chat. wants an actual relationship.
We don’t have a choice, because he
has to work. FM58
SS58
Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na
nagsugod, naunsa ba *romantic Romantically excited while finding love
excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay online. Felt happy when she knew the
nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles* reason why her partner is in love with her.
Yes, I believe that I can find love
online, because it all started there. FM59
SS59
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Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang
unsa na?] kay magcommunicate mi Opens up everything to each other and
pirme. communicate always.
Yes, I believe that our relationship is
successful. We just have to FM60
communicate always.
SS60
Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay
no choice man. Pero mas angayan kung
actual gud. Facebook kay mao may uso. Unsure of her feelings towards having
Mao may pinaka common. what kind of relationship she really wants.
For me, it’s okay to look for a Having no other options onto what kind
relationship on facebook, but it’s better
if it’s actual. We met on Facebook FM61
because it’s the social media platform
we had in common.
SS61
Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man gyud
sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra
makapamuwa. Feeling doubtful because of her partner’s
Not every person you met online is inconsistency of telling the truth.
sincere, so we should know the person
we’re chatting first. FM62
SS62
Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang
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chat sa akoa *smiles* Feeling romantically excited because of
Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love her partner’s sweet messages.
his sweet messages. FM63
SS63
PARTICIPANT 6
Almost 8 months. Answered without hesitation.
SS64 FM64
*Giggles*Ako. Feeling ashamed and took a risk to make
I approached first. the first move.
SS65 FM65
Nakit-an ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos
akon gi sendan ug friend request *smiles* Desperate for love.
I saw his account on Facebook and I
sent a friend request. FM66
SS66
Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday.
Aga, udto, depende kun online hiya, Hesitated to answer the question at first,
online ako. but then eventually shared after and
We communicate everyday. We always became romantically excited.
chat when we’re both online. FM67
SS67
Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig ha
ak bisan hiya ada bisan online la sige
geap hiya akon chat na sugad ini There is an existing feeling of proudness
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pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So because her partner is always motivating
inspiration liwat hiya. her to go to school and finish her studies.
He’s an inspiration for me, because he
helps me. He always gives me advice FM68
and tells me to study hard.
SS68
Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling
kaman presence talaga sa usa ka tawo
diri la kay online. Longing for an actual relationship.
Of course, still actual, because you still
want his presence, not just by chatting. FM69
SS69
Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre
nasanay ka naman na hiya imo kachat, Feeling excited and enthusiastic while
pag mag good morning…ganun hito. chatting. Feeling very important because
Yes. I enjoy, because we chat of the partner’s sweet messages and
everyday. I’m used to always chatting greetings.
with him—each morning, noon, or
afternoon, there’s someone greeting FM70
me, and I enjoy it.
SS70
Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka
maaram kun porket nagkachat la kamo…
*pauses* basta. Diri kasi tanan nga time
na online ang inyong pag date kay may
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time talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya No doubts about the question and directly
mo talaga ya magkita face to face kamo, answered it. Feeling certain of her stand if
magkita kamo talaga, makaptan mo hiya it is easier to have a relationship through
through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud ha Facebook.
online.
It isn’t easy on Facebook, because he FM71
doesn’t always find time for you,
because there are times that he’s
doing something else and he’s offline
because of it. There’s always the time
where you look for his presence—
you’d prefer to speak face to face
rather than talking online.
SS71
unsa na? kay magcommunicate mi pirme. Proud and sure that their relationship will
Yes, I believe that our relationship is be successful.
successful. We just have to
communicate always. FM72
SS72
Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada…
Waray man hiya instagram, waray man Being dependent on her partner.
hiya twitter.
Yes, because he only has Facebook FM73
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account. He doesn’t have Instagram or
Twitter.
SS73
Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang tanan. Very certain on her feelings the people
Yes, because we met online. can find love online.
SS74 FM74
*Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal,
diri kun di mu ya kilala kay kuri man hin
mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay bangin Reluctant in trusting someone because of
poser ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya being unsure of partner’s personality.
pwede ka naman online nala basta nakit-
an mon a hiya. FM75
It depends on the situation. Yes, I
recommend online dating if you know
the person you’re dating personally.
But if you met each other online, it’s
harder to trust the person you’re
dating.
SS75
PARTICIPANT 7
God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to
*laughs* Mga 2 years? *laughs* Oo. Uncertain.
2 years. FM76
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SS76
Siya.
He approached me first. Direct to the point.
SS77 FM77
Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya. The partner initially directed a chat
He just suddenly sent a message – no towards the girl. He’s the one who seems
reference, no mutual friend. to be interested on her.
SS78 FM78
Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero
pag [ano] makatulog ug sayo so usahay
walay gabii. Pero everyday gyud, wa gyud Feeling proud and certain.
nay adlaw na [ano]. Oo.
We communicate everyday. Not a day FM79
goes by that we don’t talk.
SS79
*thinking* Both ra *nods* Pwede sag,
same as [kuan] kasi mi [kanang], diba pag
ing-ana parehas sa akoa, di pod kasi na There is uncertainty of feelings at first, but
siya hindrance sa akoa kay katigo man eventually became sure of his partner as
pod ko, murag [ano] ba, mu balance an inspiration.
balance, sa dating ug sa [kuan]. Oo,
inspiration sad. FM80
For me it’s an inspiration, because I
know how to balance dating and
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studies.
SS80
Actual relationship. Very certain and straight to the point.
SS81 FM81
Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles Romantically excited because she enjoys
Yes, always. dating online.
SS82 FM82
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya
seryoso, unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, Feeling uncertain of what will happen next
dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa and has a lack of trust to her partner
online ra baya. because the having an online relationship
It depends, because there’s always the is unpredictable.
chance of breaking up. We can’t
predict the future. FM83
SS83
Depende lang pod. Depend ra man gyud
nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. Online relationships last longer if you and
Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung your partner are serious and committed
seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo. with each other regardless of all the
It depends, because even if you’re factors affecting it, including academic
dating online or in real life, you’re studies.
going to have a good relationship if
you’re serious with each other. FM84
SS84
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag Belief has been shown. She states that
through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo whoever is going to be your partner is a
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gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud gift from above. Strong faith to find love
nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang was displayed.
relationship ninyo bisag through online
lang siya. FM85
Yes, even if you met online, if God
gave you that person, your relationship
will eventually become real.
SS85
relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa Thinking the safety of the students’ own
temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na life and academic studies because when
[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na someone’s relationship is virtual, they
limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta cannot be tempted to do worse things.
makasabot sa panahon. Feeling doubtful of the upcoming
For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online circumstances.
is much safer, because temptation is
farther on a virtual platform compared FM86
to an actual relationship, but we
should limit ourselves on either one,
because we’re still students.
SS86
PARTICIPANT 8

Not online just…met him accidentally. It
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was a party in NSU which is
“Acquaintance Party” last year since my
acquaintance party that time was so
depressing and very stressed kay akong
friends didto nag-away mi that time so
nag decide ko na akong mga kauban na They met in a very unexpected time,
classmate manggawas mi mag goodvibes scenario and parcel. The interviewee
mi so nameet ko na ang lalaki, taga underwent a very quite charged situation.
Almeria…charot!
Not online just…I met him
accidentally. It was a party held in NSU
which was the “Acquaintance Party”
which was set last year. My
acquaintance party that time was
depressing and very stressed because FM87
me and friends had a fight and so later
that night we decided to go out and I
met him which,[ by the way], he lives
in Almeria…
P8:SS87
Nagchat mi… few days after… [mga] They started chatting after the scenario.
October o November. He was quite a bit unsure about the exact
We chatted a few days after our month of when they really started
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acquaintance… Around October or chatting.
November.
P8:SS88 FM88
Mga… five months. Quite a bit reluctant. He stuttered. Five
Around…five months. months in relationship in the span is not
P8:SS89 quite bad.
FM89
Siya. He answered directly.
Him.
P8:SS90 FM90
Starting from morning then evening They tried to keep in touch as much as
because he’s free in those times. possible by chatting at those times.
Starting from morning then evening
because he’s free in those times. FM91
P8:SS91
Every minute. He directly answered. And was sure
Every minute. about their communication in a day.
P8:SS92 FM92
First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the He redirected what he said because it
last…[ah] lately hindrance na. used to be a healthy relationship but in
At first, inspiration, but definitely in the latter part it became unhealthy.
the latter part…[ah] he became a
hindrance. FM93
P8:SS93
Involve na ag money He was timid and it became complicated
Money was then involved. because money was later on involved.
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P8:SS94 FM94
No. Straight-forward when asked by this
No. question
P8:SS95 FM95
*Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh
my god…experience ang actual kasi He wanted to experience a real one for
since ano lang naman eh kung hindi, the context suggests that dating online is
hanggang ano cellphone cellphone lang. I drastically different from dating in actual.
want to experience actual. The interviewee was quite a bit muddled
*Pauses* Actual [relationship]. when he was answering.
Because I want to…Oh my god…
experience the actuality since it’s all
not about using the phone and be in
relationship through it [virtual]. I want FM96
to experience actual [relationship].
P8:SS96
No. Some of them *laughs*are ano na…
hindrance nas akoa ha katikang ha He was reminded that it will eventually
umpisa okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal na fall into a conclusion or otherwise.
kung dili na.
No. Some of them *laughs* are a
hindrance to me since, at first, it is
okay and in the latter it becomes FM97
complicated.
P8:SS97
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No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent He was sure that online relationship
mumbling* would likely not be successful as it
No. Because I suppose it’s demands authenticity and time and
not.*inconsistent mumbling* loyalty.
P8:SS98
FM98
*Pauses* Sometimes…I-express akong
feelings with ano lang… to chat,
something like that but in actual I’m really He was saying that it’s seldom easy to
shy. date online because it is not wired and
*Pauses* Sometimes…I [can truly] aspect of actuality wasn’t there.
express my feelings when chatting,
something like that but in actual I’m
really shy. FM99
P8:SS99
[Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano
ba…it depends nalang sa tawo kung He was quite a bit flustered when he
gusto ha akon *coughs* okay siya pero answered. According to him, it truly
depende ragyud sa tawo depends on the person’s desire whether
[Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other way but…it to be involved in online dating or to be in
really depends on the person *coughs* an actual relationship.
It really depends though. FM100
P8:SS100
Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko He did enjoy the process of chatting and
masabi ako gusto [nafeel] tapos di ako dating someone online. He tends to share
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nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako. and according to him, there’s a feeling
Yes I enjoyed [having online where there’s so much story to be told
relationship]. I can easily share what I when you chat.
want to tell online and it does not
make me timid. In actual, I become FM101
bashful.
P8:SS101
PARTICIPANT 9
([Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year
and 3 months, pero [kuan] gyud siya Relationship is inconsistent.
[kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]
permamente mi [kanang] two months
murag di mi [kuan] maayog communication
munang nay usahay na magbuwag me for
pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7 FM102
months nalang siguro.)
Almost 1 year and 3 months
P9: SS102
([Kuan] Siya. Oo. ) Her partner was the one who risked to
He approached me first approach her first.
P9: SS103 FM103

(Gi reto siya sa [kuan] iyang barkada.
Iyang barkada nag [kuan], kaila mi sa iyang
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barkada, unya iyang barkada ang nagpaila- Their mutual friend served as the gateway
ila niya sa akoa. Unya sunod ato, nag chat for filling up their basic human need.
chat nami.)
We were introduced to each other
through mutual friends, and we ended
up chatting each other afterwards.
P9: SS104 FM104

([Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto,
then [kuan] hapon, then gabii pod.) Their relationship became stronger as they
On my vacant times in the morning, communicate always.
noon, and every night-- we would
communicate. FM105
P9: SS105
(Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang]
makahatag siyag inspiration sa akoa unya Feeling inspired whenever their
[kanang] murag ganahan gyud ka pag relationship is smooth but whenever they
eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag have misunderstandings, they lose interest
communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag- towards their relationship.
away pod hinoon pod mo, wan a pod
hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana
*laughs* )
It’s an inspiration for me to study. That FM106
feeling that you want to study more
because of it and it makes you happy,
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but I lose interest in studying everytime
we fight. It’s an inspiration and a
hindrance at the same time.
P9: SS106
(Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale
mangutana nala ni siya sa akong mga
assignments pero dili nako i-open up sa She considers her partner because she
iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra thinks that it is out of her partner’s
man nang problema.) business.
No. Actually, he’s already working, but
he always asks me about my studies,
but I don’t open up because I don’t think
he knows what it’s about. FM107
P9: SS107
([Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya
nanrabaho man siya ug Manila so mao Distance is not a hindrance in their
tong murag [kuan] ang among [kanang] relationship because they always
communication, online nalang.) communicate with each other.
When our relationship started, he went
to Manila and got a job. We always
communicate online. FM108
P9: SS108
(Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig Romantically excited of their relationship.
*giggles*)
Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me. FM109
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P9: SS109
(Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon
karon na murag [kuan] successful na gyud
na siya kay [kuan] man [kanang] unsa na?
Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa pa ta Not sure on where their relationship is
kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di leading.
bitaw *laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana,
exactly ba, kay [kuan] baya.)
Maybe. I still can’t say if our relationship
is successful, because we still have a FM110
long way to go, and we still don’t know
what’s in store us in the future.
P9: SS110
([Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug
Facebook Facebook lag, ganahan ko ug
tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa
Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles* Not satisfied on using Facebook as an
Well, para sa akoa, mas ganahan ko mag instrument of virtual communication
tawag tawag ra mi.) because of the lack of trust.
No, because I don’t like Facebook. I
prefer phone calls. I don’t trust
Facebook because he might have other FM111
chat-mates.
P9: SS111
([Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa Feeling unsure because she believed that
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[kanang] through chat chat lang, dili ko people lie.
mutuo ana. )
I don’t believe in that, because there are
people who lie through chat FM112
P9: SS112
(Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud
akong matubag ana kay [kanang kuan] dili
man gyud ko makaingon na Uncertain of their future as a couple.
makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay
[kuan] raba. )
No. I can’t recommend it yet, because
our relationship is not yet successful. FM113
P9: SS113
PARTICIPANT 10
(*giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* Hesitant to answer at first.
Umm 5 months? 5 months.)
5 months FM114
P10:SS114
(Siya, unang ning message sa akoa She’s the one who gained the attention
*smiles*) first.
P10:SS115 FM115
(Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya
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nagpaila-ila ha amon.) A mutual friend became the ticket of their
We were introduced to each other relationship.
P10:SS116
FM116
(*thinking* Every minute gani *giggles*
[Ano] Aga hantod basta permamente [ano] Cannot complete a day without chatting
kung ningkaon ka na ba, ana.) with each other.
We communicate everyday, and not a
minute goes by that we don’t chat. FM117
P10:SS117
(*giggles* Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay
[ano] kung pursige ka, ingon an aba. Feeling inspired to go to school because of
Halimbawa karon nag-eskwela ko kay her partner’s motivational words.
tungod man pod sa ilaha, mao nang
ningbalik ko pageskwela, mao na akong
inspirasyon.)
He’s an inspiration. Of course he makes
me want to continue my studies. I get
inspired and motivated in class, FM118
because I feel happiness and love.
P10:SS118
(Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport
man pod siya sa akoa.) Supports each other all the time including
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Yes, but it is not often. He also supports their academic success.
me like I do. FM119
P10:SS119
(*thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] Despite on having a good relationship
Kasi kung actual, makilatis mo dayon ang online, she still wants to have an actual
isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.) relationship because of the lack of trust
I prefer an actual relationship, because and understanding to her partner.
you can easily understand and know a
person if it is actual than an online one. FM120
P10:SS120
(*laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko Based on experience, she is certain to find
naka[ano] *laughs*) love online.
Of course, because I personally got a
boyfriend online, so I really do believe. FM121
P10:SS121
(Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi *smiles*) Confident and positive on their relationship.
Yes, because we even last this long. FM122
P10:SS122
(*thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man
ang personal, imo mang, siyempre di man Unsure of having a sincere and serious
gyud nimo anay makilatis ang us aka tawo partner through online because real
kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo personalities are not shown.
ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay
mo bago mo makilala ang usa ka tawo
*smiles*)
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No, because you won’t fully know a
person without chatting with them first
for an extended period of time. Unlike in FM123
actual dating where you really get to
know a person because you’re with
them in person.
P10:SS123
(Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri
maupay kay kasi damo na bitaw [kanang] She considered what type of generation
nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa mga today and also the students’ safety.
kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila
kilatis kaupay.)
No, because kids in this generation
know a lot about online things. They
should be careful on who they meet
online. You should know them properly FM124
and personally.
P10:SS124
(*giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga
sweet na mga [ano] la [kanang] sweet
messages, ingana ba. *giggles* Halimbawa
kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay Romantically excited whenever they chat
inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la because of the sweet messages that
adto *smiles* flatters her.
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Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just
online. Eg. we send sweet messages
and flatter each other. That’s why I FM125
enjoy it.
P10:SS125
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5 years. Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka
Military Navy. Half American, Half Filipino
siya. Actually ning uli siya kadtong [kuan]
December.
1 5 years. My chat-mate approached me 1 1-2
first. His name is Marco Angelo. He’s a
half Filipino, half American and he’s in
the Navy.
P1: SS1
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[Kuan, kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa
akoa, nag “Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes,
siya’y unang ning chat unya mao rato.
Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug
naa ko diri magtawag ug basta, always
gyud siya. [Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong
birthday video chat unya Valentine’s Day,
video chat kay layo man gyud. Friends ra
to sa una unya mga 6 months sa siya nag
sige ug panguyab unya kay iya gyung gi
prove na bisag online ra, dili siya ingon na
pareha sa ubang laki.
He first approached me through chat.
We started to greet each other with hi’s
and hello’s.
2 We always communicate. Not only
during evening, whether it be in school, 1 3-5
morning till noon; always.
Video chat always-- On my birthday, on
valentine’s day. We don’t have a choice
because of the distance. We were
friends at first, and he started courting
me after 6 months. He proved that even
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though we only met each other online,
he isn’t like other men. For me, online
dating is an inspiration because of how
it motivates me.
P1: SS2
(Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya
*giggles* Unya Navy man siya di siya
usahay [kakuan] sa akong education, pero 1 6
musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.)
Yes, and he also helps with my
3 homework. Because he’
s in the Navy, he’s especially helpful in
ROTC.
P1: SS3
Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real
life? Oo, kay maexpress man nimo kung
unsa gyud, makita sad niya kung unsa
gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.
Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo,
agwanta lang gud. Trust.
(Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo
*nods* kay ako I have two kids na unya
two years name unya nagplano siya na
4 muuli karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko 1 7-8
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kasabot basin, wa ko kasabot lage
*smiling* Maybe? *laughs*)
I prefer dating in real life, because you
can express your love and the amount
of love that you have for a person is
shown, but online dating is okay too.
Trust and endurance is all that it takes.
Of course, yes. I already have two kids,
and our relationship has been going on
for a very long time, and my partner is
planning to come home this June.
P1: SS4
Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust
dayon sa tawo.
Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat
online although ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon
sa us aka tawo. More on imo sa siyang ila
5 ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra. 1 9-10
No, because it’s hard. You shouldn’t
trust anybody immediately.
Yes, of course, but don’t just trust
anyone immediately. Be sure to know a
person thoroughly first even if it’s only
online.
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P1: SS5
Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo
kay ma motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako,
siya is 45, diba? Unya gusto ko
mugraduate kay professional baya siya.
Oo, so ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko
6 para ma professional pod ko parehas 1 11
iyaha.
For me, maybe he is an inspiration, yes
because he motivates me. I am 29 years
old and he is 45, see? In this situation, I
am really motivated to be able to
graduate because he is already a
professional. In my part there is also a
need for me to be a professional like
him.
P1: SS6
actually dating, it’s just something like
“char-char” or something, when I have fun
conversation with someone else. Even
7 though di mi related or di nako kaila. 2 1-3
Murag wa man siya niabot ug 1 year. I
think mga a month lang or 2 months like
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that. In terms of “approach-approach”
[kanang] ako kasi ang tipo na tawo na
[kanang] dili mahilig makipag conversation
sa tawong di nako kaila but then pag nay
mu “hi”, “hi” lang pod. Chika- chika lang
pero mao to siya. Siya gad talaga muuna
pero sometimes ako man pod pero dili
talaga as in 40% ako 60% siya.
actually dating, it’s just something like
“char-char” or something, when I have
fun conversation with someone else.
Even though we’re not related or I don’t
know them personally. I suppose it
didn’t go as far as 1 year. Maybe 1
month or 2, something like that. In
terms of approaching [um] I’m the type
of person who’s [um] not fond of
initiating a conversation to those people
I don’t personally know but then again if
someone says “hi”, I’d reply in return.
We chat along. But most of the time he
initiates the chatting like 40% me and
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60% him in percentage.
P2: SS7
Aw kuan, syempre, online man. “Taga
saan ka?”, syempre, lisod sad ug mag
date-date ta diri’g ato la no? Aw dili oy.
[kanang] Murag sabot mo kaila man mo
aning “NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs*
NearGroup, my god! Ana na.
It’s online, of course. “Where do you
8 live?” It’s hard to just date on your own, 2 4-5
you know. Oh, no. [um] We all know
“NearGroup”. *Jokingly says
NearGroup* Ahh! *laughs* NearGroup,
oh my god!
P2: SS8
Gabii usahay mga hapon.
Often at night, seldom in the afternoon.
9 P2: SS9 2 6
actually hindrance but an inspiration.
Because when we talk about love naa
gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa ako
ang akong purpose lang gyud ato kay
having fun lang ba, [basta] way lingaw. Dili.
Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first year
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college lang ko pero di ko muingon na
stress ko run. Dili. Abi palang weak ta.
10 Aw?! *Jokingly says “Aw?!”* 2 7-9
actually a hindrance but an inspiration.
Because when we talk about love
there’s a feeling of attachment. In my
defense, my purpose of acknowledging
him was just a sort of fun when I get
bored. (In a good way) No. I’d say [um]
I’m a first year college student but I
don’t say innuendos like I’m stressed
(this day). No. They might say I’m weak.
Aw?! *Jokingly says “Aw?!”*
P2: SS10
Obviously actual gud talaga. We can’t
[really] trust people online [easily].
Absolutely, yes! Ah well, nowadays, easy
na gud talaga siya. Kay alam mo na
communicate lang bisag dili kasaligang
11 tawo. 2 10-13
Obviously I prefer actual (dating) We
can’t [really] trust people online [easily].
Absolutely, yes! Ah well, nowadays, it’s
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easy to date online. You know, some
people tend to communicate with total
strangers.
P2: SS11
Dili. Dili gud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili
talaga mo actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili
talaga. Muabot sa time na “Wa na!”…”You
can’t repy to this conversation” wala na.
Diba? I can’t really force them to be
12 involved in this online dating. It’s up to 2 14-15
them. Kung asa ta malipay didto ta.
No. Especially when you haven’t really
seen each other. There will come a time
where it’s done and you don’t chat each
other anymore. I can’t really force them
to be involved in this online dating. It’s
up to them. If that’s what makes us
happy then we’d follow what we desire.
P1: SS12
Oo gad, Enjoy gad.
13 Yes, Of course! 2 16
P1: SS13
14 *thinking* 4 months. Siya, through 3 1-3
*thinking* chat. Ning approach ra gyud
siya. Yeah.
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4 months. He approached me first
through chat, we only met each other
through chat. He really chatted me first.
P3: SS14
15 Everyday *thinking* Mzorning man sa ilaha 3 4
pag night ari so. Taga Belgium man siya.
We communicate everyday, but we live
in different time zones because she’s
from Belgium. Chat with him at night
here in the Philippines, because it’s
morning there.
P3: SS15
16 In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili 3 5
man. Di pod ko muingon na inspiration
because depende ra man na sa tawo kung
[kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.
It’s an inspiration for me in terms of
studies, but it all depends in the person
if they know how to manage.
P3: SS316
17 No. It’s personal. 3 6
I don’t open up on school related things
to my online date, because it’s personal.
P3: SS17
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18 I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning 3 7-8
online man kay is a platform of
communication, so in somewhat way kung
magkaila mo online may possibility na
magkaila pod mo sa personal, but prefer
nako both.
Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about
[kaning] it’s either personal communication
or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway so, mafeel
ra nimo siya.
I prefer both, because online dating is a
platform of communication. In some
way, if you meet someone online,
there’s a chance that you’d meet each
other in person.
Yes, of course. Love isn’t about actual
communication. You feel just feel that
you love someone if you get to know
them properly through chat or
otherwise.
P3: SS18
19 No. May times na, syempre di man gyud 3 9-10
[kaning] online, may time na magbinuwa
siya, may time na dili puro *thinking* pero
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[kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles* Kay
may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka
so.
Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs
slightly* because [kuan, kaning] optional
kasi siya. Kung imo ng irecommend so
dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana.
So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa
person.
No, because there’s gonna be that time
where he’s untruthful and he won’t
update you all the time. But it’s okay
because I get my privacy and he gets
his privacy.
I can’t recommend, because it’s
optional. It depends on the person if
he/she can adapt.
P3: SS19
20 Di ko makaingon because life is a long 3 11-12
process. So, di ko makaingon na kami
talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.
Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy
ko kay somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy
ko tungod sa iya, ana.
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Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.
I can’t say it’s successful because life is
a long process. I can’t say for certain
that we’ll end up with one another, but I
would like it to be that way.
Yes, I’m enjoying it. I’m happy because
of him, and I’m happy because we’re
dating.
P3: SS20
It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. Siyempre
akong uyab. *Stutters* Through
messenger nagkataon lang pod ba na
tapos ning gamit akong…ang akong
21 classmate ug messenger nako nakichat 4 1-4
siya tapos wala ko kasabot na muchat diay
siyas ako. Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba.
It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months.
Siyempre akong uyab. *Stutters*
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Through messenger. My classmate
used my messenger and by chance he
sent me a message without my
knowledge. Yes. My classmate was
somehow the bridge
P4: SS21
Everyday. *Giggles* Kadalasan man gyud
kay hapon. Tapos gabii kay mao raman
iyang free time. Oo *nods* Oo, always
22 *smiles* 4 5-7
Everyday. *Giggles*
Often in the afternoon and in the
evening since those times are his free
time.Yes, always.
P4: SS22
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso,
unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud
23 ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa online ra 4 8-9
baya. Depende lang pod. Depend era man
gyud nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha.
Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung
seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.
chance of breaking up. We can’t predict
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the future. It depends, because even if
you’re dating online or in real life,
you’re going to have a good
relationship if you’re serious with each
other.
P4: SS23
through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo
gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud nang
[bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship
ninyo bisag through online lang siya. Ah
*thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan] pwede ra
sad sa online kay murag ug sa
temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na
24 [ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na 2 10-11
limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta
Yes, even if you met online, if God gave
you that person, your relationship will
eventually become real. For me, yes. I’d
recommend it. Online is much safer,
because temptation is farther on a
virtual platform compared to an actual
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relationship, but we should limit
ourselves on either one, because we’re
still students
P4: SS24
Yes, na-enjoy ra nako ang process.
25 Yes, I did enjoy the process. 2 12-13
P2: SS25
Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1
month? Yes.
Siyempre siya *giggles*
26 1 month. He approached me first. 5 1-2
P5: SS26
Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Iya kong gi add
sa Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa
ako kung naa bay nag add sa akoa sa
Facebook. Tapos nangutana ko sa
pangalan *giggles* mutong ako siyang
giaccept. Tapos ning chat siya sa akoa ug
27 “Hello”, ningreply ko *giggles* 5 3
Yeah, someone introduced us. He sent
me a friend request on Facebook, then
I’ve accepted it, then he chatted and
said “Hello” then I replied.
P5: SS27
Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs*
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[Kuan] Kahuman sa iyang duty. Seaman
man siya.
[Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre
maganahan tag eskwela. Inspired *smiling*
I feel so loved. Yeah, so loved, my
happiness *laughs* Mangutana man siya.
Muana man siya sa ako “Paniguro ug 5 4-6
eskwela”.
28 We communicate everyday. We chat
after he finishes his shift, because he’s
a Seaman, we only communicate during
his vacant time.
He’s an inspiration for me. Of course he
makes me want to finish my studies. I
get inspired and motivated in class,
because I feel happiness and love. Yes
because he often asks me about the
things happening in school and he also
motivates me.
P5: SS28
Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas
ganahan kog actual, pero wa may choice
kay trabaho baya.
Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na
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nagsugod, naunsa ba *romantic
excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay
nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles*
29 unsa na?] kay magcommunicate mi pirme.
I prefer both actual and online, but in 5 7-9
our relationship, we really have to chat.
We don’t have a choice, because he has
to work.
Yes, I believe that I can find love online,
because it all started there.
communicate always.
P5: SS29
Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay no
choice man. Pero mas angayan kung
actual gud. Facebook kay mao may uso.
Mao may pinaka common.
Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man gyud
sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra 5 10-11
makapamuwa.
30 For me, it’s okay to look for a
relationship on facebook, but it’s better
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if it’s actual. We met on Facebook
because it’s the social media platform
we had in common.
Not every person you met online is
sincere, so we should know the person
we’re chatting first.
P5: SS30
Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang
31 chat sa akoa *smiles* 5 12
Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love
his sweet messages.
P5: SS31
Almost 8 months. *Giggles*Ako. Nakit-an
ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos akon gi
sendan ug friend request *smiles*
32 Almost 8 months. I approached first. I 6 1-3
saw his account on Facebook and I sent
a friend request.
P6: SS32
Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday.
Aga, udto, depende kun online hiya, online
ako. Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig
ha ak bisan hiya ada bisan online la sige
geap hiya akon chat na sugad ini
pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So
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33 inspiration liwat hiya. 6 4-5
We communicate everyday. We always
chat when we’re both online. He’s an
inspiration for me, because he helps
me. He always gives me advice and tells
me to study hard.
P6: SS33
Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling
kaman presence talaga sa usa ka tawo diri
la kay online.
34 Of course, still actual, because you still 6 6
want his presence, not just by chatting.
P6: SS34
Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre
nasanay ka naman na hiya imo kachat,
pag mag good morning…ganun hito.
Yes. I enjoy, because we chat everyday.
35 I’m used to always chatting with him— 6 7
each morning, noon, or afternoon,
there’s someone greeting me, and I
enjoy it.
P6: SS35
Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka
maaram kun porket nagkachat la kamo…
*pauses* basta. Diri kasi tanan nga time na
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online ang inyong pag date kay may time
talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya mo
talaga ya magkita face to face kamo,
magkita kamo talaga, makaptan mo hiya 6 8
36 through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud ha
online.
It isn’t easy on Facebook, because he
doesn’t always find time for you,
because there are times that he’s doing
something else and he’s offline because
of it. There’s always the time where you
look for his presence—you’d prefer to
speak face to face rather than talking
online.
P6: SS36
unsa na? kay magcommunicate mi pirme.
Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada…
37 Waray man hiya instagram, waray man 6 9-11
hiya twitter. Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang
tanan.
communicate always. Yes, because he
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only has Facebook account. He doesn’t
have Instagram or Twitter. Yes, because
we met online.
P6: SS37
*Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal,
diri kun di mu ya kilala kay kuri man hin
mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay bangin poser
38 ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya pwede ka 6 12
naman online nala basta nakit-an mon a
hiya.
It depends on the situation. Yes, I
recommend online dating if you know
the person you’re dating personally. But
if you met each other online, it’s harder
to trust the person you’re dating.
P6: SS38
God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to
*laughs* Mga 2 years? *laughs* Oo. Siya.
Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya.
39 2 years. He approached me first. He just 7 1-3
suddenly sent a message – no
reference, no mutual friend.
P7: SS39
Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero pag
[ano] makatulog ug sayo so usahay walay
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gabii. Pero everyday gyud, wa gyud nay
adlaw na [ano]. Oo. *thinking* Both ra
*nods* Pwede sag, same as [kuan] kasi mi
[kanang], diba pag ing-ana parehas sa
40 akoa, di pod kasi na siya hindrance sa 7 4-5
akoa kay katigo man pod ko, murag [ano]
ba, mu balance balance, sa dating ug sa
[kuan]. Oo, inspiration sad.
We communicate everyday. Not a day
goes by that we don’t talk. For me it’s
an inspiration, because I know how to
balance dating and studies.
P7: SS40
Actual Relationship. Oo *nods* Oo, always
*smiles*
41 Actual relationship. Yes, always. 7 6-7
P6: SS41
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso,
unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud
ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa online ra
baya. Depende lang pod. Depend ra man
42 gyud nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. 7 8-9
Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung
seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.
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chance of breaking up. We can’t predict
the future. It depends, because even if
you’re dating online or in real life,
you’re going to have a good
relationship if you’re serious with each
other.
P6: SS42
through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo
gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud nang
[bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship
43 ninyo bisag through online lang siya. 7 10
Yes, even if you met online, if God gave
you that person, your relationship will
eventually become real.
P6: SS43
44 temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na 7 11
[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na
limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta
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For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online is
much safer, because temptation is
farther on a virtual platform compared
to an actual relationship, but we should
limit ourselves on either one, because
we’re still students.
P6: SS44
Not online just…met him accidentally. That
time was so depressing and very stressed
kay akong friends didto nag-away mi that
time so nag decide ko na akong mga
45 kauban na classmate manggawas mi mag 8 1-4
goodvibes mi so nameet ko na ang lalaki,
taga Almeria…charot! Nagchat mi… few
days after… [mga] October o November.
Siya.Mga… five months.
Not online just…I met him accidentally.
That time was depressing and I’m very
stressed because me and friends had a
fight and so later that night we decided
to go out and I met him which,[ by the
way], he lives in Almeria… We chatted a
few days after our acquaintance…
Around October or November.
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Around…five months
Him.
P8: SS45
Starting from morning then evening
because he’s free in those times. Every
minute.
46 Starting from morning then evening 8 5-6
because he’s free in those times. Every
minute.
P8: SS46
First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the
last…[ah] lately hindrance na. Involve na
47 ang money. No. 8 7-9
At first, inspiration, but definitely in the
latter part…[ah] he became a hindrance.
Money was then involved. No.
P8: SS47
*Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh
my god…experience ang actual kasi since
ano lang naman eh kung hindi, hanggang
ano cellphone cellphone lang. I want to
48 experience actual. 8 10
*Pauses* Actual [relationship]. Because
I want to…Oh my god…experience the
actuality since it’s all not about using
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the phone and be in relationship
through it [virtual]. I want to experience
actual [relationship].
P8: SS48
No. Some of them *laughs*are ano na…
49 hindrance nas akoa ha katikang ha umpisa 8 11-12
okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal na kung dili
na. No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent
mumbling*
No. Some of them *laughs* are a
hindrance to me since, at first, it is okay
and in the latter it becomes
complicated. No. Because I suppose it’s
not.*inconsistent mumbling*
P8: SS49
*Pauses* Sometimes…I-express akong
50 feelings with ano lang… to chat, something
like that but in actual I’m really shy. [Uh]
*pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano ba…it
depends nalang sa tawo kung gusto ha
akon *coughs* okay siya pero depende 8 13-14
ragyud sa tawo
*Pauses* Sometimes…I [can truly]
express my feelings when chatting,
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something like that but in actual I’m
really shy. [Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other
way but…it really depends on the
person *coughs* It really depends
though.
P8:SS50
Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko
masabi ako gusto [nafeel] tapos di ako
nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako.
51 Yes I enjoyed [having online 8 15
relationship]. I can easily share what I
want to tell online and it does not make
me timid. In actual, I become bashful.
P8: SS51
52 [Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year 9 1-3
and 3 months, pero [kuan] gyud siya
[kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]
permamente mi [kanang] two months
murag di mi [kuan] maayog communication
munang nay usahay na magbuwag me for
pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7
months nalang siguro.
[Kuan] Siya. Oo. Gi reto siya sa [kuan]
iyang barkada. Iyang barkada nag [kuan],
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kaila mi sa iyang barkada, unya iyang
barkada ang nagpaila-ila niya sa akoa.
Unya sunod ato, nag chat chat nami.
Almost 1 year and 3 months. He
approached me first. We were
introduced to each other through
mutual friends, and we ended up
chatting each other afterwards.
P9: SS52
53 [Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto, 9 4
then [kuan] hapon, then gabii pod.
On my vacant times in the morning,
noon, and every night-- we would
communicate
P9: SS53
54 Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang] 9 5-6
makahatag siyag inspiration sa akoa unya
[kanang] murag ganahan gyud ka pag
eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag
communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag-
away pod hinoon pod mo, wan a pod
hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana
*laughs*
Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale
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mangutana nala ni siya sa akong mga
assignments pero dili nako i-open up sa
iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra
man nang problema.
It’s an inspiration for me to study. That
feeling that you want to study more
because of it and it makes you happy,
but I lose interest in studying everytime
we fight. It’s an inspiration and a
hindrance at the same time.
No. Actually, he’s already working, but
he always asks me about my studies,
but I don’t open up because I don’t
think he knows what it’s about.
P9: SS54
55 [Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya 9 7-8
nanrabaho man siya ug Manila so mao
tong murag [kuan] ang among [kanang]
communication, online nalang.
Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig
*giggles*
When our relationship started, he went
to Manila and got a job. We always
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communicate online.
Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me
P9: SS55
56 Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon 9 9
karon na murag [kuan] successful na gyud
na siya kay [kuan] man [kanang] unsa na?
Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa pa ta
kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di
bitaw *laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana,
exactly ba, kay [kuan] baya.
Maybe. I still can’t say if our
relationship is successful, because we
still have a long way to go, and we still
don’t know what’s in store us in the
future.
P9: SS56
57 [Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug 9 10-11
Facebook Facebook lag, ganahan ko ug
tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa
Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles*
Well, para sa akoa, mas ganahan ko mag
tawag tawag ra mi.
[Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa
[kanang] through chat chat lang, dili ko
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mutuo ana.
No, because I don’t like Facebook. I
prefer phone calls. I don’t trust
Facebook because he might have other
chat-mates.
I don’t believe in that, because there are
people who lie through chat
P9: SS57
58 Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud 9 12
akong matubag ana kay [kanang kuan] dili
man gyud ko makaingon na
makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay
[kuan] raba.
No. I can’t recommend it yet, because
our relationship is not yet successful.
P9: SS58
59 *giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* 10 1-3
Umm 5 months? 5 months.
Siya, unang ning message sa akoa
*smiles*
Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya
nagpaila-ila ha amon.
5 months
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We were introduced to each other
P10: SS59
60 *thinking* Every minute gani *giggles* [Ano] 10 4-6
Aga hantod basta permamente [ano] kung
ningkaon ka na ba, ana.*giggles*
Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay [ano]
kung pursige ka, ingon an aba. Halimbawa
karon nag-eskwela ko kay tungod man pod
sa ilaha, mao nang ningbalik ko
pageskwela, mao na akong inspirasyon.
Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport man
pod siya sa akoa.
We communicate everyday, and not a
minute goes by that we don’t chat. He’s
an inspiration. Of course he makes me
want to continue my studies. I get
inspired and motivated in class,
because I feel happiness and love. Yes,
but it is not often. He also supports me
like I do.
P10: SS60
61 *thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] 10 7
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Kasi kung actual, makilatis mo dayon ang
isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.
I prefer an actual relationship, because
you can easily understand and know a
person if it is actual than an online one.
P10: SS61
62 *laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko naka[ano] 10 8-9
*laughs* Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi
*smiles*
Of course, because I personally got a
boyfriend online, so I really do believe.
Yes, because we even last this long.
P10: SS62
63 *thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man 10 10-11
ang personal, imo mang, siyempre di man
gyud nimo anay makilatis ang us aka tawo
kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo
ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay mo
bago mo makilala ang usa ka tawo *smiles*
Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri
maupay kay kasi damo na bitaw [kanang]
nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa mga
kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila
kilatis kaupay.
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No, because you won’t fully know a
person without chatting with them first
for an extended period of time. Unlike in
actual dating where you really get to
know a person because you’re with
them in person.
No, because kids in this generation
know a lot about online things. They
should be careful on who they meet
online. You should know them properly
and personally.
P10: SS63
64 *giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga 10 12
sweet na mga [ano] la [kanang] sweet
messages, ingana ba. *giggles* Halimbawa
kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay
inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la
adto *smiles*
Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just
online. Eg. we send sweet messages
and flatter each other. That’s why I enjoy
it.
P10: SS64
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DEVELOPMENT OF CLUSTER THEMES
FORMULATED MEANING CLUSTER THEMES

Their relation lasts long because they
are sincere to each other.
FM1
The participant did not hesitate to
introduce her partner, she is a proud
partner.
FM2
He was straight-forward for what he
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forementioned. He enjoys the company
of having to talk to someone else
whether he does know the person or
otherwise.
FM12
He mentioned about how long have
they been dating online. The
interviewee was muddled for a second.
He was quite unsure about the months.
FM13 Different feelings and perspectives on
Precise and unambiguous approach. He how Filipino Millennials date online were
was getting numerical in explaining as shown. Most of them had a relationship
he was stating who initiates first. for only a few months because of
FM14 uncertain feelings, but despite the
Took a while before he answered. uncertainty, still, some proudly admitted
FM2 the details about how their relationship
Proudly admits who approached first. started.
FM29
His partner was the one who drew his
attention towards him.
FM30
Slightly paused but certain.
FM40
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He was sure that her partner was the
one who approached first.
FM41
She was unaware that the boy sent a
message to her whilst her classmate
was using the her messenger. Their
acquaintance was unanticipated.
FM42
She was slightly hesitant when telling
that her classmate was somehow the
bridge
FM43
Hesitated to answer directly.
FM52
Proudly admits who approached first.
FM53
Told the story on how they met and how
they ended up chatting online without
hesitation. There are no secrets that are
hidden because she proudly stated
what happened.
FM54
Answered without hesitation.
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FM64
Feeling ashamed and took a risk to
make the first move.
FM65
Desperate for love.
FM66
Uncertain.
FM76
Direct to the point.
FM77
The partner initially directed a chat
towards the girl. He’s the one who
seems to be interested on her.
FM78
Relationship is inconsistent.
FM102
Her partner was the one who risked to
approach her first
FM103
Their mutual friend served as the
gateway for filling up their basic human
need.
FM104
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Hesitant to answer at first.
FM114
She’s the one who gained the attention
first.
FM115
A mutual friend became the ticket of
their relationship.
FM116
Started with a common conversation.
FM3
Living everyday being not complete
without communicating with each other.
FM4
Slowly becoming one’s special
someone. Making sure that each one
will not miss to greet each other during
one’s special day.
FM5
They knew each other in the
cyberspace. He was getting a bit
irrelevant. He seemed to be
preoccupied when he answered.
FM15
Albert jokingly shared about Near Group
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and he was sort of passive sharing it. Wanting for attention was evident
FM16 because everyone wants to
Different time zones were not communicate with his or her partners
hindrances on their communication every single day. Having normal
daily. conversations can greatly affect
people’s interpersonal communication

FM3
skills.
Precise and proud. They tend to keep in
touch by chatting everyday.
FM44
Feeling impassive. She explains even if
they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend
to at least chat in between like free time.
FM45
Told the story on how they met and how
they ended up chatting online without
hesitation. There are no secrets that are
hidden because she proudly stated
what happened.
FM54
They are committed with their
relationship because they always keep
in touch with each other.
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FM55
Desperate for love.
FM66
Hesitated to answer the question at first,
but then eventually shared after and
became romantically excited.
FM67
Feeling proud and certain.
FM79
They tried to keep in touch as much as
possible by chatting at those times.
FM91
He directly answered. And was sure
about their communication in a day.
FM92
Their relationship became stronger as
they communicate always.
FM105
Cannot complete a day without chatting
with each other.
FM117
Feeling inspired to go to school
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because of her partner’s motivational
words.
FM118
She’s romantically excited that she has
someone out there who’s willing to
embrace her life.
FM8
Certain and established when
answering this part.
FM17
The certainty of his answer was
captivating
FM27
Feeling energized, positive and happy
because of his partner.
FM39
She was romanticized when she
answered.
FM46
She loved the idea of chatting and Feelings of excitement and fondness
having online relationship. She smiled are present while having conversations
when she uttered the answer. online. Couples usually send sweet
FM51 messages and greetings, and often
Feeling romantically excited because of video chat so that they can express
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her partner’s sweet messages. their love for each other.
FM63
Feeling excited and enthusiastic while
chatting. Feeling very important
because of the partner’s sweet
messages and greetings.
FM70
Romantically excited because she
enjoys dating online.
FM82
He did enjoy the process of chatting and
dating someone online. He tends to
share and according to him, there’s a
feeling where there’s so much story to
be told when you chat.
FM101
Distance is not a hindrance in their
relationship because they always
communicate with each other.
FM108
Romantically excited of their
relationship.
FM109
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Romantically excited whenever they
chat because of the sweet messages
that flatters her.
FM125
Her partner accepts and helps her in
every aspect of her life may it be in her
education.
FM6
Romantically excited confess that he is
her inspiration towards her education.
FM11
Albert’s voice whilst explaining was
quite a bit charged. He directed the
message like he would acknowledge his
online date when he got no one to talk
to but in a good way.
FM18
He was getting defensive and stood for
his core beliefs that he doesn’t need
help when doing his academic errands
FM19 Students, who are involved in dating
He wanted to stress that he’s not weak online, wants to open up their study and
in doing his academic errands. He other academic-related activities, but
jokingly said what he said. they also want to have privacy. Most of
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FM20 them are open to their partners about
One’s opinion is the main basis on how school-related activities, but some of
to handle a relationship. them wants to deal with it by
FM32 themselves only.
Hesitant on sharing his personal
business. Most of them also are inspired to finish
FM33 their studies while having an online
She was romanticized when she relationship. Some of them take it as a
answered. challenge to make their partners proud.
FM46
Feeling impassive. She explains even if
they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend
to at least chat in between like free time.
FM45
Feeling inspired, loved and happy.
Always motivated in class because of
her partner’s love.
FM56
Feeling motivated to go to school and
finish her studies.
FM57
There is an existing feeling of
proudness because her partner is
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always motivating her to go to school
and finish her studies.
FM68
Feeling proud and certain.
FM79
There is uncertainty of feelings at first,
but eventually became sure of his
partner as an inspiration.
FM80
He redirected what he said because it
used to be a healthy relationship but in
the latter part it became unhealthy.
FM93
Feeling inspired whenever their
relationship is smooth but whenever
they have misunderstandings, they lose
interest towards their relationship.
FM106
She considers her partner because she
thinks that it is out of her partner’s
business.
FM107
Feeling inspired to go to school
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because of her partner’s motivational
words.
FM118
Supports each other all the time
including their academic success.
FM119
Even having a good relationship
through online, she also prefers having
a real life date. She’s determined in
their relation as long as trust and
endurance are there.
FM7
Admitted directly.
FM21
He considered both type of dating
because there are possibilities that Even though the respondents enjoy
people who meet online are likely to dating online, all of them still preferred
meet in person. actual than online relationship. Some of
FM34 them are reluctant on answering at first,
She emphasized that no matter how but eventually they still want an actual
romantic your relationship is whether relationship.
online or actual, if you’re with each
other and respect and be loyal, it’ll work,
for sure.
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FM48
Unsure of her thoughts because there
are no other choices and options, but
still wants an actual relationship.
FM58
Longing for an actual relationship.
FM69
Very certain and straight to the point.
FM81
He wanted to experience a real one for
the context suggests that dating online
is drastically different from dating in
actual. The interviewee was quite a bit
muddled when he was answering.
FM96
Despite on having a good relationship
online, she still wants to have an actual
relationship because of the lack of trust
and understanding to her partner.
FM120
Don’t want to trust that easily.
FM9
He mentioned about not trusting people
in the cyberspace easily. He was quite a
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bit ceremonious when he pitched the
answer.
FM22
He was bothered by the fact that it is
now easy to be involved in online dating
even to those people who doesn’t know
each other personally.
FM24
Having uncertainty of trusting somebody Lack of trust and uncertainty of partner’s
because he can’t spare all his time for personality are the common hindrances
him. of some respondents that date online.
FM36
She tackled about the downside of
having a relationship online. She said
it’s most likely to fail if only one is doing
effort.
FM47
Feeling doubtful because of her
partner’s inconsistency of telling the
truth.
FM62
Reluctant in trusting someone because
of being unsure of partner’s personality.
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FM75
Feeling uncertain of what will happen
next and has a lack of trust to her
partner because the having an online
relationship is unpredictable.
FM83
He was saying that it’s seldom easy to
date online because it is not wired and
aspect of actuality wasn’t there.
FM99
Not satisfied on using Facebook as an
instrument of virtual communication
because of the lack of trust.
FM111
Feeling unsure because she believed
that people lie.
FM112
Unsure of having a sincere and serious
partner through online because real
personalities are not shown.
FM123
embrace her life.
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FM8
He addressed the concernment of how
rare it would be to have a successful
relationship online. He was quite a bit Mixed thoughts were answered by the
impassive in answering this and sort of respondents. Some are confident that
didn’t reveal much of what he felt. they will have a successful relationship,
FM25 but most of them think they will not.
Uncertain of their future depending on
their situation right now.
FM38
She emphasized that no matter how
romantic your relationship is whether
online or actual, if you’re with each
other and respect and be loyal, it’ll work,
for sure.
FM48
No doubts about the question and
directly answered it. Feeling certain of
her stand if it is easier to have a
relationship through Facebook.
FM71
Proud and sure that their relationship
will be successful.
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FM72
Online relationships last longer if you
and your partner are serious and
committed with each other regardless of
all the factors affecting it, including
academic studies.
FM84
He was sure that online relationship
would likely not be successful as it
demands authenticity and time and
loyalty.
FM98
Not sure on where their relationship is
leading.
FM110
Confident and positive on their
relationship.
FM122
embrace her life.
FM8
Loud and certain when “yes” was said.
FM23
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Feeling certain that love isn’t just Feelings of excitement and faithfulness
through actual communication but it were shown by those who believe that
also involves how one is feeling. people can find love online.
FM35
She wanted to stress that if you’re Negative feelings were shown by those
meant to be then God will always find a who are unsure of their online
way to your innuendos and pave you to relationship.
each other’s.
FM49
Very certain on her feelings the people
can find love online.
FM74
Belief has been shown. She states that
whoever is going to be your partner is a
gift from above. Strong faith to find love
was displayed.
FM85
He was saying that it’s seldom easy to
date online because it is not wired and
aspect of actuality wasn’t there.
FM99
Feeling unsure because she believed
that people lie.
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FM112
Without hesitation she recommends it
and gave some advises towards trust
issues.
FM10
He was auspicious about following what
they desire. He directed it like he was
obligating.
FM26
He considered first on how people
adapt and how people will handle
having an online relationship. Staying safe and having boundaries are
FM37 advices that were given by the
She uttered that it’s safe to say that respondents on students dating online.
online relationship could somehow be
the choice but she choice but we should Unsure of feelings and being reluctant
know boundaries. in trusting someone are one of the
FM50 negative reasons people think during
Unsure of her feelings towards having they date online.
what kind of relationship she really
wants. Having no other options onto
what kind
FM61
Reluctant in trusting someone because
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of being unsure of partner’s personality.
FM75
Thinking the safety of the students’ own
life and academic studies because
when someone’s relationship is virtual,
they cannot be tempted to do worse
things. Feeling doubtful of the upcoming
circumstances.
FM86
Uncertain of their future as a couple.
FM113
She considered what type of generation
today and also the students’ safety.
FM124
DEVELOPMENT OF EMERGENT THEMES
CLUSTER THEMS EMERGENT THEMES

Wanting for attention was evident
because everyone wants to
communicate with his or her partners
every single day. Having normal
conversations can greatly affect
people’s interpersonal communication
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skills. Compulsively Heedful
Different feelings and perspectives on
how Filipino Millennials date online were
shown. Most of them had a relationship
for only a few months because of
uncertain feelings, but despite the
uncertainty, still, some proudly admitted
the details about how their relationship
started.
Lack of trust and uncertainty of partner’s
personality are the common hindrances
of some respondents that date online.
Even though the respondents enjoy
dating online, all of them still preferred
actual than online relationship. Some of
them are reluctant on answering at first,
but eventually they still want an actual
relationship.
Feelings of excitement and fondness
are present while having conversations
online. Couples usually send sweet
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messages and greetings, and often
video chat so that they can express Contemporaneously Vehement
their love for each other.
Feelings of excitement and faithfulness
were shown by those who believe that
people can find love online. Negative
feelings were shown by those who are
unsure of their online relationship.
Mixed thoughts were answered by the
respondents. Some are confident that
they will have a successful relationship,
but most of them think they will not.

Students, who are involved in dating
online, wants to open up their study and
other academic-related activities, but
they also want to have privacy. Most of
them are open to their partners about
school-related activities, but some of
them wants to deal with it by Proportionality and Integrity
themselves only.
Most of them also are inspired to finish
their studies while having an online
relationship. Some of them take it as a
challenge to make their partners proud.
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Staying safe and having boundaries are
advices that were given by the
respondents on students dating online.
Unsure of feelings and being reluctant
in trusting someone are one of the
negative reasons people think during
they date online.
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ABSTRACT

In today's generation, Millennials can be considered as one of the many users of

social media as a form of dating tactic to have a relationship, specifically on Facebook

propose some interventions regarding with their academic performance. An audio

“Dating” means different things to different people, particularly across

generations. It is define as two people who are in an intimate relationship. It is also

serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. Dating on

relationship. Regardless of false assurance of serious dating, people appear to prefer

dating virtually rather than actually meeting him or her in person.

behave when finding love online.

of Education of Naval State University.

Specifically, it seeks to:

2. Understand how Millenials behave online as baseline to propose some

interventions of their academic performance.

Millennials based their choice on whether to stop or continue a social association on

Millennials’ interpersonal relationship is between whom people meet through social

behaviors may change that can create dating patterns.

FOUND LOVE ONLINE

Millennials are patent and prone to using

Significance of the Study

the entirety of a certain person’s behavior towards dating online.

Scope and Delimitation of the Study

opinion in the study.

 Dating- a state of romantic relationship

 Dating Patterns- how people behave during a relationship

 Internet- computer network that people use to search and communicate

 Virtual Relationship- where people tend to date online

 Cost- what a person could give or risk (may be an information/data about a

person to the one he/ she is dating with online

 Intimate Relationship – very close relationship

 Online Dating- when people create a relationship through social media

 Offline Dating- when people have an actual relationship

 Intervention- unrelated events that can cause problems or delays on their

 Romanically Excited- feeling in love

 Accomodating- willing to fit in with someone’s standards, needs, and wishes.

 Cybercrime- a crime that involves computer and a network

According to Russell, M. A. (2011), all SNSs support multiple modes of

communication: one-to-many and one-to-one, synchronous and asynchronous, textual

private. Features like comments on Facebook, @replies on Twitter, and shouts on

with the networks of their Friends.

sole—or, even primary—way of participation. Content is surfaced through streams, and

countless alternate discovery pathway

aware of the importance of self-presentation—and the role of the profile in conveying

photographs of members are highly salient to potential matches. However, previous

mediate, control, and enhance their self-presentation.

Jacobsen, W. C. (2011) states that there is a huge influence of electronic media

to multitask. In addition, they have found a positive association between social-

networking-site use, cellular-phone communication, and face-to-face social interaction.

2001), and compulsive online shopping (LaRose and Eastin, 2002).

of Education building at Naval State University located at the Municipality of Naval,

Data Gathering Procedure

the consent of the informants to provide a screenshot or a copy of their conversation

proving that there is virtual dating happening from the informants.

the participants well.

Statistical Treatment of Data

because it is only on Social Media.

RESULTS AND DISCUSSIONS

online as baseline to propose some interventions in their academic performance. For