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Keys for Men
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 Introduction

What is real manhood? How are men and women meant to relate to one another? How can men be
effective husbands and fathers? Contemporary concepts of maleness are often ambiguous. They also tend to
focus on roles rather than on the male’s underlying purpose—a crucial distinction. Some would like to
dismiss males as hopelessly aggressive and domineering, with a nature in need of an overhaul.
All the above issues reflect a crisis of identity. What does it mean to be male? The true nature of the male
can be determined only by returning to the original process of his creation, based on the premise that no one
knows a product like its manufacturer. It is imperative that the male rediscover his original purpose in God
and understand his true potential, as well as gain a clear understanding of his principal function within the
human family.
Through Keys for Men, you can discover God’s vital purpose for the male, the complementary roles of
males and females, and how you, as a man, can build a better life for yourself, your family, your
community, and your nation.
—Dr. Myles Munroe


Literature focusing on changes in men’s lives has indicated that the male is
in a state of crisis and internal conflict. Without a clear idea of their
identity, men are trying to cope with the collision of new societal
expectations and traditional ideas of what a man should be.

***

What men really need to discover is their underlying purpose. A man’s

position and actions must flow out of his purpose, not the other way around.

***

To discover the purpose of something, never ask the creation; ask the
creator. We find our purpose only in the mind of our Maker.

***

God created everything with a purpose, and His purpose is the key to our
fulfillment. The purpose of something determines its nature, design, and
features. What God plans is intentional, meaningful, and guaranteed to
succeed.

***

If males understand the purpose and responsibilities God has given them
and the true design of their relationships with females, they can be free to
fulfill their destinies and potentials. They can be the men they were created
to be.

***

Men’s underlying purpose transcends culture and tradition. Knowledge of

what it means to be a true man cannot be acquired by observing the
confused culture around us.

***
 Men must adopt an entirely new way of thinking. They need to think in
terms
of inherent purpose rather than roles. Roles have never been the true basis
of a male’s identity and worth.
Roles can be helpful or harmful, but ultimately they merely reflect culture
and tradition.

***

If males are going to fulfill their purpose as men, husbands, and fathers,
they must rediscover God’s plan for them. Otherwise, they will hurt those
around them, even if it’s unintentional. Where purpose is not known, abuse
is inevitable.

***

God has given males a unique leadership influence. The male is the key to
building strong, enduring social infrastructures, stable families, sane
societies, and secure nations. As the man goes, so goes the
family, the society, and the world.

***

What is a “real man”? Someone who knows the reality of who he is and
lives in that reality. This knowledge starts with understanding the
significance of being created purposefully by God.

***

God created every man with a purpose. It is possible to do good things but
not the things that are best based on God’s purposes for you.

***

Good deeds are not a substitute for rightness. Knowing and fulfilling your
purpose is the only way to do what is right.

***
Males are not divine experiments. When God created them, He had already
predetermined what men were
supposed to be and do.

***

Since God created everything with a purpose, men need to go to Him if they
want to know their true reason for being. If they try to change His plans,
they are in essence fighting against themselves and the way they were
designed to function.

***

If a man wants to know his reason for living, he must look to God and His
Manual—the Bible—not to other males. If he looks to himself or others, he
will travel an unreliable and hazardous course in life.

***

A man will fulfill his purpose only if he seeks the mind of his Maker with all
his heart. When God’s plans unfold before him, his fragmented life will
become an orderly whole, and he will become the man he
was meant to be.

***

The answer for males in the twenty-first century is to (1) define their worth
based on God’s purpose rather than society’s roles, (2) learn God’s vision
for their lives, and (3) continue to live in the truth of who they were created
to be.

***

A man may be able to see the outcome of God’s purposes in his life twenty
years into the future or only one day ahead. Yet if he is living in God’s plans
for him, he has found the key to his existence.

***
 When God made man, He essentially drew man out of Himself, so that the
essence of man would be just like Him. Since “God is spirit” (John 4:24), He
created man as spirit, and spirit is eternal.

***

Man is the reason for the universe. I didn’t say man is the center of it. God
is the center of everything.

***

God’s plan of creation was this: as God ruled the unseen realm in heaven,
man would rule the visible realm on earth, with God and man enjoying
continual communion through their spiritual natures.

***

God doesn’t want man to work for Him; He wants man to work with Him.
The Bible says that we are “God’s fellow workers” (2 Corinthians 6:1).

***

God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27). After God created man—
the spiritual being made in His image—He placed man in two physical
“houses”: male and female.

***

God designed and equipped the male to carry out every purpose and
function he has been given.

***

The purpose of man—the spiritual being—and the purpose of the male—

the physical being—are two different things. The male was made to serve
the needs of mankind on earth and to enable mankind to fulfill its purpose.
 ***

The male was designed by God to be the foundation of the human family.
The woman came out of the man rather than the earth because she was
designed to have the male as her support.

***

When men have cracks in the substructures of their lives, if they don’t learn
what it means to be a strong foundation in God, then their families and
others whom they influence can find themselves on shaky ground.

***

When God made the male first, He wasn’t saying that the male is more
important than the female. He was saying that the male has a specific
responsibility.

***

The purpose of the male is to give foundation to the structure of life. Even
though the foundation is important, it’s
not more important than the other parts of the building.

***

Men need to live like the foundation they were created to be. Just be there
and keep the home steady so that your family can always lean on you and
know that you aren’t going to crack.

***

Men, whenever you allow a negative history to predict your future, your
present is in trouble. What we are about is
creating history.

***
It doesn’t matter who your grandfather was. The important issue is what
your grandchildren are going to say about you.

***

A good man doesn’t leave an inheritance of just money and land. He leaves
a heritage, something to stand on, something to lean on throughout life.

***

Man’s priority in creation means not only that he was designed to be the
foundation of the human family, but also that he was the first to have a
relationship with God, to experience God’s creation, and to receive God’s
instructions.

***

The primary purpose of the male is to be in God’s presence; he is notwired

to function outside the presence of the Lord.

***

The male’s purpose was chosen by God, and it may be summed up as his
priority, his position, and his assignment.

***

The male’s priority means that he was formed first in order to be the
foundation of the human family.

***

The male’s position means that he is to remain continually in God’s

presence. Without doing this, he cannot function in God’s purposes.

***

The male’s assignment reveals six specific purposes that God created the
man to fulfill: visionary, leader, teacher, cultivator, provider, and protector.

***

Men, being a provider means supplying not only financial support but also
emotional and intellectual support.

***

God never intended for Adam to move from the garden of Eden. He
intended for the garden to move over the earth. God wanted Adam to take
the presence of the garden and spread it throughout the world.

***

The problem with many of us men is that we think we don’t need God
when, in fact, He’s the first thing we need.

***

What was the first thing that God gave the male? He didn’t give him a
woman, a job, or even a command; He gave him His presence.

***

It isn’t enough just to go to church. We need to be in touch with God

constantly, hearing His voice, listening to His commands, and following His
direction.

***

God built into the male a need for His presence. That is why all men are
searching for God in one way or another, whether they acknowledge it or
not.

***

God originally intended for man to grow in dominion ability by learning to

 dominate the area in which he was placed.

***

God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. He always gives us just
enough to train us for the rest.

***

It’s dangerous to have everything, all at once. God doesn’t just promote us.
He qualifies us for promotion first.
If you’ve been faithful over a little, then your responsibilities will be
expanded to much more. (See Matthew 25:14–23.)

***

The male was given the charge of being the visionary and leader—the one
who would guide those who came after
him in the ways of God. Everything that is necessary to lead the family is
built into the male.

***

The male’s purpose was not chosen by the male but by God. Whatever your
purpose, that’s where your position comes from.

***

Men, you are the responsible ones, whether you like it or not. If you run
from your responsibility, it will run after
you, because it’s not just a role; it’s a God-given purpose.

***

The nature of the work the male was given to do in the garden of Eden was
not mindless labor—it was cultivation.

***
The purpose of the male is to develop and cultivate both people and things
to God’s glory.

***

Work exposes your potential. You cannot show what you have inside unless
demands are made on it, and demands are placed on it by work.

***

God gave the male work because it is related to his purpose, which is to rule
and manage what God has given him to do.

***

Even a man who knows and lives in his purpose is not complete, according
to God. The male needs a companion or helper—not as a subordinate or a
sidekick but as an equal partner with a complementary purpose.

***

Both single men and married men need women as fellow workers and
colleagues in this world if they are to fulfill their purposes in life.

***

If you as a man—whether married or single—believe that you don’t need

women, you are missing an important aspect of your existence.

***

The female is the male’s perfect complement and equal partner in the
purposes of God. She is the male’s God-given companion. Everything about
her is designed to help the man.

***

God created men and women to dominate the earth, not one another.
 ***

After the fall, both the man and the woman still ruled, but their relationship
was distorted. Instead of equality, there was imbalance.

***

Satan is afraid of the power that would be released through a man and
woman united in God’s purposes.

***

Throughout history, a controlling tendency has particularly undermined the

male’s true purpose and has resulted in the widespread devaluing of women
—preventing both men and women from fulfilling their purposes in God.

***

Much of a man’s tendency to control comes from a false understanding of

how his own nature is to function in dominion. In its true form, the male ego
is not negative but positive. The problem is that the male’s passion to prove
his strength has been perverted and abused by Satan and the sinful nature.

***

Many men have muscle but are weak in their minds, hearts, disciplines,
responsibilities, and spirits. That is why they feel the need for excess muscle
—to hide their weakness in these other areas.

***

A strong man is a man who understands his God-given strength—a man

who has fully maximized his potential for the purpose for which he was
created.

***

Whenever you take your position by force, you’ve moved out of your legal
 standing.

***

Any time a man starts to dominate another human being, he is out of God’s
will. Men were created to dominate the earth, not one another. When this
occurs, and power is abused, then authority is forfeited.

***

Any man who has to force a woman to submit does not deserve to be
submitted to. He is no longer worthy of submission; he has become a slave
driver.

***

Perfect love drives out fear” (1 John 4:18). This means that if a man has to
make a woman afraid of him in order to force her to do something he wants
done, then he doesn’t know what love is.

***

We follow Jesus because He knows where He’s going, He knows how to get
there, He’s the only Way there, and we like where He’s going. Most of all,
His love draws us to Him.

***

Don’t quote Scripture to a woman unless you are behaving like Jesus did.
When you start acting like Jesus, you won’t have to demand that your wife
submit.

***

When you start loving your wife like Jesus loves her, when you start
forgiving her like Jesus forgives her, when you start caring for her and
listening to her like Jesus does, she will do anything for you—because she
wants a man like Jesus in the house.
 ***

Jesus never once commanded anybody to follow Him. He always asked,

because He knew who He was and where He was going.

***

If a male wants to be a true leader, he must learn who he is in God and

become someone who earns respect—someone who loves, guides, and
inspires rather than forces others to do what he wants.

***

God isn’t going to abandon the male’s leadership responsibility for the sake
of changing cultural attitudes toward
gender roles.

***

If men would realize that dominion is to be exercised over the world and not
over other people, that men and women are equal but different, and that
men and women need one another, we would go a long way toward restoring
both harmonious relationships between males and females and God’s plan
for humanity.

***

There can be no true dominion over the earth unless God’s original design is
intact. The way we are designed is because of our purpose for existence.

***

God’s plan is for the individual strengths of men and women to combine to
produce exponential results—outcomes much greater than either could
accomplish alone.

***
 Being a visionary is a foundational responsibility for the male because,
without it, he can’t fulfill his other assignments of leader, teacher, cultivator,
provider, and protector.

***

To have vision means to be able to conceive of and move toward your

purpose in life.

***

The only way you can discover your vision is to listen to what God is saying
to you. God has a vision for every male because the male was created to be a
visionary.

***

The male is designed to be a visionary. He is able to look at the big picture

in life and to plan for the future from a logical, practical standpoint.

***

God always provides for the vision He gives. Your responsibility is to

support and sustain the vision until it comes to fruition.

***

Having vision means that you can already see the end of your purpose. It
means that you have faith in God and what He has told you to do so that
you are continually moving toward your vision as it is moving toward you.

***

If you look at God’s pattern in the Bible, the man is given the vision, but the
woman is there to make sure that he accomplishes it.

***
 Many men don’t have a vision for their lives because they are not
committed to God and to seeking His will in this area. If a man does not
have a relationship with God, he cannot fully function in his purpose.

***

The example Jesus set for us by His life shows us our need for these
important elements related to purpose: a clear self-image and a life
consistent with one’s purpose and calling.

***

True vision can be found only in God’s presence. Jesus Himself was in
constant contact with the Father in order to know how to fulfill His life’s
purpose.

***

T he most important thing a male can do is to acknowledge the headship of

Christ and commit to following Him on a daily basis in order to receive His
direction.

***

You aren’t fulfilling your purpose as a man until you can hear the voice of
God. You aren’t fulfilling your purpose as a man until you start speaking
and affirming the Word of God in your life.

***

If we want to fulfill our dominion responsibilities and assignments, we have

to do so through the Spirit of Christ as we follow God’s will.

***

Men are to function as priests in their homes. They need to stay close to God
so they can tell their families what God is saying to them.
 ***

A man needs a clear vision of these three things: (1) who he is in God, (2)
what his overall purpose as a male is, and (3) what his purpose as an
individual man is.

***

No man has the right to lead a woman if he doesn’t have the ability to hear
God. “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18 kjv).

***

Men need vision even before discipline, because discipline comes from
vision. Discipline comes as you plan ahead and make sacrifices to fulfill your
vision.

***

God is concerned with men who have visions from Him and who can
support, sustain, and nurture their families and others as they move toward
these visions in pursuit of His purposes.

***

The male is not the head of his home because he has to lead. He has to lead
because he is the head. His position is inherent.

***

The male was designed for responsible leadership. He is to lead and be

responsible for everything under his jurisdiction.

***

A real man doesn’t ignore authority. He remains in the garden of God’s

presence, praying and reading God’s Word, so that he may understand and
obey His commands.
 ***

God is not looking for a controller. He is looking for a leader who makes
himself fruitful by being pruned when necessary in order to yield a healthier
and greater harvest.

***

T he male was created to be the spiritual leader and teacher of his family.
The male has been designed with the capacity to fulfill his purpose of
teaching.

***

If a man doesn’t have the knowledge and capability to teach his family the
Word of God, then he is not really ready for marriage. Do you know the
Word? Make it a priority to study and gain knowledge of the Bible.

***

I f you want God to consider you His friend, then become a teacher in your
home. You have to be full of the Word in order to give it to your family.

***

If you can take care of your children, then God says, “All right, now you can
lead My church.” If you can manage your home, then you can manage the
house of God.

***

You cannot teach something if you’re not being an example of it yourself. A

good teacher is one who teaches by example.

***

A father should help his children discover their gifts and talents. He should
affirm their accomplishments and tell them what they can become in life, so
 they can have positive outlooks based on faith in God.

***

If a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church, he needs to be filled
with the Word, just as Christ is filled with the Word.

***

The male has been given the serious but exciting responsibility of shaping
the lives of his family members for the better. In this way, he is a partner
with God in fulfilling His plan of creation.

***

God has given men the ability to provide for and protect everything He has
entrusted to their care.

***

T he two dominion assignments of provider and protector are interrelated

because they work together to enable a man to secure himself and those who
are under his care.

***

Some men have forgotten that worship takes precedence over work. When
your work interferes with your worship, you cease to fulfill the purpose of a
real man.

***

A provider anticipates needs before they arrive. A loving husband is always

thinking about what his wife is going to need tomorrow, and he plans for it
today.

***
 God designed the male to gain satisfaction from both working and
providing. When he’s able to do these two things, he’s a happy man.

***

A man doesn’t need to be married to be responsible for women. Start being

the protector of every female who comes into your presence, because you
were created to be responsible for her.

***

God gave men a drive to excel so they can be good examples for their
children of how to be faithful during tough times. God gave men egos so
they can constantly come forth with more motivation and more hope for
life’s battles.

***

A male doesn’t decide to work—he’s designed to work. He doesn’t decide to

teach—he’s required to teach. There is no fulfillment without satisfying
your purpose.

***

Man was given work before the woman was created. This means that before
a man needs a woman, and before he is ready for marriage, he needs work.

***

God designed men and women as sexual beings. He created sex and said
that it is “very good” (Genesis 1:31). God is negative only about the misuse
of sex.

***

Marriage enables us to enjoy sex to the fullest. There is so much freedom

within the laws of God. Yet when you violate God’s laws, the first thing you
lose is your peace.
 ***

Remember that sex is a physical sign of a spiritual act—the giving of oneself

completely to another and for another. Marital love is the binding of one
spouse to another.

***

As Christian men, we need to teach young men that sexual attraction is

physiological and shouldn’t be acted upon outside the marriage
relationship.

***

The answer to questions about sex is: behave yourself. End of discussion.
Don’t let a woman take advantage of you—and make sure you don’t take
advantage of a woman’s feelings for you.

***

Be careful how you respond to a woman’s praise and attention. If it is

starting to lead to inappropriate attraction, you know you need to back off.

***

God has given the female certain strengths that the male does not possess.
Until the male recognizes the female’s God-given strengths, he will be weak
in those areas, because she is designed to supply what he lacks.

***

When men expect women to think, react, and behave in the same ways they
do—that is, when they don’t know or appreciate their God-given differences
—they will experience conflict with women.

***

When men and women understand and value one another’s purposes, they
can have rewarding relationships, and they can blend their unique designs
harmoniously for God’s glory.

***

The primary needs of males are respect, recreational companionship, and

sex. The primary needs of females are love, conversation, and affection.

***

A single man needs respect as much as a married man does. He needs the
sisterly affirmation of female relatives and friends if he is to feel fulfilled as
a man.

***

When a married couple shares important aspects of their lives with each
other, they build understanding, companionship, and intimacy in their
marriage.

***

A male needs to share his interests, and a female needs conversation; these
related needs can be a wonderful bridge of communication between men
and women.

***

When a male speaks, it is generally an expression of what he is thinking.

When a female speaks, it is usually an expression of what she is feeling.
They are communicating two different types of information.

***

Men and women can eliminate much frustration in their relationships by

understanding each other’s problem-solving strengths and using them to
benefit one another.
 ***

No one person, and no one gender, can look at the world with complete
perspective. Therefore, God has designed the male and female to live and
work together in unity for a wiser and richer experience of life.

***

If you want to be blessed, don’t focus on your needs but discover what the
other person’s needs are and seek to fulfill them.

***

A father is meant to represent the fatherhood of God to his children.

***

Men, we have a tremendous calling ahead of us to change not only our own
perspectives of fatherhood, but also those of our sons. We have to
communicate to them the standards of God.

***

The greatest heritage a man can leave his sons and daughters is not money
or property, but faith.

***

Buying things for your kids doesn’t necessarily mean you love them. Love is
not buying gifts. Love is you being a gift.

***

Love also means correcting, chastening, and reproving your children when
they need it. Children are begging to be corrected, but many fathers don’t
have the sense to realize it.

***
A father needs to read and study the Word of God so he can teach it to his
children. It’s impossible to teach something you haven’t learned yourself.

***

It was I who taught Ephraim to walk” (Hosea 11:3). Our heavenly Father
takes a personal interest in our training. Likewise, we are to train our
children personally.

***

Your children need discipline, which involves instilling moral and mental
character in them and giving them values. You don’t give values just by
punishing. You give values by correcting.

***

Comfort your children by letting them know they are loved, even when they
make mistakes or don’t live up to your expectations. Listen to their
struggles and problems with kindness and understanding. Give them warm
embraces and loving words when they are sad.

***

To be a comforter, you have to be accessible to your children. You have to

know what’s going on in their lives so you can know when they’re going
through struggles and loneliness.

***

As you imitate your heavenly Father, your children will imitate you and
reflect the character and life of their Creator. That is what the dominion
assignment of fatherhood is all about.

***

You are born a male, but you have to become a man. To become a real man,
a male needs to understand that God’s purposes must permeate his entire
 life so they can overflow into the lives of others.

***

A real man wants to be spiritually renewed so that the fullness of God’s

image and likeness is restored to his life.

***

A real man aspires to work and to develop his gifts and talents. A real man’s
motivation for work is to fulfill the purposes for which he was created.

***

A real man endeavors to encourage others to reflect the image and creativity
of God in all they are and do—spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, and
physically.

***

A real man exercises compassion, mercy, and justice. Through them, he

shows true strength and brings the kingdom of God to others.

***

Men must understand that they are responsible for all their purpose
assignments. The whole revelation has to hit you: “As a male, I am a
visionary, leader, teacher, cultivator, provider, and protector.”

***

Communities and nations will be transformed when men return to God

and His purposes for them.

 About the Author

Dr. Myles Munroe is an international motivational speaker, best-selling author, educator, leadership
mentor, and consultant for government and business. Traveling extensively throughout the world, Dr.
Munroe addresses critical issues affecting the full range of human, social, and spiritual development. The
central theme of his message is the transformation of followers into leaders and the maximization of
individual potential.
Founder and president of Bahamas Faith Ministries International (BFMI), a multidimensional
organization headquartered in Nassau, Bahamas, Dr. Munroe is also the founder and executive producer of a
number of radio and television programs aired worldwide. He has a B.A. from Oral Roberts University and
an M.A. from the University of Tulsa and has been awarded a number of honorary doctoral degrees.
Dr. Munroe and his wife, Ruth, travel as a team and are involved in teaching seminars together. Both are
leaders who minister with sensitive hearts and international vision. They are the proud parents of two
college graduates, Charisa and Chairo (Myles Jr.).